Let me talk about So here we go, said he live in life pas a ringo where you question where you fit in every time you mingle, they say you do. This would not that this life lingo.

Let me talk about So here we go, said he live in life pas a ringo where you question where you fit in every time you mingle, they say you do. This would not that this life lingo.

Yes, hello, and welcome to another sort of life as a gringo. I am dramas of course, man crazy, you think this is going to be the last Tuesday episode of the year of twenty twenty four?

Yes, hello, and welcome to another sort of life as a gringo. I am dramas of course, man crazy, you think this is going to be the last Tuesday episode of the year of twenty twenty four?

Wild to think we are at the end of another year. What a year?

Wild to think we are at the end of another year. What a year?

That's If somebody's like, can you describe twenty twenty four? I would literally just say what a fucking year?

That's If somebody's like, can you describe twenty twenty four? I would literally just say what a fucking year?

Good, bad, and ugly? Just what a fucking year.

Good, bad, and ugly? Just what a fucking year.

I I think in the world as a whole, in this country and probably many of our personal lives, like what the fuck was twenty twenty four? If I could speak on behalf of everybody, I feel like a lot of us are asking that question. But as I've been getting at and as I've been reflecting personally on the podcast, these moments that challenge us, I think also provide great opportunity and provide great insight and provide growth. And I think the way to really kind of squeeze the most out of these moments and really allow them to be something deeper than just a shitty day, a shitty month, a shitty year. Is to slow down and reflect. And I think that's why I love like the end of the year does something to me, and I'm sure a lot of people's, well. I feel incredibly nostalgic, I feel oftentimes incredibly grateful, and I think I feel hyper present. And I think that's what it does when you feel like you're approaching the end of something, you begin to take it all in just a bit more and you begin, I think, to think about where it all started, right and where you were at the top of the year. And you know, for me, as I reflect and really try to squeeze out the lessons that I got from this year and what I'm trying to take with me into the new year, and you know what the premise of today's show is going to be as I was having that sort of conversation with myself and reflecting, you know.

I I think in the world as a whole, in this country and probably many of our personal lives, like what the fuck was twenty twenty four? If I could speak on behalf of everybody, I feel like a lot of us are asking that question. But as I've been getting at and as I've been reflecting personally on the podcast, these moments that challenge us, I think also provide great opportunity and provide great insight and provide growth. And I think the way to really kind of squeeze the most out of these moments and really allow them to be something deeper than just a shitty day, a shitty month, a shitty year. Is to slow down and reflect. And I think that's why I love like the end of the year does something to me, and I'm sure a lot of people's, well. I feel incredibly nostalgic, I feel oftentimes incredibly grateful, and I think I feel hyper present. And I think that's what it does when you feel like you're approaching the end of something, you begin to take it all in just a bit more and you begin, I think, to think about where it all started, right and where you were at the top of the year. And you know, for me, as I reflect and really try to squeeze out the lessons that I got from this year and what I'm trying to take with me into the new year, and you know what the premise of today's show is going to be as I was having that sort of conversation with myself and reflecting, you know.

It is this idea of.

It is this idea of.

Gratitude, which I almost I hate that word to a degree because I feel like it can also feel like somebody's guess like you just.

Gratitude, which I almost I hate that word to a degree because I feel like it can also feel like somebody's guess like you just.

Be a bit more grateful, You're not being greatful, you know you don't have enough gratitude for all that you have in this life, in this world. Right, you're very you know, you're taking it for granted.

Be a bit more grateful, You're not being greatful, you know you don't have enough gratitude for all that you have in this life, in this world. Right, you're very you know, you're taking it for granted.

And I hate to hear that, probably internally because it makes me feel like a bad person, but for some reason it also feels incredibly dismissive of all that you're going through. On the same hand, they're absolutely right, you know, Like I hate to say it, but they're absolutely right. Oftentimes we're taking the present moment for granted, and we're hyper focused on all that we don't have, rather than being appreciative for what we do have and seeing the beauty and the joy and the positive in our present moment. Right, and again, to teach their own we're all going through different things, but there is something about that. There's a reason why the word gratitude keeps fucking coming around, and why there's gratitude journals and all these things. Right, And I think also something that has been a prominent idea for me, even sort of operating in the background, is the idea of reconnection and reconnection with myself and who I am and what I want and what I love. And it actually what put that into like actual words For me, I've been reading this book called The Genius Zone, and they talk about this idea of recommitting.

And I hate to hear that, probably internally because it makes me feel like a bad person, but for some reason it also feels incredibly dismissive of all that you're going through. On the same hand, they're absolutely right, you know, Like I hate to say it, but they're absolutely right. Oftentimes we're taking the present moment for granted, and we're hyper focused on all that we don't have, rather than being appreciative for what we do have and seeing the beauty and the joy and the positive in our present moment. Right, and again, to teach their own we're all going through different things, but there is something about that. There's a reason why the word gratitude keeps fucking coming around, and why there's gratitude journals and all these things. Right, And I think also something that has been a prominent idea for me, even sort of operating in the background, is the idea of reconnection and reconnection with myself and who I am and what I want and what I love. And it actually what put that into like actual words For me, I've been reading this book called The Genius Zone, and they talk about this idea of recommitting.

Many of us.

Many of us.

We set a goal and like, we're great at the beginning, and then we like have one slip up and we just end up in like this downward spiral, going in the complete opposite direction of our goal, and then we end up being the shit out of ourselves as a result. And the book talks about how the sort of slip up is normal and inevitable and how everybody goes through that. Nobody is able to be perfect and do everything right every day all the time.

We set a goal and like, we're great at the beginning, and then we like have one slip up and we just end up in like this downward spiral, going in the complete opposite direction of our goal, and then we end up being the shit out of ourselves as a result. And the book talks about how the sort of slip up is normal and inevitable and how everybody goes through that. Nobody is able to be perfect and do everything right every day all the time.

But what sets apart.

But what sets apart.

