This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land. Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut.

This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land. Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut.

I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is.

I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is.

Us gun cut, where we will answered you're dark and you're burning questions. However, there is something that I think will live rent free in my head for the rest of my life, like my Roman Empire. I cannot and will not stop thinking about the video of Timothy challow May and Kylie Jenner at the Indian Wells Open or whatever it's called, the tennis match. If you haven't seen it, we are putting it on our social media right now. In fact, to be up there, I have never seen something more uncomfortable in my life. So okay, if you haven't seen this already, it's making the rounds online. But Kylie Jenner, who great love love their relationship, think they're adorable. She leans over to kiss him, and she's trying to kiss him. I think it's for a camera. I think someone's taking a video because there's a camera in the corner.

Us gun cut, where we will answered you're dark and you're burning questions. However, there is something that I think will live rent free in my head for the rest of my life, like my Roman Empire. I cannot and will not stop thinking about the video of Timothy challow May and Kylie Jenner at the Indian Wells Open or whatever it's called, the tennis match. If you haven't seen it, we are putting it on our social media right now. In fact, to be up there, I have never seen something more uncomfortable in my life. So okay, if you haven't seen this already, it's making the rounds online. But Kylie Jenner, who great love love their relationship, think they're adorable. She leans over to kiss him, and she's trying to kiss him. I think it's for a camera. I think someone's taking a video because there's a camera in the corner.

They also they know that they're constantly on camera wherever they go. Every time they're in public, they are constantly being watched, especially at a big tennis tour.

They also they know that they're constantly on camera wherever they go. Every time they're in public, they are constantly being watched, especially at a big tennis tour.

Is why Timothy Shalla Maye needs to control his face.

Is why Timothy Shalla Maye needs to control his face.

He can't control his face. He looks he looks so disinterested. But it's just there's so many different mixed body language things that are going on, and I just can't I don't know what's happening.

He can't control his face. He looks he looks so disinterested. But it's just there's so many different mixed body language things that are going on, and I just can't I don't know what's happening.

I have some thoughts. Basically, if you haven't seen it, Kylie's trying to kiss Timothy in the middle of this huge match with Holgaroon and Ugo Unbird or whatever.

I have some thoughts. Basically, if you haven't seen it, Kylie's trying to kiss Timothy in the middle of this huge match with Holgaroon and Ugo Unbird or whatever.

His name is, so at lafeon cut podcast because we'll be on our Instagram.

His name is, so at lafeon cut podcast because we'll be on our Instagram.

And he Timothy doesn't look like he wants to kiss her in that moment. It's very awkward. But what I will say is I understand both sides. She's trying to kiss him and put on this united front because there's very obviously a paparazzi or a cameraman that's right in front of them that is filming them. She's seen that and she probably knows, hey, let's just put on like this united front because if they just sit there looking so, there'll be a story about them having a fight and hating each other. So she's tried to kiss him, but it's in the middle of a point, you can hear that the game is still going, it's not between sets. And there's a forensic lip reader that has come out and said they know I was really invested. They know exactly what they were saying to each other. So what they were saying is and Timothy, apparently I love that.

And he Timothy doesn't look like he wants to kiss her in that moment. It's very awkward. But what I will say is I understand both sides. She's trying to kiss him and put on this united front because there's very obviously a paparazzi or a cameraman that's right in front of them that is filming them. She's seen that and she probably knows, hey, let's just put on like this united front because if they just sit there looking so, there'll be a story about them having a fight and hating each other. So she's tried to kiss him, but it's in the middle of a point, you can hear that the game is still going, it's not between sets. And there's a forensic lip reader that has come out and said they know I was really invested. They know exactly what they were saying to each other. So what they were saying is and Timothy, apparently I love that.

I thought it liver and free in my head, but clearly in yours more, I love that. A forensic lip reader is a job. How do you become forensic?

I thought it liver and free in my head, but clearly in yours more, I love that. A forensic lip reader is a job. How do you become forensic?

It's really common now. Every single time there is a red carpet for anything in the world, there are forensic lipreaders that are employed to see what they're saying on the carpet.

It's really common now. Every single time there is a red carpet for anything in the world, there are forensic lipreaders that are employed to see what they're saying on the carpet.

What distinguishes the difference between a lip reader and a forensic lip reader, I.

What distinguishes the difference between a lip reader and a forensic lip reader, I.

Can't be sure.

Can't be sure.

Rhyme.

Rhyme.

Usually they lend themselves to important things, like, you know, fighting crime, but in this case, no, so things we care about.

Usually they lend themselves to important things, like, you know, fighting crime, but in this case, no, so things we care about.

Okay.

Okay.

So first of all, Timothy says, wait a minute, love. That's what he says to her. He says, wait a minute, love. And because you can tell he's kissing right with his lips, but his eyes are on the court, like he's not giving her any attention. He says, wait a minute, love, and then she says eye contact. This is allegedly sorry eye contact. Then he responded, go on, yum.

So first of all, Timothy says, wait a minute, love. That's what he says to her. He says, wait a minute, love. And because you can tell he's kissing right with his lips, but his eyes are on the court, like he's not giving her any attention. He says, wait a minute, love, and then she says eye contact. This is allegedly sorry eye contact. Then he responded, go on, yum.

Yep, that's not what he said.

Yep, that's not what he said.

Then then when he sits back and she starts to rub his tummy, he says ol and she says are you okay? And he says, no problem, I'm good, don't worry about it. Then he says to her watch the point. Watch the point. So he's literally just trying to say, babe, like I fucking love you, let's do this after the tennis. I'm so invested in the tennis, so it's really awkward to watch and I hate watching it. I have to turn it off. But I understand both sides.

Then then when he sits back and she starts to rub his tummy, he says ol and she says are you okay? And he says, no problem, I'm good, don't worry about it. Then he says to her watch the point. Watch the point. So he's literally just trying to say, babe, like I fucking love you, let's do this after the tennis. I'm so invested in the tennis, so it's really awkward to watch and I hate watching it. I have to turn it off. But I understand both sides.

At first, because like he's super locked in right, and at first I was like, oh, he could have just turned and gave her a quick kiss and back to tennis. But then what I don't understand is when she didn't get that, why did she start rubbing his tummy.

At first, because like he's super locked in right, and at first I was like, oh, he could have just turned and gave her a quick kiss and back to tennis. But then what I don't understand is when she didn't get that, why did she start rubbing his tummy.

It's such a weird thing for someone to.

It's such a weird thing for someone to.

Be sitting next to you and start rubbing their barely. I cannot have one time that I've rubbed someone's belly, especially in public, especially after they've just rejected my advance for like a kiss, because they're doing something that is clearly important.

Be sitting next to you and start rubbing their barely. I cannot have one time that I've rubbed someone's belly, especially in public, especially after they've just rejected my advance for like a kiss, because they're doing something that is clearly important.

Also, I do like that she seems completely oblivious to it. She's just smiling and happily, like waltzing through the whole thing. I wonder how she must feel today we've all been rejected.

Also, I do like that she seems completely oblivious to it. She's just smiling and happily, like waltzing through the whole thing. I wonder how she must feel today we've all been rejected.

