Trigger Warning: This conversation includes a deeply personal story shared by André Holland, including a moment when someone he had affections for used a racial slur toward him. Listener discretion is advised.

What happens when a core memory rewrites the story of how we see ourselves in love? In this week’s LOVERS episode, Shan sits down with actor André Holland to explore the pivotal memory that shaped his belief that he was never “good enough” as himself—and that he had to become someone “better” to be loved.

They unpack how these deeply rooted emotional imprints steer our relationships—sometimes helping us, but often holding us back. André’s story reveals how early wounds can guide not just who we choose, but how we let love in.

Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this episode is a powerful guide to:


uncovering the underlying stories behind your intimacy
rewriting beliefs that no longer serve you
opening the door to deeper, more authentic connection

🎬 About Love, Brooklyn
Want more from André Holland? Be sure to check out his new film, Love, Brooklyn now playing in theaters. It will be available for streaming too!  

Stay up-to-date and follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovebrooklynmovie/

For more on André be sure to follow him on Instagram: http://instagram.com/andreholland

Want more Lover?
 Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com
 Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter
 Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community
 Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes

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Trigger Warning: This conversation includes a deeply personal story shared by André Holland, including a moment when someone he had affections for used a racial slur toward him. Listener discretion is advised. What happens when a core memory rewrites the story of how we see ourselves in love? In this week’s LOVERS episode, Shan sits down with actor André Holland to explore the pivotal memory that shaped his belief that he was never “good enough” as himself—and that he had to become someone “better” to be loved. They unpack how these deeply rooted emotional imprints steer our relationships—sometimes helping us, but often holding us back. André’s story reveals how early wounds can guide not just who we choose, but how we let love in. Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this episode is a powerful guide to: </div><ul>
<li>uncovering the underlying stories behind your intimacy</li>
<li>rewriting beliefs that no longer serve you</li>
<li>opening the door to deeper, more authentic connection </li>
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🎬 About Love, Brooklyn Want more from André Holland? Be sure to check out his new film, Love, Brooklyn now playing in theaters. It will be available for streaming too!   Stay up-to-date and follow on Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/lovebrooklynmovie/"> https://www.instagram.com/lovebrooklynmovie/ </a> For more on André be sure to follow him on Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/andreholland">http://instagram.com/andreholland</a> Want more Lover? Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice →<a href="http://loversbyshan.com"> http://loversbyshan.com </a> Get a free weekly Love Letter →<a href="http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter"> http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter </a> Join the Lovers Community →<a href="https://www.loversbyshan.com/community"> https://www.loversbyshan.com/community </a> Explore free quizzes + worksheets →<a href="http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes"> http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes</a>
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Lovers by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right.

Past guest include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away.

When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach.

Sales and Distribution by Lemonada Media https://lemonadamedia.com/  

Lovers by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram&rsquo;s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right. Past guest include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away. When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach.
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