Those who achieve their goal is after that slip up, rather than going into a sort of extended downward spiral, they instead take that moment to recommit to the goal and get themselves back on track right. They don't dwell on the fuck up. They don't dwell on the slip up. They say, Okay, we were human. Now we're recommitted to the goal. And what gets you to the goal is not being perfect day in the day out. What gets you to the goal is a series of recommitments to the goal. When you do inevitably slip up, and I found out to be comforting in many ways, and I found sort of peace in that for whatever reason, and I feel like it's something I'm taking with me into twenty twenty five.

Those who achieve their goal is after that slip up, rather than going into a sort of extended downward spiral, they instead take that moment to recommit to the goal and get themselves back on track right. They don't dwell on the fuck up. They don't dwell on the slip up. They say, Okay, we were human. Now we're recommitted to the goal. And what gets you to the goal is not being perfect day in the day out. What gets you to the goal is a series of recommitments to the goal. When you do inevitably slip up, and I found out to be comforting in many ways, and I found sort of peace in that for whatever reason, and I feel like it's something I'm taking with me into twenty twenty five.

And yeah, I really sit here.

And yeah, I really sit here.

And in the present moment, life is good, right, not perfect.

And in the present moment, life is good, right, not perfect.

So many things I want to do to see, to experience, to achieve that.

So many things I want to do to see, to experience, to achieve that.

I haven't yet, that I don't have a clear path towards just yet. But even with all that said, life is good and life is this present moment right here. Life isn't the past, Life isn't the future. Life is right here right now. And I don't know if I'm talking in circles here, but I guess one thing, all right. So I have a few quotes that I also put aside, and one of the quotes that kind of hit hard as I was like thinking about this topic and like how I wanted to frame it for the purpose of, you know, a podcast episode, one of the stoics, Seneca says, don't lose the day in expectation of the night, and the night in fear of the dawn. And I guess for me why that hit me like a ton of bricks, because as I sort of set off onto this next chapter of my life, of my journey, of my career, of what I want of chasing new goals. I recognize how much time I spent not living in the present moment and how much I took for granted as a result, and I kind of wanted to touch on that to a degree, And I guess what my frame of mind is going in twenty twenty five and takeaways from the year, you know, all that I've.

I haven't yet, that I don't have a clear path towards just yet. But even with all that said, life is good and life is this present moment right here. Life isn't the past, Life isn't the future. Life is right here right now. And I don't know if I'm talking in circles here, but I guess one thing, all right. So I have a few quotes that I also put aside, and one of the quotes that kind of hit hard as I was like thinking about this topic and like how I wanted to frame it for the purpose of, you know, a podcast episode, one of the stoics, Seneca says, don't lose the day in expectation of the night, and the night in fear of the dawn. And I guess for me why that hit me like a ton of bricks, because as I sort of set off onto this next chapter of my life, of my journey, of my career, of what I want of chasing new goals. I recognize how much time I spent not living in the present moment and how much I took for granted as a result, and I kind of wanted to touch on that to a degree, And I guess what my frame of mind is going in twenty twenty five and takeaways from the year, you know, all that I've.

Sort of gone through and the ups and downs of it all.

Sort of gone through and the ups and downs of it all.

So today's really an episode of reflection, of a reminder live in the present, and a recommitment to.

So today's really an episode of reflection, of a reminder live in the present, and a recommitment to.

Oneself. So with that in mind, let's get into Army hit that segment.

Oneself. So with that in mind, let's get into Army hit that segment.

Now. I mentioned this in the last episode where I was talking about like looking at these old photos in my phone from like, you know, years past or whatever, and recognizing that I was living out so much of what I dreamed of and that I was so close to all that.

Now. I mentioned this in the last episode where I was talking about like looking at these old photos in my phone from like, you know, years past or whatever, and recognizing that I was living out so much of what I dreamed of and that I was so close to all that.

I wanted, but in the moment couldn't see things that way.

I wanted, but in the moment couldn't see things that way.

And it's only now in retrospect, older, more mature, sort of not having those things in my life on a regular basis anymore, those moments being able to look at it and say wow, man, like you were doing it. And I think this has been a crazy year of like I don't want to say loss, but loss. I think it feels like so much was stripped away from me. And not to say that I'm in like, you know, I feel like I want to make sure I'm not exaggerating it to myself, right, because then I miss the I miss the blessing that it is to still be able to do what I love on a daily basis.

And it's only now in retrospect, older, more mature, sort of not having those things in my life on a regular basis anymore, those moments being able to look at it and say wow, man, like you were doing it. And I think this has been a crazy year of like I don't want to say loss, but loss. I think it feels like so much was stripped away from me. And not to say that I'm in like, you know, I feel like I want to make sure I'm not exaggerating it to myself, right, because then I miss the I miss the blessing that it is to still be able to do what I love on a daily basis.

Right.

Right.

So it's not like I've had all that taken away from me, right, And it could be a lot worse, But I've basically had a more minimalist life this year. I've had a lot of things that I thought were going to happen fall through, a lot of walls hit right, and basically really had to get comfortable with the idea of things not panning out as I had planned. And I reflect on this year and it sounds cliche, but I have a level of gratitude because I feel like.

So it's not like I've had all that taken away from me, right, And it could be a lot worse, But I've basically had a more minimalist life this year. I've had a lot of things that I thought were going to happen fall through, a lot of walls hit right, and basically really had to get comfortable with the idea of things not panning out as I had planned. And I reflect on this year and it sounds cliche, but I have a level of gratitude because I feel like.

It made me hyper aware to the fact that none of this is to be taken for granted.

It made me hyper aware to the fact that none of this is to be taken for granted.

And I almost I feel like a bad person saying that, because it's like dumh right, there are so many people wishing and dreaming to get to do what I do or any of us. Right, if you are living a life where you have anything, there's somebody who's envious of it. You have a partner, a family, at a home, a job, there's somebody who wishes they had that right now, right And for me, as I like reflect back on that time period where all these things were happening, but I still felt like nothing was happening, dude, I took that for granted.

And I almost I feel like a bad person saying that, because it's like dumh right, there are so many people wishing and dreaming to get to do what I do or any of us. Right, if you are living a life where you have anything, there's somebody who's envious of it. You have a partner, a family, at a home, a job, there's somebody who wishes they had that right now, right And for me, as I like reflect back on that time period where all these things were happening, but I still felt like nothing was happening, dude, I took that for granted.