I think she couldn't kive a fuck today. She's a billionaire who's living her best life. I don't think she cares.

I think she couldn't kive a fuck today. She's a billionaire who's living her best life. I don't think she cares.

I wonder how Timmy's tummy's going. It's good luck.

I wonder how Timmy's tummy's going. It's good luck.

No, the tummy thing doesn't bother me. I think she's just a physical affection person. I would probably do the same to Ben. I don't think she's rubbing his tummy like get better. She's just putting her hand and being affectionate. I don't care about that part. I care about the part where he's trying not to kiss her and she's like forcing his face back to her, and he's pulling away and she's pushing it back.

No, the tummy thing doesn't bother me. I think she's just a physical affection person. I would probably do the same to Ben. I don't think she's rubbing his tummy like get better. She's just putting her hand and being affectionate. I don't care about that part. I care about the part where he's trying not to kiss her and she's like forcing his face back to her, and he's pulling away and she's pushing it back.

It's very hard to watch, but well, I hope that we all enjoyed it as much as I did, because, like I said, I'll be thinking about it for a very long time before we get into your question.

It's very hard to watch, but well, I hope that we all enjoyed it as much as I did, because, like I said, I'll be thinking about it for a very long time before we get into your question.

So let's do our vibes and unsubscribes of the week.

So let's do our vibes and unsubscribes of the week.

My vibe this week is a new Netflix series. It's called Running Point. I don't know if you've seen it. I absolutely loved it. So it's Kate Hudson. I don't know if you've seen it advertised. It's basically about a basketball team in America. It's did you guys ever watch ted Lasso? You remember years ago I recommended ted Lasso, which is this really feel good series, comedy series about football. This is the same kind of a thing, but about basketball, and long story short, Kate Hudson has taken over this basketball team. It's purely like a male dominated industry. It's a man's world and it's about the family dynamics between them, but also running of this team. I saw it advertised and I thought it was going to be really cringey. It's so good. It is so funny, it is so feel good. It's filmed really well. I feel like a lot of shows that these streamers churn out lately seem to be done really quickly with low budgets, But this felt like I was watching a movie at the cinemas, Like it's really high quality. If you ever watched New Girl, which I loved was a series of very long running series in America. One of the main actors from that is in it too, and I haven't seen him in a while. But it's just brilliant. I loved it. Kate Hudson was brilliant. Her comedic timing is amazing.

My vibe this week is a new Netflix series. It's called Running Point. I don't know if you've seen it. I absolutely loved it. So it's Kate Hudson. I don't know if you've seen it advertised. It's basically about a basketball team in America. It's did you guys ever watch ted Lasso? You remember years ago I recommended ted Lasso, which is this really feel good series, comedy series about football. This is the same kind of a thing, but about basketball, and long story short, Kate Hudson has taken over this basketball team. It's purely like a male dominated industry. It's a man's world and it's about the family dynamics between them, but also running of this team. I saw it advertised and I thought it was going to be really cringey. It's so good. It is so funny, it is so feel good. It's filmed really well. I feel like a lot of shows that these streamers churn out lately seem to be done really quickly with low budgets, But this felt like I was watching a movie at the cinemas, Like it's really high quality. If you ever watched New Girl, which I loved was a series of very long running series in America. One of the main actors from that is in it too, and I haven't seen him in a while. But it's just brilliant. I loved it. Kate Hudson was brilliant. Her comedic timing is amazing.

I'm interested to hear this because I saw some chatter about this online and it was getting really bad commentary.

I'm interested to hear this because I saw some chatter about this online and it was getting really bad commentary.

Like, I loved it.

Like, I loved it.

Interesting because Mindy Kayling was one of the creators.

Interesting because Mindy Kayling was one of the creators.

She is the creator and producer.

She is the creator and producer.

Yeah, which I thought was interesting with the timing of the whole Meghan show, you know, like get Mindy on Megan show, because she's also got this other Netflix you know, everyone's in the Netflix family.

Yeah, which I thought was interesting with the timing of the whole Meghan show, you know, like get Mindy on Megan show, because she's also got this other Netflix you know, everyone's in the Netflix family.

And well, Mindy even came out and said, like anything that she does that involves Megan, obviously and understandably absolutely blows up. So she's like, if she wants to do cross promotion, it makes sense.

And well, Mindy even came out and said, like anything that she does that involves Megan, obviously and understandably absolutely blows up. So she's like, if she wants to do cross promotion, it makes sense.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, I loved it. I loved it. So it's called Running Point. It's just a very easy watch. You're not going to learn anything, but like it's not a docu series. It's just a lot of fun, right, up my alley my vibe this week.

Yeah, I loved it. I loved it. So it's called Running Point. It's just a very easy watch. You're not going to learn anything, but like it's not a docu series. It's just a lot of fun, right, up my alley my vibe this week.

Did you guys ever get on the match A train?

Did you guys ever get on the match A train?

Yes? Did you?

Yes? Did you?

Yeah?

Yeah?

And then I got off it real quick, Okay, because I've never been able to get into it.

And then I got off it real quick, Okay, because I've never been able to get into it.

I'm told it's got all these health benefits and it's all good for you because it's all like green tea extract, But for me, it's just always tasted too much like lawn mower clippings.

I'm told it's got all these health benefits and it's all good for you because it's all like green tea extract, But for me, it's just always tasted too much like lawn mower clippings.

Oh it's not for me either, Kisha.

Oh it's not for me either, Kisha.

You ordered it on the weekend when we went to lunch, Yeah, no, but I didn't.

You ordered it on the weekend when we went to lunch, Yeah, no, but I didn't.

Like that one.

Like that one.

And this is actually quite interesting that you say that, because I've been trying to get myself into it and I found this product from Tea too. It is salted much a milkshake powder, So basically it's a much a powder. I guess that they have added a bit of this salted caramel toffee flavoring too.

And this is actually quite interesting that you say that, because I've been trying to get myself into it and I found this product from Tea too. It is salted much a milkshake powder, So basically it's a much a powder. I guess that they have added a bit of this salted caramel toffee flavoring too.

It's not Matcha, well, it is much, but it's got kind of like a.

It's not Matcha, well, it is much, but it's got kind of like a.

Little addition to it that takes away a little bit of that bitterness, and it doesn't make it sweet, Like the overall flavor is definitely not sweet, but for me, it makes it palatable instead of it being really really grassy, because we went to lunch last week and I was like, oh, I'm new on this march a train, but why do you.

Little addition to it that takes away a little bit of that bitterness, and it doesn't make it sweet, Like the overall flavor is definitely not sweet, but for me, it makes it palatable instead of it being really really grassy, because we went to lunch last week and I was like, oh, I'm new on this march a train, but why do you.

Keep trying to drink something that you don't actually like because it's got good stuff in it for you? It's like totally yeah.

Keep trying to drink something that you don't actually like because it's got good stuff in it for you? It's like totally yeah.

But you could also just get like a green soup powder that you can put in anything it tastes delicious. You don't have to force yourself to have the mucho if you don't want a giche, like if you don't like it, you don't have to add salted caramel to it too. Well.

