Hey lifers!
Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your life dilemmas!
Are you the partner who packs the dishwasher like a Scandinavian architect or a racoon on meth? The dishwasher is causing some problems in households but maybe we are a bit guilty of weaponised incompetence too!
Britt is heading over to Romania tonight and Laura is hosting the Christmas Carols in Surfer's Paradise this weekend! Carols details here
Vibes for the week:
Britt Storyworth book
Keeshia Netflix Our Little Secret
Laura Netflix Killer Sally and Jumbled diaries
Then we get into your questions!
HUSBAND GOES ON LOTS OF BOYS TRIPS AND I'M RESENTFUL
My husband is part of a boys punting club where they put in $20 every week and then use the pool of money to go on an annual boys weekend away. He also has an annual interstate golf trip with a different group of dads. Both these trips are expensive and mean that I am left home with our 3 kids under 4. Am I right to feel resentful that he has these boys trips or are my expectations too high that he should give them up during this stage of life? All my friends are mums to young kids/babies so it’s a lot harder to organise a girls trip and I’d feel guilty to leave the kids for a few nights. Also I would rather spend the time and money on a family holiday or a trip with my husband. My dad never had boys trips, is this just the new normal for our generation?
PARTNER COMPLAINS ABOUT MY TOILET SKIDDIES
Bit of a gross one but I’m wondering if I’m in the wrong here my partner constantly complains that I leave skid marks in the toilet. I’m not going out of my way to leave them there but we have a VERY clingy one year old so going to the toilet in itself is a bit of a challenge at the moment, let alone scrubbing the toilet when I’m done. My partner gets genuinely upset about it and has even gone so far as to call me 'an animal' because of it. Again, I’m not going out of my way to do this and when he brings it up (it comes up a lot), my response is, “it’s a fucking toilet”. Like that’s where the shit is meant to go, right?! Is it really that bad if I leave the odd skid mark on the toilet bowl?
BROKEN UP BUT CAN’T CUT TIES AND STILL HANGING OUT
My partner and I split up 3 weeks ago. We dated for 5 1/2 years and had a house, a dog and a cat. It was a mutual breakup and it really came down to wanting different things and a lack of communication. Closer to the end we got quite distant which helped me come to terms with making the decision. After we broke up we started spending time together and talking through things and like we’re dating again. We know we have to cut ties but we’re just enjoying each others company. What do I do? How do I just leave? I’ve moved back with my parents but I’m spending a lot of time at his house now (my old house) I just can’t break ties and he isn’t the one to call it.
NO CARD IN WISHING WELL. CAN I BRING THIS UP?
We got married about a month ago. Like most weddings we had a wishing well for cards and well wishes. After opening all the cards we noticed there was no card from a couple that attended the wedding (reception and ceremony). Whilst we do not expect a monetary gift we’re a bit taken aback by there not even being a card. It seems somewhat out of character for the couple so we’re wondering if had somehow gone missing. Is there any polite way of bringing this up with the couple or do we just leave it to avoid any awkwardness? I just can not fathom ever attending a wedding and not bringing a card let alone gift.
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Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. I'm Brittany and I'm Laura, and it's Thursday.
Thank you.
We are we answering your biggest, deepest, darkest questions. I love this episode personally.
Me too.
Laura is running on a little bit less sleep than usual. You've had a rough night, not on the margaritas.
I just wish it was on the margar Readers.
You know what, maybe this is a flow on effect because you got pretty litty on margs on the weekend.
I had so many margaritas. On Saturday night, we had our pick up Christmas party. Well it wasn't We had to really call it a Christmas party. We went to dinner, there was nothing Christmas. No one drank except for me, and I had about seven margaritas.
No one drank. Sorry, no one drank as much as that's true I had. I was do you weave that finger at me? I was doing lemon doing. I was drinking lemon spritzers. Were at an a Talian restaurant. I mean to be fair, I only had two, but I don't drink anymore, so two for me sends me like sent.
I would like to point out that normally I am also sent by not much. But those cocktails were wildly weak, but it was still delicious.
You know that I had more of them. I paid way too much for lemony water.
There's another place in Bondai that my housemate and I used to I mean my old housemaids.
I no longer live with them, but we.
Used to kind of bitch about it because the cocktails were like twenty five dollars each, and we were so convinced that they were like a third strength.
There was nothing in it.
It really really got to be in my bonnet because you guys know IM are tight ass, and if I'm paying twenty five dollars for a cocktail, I want to feel it.
You know. I just think I know you at that time, and I just think you're a little bit immune to it, like you were in your party girl era. So it would hit different now. I bet you if you're go and test it out, it'll hit you different. Laura. You will be happy for my wedding. I have unlimited margaritas.
But I'm not like now, I'm not much of a big drinker normally, Like I even we've been out for a life on cut thing. I had two drinks at dinner. That was our Christmas party. Well, guys, every so often you just got to have a night. You don't have to.
That's not the truth, but I did. Okay, you stop judging me.
Talking about judging. This was supposed to be wholesome, Like this was supposed to be from a someone that sent me something on Instagram. You know when they send you something and you know it had no you'll intent, but it's like wildly offensive. Someone. Oh someone sent me and they follow me, they like me, and they just meant to be like, haha, this is you. And it was a meme and it was just like they wrote, hah, you're both but like love hearts and stuff like sparkles, and it was a meme about you've heard of geriatric pregnancies, but have you heard of geriatric bachelorettes?
What it's a meme?
So you know geriatric pregnancies if you are having a baby, I think it's over thirty two or thirty three. Now, it's ridiculous you called the geriatric.
Yeah, it's like when you're in your early thirties. But it's just because of like I know.
Why, but I'm saying the name is a Jerry the patriarchy. It's because my eggs are shriveled.
I get it. My pregnance is with geriatric pregnancies. Explains a lot. Yeah, well was wild.
No, I'm joking, but yeah, So they sent me this, like you've heard of geriatric pregnancies? Have you heard of geriatric bachelors? And it's these girls that are obviously going on their bachelorette later in life, like a bit older, and they just can't handle it. They've got the nurses over the next day and they're on drips at home and it's like it's a real old thing. They're walking out with walkers, and I was like, I was a bit offended, but I was like, it also sort of is true, Like that is what I'm going to be like in my bachelorette.
Got you okay?
Sorry it took me a while because when you were saying bachelorette, I was like thinking like from the Bachelor.
And I was like, oh, but you weren't.