Man.

Man.

Like in twenty twenty, the beginning of it, and I mentioned this, I got to play in front of a sold out crowd at my dream venue, right the venue that I went to see my first like EDM act like my DJ concert, and I remember saying to myself, one day, I'm gonna be on that stage.

Like in twenty twenty, the beginning of it, and I mentioned this, I got to play in front of a sold out crowd at my dream venue, right the venue that I went to see my first like EDM act like my DJ concert, and I remember saying to myself, one day, I'm gonna be on that stage.

And I remember on Instagram I.

And I remember on Instagram I.

Would watch videos of DJ's like there's one in particular that sticks in my mind, and this DJ, he had his camera members right behind him as he did his like intro and his entrance.

Would watch videos of DJ's like there's one in particular that sticks in my mind, and this DJ, he had his camera members right behind him as he did his like intro and his entrance.

And it was just huge, and I remember it gave me chills.

And it was just huge, and I remember it gave me chills.

And it's at that venue and just be like, man, one day I'm gonna step foot on that stage and get to play.

And it's at that venue and just be like, man, one day I'm gonna step foot on that stage and get to play.

And then I got that opportunity, and I was taking.

And then I got that opportunity, and I was taking.

It for granted because I had a couple other big opportunities, right, And for me, it was like, it's cool, but I'm opening, I'm not headlining, they're not here to see me.

It for granted because I had a couple other big opportunities, right, And for me, it was like, it's cool, but I'm opening, I'm not headlining, they're not here to see me.

I don't get to play exactly what.

I don't get to play exactly what.

I want to play after kind of play to this bigger artist's crowd, right and be respectful of like the fact that I'm an opener, you know, and all those things and all of that sort of cheapened the experience. And I did that to myself, and I also took it for granted, like, you know what, I'll be back here. So it's like, you know, let's just get through a type of thing. And I think in the moment, I was happy, I was grateful, but I was still like thinking to myself, like whatever, man, Like I got to figure out what I'm doing my life type of thing. And it's like, bro, you're you're thinking about everything except for the fact that you're living out one of your biggest goals. And how hard it is, how hard it was, how many years it took me to get to the point that I knew the right people to be considered to get on that stage. Took me so fucking long, so long into my career to get to that stage. And now in twenty twenty five, I could say this. I haven't announced it yet, but I'll say it here to the FAM. January tenth, I get to go back onto that stage.

I want to play after kind of play to this bigger artist's crowd, right and be respectful of like the fact that I'm an opener, you know, and all those things and all of that sort of cheapened the experience. And I did that to myself, and I also took it for granted, like, you know what, I'll be back here. So it's like, you know, let's just get through a type of thing. And I think in the moment, I was happy, I was grateful, but I was still like thinking to myself, like whatever, man, Like I got to figure out what I'm doing my life type of thing. And it's like, bro, you're you're thinking about everything except for the fact that you're living out one of your biggest goals. And how hard it is, how hard it was, how many years it took me to get to the point that I knew the right people to be considered to get on that stage. Took me so fucking long, so long into my career to get to that stage. And now in twenty twenty five, I could say this. I haven't announced it yet, but I'll say it here to the FAM. January tenth, I get to go back onto that stage.

And my.

And my.

Reaction to it this time around was so different. Even right now, I like, I feel it, like the tears are watering, my eyes are wading up, and I feel the emotion behind it. I cried when I got the news that it was happening. When the email came in, I called my parents, you know.

Reaction to it this time around was so different. Even right now, I like, I feel it, like the tears are watering, my eyes are wading up, and I feel the emotion behind it. I cried when I got the news that it was happening. When the email came in, I called my parents, you know.

Like.

Like.

That sort of deep ground attitude and not taking it for granted. This time around. It only came as a result of me going through the journey that I've gone through, of understanding how difficult it is to find success, how lucky I was to find consistent success, and even though I put in the hard work, that still doesn't guarantee the success. And I was fortunate that the opportunities kept presenting themselves that I got in at a certain time. But as things got more difficult and it became harder and harder to continue to ascend to the next level. And having all these things sort of stripped away or not come to fruition made me makes me realize how lucky I am to have any sort of opportunity. And you know, same situation in January. I'm opening, I'm not headlining, but i'm and and by the way, those intrusive thoughts still come up. I was like, I went from being super excited and just walking in Cloud nine, and then a couple of days later, I'm thinking, like, all right, you know it's this is like a more difficult artist to open for it. It's kind of like it's a different genre of like E. D M. And like particularly opening a cold room, like you know, when when people are ask people are coming in and building building up until the.

That sort of deep ground attitude and not taking it for granted. This time around. It only came as a result of me going through the journey that I've gone through, of understanding how difficult it is to find success, how lucky I was to find consistent success, and even though I put in the hard work, that still doesn't guarantee the success. And I was fortunate that the opportunities kept presenting themselves that I got in at a certain time. But as things got more difficult and it became harder and harder to continue to ascend to the next level. And having all these things sort of stripped away or not come to fruition made me makes me realize how lucky I am to have any sort of opportunity. And you know, same situation in January. I'm opening, I'm not headlining, but i'm and and by the way, those intrusive thoughts still come up. I was like, I went from being super excited and just walking in Cloud nine, and then a couple of days later, I'm thinking, like, all right, you know it's this is like a more difficult artist to open for it. It's kind of like it's a different genre of like E. D M. And like particularly opening a cold room, like you know, when when people are ask people are coming in and building building up until the.

You know, headliner comes on. It's difficult, especially in this genre.

You know, headliner comes on. It's difficult, especially in this genre.

So then my imposter syndrome starts coming in of me not being able to do it, and then I just start telling myself like or I start getting frustrated, like, oh, this isn't the right situation, this isn't the right you know, a fun moment.

So then my imposter syndrome starts coming in of me not being able to do it, and then I just start telling myself like or I start getting frustrated, like, oh, this isn't the right situation, this isn't the right you know, a fun moment.

This is gonna be the best thing, or it's not gonna be that fun.

This is gonna be the best thing, or it's not gonna be that fun.

And I have to check myself and say that none of that matters, right, This is so much big, bigger than that. This is a beautiful, amazing opportunity that you work so hard for.