But you could also just get like a green soup powder that you can put in anything it tastes delicious. You don't have to force yourself to have the mucho if you don't want a giche, like if you don't like it, you don't have to add salted caramel to it too. Well.

I like this one.

I like this one.

So I have actually been having this for the past two weeks every morning, and it's palatable to me.

So I have actually been having this for the past two weeks every morning, and it's palatable to me.

So it's not palatable. It's not even good, it's just palatable.

So it's not palatable. It's not even good, it's just palatable.

You can force yourself to drink healthy things you don't want as well if you.

You can force yourself to drink healthy things you don't want as well if you.

Want to just get it down.

Want to just get it down.

People who are drinking that, what is it? It's like a sea something like a sea kelp thing in the morning.

People who are drinking that, what is it? It's like a sea something like a sea kelp thing in the morning.

I don't know.

I don't know.

I've been watching.

I've been watching.

There's like a few influencers who like drink their sea kelp and they literally look like they're about to gag and vomit every time they do it, and I'm like, it's okay, it's okay to not drink every health thing out there.

There's like a few influencers who like drink their sea kelp and they literally look like they're about to gag and vomit every time they do it, and I'm like, it's okay, it's okay to not drink every health thing out there.

If it tastes awful, you don't have to do it on the weekend.

If it tastes awful, you don't have to do it on the weekend.

They're just doing cocaine and putting all these other stuff into their body.

They're just doing cocaine and putting all these other stuff into their body.

But you have to have my seaweed. Yeah, that's a take them a plants. Same help anyway.

But you have to have my seaweed. Yeah, that's a take them a plants. Same help anyway.

Well, anyway, if you want to try and get yourself on the march to train, but like me, you haven't quite been able to make the jump because it's too grassy, I recommend this one. It is from Tea two. It's not the cheapest. The smallest tin is thirty eight dollars, so like, it's not a massive outlay, but yeah, salted much of milkshake flavored green tea powder.

Well, anyway, if you want to try and get yourself on the march to train, but like me, you haven't quite been able to make the jump because it's too grassy, I recommend this one. It is from Tea two. It's not the cheapest. The smallest tin is thirty eight dollars, so like, it's not a massive outlay, but yeah, salted much of milkshake flavored green tea powder.

I'm currently enjoying it.

I'm currently enjoying it.

And I'm currently sort of enjoying it that Keisha is fighting palatable. I have a recommendation for anyone who owns their own business and is looking to scale their business or is like actually very much working on the trajectory of getting more people onto their websites, growing their organic growth and also growing their paid growth. So we use a website. And I was thinking about this last night because we use it all the time, and I was like, oh, this is actually a great vibe for anyone who is either a small business or an established business. So it's called similar Web. Now anyone can go on and use similar Web. You could just use it because you're curious, but it's particularly great if you're trying to do market research based on other brands or brands to the brand that you have. And basically what you do is you go on them you type in. So for example, I can type in Tony May, and then I can type in by Charlotte, I can type in Temple of the Sun, I can type in Francesca, and I can compare traffic flow to my website based on all the traffic flow to all my competitive websites. I know how long people are spending on their pages, how many pages they've seen, how many hundreds of thousands of people have been to the website in a month's time.

And I'm currently sort of enjoying it that Keisha is fighting palatable. I have a recommendation for anyone who owns their own business and is looking to scale their business or is like actually very much working on the trajectory of getting more people onto their websites, growing their organic growth and also growing their paid growth. So we use a website. And I was thinking about this last night because we use it all the time, and I was like, oh, this is actually a great vibe for anyone who is either a small business or an established business. So it's called similar Web. Now anyone can go on and use similar Web. You could just use it because you're curious, but it's particularly great if you're trying to do market research based on other brands or brands to the brand that you have. And basically what you do is you go on them you type in. So for example, I can type in Tony May, and then I can type in by Charlotte, I can type in Temple of the Sun, I can type in Francesca, and I can compare traffic flow to my website based on all the traffic flow to all my competitive websites. I know how long people are spending on their pages, how many pages they've seen, how many hundreds of thousands of people have been to the website in a month's time.

So you can tell how many people are going to your website versus like a competitive website.

So you can tell how many people are going to your website versus like a competitive website.

Absolutely so, because basically anytime you visit a website, your IP address is tracked, and that's how all that information is public information, so it's really great if you want to look at, for example, you might have really high clickthrough and really high product engagement, but you might not have very good organic growth for example, so you can compare where you sit to other brands. So it gives you a really clear understanding of the pillars that you need to work on in order to better improve your traffic flow to your website. It also gives you a really good understanding of where you sit in the market against your competitors, because you might think, oh, they're doing so much better than me, and look online and they have fifty thousand less people to their website per month than what you have. So it really is such a great gauge for figuring out where you sit in the market and the areas that you need to put some focus into and work better on. In terms of subscriptions and stuff for it, so like you can pay but it's quite expensive, whereas they have a free user, so I don't pay for it at all, and that still that gives you loads of accessibilities. So even if you don't pay for it, it's very very very worthwhile tool.

Absolutely so, because basically anytime you visit a website, your IP address is tracked, and that's how all that information is public information, so it's really great if you want to look at, for example, you might have really high clickthrough and really high product engagement, but you might not have very good organic growth for example, so you can compare where you sit to other brands. So it gives you a really clear understanding of the pillars that you need to work on in order to better improve your traffic flow to your website. It also gives you a really good understanding of where you sit in the market against your competitors, because you might think, oh, they're doing so much better than me, and look online and they have fifty thousand less people to their website per month than what you have. So it really is such a great gauge for figuring out where you sit in the market and the areas that you need to put some focus into and work better on. In terms of subscriptions and stuff for it, so like you can pay but it's quite expensive, whereas they have a free user, so I don't pay for it at all, and that still that gives you loads of accessibilities. So even if you don't pay for it, it's very very very worthwhile tool.

For sure, sounds great.

For sure, sounds great.

Let's get into the questions.

Let's get into the questions.

Question number one, I want to do a nudy swim, but my boyfriend's against it. Hear me out. I live in Hobart and every year there is a really big nud to swim to celebrate the winter solstice. You have to register, there's no photography allowed. You all wear robes and swim caps, drop them then running into the water really quickly. Of course there's a lot of nudity, that's the whole point, but it's absolutely freezing, so it's not like everyone's hanging around stark naked looking at each other. I told my partner that I want to participate in the swim this year, and it did not go down well. He believes that it's a perverse event, just full of perverts. He doesn't really understand why it has to be nude, Like why can't you just go and do a swim to celebrate, which I sort of also get, like you could just go and do a normal swim. He doesn't understand why I would quote put myself in a situation with purves and to parade myself like meet in front of lions.