You were young and now and now you've engaged. Wow, well, welcome to the party. I'm glad I arrived.
I really did a number and we didn't it for your.
Hands party, to be fair, when we've had some preliminary common sations. Laura and I are in a group chat with your two bridesmaids and I have set it up. We have been talking about what you want. I did factor in, well, she's not gonna be wanting a rager. She's not gonna be wanting to go into the early hours of the morning. We're probably going to be sitting around having cups of tea at nine o'clock like we did at Laura's and I had a great time.
That makes me feel so it makes me sound so lame, but low key. Yeah, that's what we're gonna do. High tea party. Get stuck in a tea circle where like when you finish your team, by the time it gets around, someone feels it up again.
Sherry and Kisha so were in this group chat to organize Britz Hans and John was rolling his eyes and we got sent. I got sent the dress code for your Hens party, the planned dress code.
Well, I thought it came from you. I thought that this was what you wanted.
And I was like, Kisha and I snowballed some stuff. Did one stick one? I thought stuck.
I thought you that is what you wanted, but you were a little bit worried about putting a theme in general, because you didn't want people to have to like, yeah, you know when I was outfit and whatever.
I want people to have to do and pay for as little as possible, Like I want to organize my own hands and people can just turn up. I hate the pressure of asking people to do stuff.
It's also because they become quite expensive when you've just seen things and people have to put a lot of effort into it. And also then when you have a wedding that's overseas, like there's lots of parts to it.
I get that, but no, it's gonna be great. You can't know anything about it.
So how do I get the theme? Then?
Do you give me the Well, I'll give you an outfit that you have to wear. You're going as a blow up dinosaur.
I'm going as a giant cock. What I want to ask you, guys.
I was sent a meme by my boyfriend last night and I this is one of those ones. You know how they're like, oh, opposite's attract and one person in the relationship is this person, and then the other ones the opposite in the relationship. And this one for me really hit me in the heart and it couldn't be more true in my relationship.
And I'm curious about whether this exists.
In every relationship or if ours is a little bit specific to this. So the meme read, in every partnership, there is a person who stacks the dishwasher like a end Anavian architect, and the person who secks the dishwasher like a raccoon on myth.
Oh, you're the raccoon on myth for sure, without a doubt.
I'm also there with you, raccooning away in the dishwasher.
I am a squirrel for sure.
Oh are you also the rodent?
I'm a rat. Yeah, I am at the road kill rat. But I live alone too. If you opened my dishwasher, I don't even put them on the right shelf.
I didn't even know that there was a shelf. You had to put things on.
Cups on the bottom, pans on top, see inside up they down it catch as much water as you can.
You can't do that because then all the food and water, Like I know it.
It is the reason why I end up doing about three loads of the same cup in a dishwasher.
It drives mat insane because he is very.
Particular with ease, and so he unpacks the dishwasher and then repacks it once I've packed it once. My thing is like a lot of people talk about weaponized incompetency in men. They talk about how like so many men don't do jobs properly because the women will step in, But no one talks about the women who abuse the system. Because I think I am like, I've like completely manifested weaponized in competency.
But I don't think you're abusing it. You're just doing it. You don't care because you're still You've still done the chore.
Right, and he just has to redo it, which is also like, I mean, really the definition of but I'm like, I know that you want me to do it properly, but I'm refusing to.
And he just has the patience of a saint.
I figure the dishwasher like you shut the door and the water fills the dishwasher right and all washes around, because it doesn't make a difference.
The outcome is the same.
I very much think that there is always two types of people in a relationship. And also I was saying this before, but there's always two types of people, and they go on holidays. There's the type of people who live out of a suitcase, never unpack their clothes, and their shit is everywhere, like the hotel room just looks like you've been robbed by the end of the stay. And then there's people who rock up to a hotel they get on holidays and the second that they arrive they unpack all their things into a wardrobe, which to me is insane, but that is my sister, So us traveling together has always been like a real kind of chalk and cheese situation.
My hotel room looks I could be there for two hours and it looks like I've been there for a year, and I traveled like for three years out of a suitcase. I'm going to Ben's now for a month. My suitcase will open on the ground and that's where it will stay. Everything stays in there. I don't pull anything out, I don't hang anything up. It drives him insane, speaking of packing, I am out of here tonight.
What time is your flight?
Nine o'clock to night. Nine o'clock to night is my flight. It's like a twenty eight hours Pray for me. It's a very long flight and gonn take some sleeping tablets and then that's me for the rest of the week.
You were sending messages last night of you packing, like you've always leave it to the last minute.
Yes's not finished yet.
I know you're not.
I have like an hour when we go home. I'm stressed. I have an hour when we go home today to.
Pack before I have to leave, basically, and we have eight hours of recording and we've got fun.
We're working all day. I've also got to go to the post office. Ben sent me something, Babes, make sure you pick this up before you go. I'm like, Ben, it's Bond night beach a week before Christmas. That post is hell. Can I tell you what happened yesterday? This is we nearly got to an rogon because Ben, he's so sweet, he sends me stuff all the time. So he sent me something and he's like, make sure you go to the post office this afternoon when you can. So I was like, oh my god, thank you, love love heart. So I go to the post office. The line is out the door. I'm talking. I was on the phone to you, Laura, thirty five people.
It's not only is it a couple of weeks before Christmas. It's the week after Black Friday. Like the thing is is like everyone's parcels have arrived. Everyone's in the midst of pickup or packed out or whatever. It is like the post office is fucking hell fire right now.
So I wait in the line because I don't have much time. I'm going today. I get there, it's like an hour. I get to the desk and I say, I've got some I know them because I go there all the time. I was like, I got something.
I was like, I've got friends with the post office people.
I was like, hey, Hi, I've got something to pick up. And he was like, no, you don't. I was like, no, I do, Please please tell me it's I was like, my fiancee.
Sent me something.
And he pulls it up on the computer and he's like, no, it's still in transit. Maybe tomorrow if you want to come back.
How did you not check that before you got there? That's on you.
No it is not. Ben told me it was there. I go back and I, hey, Ben, just show me what the message said. He sends me the screenshot says in transit. I was like, I would have been ropeable. I was like, he sent you a present, he just got it wrong. I was like, it's okay. I was like, no worries. Maybe I'll go back to my row in all my spashi.
That's okay. I'm just stuck back in. And I was like, what is it? He's like not telling you. I was like, I.
Was like, do I do I need it for the trip? And he's like maybe.