And I have to check myself and say that none of that matters, right, This is so much big, bigger than that. This is a beautiful, amazing opportunity that you work so hard for.

And not only that, but for me sort of.

And not only that, but for me sort of.

Having a real conversation with myself about how much music means to me and playing it and getting to perform it and all that comes along with it, and being so upset that I allowed myself to deviate from it for so long and that.

Having a real conversation with myself about how much music means to me and playing it and getting to perform it and all that comes along with it, and being so upset that I allowed myself to deviate from it for so long and that.

I didn't appreciate it back then and as a result, I like easily walked away from it. This moment.

I didn't appreciate it back then and as a result, I like easily walked away from it. This moment.

Is me sort of being able to pick up where I left off, which is like the ultimate gift, right because the fear was like, Man, did I fucking ruin and waste the moment that I had? But I think it's also a proof where the things that are meant for you in this life will always find a way to come back to you. And as silly as it is with djaying and music and stuff like that on the surface, as it sounds like that's a spiritual thing for me. That's something I can't escape, This deep love for performing and playing music and creating it and doing all these things and as much as I lie to myself and tell myself it's not what I want, it's not big enough for me, and all these different things, I keep getting drawn back to it. And to me, this was like God and the universe bringing me back to where I'm supposed to be. And the moment isn't lost on me. And I think you're you know, we hear these sayings like you're presented with stuff when when you're actually able to really receive them. And back then, I wasn't ready to receive those blessings because I always kept moving the goalpost to the next thing. And it's why I was a workaholic, It's why I didn't take care of myself physically mentally, it's why I didn't have solid relationships.

Is me sort of being able to pick up where I left off, which is like the ultimate gift, right because the fear was like, Man, did I fucking ruin and waste the moment that I had? But I think it's also a proof where the things that are meant for you in this life will always find a way to come back to you. And as silly as it is with djaying and music and stuff like that on the surface, as it sounds like that's a spiritual thing for me. That's something I can't escape, This deep love for performing and playing music and creating it and doing all these things and as much as I lie to myself and tell myself it's not what I want, it's not big enough for me, and all these different things, I keep getting drawn back to it. And to me, this was like God and the universe bringing me back to where I'm supposed to be. And the moment isn't lost on me. And I think you're you know, we hear these sayings like you're presented with stuff when when you're actually able to really receive them. And back then, I wasn't ready to receive those blessings because I always kept moving the goalpost to the next thing. And it's why I was a workaholic, It's why I didn't take care of myself physically mentally, it's why I didn't have solid relationships.

Because it's always.

Because it's always.

On to the next thing. And I think, you have to be hungry, you have to have desire, but you can't take for granted all that's happening in the present moment. And I took life for granted. And I think now this sort of reconnection as a result of things being taken away or minimized or stripped away, there's been a profound increase in my happiness, my ability to see and appreciate all that I have. I know we're striving for more, and that's beautiful. I plan on doing gigantic things, but I'm not cheapening the present moment.

On to the next thing. And I think, you have to be hungry, you have to have desire, but you can't take for granted all that's happening in the present moment. And I took life for granted. And I think now this sort of reconnection as a result of things being taken away or minimized or stripped away, there's been a profound increase in my happiness, my ability to see and appreciate all that I have. I know we're striving for more, and that's beautiful. I plan on doing gigantic things, but I'm not cheapening the present moment.

And I think so many of us are living in a place where.

And I think so many of us are living in a place where.

We just cheapen our current reality because we're fantasizing about being somewhere else. And I think it's why so many people are incredibly unhappy, because they've trained their mind to think happiness lies anywhere else except for the present moment. And again, it doesn't mean you can't be striving for other things and goal setting and whatever it might be, and continue to elevate your life and add to it. But even when you obtain those things, if you haven't trained your mind to find happiness in the present moment, it's a never ending, perpetual cycle of striving for the next thing you keep. It's the idea of like imagining that happiness is right around the corner, rather than understanding happiness can be found right now in the present moment, and it's essential to find it in the present moment if you're ever going to enjoy the fruits of your labor, and you're ever going to enjoy this thing called life. And like I said, I've written down a couple of quotes and this one's from wherein that Han and it stuck with me. The quote is life can be found only in the present moment. The past is gone, the future is not here yet. And if we do not go back to ourselves in the present moment, we cannot be in touch with life.

We just cheapen our current reality because we're fantasizing about being somewhere else. And I think it's why so many people are incredibly unhappy, because they've trained their mind to think happiness lies anywhere else except for the present moment. And again, it doesn't mean you can't be striving for other things and goal setting and whatever it might be, and continue to elevate your life and add to it. But even when you obtain those things, if you haven't trained your mind to find happiness in the present moment, it's a never ending, perpetual cycle of striving for the next thing you keep. It's the idea of like imagining that happiness is right around the corner, rather than understanding happiness can be found right now in the present moment, and it's essential to find it in the present moment if you're ever going to enjoy the fruits of your labor, and you're ever going to enjoy this thing called life. And like I said, I've written down a couple of quotes and this one's from wherein that Han and it stuck with me. The quote is life can be found only in the present moment. The past is gone, the future is not here yet. And if we do not go back to ourselves in the present moment, we cannot be in touch with life.

Sorry thick not Han said that.

Sorry thick not Han said that.

If we do not go back to ourselves in the present moment, we cannot be in touch with life.

If we do not go back to ourselves in the present moment, we cannot be in touch with life.

You're not living unless you are able to just be.

You're not living unless you are able to just be.

That sounds so fucking cliche and like, yeah, I'm trying to work just be into it, but really that's the whole concept of fucking just be right when I did that whole retreat, and that stuck with me.

That sounds so fucking cliche and like, yeah, I'm trying to work just be into it, but really that's the whole concept of fucking just be right when I did that whole retreat, and that stuck with me.

It's like, this is life. What's happening right now? Is life?

It's like, this is life. What's happening right now? Is life?

All of its beauty is happening right now. It's not in some far off land or some fucking gold that you check off the box and all of a sudden life becomes beautiful. You have to find beauty in life right now. And again it's because of the way our mind works.

