I write this letter as a counsellor who seeks advice from you and your listeners on how to best advice and support this young man who is addicted to masturbation. He told me he can't do without it. One thing that struck me in his confession was when he said: “My mum caused all this for me''.
He said: "I started masturbation when I was 4 years old; my mum has always been dressing up naked before me, I am used to seeing her nakedness. This does not move me to have sex with her, but I always long to see mature ladies naked just the way I always see my mum dressing up naked before me."
"I still remember seeing her nakedness regularly till I was 8 years; and my dad would shout at her
saying ‘Send this boy out before you dress,' but my mum would always reply by saying: 'Will my son
sleep with me? Stop planting evil thoughts in his heart.'
"Anytime I see my mum's naked body, I long to see ladies' naked bodies. I then went into sex at
age 10 and till now I am not free from sex, heavy pornography and masturbation...'' How should he even perceive his mother and her actions; should he separate himself from a relationship with her?
MANDLA