Question number one, I want to do a nudy swim, but my boyfriend's against it. Hear me out. I live in Hobart and every year there is a really big nud to swim to celebrate the winter solstice. You have to register, there's no photography allowed. You all wear robes and swim caps, drop them then running into the water really quickly. Of course there's a lot of nudity, that's the whole point, but it's absolutely freezing, so it's not like everyone's hanging around stark naked looking at each other. I told my partner that I want to participate in the swim this year, and it did not go down well. He believes that it's a perverse event, just full of perverts. He doesn't really understand why it has to be nude, Like why can't you just go and do a swim to celebrate, which I sort of also get, like you could just go and do a normal swim. He doesn't understand why I would quote put myself in a situation with purves and to parade myself like meet in front of lions.

That was just wow, it's bittraumatic.

That was just wow, it's bittraumatic.

I find this language incredibly shaming. I'm sorry, I'm only laughing because the quote, Like, I just can't imagine a man saying that, Like why would you put yourself as meet in front of lions, Like it's just a swim. I find it incredibly shaming. It furthers the sexualization of female's bodies in a negative way. Am I the asshole for going ahead and doing it regardless of his feelings and his attitude?

I find this language incredibly shaming. I'm sorry, I'm only laughing because the quote, Like, I just can't imagine a man saying that, Like why would you put yourself as meet in front of lions, Like it's just a swim. I find it incredibly shaming. It furthers the sexualization of female's bodies in a negative way. Am I the asshole for going ahead and doing it regardless of his feelings and his attitude?

Nah, you're not Nashole.

Nah, you're not Nashole.

Like I mean, if you want to go for a Nudi swim because you think it's liberating, you don't have to ask for your partner's permission. You're not doing anything wrong in that case, like by any means, I mean.

Like I mean, if you want to go for a Nudi swim because you think it's liberating, you don't have to ask for your partner's permission. You're not doing anything wrong in that case, like by any means, I mean.

It will depends on the circumstance.

It will depends on the circumstance.

You will have to like deal, Yeah, I mean, if you're going for a Nudi swim with some random DUDEIA met at a nightclubbe mean at midnight, sure, But if it's like an organized event, there's like seventy year old women out there doing it, I don't you know. I think he's sexualizing an event that's not a sexual event.

You will have to like deal, Yeah, I mean, if you're going for a Nudi swim with some random DUDEIA met at a nightclubbe mean at midnight, sure, But if it's like an organized event, there's like seventy year old women out there doing it, I don't you know. I think he's sexualizing an event that's not a sexual event.

That's like a hymn problem.

That's like a hymn problem.

But I also think if you can explain to him the reasons why you want to do it. Maybe you think it's liberating, whatever it is, like, it's something that puts outside your comfort zone that you.

But I also think if you can explain to him the reasons why you want to do it. Maybe you think it's liberating, whatever it is, like, it's something that puts outside your comfort zone that you.

Want to be involved in.

Want to be involved in.

But his version of it, like what he has presumed is in his head, seems to be a bit of a twisted kind of reality based on what actually is.

But his version of it, like what he has presumed is in his head, seems to be a bit of a twisted kind of reality based on what actually is.

I mean, two minds about it, because I agree with everything that you just said, Laura, absolutely, but I've always said that it is something where you need to take partner's feelings into consideration. Now that doesn't mean you have to do what they say, but it means you need to have a conversation where you say, hey, I totally understand what you're saying, why it makes you uncomfortable, but this is why it's important to me, or this is why I want to do it, Like I think it's the conversation. I do think it's important. Like if Ben came to me and said he wanted to go and do something nude, I would say, Okay, cool, what is it? Why do you want to do it? And in all honesty, of course, this isn't a perverted event. It's an event that everyone does every year. Having said that, if I was a pervert. I would be looking up these events, and that's where I'd go. If I wanted to be a PERV, I would go to a NEWD event. That's what I do. So I don't want to say there's not going to be a PERV there. Maybe there is, like it checks out, but obviously that's not what the event is. I don't imagine there's going to be that many people lingering around nude having a cup of tea after. I think it's going to be so quick you'd barely see it. Robes are off, you're freezing, you run into the water, you're underwater, you run out, you put your robe on. I think, go for it, but you do have to take your part in the feelings at least into consideration a little bit.

I mean, two minds about it, because I agree with everything that you just said, Laura, absolutely, but I've always said that it is something where you need to take partner's feelings into consideration. Now that doesn't mean you have to do what they say, but it means you need to have a conversation where you say, hey, I totally understand what you're saying, why it makes you uncomfortable, but this is why it's important to me, or this is why I want to do it, Like I think it's the conversation. I do think it's important. Like if Ben came to me and said he wanted to go and do something nude, I would say, Okay, cool, what is it? Why do you want to do it? And in all honesty, of course, this isn't a perverted event. It's an event that everyone does every year. Having said that, if I was a pervert. I would be looking up these events, and that's where I'd go. If I wanted to be a PERV, I would go to a NEWD event. That's what I do. So I don't want to say there's not going to be a PERV there. Maybe there is, like it checks out, but obviously that's not what the event is. I don't imagine there's going to be that many people lingering around nude having a cup of tea after. I think it's going to be so quick you'd barely see it. Robes are off, you're freezing, you run into the water, you're underwater, you run out, you put your robe on. I think, go for it, but you do have to take your part in the feelings at least into consideration a little bit.

I don't know.

I don't know.

I mean, I question. I think the PERF to normal people ratio is going to be pretty slim.

I mean, I question. I think the PERF to normal people ratio is going to be pretty slim.

It is, the ratio is going to be. There's more pervs just out of the beach anyway.

It is, the ratio is going to be. There's more pervs just out of the beach anyway.

But if you're a PERV, laws you're going to go to the new events, right, You're going to look up new events. Everyone in the room knows that's true.

But if you're a PERV, laws you're going to go to the new events, right, You're going to look up new events. Everyone in the room knows that's true.

Look, I mean, I don't I think maybe because I don't think it's a big deal, and I think it's weird to have such adverse reactions around it. Like to me, there's like this kind of like sense of ownership and insecurity, and I think that that's kind of what you're getting to when you say that it further sexualizes female bodies in a negative way.

Look, I mean, I don't I think maybe because I don't think it's a big deal, and I think it's weird to have such adverse reactions around it. Like to me, there's like this kind of like sense of ownership and insecurity, and I think that that's kind of what you're getting to when you say that it further sexualizes female bodies in a negative way.

Am I the aursehole for going aheab?

Am I the aursehole for going aheab?

You don't need permission to do things that you want to do that have you know, an r about your body. If it's going to upset him, you can have a conversation with him, and then if you're willing to and you want to, you.

You don't need permission to do things that you want to do that have you know, an r about your body. If it's going to upset him, you can have a conversation with him, and then if you're willing to and you want to, you.

Have to deal with that upset ask for forgiveness.

Have to deal with that upset ask for forgiveness.

You don't have to ask for permission, you know, Like not everyone approaches their relationship that way, But I don't know if that's.

You don't have to ask for permission, you know, Like not everyone approaches their relationship that way, But I don't know if that's.

The best way to approach relationship.

The best way to approach relationship.

But sometimes sometimes I guess what I'm saying is like, obviously, don't do it with things that like deeply imp at your relationship. But when it's things like this, I think that he's being a little bit controlling to say that, and his reaction to this, the way he's using words like put yourself in a situation with pervs and parade yourself like meet in front of lions. He is creating something that this isn't Like the shame comes in him saying, it's.