All of its beauty is happening right now. It's not in some far off land or some fucking gold that you check off the box and all of a sudden life becomes beautiful. You have to find beauty in life right now. And again it's because of the way our mind works.

What you do.

What you do.

And and and how you react and how you process things. It trains your mind for how you're going to process everything moving forward. So if you are unable to find happiness in the present moment, if you're constantly cheapening the present moment, dude, you're going to keep doing that, even when you have a million dollars in the bank, even when you you know are living out your dream job, in your dream city, living in your dream house. Your mind is trained to find a reason to take you out of the present moment and tell you you need something else. Because you've done that, because you keep escaping the present moment, you keep not appreciating the present moment.

And and and how you react and how you process things. It trains your mind for how you're going to process everything moving forward. So if you are unable to find happiness in the present moment, if you're constantly cheapening the present moment, dude, you're going to keep doing that, even when you have a million dollars in the bank, even when you you know are living out your dream job, in your dream city, living in your dream house. Your mind is trained to find a reason to take you out of the present moment and tell you you need something else. Because you've done that, because you keep escaping the present moment, you keep not appreciating the present moment.

That training, that that groove in your brain.

That training, that that groove in your brain.

Will continue on regardless of what you have in the physical, regardless of what you've been able to manifest. And that's why I think so many wealthy, so many successful people are unhappy because their mind is to look for what they don't have.

Will continue on regardless of what you have in the physical, regardless of what you've been able to manifest. And that's why I think so many wealthy, so many successful people are unhappy because their mind is to look for what they don't have.

And that's the sickening thing about being a human being.

And that's the sickening thing about being a human being.

You could have so fucking much and still trick yourself into thinking you need more, or it's not enough, or whatever it might be. The grass is always green on the side, right, That cliche saying it's for a reason. So that's like when you hear people talk about if you can't be happier now, you're not gonna be happy when you get what you want. Yeah, because you have to develop the mindset of looking for the good in the present moment, of being able to enjoy and appreciate the present moment. Because without that mindset, without the development of that mindset, you're never gonna find the happiness that you're searching for. It's always gonna seem like it's right around the corner. Even if your fucking you know, driving your dream car. You know you're gonna it seems like, oh, but the real dream car is right around the corner type of thing, right, everything, and literally it's only in reflection that you realize, Man, I had it so fucking good. Wasn't perfect, but fuck there was so much to be grateful for, right, That's what I felt looking at those old pictures. Yes it wasn't perfect, Yes there were struggles, but fuck was I doing cool things that I enjoyed, that I loved doing, things that I.

You could have so fucking much and still trick yourself into thinking you need more, or it's not enough, or whatever it might be. The grass is always green on the side, right, That cliche saying it's for a reason. So that's like when you hear people talk about if you can't be happier now, you're not gonna be happy when you get what you want. Yeah, because you have to develop the mindset of looking for the good in the present moment, of being able to enjoy and appreciate the present moment. Because without that mindset, without the development of that mindset, you're never gonna find the happiness that you're searching for. It's always gonna seem like it's right around the corner. Even if your fucking you know, driving your dream car. You know you're gonna it seems like, oh, but the real dream car is right around the corner type of thing, right, everything, and literally it's only in reflection that you realize, Man, I had it so fucking good. Wasn't perfect, but fuck there was so much to be grateful for, right, That's what I felt looking at those old pictures. Yes it wasn't perfect, Yes there were struggles, but fuck was I doing cool things that I enjoyed, that I loved doing, things that I.

Talked about and dreamed about fucking doing.

Talked about and dreamed about fucking doing.

And it's only now that I wasn't doing them, And don't have them in my life that I reflect back and realize how special that moment was that time period. Right, It's just like as you get older and you realize, you know, I don't want to see your best years of behind you, but.

And it's only now that I wasn't doing them, And don't have them in my life that I reflect back and realize how special that moment was that time period. Right, It's just like as you get older and you realize, you know, I don't want to see your best years of behind you, but.

I wouldn't want to relieve my twenties, you know, to be quite fair.

I wouldn't want to relieve my twenties, you know, to be quite fair.

But I think about my twenties, and I think about how that mindset was that this is basically gonna last forever, This care free, nothing really matters moment was gonna kind of last.

But I think about my twenties, and I think about how that mindset was that this is basically gonna last forever, This care free, nothing really matters moment was gonna kind of last.

I didn't think past it.

I didn't think past it.

And you recognize as much as I maybe don't want to live that on a day to day basis anymore, that was a special moment in time of exploration and finding myself. Those moments had value, But because I was always thinking of the next thing, I didn't stop to think about and appreciate the value. And I want to touch on a couple of things. So we'll pause here, we'll take a quick break, and a couple more things I want to I want to touch on. All right, we are back, and one of the things I want to touch on is like a moment I had this past weekend or friday. The radio station I work for in New York City's E one hundred has like an annual concert called jingle Ball, And if you grew up in the New York City areas, it's a big deal.

And you recognize as much as I maybe don't want to live that on a day to day basis anymore, that was a special moment in time of exploration and finding myself. Those moments had value, But because I was always thinking of the next thing, I didn't stop to think about and appreciate the value. And I want to touch on a couple of things. So we'll pause here, we'll take a quick break, and a couple more things I want to I want to touch on. All right, we are back, and one of the things I want to touch on is like a moment I had this past weekend or friday. The radio station I work for in New York City's E one hundred has like an annual concert called jingle Ball, And if you grew up in the New York City areas, it's a big deal.

It's like the biggest concert.

It's like the biggest concert.

And you know, it's that Master Square Garden, a bunch of giant artists, and it's like one of those things that like everybody who grew in this area, we always tried to get tickets because it sells out in like three seconds. And I've been fortunate enough to be a part of it for years now. At this point, they do a pre show at Hammerstiginn Ballroom, which is another big venue here in New York. And I've been fortunate enough to DJ it for years at this point, right, And.

And you know, it's that Master Square Garden, a bunch of giant artists, and it's like one of those things that like everybody who grew in this area, we always tried to get tickets because it sells out in like three seconds. And I've been fortunate enough to be a part of it for years now. At this point, they do a pre show at Hammerstiginn Ballroom, which is another big venue here in New York. And I've been fortunate enough to DJ it for years at this point, right, And.

