Thanks to Squarespace for sponsoring this episode. Head to www.squarespace.com/LOVERS for a free trial, and when you’re ready to launch, use CODE: LOVERS to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.

Sex is a skill, and you can learn how to be the best lover in bed! Join Beducated today at https://beducate.me/loversapril. 



Lots of love to our sponsor, Quince. Go to Quince.com/LOVERS for free shipping and 365-day returns.

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In this episode of Lovers, Kamie Crawford returns for a third time, and this time, she’s engaged.

When Kamie first came on the podcast, she was coming out of a very public breakup and rebuilding her life from the ground up. In her second appearance, she shared a mindset that sparked a lot of conversation: “I’m not a girlfriend, I want to be a wife.” She was dating with intention, holding high standards, and refusing to entertain anything that didn’t align with the life she actually wanted.

People had a lot to say. Some called it unrealistic. Others said her standards were too high.

Now she’s back, engaged to the love of her life, in a relationship that didn’t just meet her standards but exceeded them.

In this conversation, we talk about what it looks like to hold your standards in dating, how to navigate criticism when people tell you you’re asking for too much, and why the language you use around love, marriage, and your future actually shapes what you experience.

Kamie shares how she approached dating with intention, why she refused to shrink her desires to be more “realistic,” and what happened when she chose to dream bigger instead.

If you’ve ever been told to lower your standards, questioned whether you’re asking for too much, or wondered if holding out for the kind of love you actually want is worth it, this episode is for you.

Watch our other interviews with Kamie Crawford on LOVERS:
2021: How to Look at a Breakup Differently → https://youtu.be/vSc0hF__y_4?si=E9u8zKsxdCEBbG8r
2023: This is What Happens When a Single Woman Turns 30 → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSc0hF__y_4

Want to manifest a love that FEELS exactly as you’ve always dreamt it would (in your wildest dreams)? Get specific with that language using our LOVERS feelings wheel + Romantic Wishlist worksheet → https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/the-feelings-wheel---newsletter-subscribers-only


Follow Kamie Crawford
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/kamiecrawford/
Watch her podcast Relationshipshit → https://www.youtube.com/@relationshitpod
Website → https://www.kamiecrawford.com/ 


Want more Lover?
Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter
Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community
Explore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes 

Thanks to Squarespace for sponsoring this episode. Head to <a href="http://www.squarespace.com/LOVERS">www.squarespace.com/LOVERS</a> for a free trial, and when you&rsquo;re ready to launch, use CODE: LOVERS to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. Sex is a skill, and you can learn how to be the best lover in bed! Join Beducated today at <a href="https://beducate.me/loversapril">https://beducate.me/loversapril</a>. 
Lots of love to our sponsor, Quince. Go to <a href="http://quince.com/LOVERS">Quince.com/LOVERS</a> for free shipping and 365-day returns.
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In this episode of Lovers, Kamie Crawford returns for a third time, and this time, she&rsquo;s engaged.
When Kamie first came on the podcast, she was coming out of a very public breakup and rebuilding her life from the ground up. In her second appearance, she shared a mindset that sparked a lot of conversation: &ldquo;I&rsquo;m not a girlfriend, I want to be a wife.&rdquo; She was dating with intention, holding high standards, and refusing to entertain anything that didn&rsquo;t align with the life she actually wanted.
People had a lot to say. Some called it unrealistic. Others said her standards were too high.
Now she&rsquo;s back, engaged to the love of her life, in a relationship that didn&rsquo;t just meet her standards but exceeded them.
In this conversation, we talk about what it looks like to hold your standards in dating, how to navigate criticism when people tell you you&rsquo;re asking for too much, and why the language you use around love, marriage, and your future actually shapes what you experience.
Kamie shares how she approached dating with intention, why she refused to shrink her desires to be more &ldquo;realistic,&rdquo; and what happened when she chose to dream bigger instead.
If you&rsquo;ve ever been told to lower your standards, questioned whether you&rsquo;re asking for too much, or wondered if holding out for the kind of love you actually want is worth it, this episode is for you. Watch our other interviews with Kamie Crawford on LOVERS: 2021: How to Look at a Breakup Differently &rarr; <a href="https://youtu.be/vSc0hF__y_4?si=E9u8zKsxdCEBbG8r">https://youtu.be/vSc0hF__y_4?si=E9u8zKsxdCEBbG8r</a> 2023: This is What Happens When a Single Woman Turns 30 &rarr; <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSc0hF__y_4">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSc0hF__y_4</a> Want to manifest a love that FEELS exactly as you&rsquo;ve always dreamt it would (in your wildest dreams)? Get specific with that language using our LOVERS feelings wheel + Romantic Wishlist worksheet &rarr;&nbsp;<a href="https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/the-feelings-wheel---newsletter-subscribers-only">https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/the-feelings-wheel---newsletter-subscribers-only </a> Follow Kamie Crawford Instagram &rarr; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/kamiecrawford/">https://www.instagram.com/kamiecrawford/ </a>Watch her podcast Relationshipshit &rarr; <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@relationshitpod">https://www.youtube.com/@relationshitpod </a>Website &rarr; <a href="https://www.kamiecrawford.com/">https://www.kamiecrawford.com/</a>&nbsp;
 Want more Lover? Receive the weekly Love Letter &rarr; <a href="http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter">http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter </a>Join the Lovers Community &rarr; <a href="https://www.loversbyshan.com/community">https://www.loversbyshan.com/community </a>Explore quizzes and worksheets &rarr; <a href="http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes">http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes</a>&nbsp;

Lovers by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right.

Past guests include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away.

When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach.

Sales and Distribution by Lemonada Media https://lemonadamedia.com/  

Lovers by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram&rsquo;s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right. Past guests include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away. When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach.
Sales and Distribution by Lemonada Media <a href="https://lemonadamedia.com/" data-stringify-link="https://lemonadamedia.com/" data-sk="tooltip_parent">https://lemonadamedia.com/</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;