And I was like, how'n't you killing me?
Kid?
I was like what, Just so you know I don't want it. I don't want it.
Well, guys, look, I mean before we get into vibes and subscribes and answering all your questions, if you are a lifer and you are from Queensland, well specifically from Surface Paradise or Gold Coast area, Queensland's some big I realized that. I was like, well, if you're in fu North Queensland, you're probably not coming. But this weekend, on Sunday night, Matt and I are hosting the Carrols on Surface Paradise Beach again, which is so fun. We did it last year and there was like thousands of people there. The carrals are always a nice way to get into the mood for Christmas.
I wish I could come and like, but I'm always see what do you guys do as hosts? Like do you have your stand up piece?
I mean, do you have a dance routine?
Are you dancing?
So we open the carols, We introduced the acts. It's a whole bit.
Which was on the box. Yes, we did a bit.
And if you have specifically if you have kids, of course, because it's very family orientated.
Emma Memma is going.
To be there.
And then there's also Emma Wiggle. Emma Wiggle, She's not Emma Wiggle any memer. She left, she quit, and then she had a she had a new identity overhaul and now she's Emma Memmer.
Okay, I didn't know that.
And then there's also a guy named Lenny Pierce who is a DJ. He's got like almost a million followers on Instagram. He's got quite a famous DJ, Lenny Pierce, Lenny Peers.
Never heard of him.
It's probably a reason for that.
Just googled maker of Toddler Techno, one of the world's fastest rising artists in the electronic music scene.
What the kid raves?
He is lit? Do kids rave?
Oh?
Yeah? You should see Mary this Sunday night.
I did see your with Carols last week with her glow sticks. No, yeah, he I think he started off as like an adult DJ and then he realized, actually, maybe there was more bang for his buck doing it for kids.
Are you telling me the fastest growing DJ now is a toddler.
DJ todd makes sense.
I mean even YouTube balloon like streams off of that, you'd.
Be why are we here? It's all raving.
It's also why people like matt O Kaine had their bands like the kids band called Diversity. It's because, like adults want to listen to music that's not infuriatingly bad, do you know what I mean? So it's kind of like kid appropriate adult music that makes sense.
It's like shreck, like you know how they make kids track, well, how they make kids movies, but there's adults stuff in.
There as well.
Exactly exactly, But anyway, that's what I'm going to be doing this Sunday night.
Come down to the Carols.
Sorry, I'm still shocked that toddlers are raving.
And you can get amongst the toddler rave.
It's definitely not just for toddler's it is for whole family.
That is my dream job. Imagine being able to be DJ get paid and what's that rave but be bed and have a nap at ten thirty am. You don't, No, you're done. You're a morning because I need to have their laid down in their milk.
You're also probably going to nap in the middle of the day as well for two hours.
Bretty Whitney is coming.
Watch out.
Brittany's raven.
Pretty witty.
All right, what is your vibe of the week?
My vibe this week? So this is a book. It's by story Worth. You might have heard of it. So Sherry and I did for my dad a few years ago. And this is my What I'm holding in my hand is like my most valuable thing that I own. This is my dad on the front, it looks like he's died. He hasn't. He has not died. But the book has a photo of him and it says his name on it. And what happens is you sign this person up to a website called story Worth, and every single week for an entire year, they send a question via email to this person. So there's like fifty two chapters of all these questions, and each answer is only one to two pages. That's whatever they want to write. But my dad did it in like two pages, and it's their whole life. He answers the question and he sends it back an email. He does it every single week, and then they put a hard cover book together. It's a book of his life, but it's not just his life. It's things that you would I mean, it is his life, but things that you would never have known, and also his deepest thoughts on things like I haven't finished it. I've had it for years and I haven't finished it because every time I open it, I'm in tears, happy tears, sad tears. And he has been so honest in it, and sometimes that's really hard to hear because your parents protect you a lot, or your grandparents protect you a lot from their feelings. They never want you to know that they're sad or struggling. And the way he speaks about my mum, the way he speaks about us the hard times, and it's just stuff I didn't know about his childhood or his parents. And I think it's such a beautiful present if you are thinking of what you could get someone in your life. My mom's a little bit lazier, so she hasn't done hers, but I'm really going to push it that bit.
The problem is that if you have this sort of present for your family member, you need to make sure that they're the type of person who's good with the deadline. Like actually things like the activities that you send them.
Well, it's not like it's like if you don't do it in that week, it's expired. It just means like it's going to take you longer to do it. But if you're really good with it, literally like two pages, one question is a page and a half, so it's super easy. So I cannot recommend it's enough. Story worth is who I used. I'm sure there's a bunch of different websites if you are lucky enough to still have a parent in your life. And I understand this is going to be a hard thing to hear for people that might have lost somebody in their life. I get that, But if there is someone that you do want to put their whole life into a hardcover and if I lose this, well I should check this. I'm pretty sure it's stored like online, so you get sure.
I could get none, but all the kids got a copy that is like such a beautiful, beautiful gift idea and something that I think a lot of people, and I mean from speaking about grief, like a lot of people get to the end of the life of their loved ones and realize they don't have all of the answers to the questions that they would have liked to have asked or have all of the stories. You know, and there's so much about parents and like their upbringing and who they were went before you existed, that you might not know the details too. And it's such a nice way to like know the people that you love the most better and more intimately.
And I even I was reading it the other day. Sometimes I just flicked through and open a page and read it, and there was one that he was writing about my mom, Like I just flicked through, Now, tell me about one of the best days that you remember, and it's it's just his one memory from him. And I flicked through and I saw the way he was writing about my mom, and I was bawling my eyes out, and I took a selfie of my mom, of my face sorry, crying, send it to my mom, sent her the page because I don't reckon she's read it. I don't think she would read it, and I just sent her the page and I said, just a reminder how much Dad adores you. And she wrote back and she said, I know I'm the luckiest woman in the world. And I was like, ah, I've just anyway, I'm.
Not going to get that is a really beautiful recommendation. That is my vibes, that's yours, keysh Mine.
Mine feels very silly and like light and fluffy after something as deep and meaningful as that. But it's the new Lindsay low and Christmas movie on Netflix. It is called Our Little Secret, and it followed the two characters named Avery and Logan, And this happens in the first couple of minutes, so no spoilers. They're in a relationship and they have a failed proposal and they break up, okay, and then it fast forwards ten years and they're both in new relationships and they're both in much better places in their life, and they come together with their new partners for Christmas, and it turns out that their partners are siblings. So they walk into the one household, don't give it all away, and they've got to decide what they're going to do about it anyway. The movie is it's cheesy, but not too cheesy and not as cheesy as Lindsay Lowan's previous Christmas movies that she's done on Netflix.