I always would.

I always would.

Look at what I didn't have, right, because I was like, all right, I'm the DJ. But all of the jocks, like the people who are radio personalities on air, they get to do cooler stuff. They're doing interviews, right, They're on stage at Madison Square Garden introducing artists and like they're treated as like the stars for the day, you know, And as a DJ, I'm not getting the same treatment. It's kind of like, all right, well you know, you know, it's I'm not like, in my mind, I'm just like a forgotten element or whatever. Right in my mind, I go up there and play some music and it's done, and I have to watch and I watch everybody else sort of like living out these big moments. Right in the past, I would always be like, man, wait till I get to you know, my goal is to be on air. Wait un till I get to be the one introducing on stage. That would be the moment. Wait till I'm doing interviews, that'd be the moment like, Okay, you guys are shitting on me, now, wait until I'm doing Wait till I'm that person.

Look at what I didn't have, right, because I was like, all right, I'm the DJ. But all of the jocks, like the people who are radio personalities on air, they get to do cooler stuff. They're doing interviews, right, They're on stage at Madison Square Garden introducing artists and like they're treated as like the stars for the day, you know, And as a DJ, I'm not getting the same treatment. It's kind of like, all right, well you know, you know, it's I'm not like, in my mind, I'm just like a forgotten element or whatever. Right in my mind, I go up there and play some music and it's done, and I have to watch and I watch everybody else sort of like living out these big moments. Right in the past, I would always be like, man, wait till I get to you know, my goal is to be on air. Wait un till I get to be the one introducing on stage. That would be the moment. Wait till I'm doing interviews, that'd be the moment like, Okay, you guys are shitting on me, now, wait until I'm doing Wait till I'm that person.

And these are like radio shows, so it's like a mixed crowd of like ages.

And these are like radio shows, so it's like a mixed crowd of like ages.

So I'm not like playing these like sets that I'm like would record and be proud to share to the world. Like I'm just trying to get people to sing along and have fun and like, you know, some corny pop songs to a degree or stuff to dance to. And I would always like devalue it as like you know, oh, this is like you know, cheap DJing type of thing. And this was the first year I can honestly say that I was on stage and you know, there's how many thousand people there or whatever, and I genuinely was just like, I'm enjoying myself. Like I was able to stop in the moment while on stage and remind myself, take this in. This is special, and I felt so grateful and happy in that moment. And this was the first time, and not to say a couple times I had a couple of flare ups of like envy, but this was the first time for the most part that I.

So I'm not like playing these like sets that I'm like would record and be proud to share to the world. Like I'm just trying to get people to sing along and have fun and like, you know, some corny pop songs to a degree or stuff to dance to. And I would always like devalue it as like you know, oh, this is like you know, cheap DJing type of thing. And this was the first year I can honestly say that I was on stage and you know, there's how many thousand people there or whatever, and I genuinely was just like, I'm enjoying myself. Like I was able to stop in the moment while on stage and remind myself, take this in. This is special, and I felt so grateful and happy in that moment. And this was the first time, and not to say a couple times I had a couple of flare ups of like envy, but this was the first time for the most part that I.

Was just like, you know what, this is great.

Was just like, you know what, this is great.

I'm so happy and lucky to be here, and I'm just gonna go with the flow and enjoy myself and do my part.

I'm so happy and lucky to be here, and I'm just gonna go with the flow and enjoy myself and do my part.

And that's it.

And that's it.

And what's actually fucking crazy is so what oftentimes will happen is after I'm the DJ, the concert thing is as at massa Square Garden, and uh again, I'm not you know, I have nothing to do with that point. I'm just hanging out because I already done my my my gig. So like you're at mass regarding your backstage like again, ridiculous fucking honor. That's where New York Knicks and the Rangers play, and like you know, every gigantic artist in the world dreams of coming to play and you're walking around backstage and like bumping into people, you know, like this person's walking by you and that person. I'm not gonna name job because that's attacking. But Robert Denier was there. I will say that anyway. But uh, but normally I would be most of the time they would give me a pass. I would walk in, I'd be like fuck this and just walk out, like like they think about that. You have people calling left and right to buy tickets or people like upset they couldn't buy tickets, and then they're begging, you know, to get tickets, you know, the giveaways and things like that. Here i am with the fucking all access pass and I'm like, fuck, this just sucks, you know, like like that that tells you everything you need to know right of not living in the present moment. And again this was the year where I was like, hey, I would just say to go, i'mna have fun. I don't really care, like even because they have like also with these passes, it's like you have all access, but there's like extra badges to get into extra restricted areas, like where like the Free Booze and food are and like, I've always been of the type where I'm like, I'm not gonna ask somebody for that, Like they should just give it to me, so we whatever.

And what's actually fucking crazy is so what oftentimes will happen is after I'm the DJ, the concert thing is as at massa Square Garden, and uh again, I'm not you know, I have nothing to do with that point. I'm just hanging out because I already done my my my gig. So like you're at mass regarding your backstage like again, ridiculous fucking honor. That's where New York Knicks and the Rangers play, and like you know, every gigantic artist in the world dreams of coming to play and you're walking around backstage and like bumping into people, you know, like this person's walking by you and that person. I'm not gonna name job because that's attacking. But Robert Denier was there. I will say that anyway. But uh, but normally I would be most of the time they would give me a pass. I would walk in, I'd be like fuck this and just walk out, like like they think about that. You have people calling left and right to buy tickets or people like upset they couldn't buy tickets, and then they're begging, you know, to get tickets, you know, the giveaways and things like that. Here i am with the fucking all access pass and I'm like, fuck, this just sucks, you know, like like that that tells you everything you need to know right of not living in the present moment. And again this was the year where I was like, hey, I would just say to go, i'mna have fun. I don't really care, like even because they have like also with these passes, it's like you have all access, but there's like extra badges to get into extra restricted areas, like where like the Free Booze and food are and like, I've always been of the type where I'm like, I'm not gonna ask somebody for that, Like they should just give it to me, so we whatever.

If I don't get it, fuck them.

If I don't get it, fuck them.