But sometimes sometimes I guess what I'm saying is like, obviously, don't do it with things that like deeply imp at your relationship. But when it's things like this, I think that he's being a little bit controlling to say that, and his reaction to this, the way he's using words like put yourself in a situation with pervs and parade yourself like meet in front of lions. He is creating something that this isn't Like the shame comes in him saying, it's.

You parading yourself.

You parading yourself.

You're behaving in a way that's like not conducive to being faithful within the relationship. Like there's a lot of accusatory tone in that without him even realizing that he's being accusatory. And that's because his perception of this is not the reality. So I just think it's a lot of conversations around it. But also ultimately, if you want to go and do it and it's something that you think is fun and wild and whatever, like, go and do it, Go and do it, and then deal with the consequences of his weird ass reactions afterwards.

You're behaving in a way that's like not conducive to being faithful within the relationship. Like there's a lot of accusatory tone in that without him even realizing that he's being accusatory. And that's because his perception of this is not the reality. So I just think it's a lot of conversations around it. But also ultimately, if you want to go and do it and it's something that you think is fun and wild and whatever, like, go and do it, Go and do it, and then deal with the consequences of his weird ass reactions afterwards.

I don't agree. I don't think go and do it and deal with it later. I still think you need to have the conversation, and I give him the benefit of the doubt. I don't think he realizes come watch.

I don't agree. I don't think go and do it and deal with it later. I still think you need to have the conversation, and I give him the benefit of the doubt. I don't think he realizes come watch.

You can be the perv.

You can be the perv.

Come with me, yeah, fully clothed, and.

Come with me, yeah, fully clothed, and.

Watch me run down and jump in a creek and get out like eyes.

Watch me run down and jump in a creek and get out like eyes.

I think when it comes to normally, I completely agree, But I think when it comes to full nudity in a situation, I don't want to say that that's not a conversation to have with your partner, because I absolutely do think it is. People get funny about their partners be nude in front of other people, Like I think it'd be remiss of us to say it's normal, go and do it. It's absolutely not. And if I went and did a nude swim completely Starkers in broad daylight with people that could look at me take photos and I hadn't told Ben, Ben would also be like, wow, was that not something like you should have told me you were doing? Not a control thing. But I think when we're talking about being completely naked, it is something that you need to talk to your partner and be like, hey, I really want to do this. This is why I don't think the right thing is to say sucked in. I did it, and I asked for forgiveness later. I don't know.

I think when it comes to normally, I completely agree, But I think when it comes to full nudity in a situation, I don't want to say that that's not a conversation to have with your partner, because I absolutely do think it is. People get funny about their partners be nude in front of other people, Like I think it'd be remiss of us to say it's normal, go and do it. It's absolutely not. And if I went and did a nude swim completely Starkers in broad daylight with people that could look at me take photos and I hadn't told Ben, Ben would also be like, wow, was that not something like you should have told me you were doing? Not a control thing. But I think when we're talking about being completely naked, it is something that you need to talk to your partner and be like, hey, I really want to do this. This is why I don't think the right thing is to say sucked in. I did it, and I asked for forgiveness later. I don't know.

I have a question for you. Do you think you need to ask a permission to someun back topless at the beach?

I have a question for you. Do you think you need to ask a permission to someun back topless at the beach?

No, but this isn't about permission. I don't think she needs to ask permission. I just think it's the conversation that you have first, not asking for fear life.

No, but this isn't about permission. I don't think she needs to ask permission. I just think it's the conversation that you have first, not asking for fear life.

I know, but she's already asked him.

I know, but she's already asked him.

She's already told him that she wants to do it, and he's made it very clear.

She's already told him that she wants to do it, and he's made it very clear.

Yeah, but you don't.

Yeah, but you don't.

So it is essentially asking for permission now. She's at a point now where she needs him to say it's okay. So it's like, Okay, if you went to the beach and you some baked topless, and your boyfriend turned around and said, why would you put yourself in a situation where you're flaunting yourself in front of pervs, parading yourself around? Like I would have a real issue with that language. I'd be like, I'm not laying at the beach. Oh, also I don't sunbake, So like that's not what I'm saying, But like I would be angry at them for trying to imply a sexualization of it or that I was doing it to be and to do something that's like untrustworthy.

So it is essentially asking for permission now. She's at a point now where she needs him to say it's okay. So it's like, Okay, if you went to the beach and you some baked topless, and your boyfriend turned around and said, why would you put yourself in a situation where you're flaunting yourself in front of pervs, parading yourself around? Like I would have a real issue with that language. I'd be like, I'm not laying at the beach. Oh, also I don't sunbake, So like that's not what I'm saying, But like I would be angry at them for trying to imply a sexualization of it or that I was doing it to be and to do something that's like untrustworthy.

Yeah, so I agree with that.

Yeah, so I agree with that.

Yeah, I don't think she needs to ask for permission, That's not what I'm saying. I do not believe it is and ask for forgiveness later. Thing I think out of respect for your partner, you need to make him understand the language that he used and why it's not right, and make him understand why you want to do it, because it is okay for a partner to have insecurities about their partner being naked with other people in Like, I don't want to take that away and say that that's normal. It's also not normal, but it's okay as long as the communications there. That's what That's what I'm trying to get at.

Yeah, I don't think she needs to ask for permission, That's not what I'm saying. I do not believe it is and ask for forgiveness later. Thing I think out of respect for your partner, you need to make him understand the language that he used and why it's not right, and make him understand why you want to do it, because it is okay for a partner to have insecurities about their partner being naked with other people in Like, I don't want to take that away and say that that's normal. It's also not normal, but it's okay as long as the communications there. That's what That's what I'm trying to get at.

I think what you're getting at is that there is a difference in the intention of whether he's been controlling about your body and the sexualization of your body, or whether he's trying to be protective of you.

I think what you're getting at is that there is a difference in the intention of whether he's been controlling about your body and the sexualization of your body, or whether he's trying to be protective of you.

Yeah, do you know what I mean?

Yeah, do you know what I mean?

Like? Yeah, I think the intention behind why he has a problem with it is important in this case, but I don't know what the intention is because of some of.

Like? Yeah, I think the intention behind why he has a problem with it is important in this case, but I don't know what the intention is because of some of.

The words that he's used. That's what I mean. It's a little bit controlling.

The words that he's used. That's what I mean. It's a little bit controlling.

I agree with what you're saying, Okasha, and I know that that's what we're landing on. But the use of why would you want to parade yourself around implies that she's doing something that is wrong. And that she's seeking attention. That's what I have issue with. If he was like, Hey, you know, I just am so worried about your safety because there's people out there who are just gross, that's a super different conversation. But he is the one that has m shame into this and that's why she's sitting there go oh way, okay, this is really odd. I would also question, does your partner have super conservative views? Is he a very conservative person, in which case maybe there is things that you're not aligned on in terms of how conservative you are versus him. Does he have like specific ideas around like how a woman should behave in a relationship, Like is that something that has ever come up before? Maybe not, Maybe it's not a big deal. Maybe this is an isolated incidence. But I do think that there's other little bits that you can unpack in this.