Lindsay Lewan looks amazing. She's had a glow up.
She's looking really I even saw.
Like a plastic surgeon online the other day and they were like.
I don't know what she's done.
But I want it is I want it for myself. Yeah, she married a billionaire, that's what we'll do it.
She did, but you you know, we see a lot of rich people that get dodgy like surgery or glow ups. But she's she has nailed. Yes, she looks absolutely fantastic.
And this movie was.
Just it was so enjoyable. It was the right amount of predictable. I watched it in one sitting, which is actually quite rare for me to watch a film from like Wa to Go.
But it was just perfect for the time of the.
Year it is, when everyone's so exhausted and you need a little bit of Christmas cheer and something that's a little bit funny. And the guy in it, Ian Harding, he's the one who plays Logan. Did you guys watch Pretty Little Liars.
Yeah, loved it.
He was right.
So I put this up on my Instagram story because I was like, I will never see him as anyone other than Ezrafits and so many lifers wrote back being like, oh my gosh, that's where I know him from. I was trying to rack my brain for it. But yeah, really enjoyable little Christmas movie. It's called Our Little Secret on Netflix.
I feel like everyone needs a good Christmas movie this time of year, and I think Love actually has had its I mean, don't come for me, but I feel like it's had its time because now you watch it and you're like, oh, half of these relationships are actually really toxic.
A different I don't love Love. Actually, they're gonna come for you.
Keep Yeah, I think the holiday is much better coming with it. The Holiday is the Christmas movie. Karen Diaz and Jude Law so good, very hot.
Okay, John O's looks really offended. You stick to your really toxic relationships.
Laurie, what's your vibe?
Okay, Okay, my vibe. I have two and I'm going to make them both very quick. Okay, I have one that you can watch. It is a Netflix documentary. It's three episodes, very quick, very snappy, but I was absolutely hooked. It came out in twenty twenty two, but it seems to have had a resurgence on Netflix at the moment. And it's called Killer Sally. I don't know if anyone has seen it or heard of it. It's around these two competitive bodybuilders in the States, female and male. They met in the military and they ended up getting married. And I mean, spoiler, but you hear this in the very first episode. It's certainly not a spoiler because it's in the name. She kills her husband is her name Sally. Her name is also Sally, and she is a killer. But it's a really really interesting story, and you know she has been framed to be this like quite cold, murderous, but then obviously the story develops and you actually find out that she.
Is the victim of absolutely a boring domestic violence.
And he is a and I'm talking like when you see photos of them, like he is an enormous man, an enormous bodybuilder. It's really really brilliantly done. That sounds great, Yeah, it's great, Okay. And my second recommendation is something that is very very important this time of year or very key this time of year, and I think it's going to come in handy to lots of people. It's something that I buy every single year, or my sister actually buys it for me for a gift. And that is the jumbled diary. Has anyone seen this before?
No?
Do you use laughing? I do it, Tony Bay. It stays on my desk so that I don't lose it. But I'm not the person that can carry a diary around.
I thought you and the user diary for like the first week and then it just crumbled.
Noble, I take it with me for the first week. This is the problem I get a diary. I'm like, I'm going to be the diary person this year, and I'm going to carry it everywhere I go. And I carry it around for about a week and then it just it's on my desk at Tony May and I only use it for that job because I can't be trusted or I'll lose it.
But they're awesome.
They're really beautiful, Like look, they're really really beautiful. They come in all different colors every year year. They do it like a new design and they're just like they're really thoughtfully.
Later, I love them. They're sixty nine dollars ninety five.
Jumbled has so many like beautiful artworks and gifting and everything else, but they're specifically their diary, which they're known for, is the absolute tits also go excellent fry.
Let's get into some questions.
Question number one. My husband is part of a boy's punting club where they put in twenty dollars every week then use the profits profits to go on an annual boys weekend away. He also has an annual interstate golf trip with a different group of dads. Okay, so he's got two big boys trips away. How many days for doesn't specify, but I'm assuming a long weekend.
Yeah fine, Okay.
Both of these trips are expensive and mean that I am left at home with our three kids under four. You must have twins or something.
It's a lot of kids. Nah, not necessarily just pump pump pump.
Pump them out. Am I right to feel resentful that he has the boy's trips? Or are my expectations too high that he should give them up? During this stage of life? All my friends are mums to young kids and babies, so it's a lot harder for us to organize a girl's trip, and I'd also just feel guilty leaving the kids for a few nights. Also, I would rather spend the time and money on a family holiday or a trip with my husband. My dad never has boys trips, so I'm not sure is this the new normal for our generation?
Ah.
That is a really hard one to answer, because I don't think one or two boys trips for a long weekend is a big deal in a year time frame. Maybe one is more acceptable, but I also think maybe it needs to be more balanced. If he's able to take a couple of nights away, then you should also take a couple of nights away, but do it without the guilt like you're if. I think the thing that's stopping you from doing that is the fact that you feel guilty about leaving, or you feel guilty about spending money on yourself, and your husband just clearly doesn't have the same amount of guilt.
I never feel the same guilt some of them do. I'd like a blanket statement, but they don't have the same I think it's different. I'm not a mom. I know I always have to say that, but I think it's different. From all. What my friends tell me is like when you're the mom, you always have more responsibility, whether it should be that way or not. You also have a different kind of a connection, could be still breastfeeding. I think it comes with different layers. I do agree it is harder, but I don't think the guilt should be is like you guys should have equal guilt.
Yeah, but it also depends on your parenting and relationship dynamic. If the majority of the work is falling on you and you are the primary and I put that in quotation marks care give it to the kids, then you will feel that it's harder to leave, Like it absolutely will be harder because you're more entrenched in the trenches. Whereas if he's just you know, like the fun times party dad, it's going to be easier for him to take a couple of days off here and there. This really sucks because I think on paper, it's not a big deal to have a couple of nights away so that you can still have connection with your friends and you can still have a balance between life, life and everything else. I think the problem is when you say, should we just be forgoing this type of a boy's weekend at this stage of life. I think it then means that like you end up falling out, not falling out, but you don't have his close connections with some of these friendship groups, especially if that's something that all of those friends are doing. I just think the part here that's imbalanced is that you are not having those moments for yourself, or you're not having time where maybe it doesn't need to be a long weekend, but you're not having the amount of time that he is to dedicate to his friendships. And that's where there is this like big caveat between kind of like the expectations and standards. But I do think we have to as mums kind of reassess why we have so much more guilt about stuff than what our partners have.
