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In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with Lisa Bilyeu to talk about a decision a lot of women think about… but don’t always say out loud: what if you don’t want kids?

Lisa is an entrepreneur, co-founder of Quest Nutrition, and founder of Impact Theory Studios. She’s known for building billion-dollar businesses alongside her husband while also speaking openly about identity, marriage, and what it means to choose a life that actually fits you.

Lisa built a life that looked like the dream. Marriage, stability, and the role she thought she was supposed to want. For a long time, she even stepped into the idea of being a traditional wife. But over time, something didn’t sit right.

What happens when you realize the life you chose doesn’t actually fit you anymore?

We talk about what it looked like for Lisa to tell her husband that she didn’t want children, how they navigated being in a marriage where one partner wants kids and the other doesn’t, and why choosing to be child-free doesn’t mean something is missing, broken, or selfish.

This conversation challenges the idea that every woman is meant to become a mother, and unpacks the pressure many women feel around motherhood, marriage, and identity. We also explore what it means to redefine a successful relationship on your own terms, whether that includes children or not.

If you’ve ever questioned whether motherhood is for you, wondered how to tell your partner you don’t want kids, or felt conflicted about choosing career, independence, or a different kind of life, this episode is for you.


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Need help starting a difficult conversation? Access our guided journal inside the LOVERS community: → https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/navigating-change-hard-conversations-in-relationships-community-exclusive 



Follow Lisa Bilyeu

→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/
→ Watch & learn on Impact Theory: https://impacttheory.com/
→ Explore her personal website: https://lisabilyeu.com/
→ Listen to her podcast Women of Impact: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-of-impact/id1435217865
→ Get her book Radical Confidence: https://radicalconfidence.com/ 





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In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with Lisa Bilyeu to talk about a decision a lot of women think about&hellip; but don&rsquo;t always say out loud: what if you don&rsquo;t want kids?
Lisa is an entrepreneur, co-founder of Quest Nutrition, and founder of Impact Theory Studios. She&rsquo;s known for building billion-dollar businesses alongside her husband while also speaking openly about identity, marriage, and what it means to choose a life that actually fits you.
Lisa built a life that looked like the dream. Marriage, stability, and the role she thought she was supposed to want. For a long time, she even stepped into the idea of being a traditional wife. But over time, something didn&rsquo;t sit right.
What happens when you realize the life you chose doesn&rsquo;t actually fit you anymore?
We talk about what it looked like for Lisa to tell her husband that she didn&rsquo;t want children, how they navigated being in a marriage where one partner wants kids and the other doesn&rsquo;t, and why choosing to be child-free doesn&rsquo;t mean something is missing, broken, or selfish.
This conversation challenges the idea that every woman is meant to become a mother, and unpacks the pressure many women feel around motherhood, marriage, and identity. We also explore what it means to redefine a successful relationship on your own terms, whether that includes children or not.
If you&rsquo;ve ever questioned whether motherhood is for you, wondered how to tell your partner you don&rsquo;t want kids, or felt conflicted about choosing career, independence, or a different kind of life, this episode is for you.
 EXCLUSIVE LOVERS COMMUNITY RESOURCE Need help starting a difficult conversation? Access our guided journal inside the LOVERS community: &rarr; <a href="https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/navigating-change-hard-conversations-in-relationships-community-exclusive">https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/navigating-change-hard-conversations-in-relationships-community-exclusive</a>&nbsp; 
Follow Lisa Bilyeu
&rarr; Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/">https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/</a> &rarr; Watch &amp; learn on Impact Theory: <a href="https://impacttheory.com/">https://impacttheory.com/</a> &rarr; Explore her personal website: <a href="https://lisabilyeu.com/">https://lisabilyeu.com/</a> &rarr; Listen to her podcast Women of Impact: <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-of-impact/id1435217865">https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-of-impact/id1435217865</a> &rarr; Get her book Radical Confidence: <a href="https://radicalconfidence.com/">https://radicalconfidence.com/</a>&nbsp;
 
Want more Lover? Receive the weekly Love Letter &rarr; <a href="http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter">http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter</a> Join the Lovers Community &rarr; <a href="https://www.loversbyshan.com/community">https://www.loversbyshan.com/community</a> Explore quizzes and worksheets &rarr; <a href="http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes">http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes</a>&nbsp;
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Lovers by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right.

Past guests include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away.

When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach.

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Lovers by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram&rsquo;s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right. Past guests include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away. When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach.
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