I agree with what you're saying, Okasha, and I know that that's what we're landing on. But the use of why would you want to parade yourself around implies that she's doing something that is wrong. And that she's seeking attention. That's what I have issue with. If he was like, Hey, you know, I just am so worried about your safety because there's people out there who are just gross, that's a super different conversation. But he is the one that has m shame into this and that's why she's sitting there go oh way, okay, this is really odd. I would also question, does your partner have super conservative views? Is he a very conservative person, in which case maybe there is things that you're not aligned on in terms of how conservative you are versus him. Does he have like specific ideas around like how a woman should behave in a relationship, Like is that something that has ever come up before? Maybe not, Maybe it's not a big deal. Maybe this is an isolated incidence. But I do think that there's other little bits that you can unpack in this.

And I also think there's just like I really want to break this down a little bit. We're all for the fact that women's bodies shouldn't be sexualized. So when you said it further is the sexualization of female bodies? It absolutely does. But that's because he's a male. He knows how men think. He knows that women's bodies are sexualized. That doesn't mean it's okay, and that doesn't mean it should be. We know it shouldn't be, but we still live in a world where it is. So he's still hyper aware of knowing that if you are naked as a young female in public in daylight, he knows that there'll be people that are going to sexualize you. He knows that they're could be people with cameras. He knows that people will look at you. So I just think these are all things to take into consideration. He hasn't communicated it in the right way, and I think that's the issue. I'm not convinced this is about being controlling. It doesn't sound that way.

And I also think there's just like I really want to break this down a little bit. We're all for the fact that women's bodies shouldn't be sexualized. So when you said it further is the sexualization of female bodies? It absolutely does. But that's because he's a male. He knows how men think. He knows that women's bodies are sexualized. That doesn't mean it's okay, and that doesn't mean it should be. We know it shouldn't be, but we still live in a world where it is. So he's still hyper aware of knowing that if you are naked as a young female in public in daylight, he knows that there'll be people that are going to sexualize you. He knows that they're could be people with cameras. He knows that people will look at you. So I just think these are all things to take into consideration. He hasn't communicated it in the right way, and I think that's the issue. I'm not convinced this is about being controlling. It doesn't sound that way.

I think what you said was interesting was I think it actually does depend on how you've u nudity. Like even between my relationship, I will walk from my bedroom down to the bathroom and there are multiple windows, and I couldn't give a shit if.

I think what you said was interesting was I think it actually does depend on how you've u nudity. Like even between my relationship, I will walk from my bedroom down to the bathroom and there are multiple windows, and I couldn't give a shit if.

Someone seems me naked, like blind as much.

Someone seems me naked, like blind as much.

Ben's always like people would pay for that. It's like, Babe, your neighbors are like literally looking at you right now on the phone to me naked, and I'm like it's cool, Like whatever.

Ben's always like people would pay for that. It's like, Babe, your neighbors are like literally looking at you right now on the phone to me naked, and I'm like it's cool, Like whatever.

You know, if they don't want to see it, they can turn away to an extent. I'm in my own house. So I think some people just view nudity differently.

You know, if they don't want to see it, they can turn away to an extent. I'm in my own house. So I think some people just view nudity differently.

You know.

You know.

Some people are like I could never even imagine ever being comfortable doing that around a big group of people, Like it's just not anything I would ever want to do. And so maybe he falls into that category. And like you said, he is a bit more conservative and didn't grow up in like a naked household.

Some people are like I could never even imagine ever being comfortable doing that around a big group of people, Like it's just not anything I would ever want to do. And so maybe he falls into that category. And like you said, he is a bit more conservative and didn't grow up in like a naked household.

Yeah, I get that.

Yeah, I get that.

I mean I do come back to this idea, and it it reinforces what you just said, Britt, that some men do sexualize women's bodies, and I don't think it's a protection thing. I think he sexualizes women's bodies. That's the problem. I think he is of that mentality.

I mean I do come back to this idea, and it it reinforces what you just said, Britt, that some men do sexualize women's bodies, and I don't think it's a protection thing. I think he sexualizes women's bodies. That's the problem. I think he is of that mentality.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Probably, so his viewpoint of.

Probably, so his viewpoint of.

This is the issue, and that's what I have taken a stance against in terms of, like just do it anyway and ask for forgiveness because his opinion of this is not the correct one.

This is the issue, and that's what I have taken a stance against in terms of, like just do it anyway and ask for forgiveness because his opinion of this is not the correct one.

Oh yeah, I thought I'd be doing it. Go for a swim free, the nip take the dip CLP dip free, the nip free, the clip take the dip too far. No, because there's complete nudy to get a clit out she is, it's nudity, it's out.

Oh yeah, I thought I'd be doing it. Go for a swim free, the nip take the dip CLP dip free, the nip free, the clip take the dip too far. No, because there's complete nudy to get a clit out she is, it's nudity, it's out.

How is her clit out? What she pulling it out? No?

How is her clit out? What she pulling it out? No?

I mean out is in and no unders on. Don't take us so literally. She's not going to run down with a point of vagina apartment.

I mean out is in and no unders on. Don't take us so literally. She's not going to run down with a point of vagina apartment.

Okay, next question.

Okay, next question.

My partner and I have been together for five years, engaged, very much in love and happy in our relationship. We have an open phone policy, meaning having no issues with being on each other's phones or for whatever reason on road trips, which have been frequent lately. My service cuts out regularly and I love a doom scroll through reels and also Instagram just to pass the time. He's happy for me to do this on his phone while mine is out of service. Every single time I open his Instagram, his for you page is just flooded with women who hold only fans accounts posting pics of their enormous, wonderful body. I say good for them in that regard, and I have no shame on women who choose to do this. I have tried to joke slash banter with him about this in the past, and he mentioned that it's simply because his algorithm is based around him being an average thirty year old male. When I look at my for you page, my algorithm is formed by stupid reels, memes, and animals that I engage with daily. My question is, does Instagram form an algorithm based on your age and gender or for what you show interest and consume in most frequently, I have no issue with him watching porn. However, just for some reason, the idea that my partner may be frequently scrolling through or searching for posts related to OnlyFans or women with body types that are poll the opposite to my own leaves this unsettling feeling in my stomach and perhaps shatters my ego slightly.

My partner and I have been together for five years, engaged, very much in love and happy in our relationship. We have an open phone policy, meaning having no issues with being on each other's phones or for whatever reason on road trips, which have been frequent lately. My service cuts out regularly and I love a doom scroll through reels and also Instagram just to pass the time. He's happy for me to do this on his phone while mine is out of service. Every single time I open his Instagram, his for you page is just flooded with women who hold only fans accounts posting pics of their enormous, wonderful body. I say good for them in that regard, and I have no shame on women who choose to do this. I have tried to joke slash banter with him about this in the past, and he mentioned that it's simply because his algorithm is based around him being an average thirty year old male. When I look at my for you page, my algorithm is formed by stupid reels, memes, and animals that I engage with daily. My question is, does Instagram form an algorithm based on your age and gender or for what you show interest and consume in most frequently, I have no issue with him watching porn. However, just for some reason, the idea that my partner may be frequently scrolling through or searching for posts related to OnlyFans or women with body types that are poll the opposite to my own leaves this unsettling feeling in my stomach and perhaps shatters my ego slightly.