I think the issue here is also around money. It seems like he's spending a few thousand dollars a year on these two trips and you're not getting anything, So of course you're gonna feel resentment, like he's getting time away without the stress of the family, which is a stress. Whether you love your family more than anything, it's a stress. Like it's nice to be for a couple of days away from the screaming kids because they're under four, you're having beers with your friends, You've got nothing else to worry about, Like you are going to build resentment that he's spending your family's money on that when you're not getting it. I do want to say I don't think what he's doing is crazy, but I think it's important you have a conversation with him and say either one of those boys trips needs to be swapped out for you or it needs to be a family holiday, because if he's doing these two trips and you're not even doing a family holiday, there's an issue.
Yeah, I agree with that, and I also think that's the problem, right, Like if you look at the financials, if you sit down and go, okay, what is this financially costing us? How much do you spend on these two boys trips a year and how much do we spend on family holidays? And if those things are equivalent, and there also isn't the same amount of money for you to be able to spend on yourself, then that's like another massive inequality here, not just as the inequality the fact that he's going away and having solo time to dedicate to his friendships and you're left taking care of all the kids for those extra days. But you haven't said how much this is costing, and you haven't said how much you have to sacrifice in order to allow him to do those things. So yeah, I mean I can understand why you're getting resentful about it.
Also, you say that like you can't really go away with your friends because they've all got little kids and babes as well. And I get that, go away on your own book a weekend and like a spa retreat and check out, read your book, go to the gym, sleep all day, do whatever you want, but like you deserve that time as well.
But there is probably a bigger conversation here, and I know we kind of touched on a little bit. If your partner is not a competent enough parent to take care of your children for you to go away for two nights stressful, then there is a way bigger conversation that needs to be had here, because it means the dynamic of your relationship is that you're not able to have nights away from your kids because it's not just guilt, it's around like the fear of them not doing a good enough job and that's a whole different conversation, right, But I do think that as mums we have to try and work on either a relinquishing some more responsibility to our partners so that we're able to rebalance the load of work or be kind of like fucking like give up a bit of that guilt that we have, because if your partner feels no guilt in what he's doing, then you shouldn't feel the same level of guilt If you have one night or two nights away from your children as well, it means it'll be fine and they're okay, so long as you have a partner who is competent and able to step up to the plate.
All right, Question number two, This is a bit gross, but I think it's relatable.
This is so gross.
Yeah, she actually starts by saying, this is a bit gross. This is a bit gross. But I'm wondering if I'm in the wrong. My partner constantly complains that I leave skid marks in the toilet. For clarification, I'm not going out of my way to leave them there. But we do have a very clinging one year old, so going to the toilet is a bit of a challenge In itself. I hardly want to finish with a child stuck to me and scrub the toilet. When I'm done, my partner gets genuinely upset. He's genuinely upset and calls me an animal because of it. Again, I'm not going down my way to do this. But when he brings it up, which it comes up a lot, my response is, it's a fucking toilet, like where is the shit meant to go? Which is also sort of fair. Is it really that bad if I leave the odd skidmuk on the toilet bowl?
I would love to stay anonymous for obvious reasons.
Yes, yes, it is clean your toilet, wipe your toilet down. I mean, I'm a fucking raccoon on meth when it comes to dishwasher. But if I've left a skid mark in the toilet, I will clean that. And you can't tell me that you can't do it because you have a one year old, Like it takes twenty seconds, fifteen seconds.
What it depends on maybe she annihilates it.
And don't get me wrong, like if you're in a phase of life or you're in the trenches and everything is hard and you're going through like there are reasons why sometimes simple tasks are difficult. I get that, but it doesn't sound like that is the case in this situation. It sounds like you don't care and so you'll like get the fuck over it.
Which I'm like, if.
Your partner cares and he doesn't want to walk into a bathroom and be greeted by your shit in a toilet, then I would I would really take that on and I would clean it.
I think you have to put yourself in the position like your partner's position in this one. If you were constantly coming to the toilet, If you were constantly going to the toilet and there was just a big shit in there and it was all down the sides and it was chunky, whatever, you're going to think that's disgusting. Like that is not inviting. It is not that you need to be invited to the toilet, but you No one needs to sit and stare at someone else's poop. Just clean it. No, absolutely. I don't often say this, but I'm on the side of your partner. I'm on the side of your husband same you've got to clean the poop.
But I feel the same way anytime I walk into like the office toilet and there's a skitty or like anywhere, My very first thought is what animal walks in sees that and then goes.
That's okay. I could leave that. That's well enough. It's in the toilet. That's crazy to me.
And then imagine if you walk.
Out and someone is outside, see, but then I end up cleaning someone else's because I'm so worried that someone who's that side the door, and.
Totally so would you clean the pub toilet kind of reserve at work?
I would clean someone else's at work if it was there when I went to the toilet.
Guys, I do a lot of gross stuff, but like, leaving skitties in.
A loo is not one of them.
It's just not.
Never leave a skitty in a loop.
I wouldn't.
I would rather die than walk out and let someone walk in and see that I had annihilated a toilet.
Bringey just drops dead. I musco die.
Now, I'm sorry I did a skitty.
There was no brush. I've got to die.
Clean the toilet your animal.
Yeah.
Look, and also even in this question, you said it comes up a lot. If it's coming up a lot, it's because you're It's because you're doing it a lot, and sometimes there are small like things that seem insignificant to us.
I'm going to go back to the packing the dishwasher.
If it came up a lot in our relationship, if it really upset Matt that much, and it was a point of contention for him that he brought it up a lot, I absolutely would change the way that I packed the dishwasher. I know I made jokes about weaponized incompetency, but if your partner is telling you something that is a really reasonable and simple thing and they're saying it on repeat, I cannot tell you how infuriating it becomes when you feel like you're being ignored and a simple request is just going uncared about.
I'm gonna also take it back to something that I reference a lot. A lot of some people are on my side, some people are not. When I say my rule, generally speaking in a relationship is that, like, you don't fight in front of each other because I will end up.
Getting the ick. Yeah that's true, Fatherough.
