Dear Mapaseka
I am experiencing conflict with my friend of 18 years. We met in high school and have
been close friends ever since. We were each other’s bridesmaids and our kids have grown
up together. We both work in the finance sector and 2 years ago i shared my dream of
Working for a specific auditing firm. It's a dream I've had since high school and what drove
me to being in finance. A senior management post was advertised by this company;
I shared this information with her with great excitement and even asked her to pray with me
As I sent my application. She even suggested fasting with me so I could get the job.
My niece bumped into her at this company and she revealed to her that she went in for a
job interview. To my surprise and absolute disappointment it was for the same job i applied
for. She has since landed the job and she told me this via text. It is an understatement
to say i am in shock and disbelief, she knows i am avoidant to conflict and struggling to
show my anger with her. When i called her she came to my house and said she did not
realise it would cause me so much pain and the reason she did not tell me she applied
was to avoid worrying me as she knew I wanted the same thing.
She says her husband encouraged her to apply as he felt its a better fit for
her. The same husband is also friends with my husband by virtue of our friendship.
I am so heartbroken and I think it’s worth telling her the relationship is over. Am i
Overreacting? My husband says we can continue the friendship i must just not share my
dreams with her. Can I ever trust her again?

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