So but this year I was like, dude, if I have to go buy a hot dog and a beer by myself on like the mezzanine of Mad Square Garden, I'm gonna enjoy myself.

So but this year I was like, dude, if I have to go buy a hot dog and a beer by myself on like the mezzanine of Mad Square Garden, I'm gonna enjoy myself.

I'm just gonna this is what I'm gonna do.

I'm just gonna this is what I'm gonna do.

But life rewards good energy of you just being like in a great happy place right Because I walked in there just happy as could be to fucking hang out. What happens as I'm walking in, I run into another person I work with at iHeart and he's got the juice, he's got the connects, and he's like, oh, I'll see it that loundes and I'm just like, you know, yeah, I don't have a passport, but it's cool, man. I'll be around just hanging out and he's like, nah, no way, and he walks me through, gets me a pass for like the VIP of VIP lounges, and I end up just boozing it up and eating amazing food. The entire night and just literally, even though I'm not the one on stage like I had dreamed about in Madison Square Garden, I'm having the time of my life and I'm bullshitting with coworkers. I'm just like, you know, eating case ideas and drinking free beer and just enjoying the moment for the first time. This is literally I've done this, I think maybe five years.

But life rewards good energy of you just being like in a great happy place right Because I walked in there just happy as could be to fucking hang out. What happens as I'm walking in, I run into another person I work with at iHeart and he's got the juice, he's got the connects, and he's like, oh, I'll see it that loundes and I'm just like, you know, yeah, I don't have a passport, but it's cool, man. I'll be around just hanging out and he's like, nah, no way, and he walks me through, gets me a pass for like the VIP of VIP lounges, and I end up just boozing it up and eating amazing food. The entire night and just literally, even though I'm not the one on stage like I had dreamed about in Madison Square Garden, I'm having the time of my life and I'm bullshitting with coworkers. I'm just like, you know, eating case ideas and drinking free beer and just enjoying the moment for the first time. This is literally I've done this, I think maybe five years.

I've done five years of this.

I've done five years of this.

This is the first time I can honest say I'm like, from start to finish it, I had such a fucking great time, like just appreciate it and loved the moment and at a blast man, just had such a good fucking time. And that is all the result of like having a perspective shift because life kicked you in the fucking face and made you recognize stop taking this shift for granted, Stop taking the moment for granted, just because it doesn't look exactly how you would hope or you would you did hope or you hoped it would. There you go English, And I think that's so much of like.

This is the first time I can honest say I'm like, from start to finish it, I had such a fucking great time, like just appreciate it and loved the moment and at a blast man, just had such a good fucking time. And that is all the result of like having a perspective shift because life kicked you in the fucking face and made you recognize stop taking this shift for granted, Stop taking the moment for granted, just because it doesn't look exactly how you would hope or you would you did hope or you hoped it would. There you go English, And I think that's so much of like.

Of what it is.

Of what it is.

We often have this expectation as to what life is supposed to look like, and when it doesn't look exactly how it's supposed to look like.

We often have this expectation as to what life is supposed to look like, and when it doesn't look exactly how it's supposed to look like.

We then are like, oh, well, it sucks because it doesn't look like what it's supposed to look like.

We then are like, oh, well, it sucks because it doesn't look like what it's supposed to look like.

It's like, dude, no, it's not going to always look like what it does in your mind. In fact, most of the time, it never looks like. That doesn't mean it's fucking bad. Different doesn't mean bad, or just because it's you're not exactly there yet, but you're experiencing a slice of what you want.

It's like, dude, no, it's not going to always look like what it does in your mind. In fact, most of the time, it never looks like. That doesn't mean it's fucking bad. Different doesn't mean bad, or just because it's you're not exactly there yet, but you're experiencing a slice of what you want.

Enjoy that fucking slice. Right.

Enjoy that fucking slice. Right.

That's like how little kids when they have to like share something, right, they'll like have a temp a tantrum, right if there's like one donut and you're like, hey, you got to share it with your brother, and then they flip the fuck out and they're like, no, I don't even want it then, And in your mind, as an adult, you're like, you know how fucking crazy that sounds that you're willing to not have this at least half of this delicious donut because you're not getting the entire thing.

That's like how little kids when they have to like share something, right, they'll like have a temp a tantrum, right if there's like one donut and you're like, hey, you got to share it with your brother, and then they flip the fuck out and they're like, no, I don't even want it then, And in your mind, as an adult, you're like, you know how fucking crazy that sounds that you're willing to not have this at least half of this delicious donut because you're not getting the entire thing.

That's what we do as adults each and every day.

That's what we do as adults each and every day.

By not appreciating the present moment, we sacrifice the joy that we could just because it's not as much joy as we think we're supposed to be getting. It's wild, it's silly, it's childish, but we do it every day. And I think I use that word reconnecting, or I guess if I could say what was the theme of this year was, it was reconnection, reconnection with myself, reconnection with the kid who was striving for something right, the kid who, when he first got into radio, was so fucking grateful and appreciative that he got to open for free at a random radio station event for one of their DJs.

By not appreciating the present moment, we sacrifice the joy that we could just because it's not as much joy as we think we're supposed to be getting. It's wild, it's silly, it's childish, but we do it every day. And I think I use that word reconnecting, or I guess if I could say what was the theme of this year was, it was reconnection, reconnection with myself, reconnection with the kid who was striving for something right, the kid who, when he first got into radio, was so fucking grateful and appreciative that he got to open for free at a random radio station event for one of their DJs.

Like I was on fucking cloud nine.

Like I was on fucking cloud nine.

I felt like I made it, and then I I lost that little by little because I wanted more, wanted more, and when it wasn't more, I then sucked all the fucking joy that I should have felt out of that moment because it wasn't what I wanted it to be.

I felt like I made it, and then I I lost that little by little because I wanted more, wanted more, and when it wasn't more, I then sucked all the fucking joy that I should have felt out of that moment because it wasn't what I wanted it to be.

It wasn't exactly what I wanted it to be.

It wasn't exactly what I wanted it to be.

And I think a lot of us have to take time to sort of reconnect and realize how far we've come, appreciate how far we come, Appreciate that while we may not be where we want to be, appreciate where we are, wherever it is there's.