If I'm walking into a bathroom and seeing shit in the toilet every day, I'm not gonna want to have sex with that person. Like I am going to get the ick. And if your partner, over over and over again is saying like I don't want to look at your shit, clean it up, you're an animal, then I think you need to listen, Like I think relationships are about listening and communication. He has communicated that your poop isn't doing it for him.
Like, there's one more thing to this.
Kids are annoying, Okay they are, and it can be hard to even get two seconds to yourself to go to the toilet. They come in and they stare at you and they talk to you, and all you just want to do is a pooh in peace. Yeah, like go one of the days of a poo and piece. Lola came in the other day to show me her barbies.
Whilst I was mid.
Pooh, You're like, please just let me drop the can to talk to.
To talk to me about Barbie's And we had a full conversation about barbies whilst I was midpoo.
So do you keep pooing?
Yeah, I'm not gonna stop for her. If I stopped, I'd be on the louall day. They don't care, They have no they don't care. They say, Mammy, you're doing a poo pooh yeah, can you please leave spack and wipe, And she's like, okay, I'll come back.
And she'll walk out for two seconds and then come back two seconds later.
I'm back.
Please don't please, don't come back, all right? Next question question number three. My partner and I split up three weeks ago. Now, we dated for five and a half years and had a house and a dog and a cat. It was a mutual breakup, and it really came down to wanting different things in life and a lack of communication. Closer to the end, we got quite distant, which helped me come to terms with making this decision. Now, after we broke up, we started spending time together again and talking through things like we were dating. We know we have to cut ties, but we are just enjoying each other's company.
What am I supposed to do? And how do I just leave? I've moved back with.
My parents, but now I'm spending all this time at his house like my old house. I just can't break ties and he isn't the one to call it. Please, please please help? How do I create some distance?
I wish I had more information on this, and I hope you listen to this and write in because we need more. My first thought was, like, I'm not one hundred percent convinced that you want this to end. There are two options here. You could very well be like, sick of this guy, it's over. I don't want to be with him. But you're like, it's so familiar, it's what I know. I'm not ready to be on my own. Like we all know the elongated breakup, Like sometimes they can take a very long time and you know you don't want to be with them, but it's just hard to cut what you know. But then there's another part of me that thinks, and this happens all the time as well. When you've been together for a long time, sometimes you can get bored and complacent. Sometimes you think something is not for you and you end it. And I hate to say it, but the saying of like you don't know what you've got until it's gone.
Yeah, but it was never gone. They never had any time part It.
Can ring true and sometimes you need to like reset your relationship. So there's a part of me that's wondering if maybe just off based off the information you've given me, maybe you're like, I don't think this is it for me. We've been five and a half years, bored over it, you've moved out, but now you're enjoying dating again. So I wonder if you're enjoying refiguring each other out and refinding each other and you've put the space again and the relationship might be exciting again. I can't tell you either way because I don't have the rest of the information. But when you're like, we've been talking, we're dating again, we're spending a lot of time together, it sounds like it's going well. So I do want you to ask yourself why you were so adamant about the breakup, Like if if the motherfucker cheated on you and then you're still going back different But if you just were bored, then I don't know, Like maybe this was a little bit of space you needed.
Nah, we feel differently about this one. I think think you don't want to be together, because if you did want to be together, the question wouldn't be I just can't break ties and he isn't going to be the one to call it.
Please please, please help.
The thing is you want to break ties, like you know that this is not the situation you want, but you are bonded and you have codependency issues and you don't want to be alone.
Because whish he's with the parents.
But the thing is is you haven't had any time away from him, so like you did like this, you did the breakup, you did all the big breakup things, but then you didn't actually have to break up. And the reality is is breakups are hard and they hurt, and you have to go cold turkey for a while. Like there has to be a period if you've made this decision and you're not sure and you need to quote unquote call it. The only way to call it is to have at like an absolute block amount of time where you do not have contact with them, and then after a month or whatever that looks like for you, if you're like, actually, this was the worst fucking mistake of my life, that's a different situation. But this not untangling from each other and still getting all the comforts of companionship and the friendship that you have with your partner and all that sort of stuff at the same time, like you kind of have a boyfriend without actually having a boyfriend. So you're trying to do the slow breakup, and it's just you're at the point now where you have to call it.
I have to call love.
This because we don't agree, and I love when we don't agree. I'm going to say, and I want you to write in in January when we come back to the podcast, I want to know what happens. I'm going to say. My advice here is to date again, to start dating, but don't move back in. Don't fall back into what you know. Start to date again. Because she said, we're hanging out and we're enjoying each other's company, we're talking things through. It's like we're dating. If you're enjoying it, I would keep enjoying it, but I would date and I would separate yourselves again and see if you genuinely if the feelings come back, or if you start to realize once you spend more time apart. It might be a slow burn where you're like, oh, I enjoyed it because I know him, but it's the feelings aren't there. But I don't know. If I would cut this on off straight away, Laura, I would say, sporadically, keep them there, explain it to him what you're feeling like, be really open about it. It's confusing. These feelings are really confusing and It's never easy to cut off a long term relationship when you've got a dog of cat in a house specifically, like that is really hard. So Laura's saying break up, and I'm saying date, But if you want to date other people as well, Like I would really pair it back to basics.
I know we don't normally disagree, So this is probably going to be very conflicting feedback for whoever wrote this poor question in but you've said the reason why you broke up came down to the fact that you had lack of communication, but also that you came down to you wanting different things. I really think it's so important to sit down and figure out, well, what are those different things? Like does one of you want kids the other one doesn't? Does one of you want to live overseas? Does the other one not want to?
Like?
What are those differences that are insurmountable in your relationship?
Yeah, it's just packing the dishwasher differently, Like, yeah, you can work it if.
You're leaving skittis on the toilet, but like, like write them down because that could be your answer in and of itself. It doesn't matter how much you get along and how much it might be nice to date again, and this idea of dating other people at the same time, that's going to end in a fucking disaster.
Just FYI, But like.
On my bike, it's absolutely if you have been in a long term relationship, then you decide to start soft dating, but you're also going to date other people at the same time. That is a recipe for a lot of fucking hurt hearts, is what that is. I just think you need to be very clear with what it is that you want. Write those things down that you want, like tangibly, write it down, Write down why it is that you made the decision to break up. And if it's not clear, and if you're unsure, then of course explore the dating. But if you are very very sure that the reasons why you're doing this is purely because you have become so used to their company, and you're also losing a best friend, you're losing that person that you have known better than anyone for the past five and a half years, then I think the only way to really sever a relationship like this is to go cold turkey for a little while and put some sort of like strong boundaries in place to allow you to get clarity of mind, because you're not going to get that, especially when you go home to your own house with your own parents and family and you think one thing, and then the next time you hang out with them you think a totally different thing. If you can feel that your brain is flip flopping, you just need some space to actually figure out exactly what it.