I mean, he's full of bullshit, to be honest. The start the Instagram doesn't say, oh, you are a thirty seven year old male, I will feed you OnlyFans models.

I mean, he's full of bullshit, to be honest. The start the Instagram doesn't say, oh, you are a thirty seven year old male, I will feed you OnlyFans models.

That feeds you specifically wonderful, full bodied women who have only fans.

That feeds you specifically wonderful, full bodied women who have only fans.

That is not how it works. Let's open our Instagram quickly, and.

That is not how it works. Let's open our Instagram quickly, and.

I don't know if I want to share a lot of more.

I don't know if I want to share a lot of more.

Mine is okay. I've got multiple weddings, I've got pregnancies. And I've got a hen's party.

Mine is okay. I've got multiple weddings, I've got pregnancies. And I've got a hen's party.

Mine's weird.

Mine's weird.

I have pimple popping, which I don't really watch much of those. I've got a girl with lobsided boobs and she's posting about it's literally says lobsided breasts like and save.

I have pimple popping, which I don't really watch much of those. I've got a girl with lobsided boobs and she's posting about it's literally says lobsided breasts like and save.

I have a snake being caught in a water bottle. And I have.

I have a snake being caught in a water bottle. And I have.

A person picking hair out of silicone. I don't know why I have lots of like human picking things. I mean, I'm not against it, We're just.

A person picking hair out of silicone. I don't know why I have lots of like human picking things. I mean, I'm not against it, We're just.

Proving that these are actually specific.

Proving that these are actually specific.

Mine's all hair stuff because I got my head on last week, so I was searching that last week hair stuff, a bit of fashion and ADHD content.

Mine's all hair stuff because I got my head on last week, so I was searching that last week hair stuff, a bit of fashion and ADHD content.

That's my whole for you page.

That's my whole for you page.

Yeah, mine's literally one on like supplements I use in menstrual follicular ovulation and lutell phases for pregnancies. Mine's very like, I am not being fed typical things. I'm being fed things that are very specific to me now and what I search and probably what I'm talking about a lot because your phone listens.

Yeah, mine's literally one on like supplements I use in menstrual follicular ovulation and lutell phases for pregnancies. Mine's very like, I am not being fed typical things. I'm being fed things that are very specific to me now and what I search and probably what I'm talking about a lot because your phone listens.

I mean, I look at my for you page and I don't look at that and think that that is a perfect representation of the stuff that I Google or where I'm at in life.

I mean, I look at my for you page and I don't look at that and think that that is a perfect representation of the stuff that I Google or where I'm at in life.

Like, sometimes I'm on my for you page that.

Like, sometimes I'm on my for you page that.

Doesn't surprise me.

Doesn't surprise me.

We recommend me.

We recommend me.

How many times have you googled Brittany Hockley Though.

How many times have you googled Brittany Hockley Though.

I don't that's what I'm saying, but it's obviously just thought. Hey, here's someone that's your age that's like putting content out there. It's also on radio. I'm like, that is me, Okay.

I don't that's what I'm saying, but it's obviously just thought. Hey, here's someone that's your age that's like putting content out there. It's also on radio. I'm like, that is me, Okay.

I would say that most people are pretty aware that generally a for you page is catered to the things that you have interest in.

I would say that most people are pretty aware that generally a for you page is catered to the things that you have interest in.

Yeah, obviously it doesn't always get it right.

Yeah, obviously it doesn't always get it right.

There's going to be times when it's fed something because you know, it's picked up on something that you've searched or you've potentially liked or whatever, and you will find yourself in an algorithm that wasn't meant for you.

There's going to be times when it's fed something because you know, it's picked up on something that you've searched or you've potentially liked or whatever, and you will find yourself in an algorithm that wasn't meant for you.

We've all been there.

We've all been there.

It's all happened to us, and you kind of wonder, how the fuck did I end up in this corner of the Internet. However, the consistency of the type of content that he's receiving would indicate that the reason why he's receiving it is because he's engaging with it. But I don't know if that's the question as much as is it a bad thing, Like if he's very honest with his phone, if he has no qualms with you going through his Instagram, and I mean like he's cool with you sitting there scrolling next to him. He sounds like he's incredibly trustworthy with what he's doing on his phone. If he hovers a bit too long on a woman who he finds interesting, is that that triggering? Like is that to you something that you would start to feel insecurities around your own sense of ego like you've said, or sense of that it leaves this unsettling feeling in your stomach. I think that sometimes we worry too much about things that don't necessarily indicate a big problem, and you could create a problem that shouldn't exist.

It's all happened to us, and you kind of wonder, how the fuck did I end up in this corner of the Internet. However, the consistency of the type of content that he's receiving would indicate that the reason why he's receiving it is because he's engaging with it. But I don't know if that's the question as much as is it a bad thing, Like if he's very honest with his phone, if he has no qualms with you going through his Instagram, and I mean like he's cool with you sitting there scrolling next to him. He sounds like he's incredibly trustworthy with what he's doing on his phone. If he hovers a bit too long on a woman who he finds interesting, is that that triggering? Like is that to you something that you would start to feel insecurities around your own sense of ego like you've said, or sense of that it leaves this unsettling feeling in your stomach. I think that sometimes we worry too much about things that don't necessarily indicate a big problem, and you could create a problem that shouldn't exist.

Yeah, the number one thing here for me is like your open phone policy. The guy doesn't have anything to hide, Yeah, and he doesn't think that he's done anything wrong. We also, in terms of what we can control our partner looking at you can't like, you can't tell your partner you can never look at a hot female on Instagram Like that's impossible, And that comes down to being controlling where that boundary is crossed is when someone is engaging in pawn or actually communicating with OnlyFans models like where they've subscribed and totally. But when we're talking about what pops up on your Instagram, it's like, you've just got to accept that they're going to look at things as much as you're going to look at things. And unless they are messaging them and engaging with them, I think you need to sort of I don't want to say you need to be okay with it, but you probably can't be not okay with it. In a way you need to tell yourself, Hey, he loves me, he is with me. Yeah, we are creating a life together. We trust each other because we have this open phone policy. Is it the end of the world if he looks at something online? Like, we're all human beings, We're all gonna look at stuff, even the way we've been joking the past couple of weeks about fake chatting Tatum two point zero. Like we joke about him, we say he's whole, We say whatever are we joking?

