THE LETTER Guest BRIAN MHLANGA & REITUMETSE MTHEMBU

Dear Mapaseka

My fiancée and I broke up, we had opted for marriage counseling and this led to
much revelation about the individuals we are. We both have kids from previous
relationships. My kids stay with their mothers and my fiancé said her child will
stay with us.

I suggested that our kids should attend the same school and that social
standards should be the same. She refused to downgrade the school because
its a good school for her child and her baby daddy would disagree as he pays
50%. There is not much difference these are both private schools but hers is
deemed better. Her family does not believe she should be paying any cost for
my children and should only focus on hers.

She earns more than me, my salary is good too and initially I thought it was not
going to be an issue until recently, she wants to do things her own way because
she needs to maintain her & lifestyle

When I met her she had a property and said it belongs to her child. I suggested
that I can buy our home as the man of the house and she said it would be a
downgrade and that joint property would be a better option so that we can qualify
for a better house.

Her family made a statement that she is the pillar of their home, so marrying her
would mean I'm taking their golden child and when she married she won't be
able to provide for them. They want R100 000 for lobola and are penalizing me
for the vat n sit with her before marriage. They say this amount will be used for
the wedding so I should look at it that way. I have so many questions and
wondering if this is a good relationship for me?
From SISEKO

GUEST: BRIAN MHLANGA – Life and Leadership Coach / 082 880
0007
GUEST: REITUMETSE MTHEMBU : REITUMETSI MTHEMBU – Registered
Counselor
COUNSELLING WITH REITUMETSI: Whattsapp Call 064 388
7324 / INFO@REITUMETSEWELLNESS.CO.ZA