Is that you do want and how you do genuinely feel about it.
I agree with what you said. I agree with like, if you absolutely know you don't want to be with him, and you're like, I just can't stop seeing him, I agree you have to go cold turkey. My advice is only based around the fact that I feel like you don't know. I feel like the way you've written it, please please please, how do I call it? But you've also said I really like seeing him. We're communicating. Well, it's different now, So that is why my advice is. I would never normally say, like, go back to basics and start dating, but I'm unless you tell me otherwise. I'm not convinced you know yet, so you do need to figure it out. I agree with what you said, Laura, like I write the reasons down and be really clear with your with yourself.
But don't you think it's also a real possibility.
So, I mean, part of this question is we know we have to cut ties, but we're enjoying each other's company. It's very possible to enjoy someone's company who you're not supposed to be with one hundred percent. It's very very possible that spending time, yeah, spending time with him may be enjoyable, and it might be easier to do this kind of like slow separation. It still doesn't mean that the relationship is right and you don't have to walk away from relationships because there's been like a big cheating drama, all the things that make it easy to go line in the sand, I'm done here. Sometimes it's way harder when you've just kind of separated, knowing that it's not the right relationship for you, but you still really get along with the person. They're an amazing person, You really like them. You kind of wish it could have been different. They are almost the hardest relationships to walk away from sometimes because you can't tangibly pin your hat on one thing and go, okay, that's why I'm leaving. But it's okay to break up with the person that you thought, you know, this could have been the thing I wanted. A lot of people use a slow breakup as a way for them to gain confidence to leave a relationship without realizing how much of they're using their partner as an emotional crutch. And it is not okay to fuck someone else in the process of you becoming okay to leave a relationship. So really, really consider what it is that you're doing in this You literally said in this question, I just can't break ties, and I know he isn't going to be the one to call it. Why isn't he going to be the one to call it? Is it because he still wants the relationship? Is it because he still wants the connection with you? And if that's the case, then you absolutely have to be the one to call it, because you're going to abuse that relationship and you're going to hurt him.
Yeah. I agree.
If you know you want out clearly and you know he still loves you, then that's not fair.
Yeah.
Question four. We got married about a month ago. Like most weddings, we had a wishing well for cards and well wishes. After opening all of the cards, we noticed that there was no card from a couple that attended the wedding both reception and ceremony. Whilst we do not expect a monetary gift, we're a bit taken aback by the fact that there's not even a card. It seems somewhat out of character the couple. So we're wondering if somehow the card just went missing. Is there a polite way of bringing this up with a couple or do we just leave it to avoid awkwardness. I just can't fathom ever attending a wedding and not bringing at least a card.
You leave it, You leave it that I feel all.
I tried to think of what I would do.
You leave it, Like, what are you gonna say, Hey, did you give me a wedding gift?
Did you give me a wedding card?
There is no unawkward way of asking that question, and if there is, if you are going to ask the question, you have to be ready for the response, which may be oh my God, I'm so sorry for God, and then like you're going to guilt them into going and getting you a card like a follow up gift.
Yeah. So this sort of happened to my sister Sherry at her wedding, and I was sort of asking people on her behalf. So, how fucked is this? My sister's wedding was at this beautiful venue, but there were a lot of like different staff around, a lot of young staff. I'm not blaming anyone, but it was pretty private. Not only people around at the venue were like the guests, Jay's family, my family, and some stuff. And the couple of days later, when Sherry was going through the wishing well and reading the cards and stuff, there was a card that didn't have any money in it, and that wouldn't normally be in a problem, but she's like, it's just weird because they were like very very good friends. And she's like, I know that she'd given money to other people at weddings, and Sherry couldn't care less. But when you're writing your thank yous, it's always nice you think your cards, it's always nice to know. But she was like, okay, whatever, didn't think too much of it, was like weird, don't care. Then she came across another card, another card didn't have anything in either. Again not the end of the world, but this card was from my really good friend Simon, and she had messaged me and she said, hey, I just want to check. Do you think Simon would have put money in the card? And I said, oh, I was with him when he wrote it. I saw him put the money in. Yes, he put money in the card. And she said, there's no money in there. And then she went through a few more and she figured out there are a few more cards were missing money. And so I was trying to politely go and ask these people on behalf of her because she's like, I don't know what to do. Turns out someone had been stealing money out of her wishing well.
But out of the car.
But then they must have opened the envelope. They were, so all the envelopes were opened.
But not ripped open. It just looks like, you know how you just put a finger in and like open the So it was just like it just looks like you'd flapped it down and put it in the wishing well, which people would have.
Done, and sher was someone who worked at the venue.
It must have been otherwise the only alternative is as one of our relatives, she don't, you can't fathom and we would not even like, there's just no one there that would have done it. So it was a whole thing. She went and spoke to the staff and everything and the venue and they just denied everything. And basically it's like because there's no proof at the end of the day, like I'm maybe I do have maybe I do have a cousin that's a thief who knows, but we know we didn't. But I had to have that awkward conversation on her behalf because she was like, I would rather not have it, but I want to be able to thank people as well.
Was there a camera at the venue at all or nothing was caught?
There was a camera, but not on the wishing well, and the wishing well was put right next to the bar, like there was a table with wishing well drinks and some presents and it was literally where the bar staff.
Were, so you could just put your hand over.
Yeah, but what do you do? What do you do? But I was having that conversation and it was awkward for me to ask people, but I ended up explaining it. But I think in this situation, it's like if it's one card, yeah, just leave it.
I think that's the difference.
Like if there's like multiple things missing where you're like this is strange, then maybe that pertains to a bigger issue. But like, if one person's card is not there, it's not because one card went walking, it's because it wasn't put in and maybe they had every intention of getting something afterwards.
You know, sometimes people forget on the way to the wedding.
They forgot the card, you know, they were going to or they thought they were going to and then they kind of just forgot. But like, I don't know, I think and I say this as someone who there were people that came to our wedding who didn't leave a card and didn't get us anything. But I would never text them and ask them why. I just wouldn't.