Yeah, the number one thing here for me is like your open phone policy. The guy doesn't have anything to hide, Yeah, and he doesn't think that he's done anything wrong. We also, in terms of what we can control our partner looking at you can't like, you can't tell your partner you can never look at a hot female on Instagram Like that's impossible, And that comes down to being controlling where that boundary is crossed is when someone is engaging in pawn or actually communicating with OnlyFans models like where they've subscribed and totally. But when we're talking about what pops up on your Instagram, it's like, you've just got to accept that they're going to look at things as much as you're going to look at things. And unless they are messaging them and engaging with them, I think you need to sort of I don't want to say you need to be okay with it, but you probably can't be not okay with it. In a way you need to tell yourself, Hey, he loves me, he is with me. Yeah, we are creating a life together. We trust each other because we have this open phone policy. Is it the end of the world if he looks at something online? Like, we're all human beings, We're all gonna look at stuff, even the way we've been joking the past couple of weeks about fake chatting Tatum two point zero. Like we joke about him, we say he's whole, We say whatever are we joking?

Sorry?

Sorry?

Totally joking better, But like, but in terms of that's such a normal part of human nature is to look at other people, be interested, be curious be attracted, Like you can't help being attracted to someone you see online. How often we see someone where you're like, Wow, she's beautiful, Wow he's a smoke show.

Totally joking better, But like, but in terms of that's such a normal part of human nature is to look at other people, be interested, be curious be attracted, Like you can't help being attracted to someone you see online. How often we see someone where you're like, Wow, she's beautiful, Wow he's a smoke show.

Yeah, it's an interesting one because I think sometimes when we answer these questions, it's very obvious that we're like, oh, you know, he's doing the dirty or he's not doing the dirty. But like, if he's engaging exactly like you said, that's a whole different story. I think the for you page, yes, it's an indication of content that someone might be pausing on to look at. But just because they're pausing on to look at it doesn't mean that they're going deep on it, you know what I mean.

Yeah, it's an interesting one because I think sometimes when we answer these questions, it's very obvious that we're like, oh, you know, he's doing the dirty or he's not doing the dirty. But like, if he's engaging exactly like you said, that's a whole different story. I think the for you page, yes, it's an indication of content that someone might be pausing on to look at. But just because they're pausing on to look at it doesn't mean that they're going deep on it, you know what I mean.

And like the algorithm is weird. It is not a one.

And like the algorithm is weird. It is not a one.

Hundred percent full proof situation where every single thing you're fed is because it's exactly the person or the type of content that you engage with in terms of like comment, share, follow, I don't think it's a perfect recipe. And also, you know, just because he stops and he looks like Instagram is now flooded with women who have only fans accounts, and I stop and look, you know, it's not because I'm sexually wanting to, you know, do anything or think anything.

Hundred percent full proof situation where every single thing you're fed is because it's exactly the person or the type of content that you engage with in terms of like comment, share, follow, I don't think it's a perfect recipe. And also, you know, just because he stops and he looks like Instagram is now flooded with women who have only fans accounts, and I stop and look, you know, it's not because I'm sexually wanting to, you know, do anything or think anything.

But sometimes I'm like.

But sometimes I'm like.

Wow, that's that's a great photo. I can't take a photo like that, you know, like and I'll stop and look. Then the for you page might start suggesting it's not because it's content that I'm necessarily like deeply engaged with. I'm sure he is more engaged with it than I am. However, I just don't think that it's worth the argument at this point. If that's the only red flag that you've got in your relationship, I'm like, let the guy fucking look at Instagram every swaften and see a hot chick.

Wow, that's that's a great photo. I can't take a photo like that, you know, like and I'll stop and look. Then the for you page might start suggesting it's not because it's content that I'm necessarily like deeply engaged with. I'm sure he is more engaged with it than I am. However, I just don't think that it's worth the argument at this point. If that's the only red flag that you've got in your relationship, I'm like, let the guy fucking look at Instagram every swaften and see a hot chick.

And also it's really hard because the end of this is, and I think every woman will relate to this of this is like it shatters my ego that they look a certain way and I'm never going to look like that. And I get that, and that's every woman gets that. Actually probably most men get that too. Like comparison is the thief of joy, very deep quote, and it's almost impossible. It's so easy to sit here and say like, you're beautiful, know you're worth We understand that. That's one thing to say, it is another thing to really do It takes a pretty big person to have done a lot of work to never feel a sense of insecurity or wish that they could change something about them. Even the most confident people will always have that feeling. So I don't want to come here and say like, that's silly. Don't feel like that, as much as it is silly, don't feel like that you're in this loving, secure relationship. I do want to validate you. Saying hey, I do it makes me feel pretty shitty and a little bit crushed. But again, I think that comes down to literally the basic of saying to him, I feel really shit when I say I don't feel good when I see this, because that conversation might be exactly what you need, where he's like, babe, you are perfect to me. Yeah.

And also it's really hard because the end of this is, and I think every woman will relate to this of this is like it shatters my ego that they look a certain way and I'm never going to look like that. And I get that, and that's every woman gets that. Actually probably most men get that too. Like comparison is the thief of joy, very deep quote, and it's almost impossible. It's so easy to sit here and say like, you're beautiful, know you're worth We understand that. That's one thing to say, it is another thing to really do It takes a pretty big person to have done a lot of work to never feel a sense of insecurity or wish that they could change something about them. Even the most confident people will always have that feeling. So I don't want to come here and say like, that's silly. Don't feel like that, as much as it is silly, don't feel like that you're in this loving, secure relationship. I do want to validate you. Saying hey, I do it makes me feel pretty shitty and a little bit crushed. But again, I think that comes down to literally the basic of saying to him, I feel really shit when I say I don't feel good when I see this, because that conversation might be exactly what you need, where he's like, babe, you are perfect to me. Yeah.

But my response to that is, how often do you check Ben's for you page? I don't think I've ever checked matts for you page. Stop checking it.

But my response to that is, how often do you check Ben's for you page? I don't think I've ever checked matts for you page. Stop checking it.

No, I'm just talking I'm not talking about that. I'm just talking about like validating feeling the ego totally.

No, I'm just talking I'm not talking about that. I'm just talking about like validating feeling the ego totally.

Yeah.

Yeah.

But I think the thing is is take some self initiative in this. If you're looking at his for you page and it's making you feel sad, but you also know he hasn't done anything wrong. I think we need to have some self control and stop looking at things that make us feel negative, because it's like you can't project that on him and make that his problem. When we don't have a clear cut and to find way that the algorithm spits out every single piece of content that's fed to you, I would just say, like, I've never looked at Matt's for you, Paige, I'm so interested. I'm going to go home and look at it now.

But I think the thing is is take some self initiative in this. If you're looking at his for you page and it's making you feel sad, but you also know he hasn't done anything wrong. I think we need to have some self control and stop looking at things that make us feel negative, because it's like you can't project that on him and make that his problem. When we don't have a clear cut and to find way that the algorithm spits out every single piece of content that's fed to you, I would just say, like, I've never looked at Matt's for you, Paige, I'm so interested. I'm going to go home and look at it now.

I think we should all go and ask for screenshots.

I think we should all go and ask for screenshots.

I'm gonna look at this for you page. I'm gonna report back on next episode.

I'm gonna look at this for you page. I'm gonna report back on next episode.

But the thing is is, even if there are hot chicks in bikinis and girls who look so incredible and who comparatively are way hotter than me, I'm not gonna to look at that and then be angry at him that he found that attractive.