That's interesting. People that you thought would have Yeah, yeah, a couple of people are maybe people It is lazy. Now maybe people are just like fuck it.
Like lazy guests.
They kind of like unless you keep and also unless you keep a list, you don't know, like unless you go through and you mark off and go that person gave me a card And depends on how detail orientated you are.
But most people do that. You might not know most people do that because yeah, because people send out their thank yous, that's what you do.
I didn't send out any thank you guys.
I know didn't you get the Lamborghinia? I gave you a God I was waiting for.
Someone stole it. I think one of the stuff in the venue store that Lamborghini.
I think you've got to think, here, what are you going to get from asking? They're either going to be embarrassed that they didn't or they're going to lie and say, oh my god, I did there was five hundred dollars in there, like what like it's just nothing to gain from it, or you know, at the end of the day, the average I think it's like fifty eighty to one hundred dollars is what people leave. That's what you've lost. I think you send out your think your cards. Don't be specific and say thank you for the eighty dollars, just say thank you so much for coming to my wedding. It was great to celebrate with you. Let dead dogs lie like that one is that is just going to fuck shit up.
It is interesting though, because there are people who would be resentful. Because also it does depend on it depends on the culture. It depends on the type of wedding you have, like if you're an Italian family or a Greek family, where like gifting and getting money as a gift is a big deal.
Because obviously not a big deal to them because they didn't do it.
But what I mean is it's like you gift at you know, you gift at family weddings, and the reason why you gift generously is because it also comes back for your weddings like their moments, where it would be a way bigger deal than saying, like, you know, like my wedding, for example, I didn't care if I didn't get a card or I didn't.
Get a gift.
But I do think that there are people that this would be so much more of an insult than what we're realizing it to be.
Yeah, I have a follow up question.
If you didn't get a card or a gift or money in a card, would you send a thank you?
Yes, I'd still thank them for coming. For sure. It's such an effort to go to a wedding, like especially if you've traveling anywhere, not even like destination, but Australia is so big, a lot of people travel around Australia to get.
To a wedding.
You're getting outfits, you're turning up, you're giving your time, You'll love your celebration. I think it's still worthy of a thank you.
When I was younger, I think I was a jerk and didn't realize like the importance of like a gift in a card in terms of like not for local weddings. But I remember I went to a friend's wedding in the Philippines, and I didn't I gave her like a little bracelet or something that she wore on her wedding.
That I found.
No, it was something that was sentimental, but I didn't get her a card. I look back on it, and I'm like, I should have really done more. I really put minimal effort in.
I've had similar feelings about because I have mc quite a few of my friend's weddings. Because I always lived away, I had to travel for their hens and for the wedding, and so I kind of just I don't know, I can't remember if I actually said it to them or if I you know, if I ever had the conversation. But I think I justified it to myself that I was like, no, I'm seeing your whole wedding, like that's my gift to you, and I'm also paying for multiple sets.
Of flights and stuff.
But I feel a bit guilty about the fact I never actually said like, hey, you know, is this okay if that's my gift to you, and I never I still could have given them a card. Yeah.
I think it's the assumption sometimes when you're like, oh, but I'm doing this thing for you, so therefore like like that's enough, and a card.
Goes a really long way.
And it also is just like that nice keepsake memento that makes you think, Okay, they put that little bit of effort into But I'm pretty bad with cards and the best I am too.
But I want to flip that assumption. I think the assumption needs to stop being like, oh, I assume I don't need to get them anything because of this, I think the assumption needs to be put onto like in a wedding sense, the bride and groom. I don't think we should be assuming that people buyas gifts anymore. Like I personally feel like those days are done.
That comment that's on everyone's like, oh, you know, your presence is our gift, but it's true present.
Everyone knows you're I think I'm calling bullshit. Well I am genuinely from the bottom of my heart, there could there would not be one gift that I want for my wedding. Gifts come from when people used to get married when they didn't live together. You're setting up your new house.
That ben don't live together.
Yeah, fuck it, get me here, good call Qisha, I've got to write a registry.
No, it's it's not just that though, like it is also gifts come from like for people who don't necessarily have as much money to set up a new home together and stuff.
Like.
There's different levels of it and there's different reasons why it's important to people.
I think that we need to acknowledge that.
Because like for some people, being able to break even a little bit more on the wedding is way more important than what it is to other people who financially can afford the wedding. Do you know.
I mean there is different levels of what gifting and how important it is.
Yes, But I think that if you can't afford your wedding, if you can only afford your wedding because you're hoping that the guests pay for it, then I don't think you should be having that kind of a wedding. And I don't want people to take that the wrong way, but your love shouldn't be worth putting yourself into debt for and it shouldn't be worth other people having to pay for it. Like I think you just need to scale back your wedding. I don't think you should because I have seen a lot of people saying, like, people are charging people for their wedding so that they can cover cost. But if you can't cover your cost, don't do it. And when I say put the assumption on the bride and groom, that's not to say don't get people presents. But I think we need to stop expecting that every single person is to avoid that disappointment. We live in a different time now. Cost of living is through the roof. And if you can be more hyper aware that some people are going to be in a very privileged position to travel to your wedding, to give you gifts, to give you cash, that's amazing. But you need to be aware that some people can't do that and a card is sufficient, and then you can't judge them for oh my god, can you believe they gave me twenty bucks? When this person gave me this, Like, we need to be I think we just need to be a little bit more open about the time that we live in now.
Yeah, I agree, but I definitely think that everyone who's going to a wedding can afford to get a card.
Oh not a card, for sure, I'm taking presents.
I think a card.
A lack of card just shows a lack of effort. And if your card, yeah, lack of effort, lack of organization. I think if you're going to rock up to a wedding, you're going to enjoy the hospitality, You're going to enjoy the beer of the wine, eat a nice meal, and then have a great dance and a great time.
Get a card, like, it's just rude not to Can I question because I hate writing cards. I always bring cards for weddings and stuff. But can I if I'm sending thank yous out for my wedding, can I just be digital now? Like you have to physically write and send cards, can you see digital thank yous?
For sure?
I want to FaceTime to be fair.
I think I sent texts. I wrote texts as I was opening up the cards. So if you gave me a card, you got a text. But if you didn't give me a card, you didn't get fuck off.
This is my question. If you don't get a card, do you. Thank you cash? Did you yeah?
Did you get that I gave you like twenty five thosand dollars.
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