And I think a lot of us have to take time to sort of reconnect and realize how far we've come, appreciate how far we come, Appreciate that while we may not be where we want to be, appreciate where we are, wherever it is there's.

Something to be found to appreciate, and I think.

Something to be found to appreciate, and I think.

You have to stop and find yourself, you know, at times you have to.

You have to stop and find yourself, you know, at times you have to.

rEFInd yourself.

rEFInd yourself.

I think life is so fucking crazy and oftentimes so fucking stressful that it's easy to just get lost in it all and you're just doing what you got to do to fucking survive, and in doing that, you've become like this fucking zombie who is just a shell of the person they used to be. And that's what leads us down, this sort of spiral of unhappiness and sadness and depression and all that comes along with it, because we've gotten so far away from who we are and what makes us happy, because we've just been fucking surviving and looking forward to the next thing, right, Like, I think of an analogy, like when I was a kid, I was a senior in high school and in the suburbs, everybody had a car. I was the only one that didn't have a car. I was younger, so I got my license later than everybody else. On top of that, I didn't get my first until I was starting college the following year, so I had to borrow my parents' car. So my mom carpooled, so every other day I would have her car, but on those days I didn't have her car, I had to walk home. And as a seventeen year old senior in high school, it's embarrassing to fucking walk home when everybody else is in friends cars or driving their own car. As stupid as it sounds now, it mattered at that time, and I would be so fucking ashamed and embarrassed, and I would go somewhere else mentally to get me through that. It's not gonna had a far walk, which is silly and now I think about it, but I would go somewhere else mentally.

I think life is so fucking crazy and oftentimes so fucking stressful that it's easy to just get lost in it all and you're just doing what you got to do to fucking survive, and in doing that, you've become like this fucking zombie who is just a shell of the person they used to be. And that's what leads us down, this sort of spiral of unhappiness and sadness and depression and all that comes along with it, because we've gotten so far away from who we are and what makes us happy, because we've just been fucking surviving and looking forward to the next thing, right, Like, I think of an analogy, like when I was a kid, I was a senior in high school and in the suburbs, everybody had a car. I was the only one that didn't have a car. I was younger, so I got my license later than everybody else. On top of that, I didn't get my first until I was starting college the following year, so I had to borrow my parents' car. So my mom carpooled, so every other day I would have her car, but on those days I didn't have her car, I had to walk home. And as a seventeen year old senior in high school, it's embarrassing to fucking walk home when everybody else is in friends cars or driving their own car. As stupid as it sounds now, it mattered at that time, and I would be so fucking ashamed and embarrassed, and I would go somewhere else mentally to get me through that. It's not gonna had a far walk, which is silly and now I think about it, but I would go somewhere else mentally.

I would Mentally, I would be.

I would Mentally, I would be.

In my dream car, which at the time was a Chevy Trailblazer, and I was driving home from school in that car or driving around living my best life, and I would be customizing the car in my head, and you know, picking out the songs I'd be listening to.

In my dream car, which at the time was a Chevy Trailblazer, and I was driving home from school in that car or driving around living my best life, and I would be customizing the car in my head, and you know, picking out the songs I'd be listening to.

And that got me through, like blocking.

And that got me through, like blocking.

Out watching who was driving by me in embarrassment. And I think so many of us, myself included, we go through life every day doing a version of that, living somewhere else in our head other than the present moment.

Out watching who was driving by me in embarrassment. And I think so many of us, myself included, we go through life every day doing a version of that, living somewhere else in our head other than the present moment.

Just to get through it.

Just to get through it.

And that is seeing only being, you know, only focusing on the negative. Right, You're only focusing on the fact that moment sucks, and like you're just focusing on every aspect about it that sucks, and every car that drives by, you know, and what they must be thinking about you, and all those things. You're not looking for any positive and as a result, you end up becoming just like the zombie to survive, like I said, and I think you do that enough, you end up losing yourself.

And that is seeing only being, you know, only focusing on the negative. Right, You're only focusing on the fact that moment sucks, and like you're just focusing on every aspect about it that sucks, and every car that drives by, you know, and what they must be thinking about you, and all those things. You're not looking for any positive and as a result, you end up becoming just like the zombie to survive, like I said, and I think you do that enough, you end up losing yourself.

You end up.

You end up.

Getting further and further away from who you are and who you want to be. And that's again why I love this end of the year because as you reflect and you sort of endeafinitely you can help but just think about the year and think about the next one.

Getting further and further away from who you are and who you want to be. And that's again why I love this end of the year because as you reflect and you sort of endeafinitely you can help but just think about the year and think about the next one.

It gives you a moment to sort of.

It gives you a moment to sort of.

Analyze where you are and where you want to be and all that's happened and to just stop and reflect for a second. And with that, I think reflect reconnection can come if you make it a priority. And I think that's sort of what I've done and tried to do, and I think what has sort of given me this optimism going into the new year, and I had optimism going into this year, going twenty twenty four, but it's a different optimism. It's not one of waiting for the next explosive opportunity. It's optimism of being grateful and happy with what I'm currently doing and just looking forward to more of that. And I think that is the shift that I needed to make, and maybe that's why some of the challenges I faced this year needed to happen so that I could sort of tweet that a little bit. And I'll end on that idea of recommitting right that book I mentioned the Genius Owner the idea they talk about recommitting.

Analyze where you are and where you want to be and all that's happened and to just stop and reflect for a second. And with that, I think reflect reconnection can come if you make it a priority. And I think that's sort of what I've done and tried to do, and I think what has sort of given me this optimism going into the new year, and I had optimism going into this year, going twenty twenty four, but it's a different optimism. It's not one of waiting for the next explosive opportunity. It's optimism of being grateful and happy with what I'm currently doing and just looking forward to more of that. And I think that is the shift that I needed to make, and maybe that's why some of the challenges I faced this year needed to happen so that I could sort of tweet that a little bit. And I'll end on that idea of recommitting right that book I mentioned the Genius Owner the idea they talk about recommitting.

Because I think what often.

Because I think what often.

Happens as we go on these journeys, and I think what hardens us and makes us frustrated and.

Happens as we go on these journeys, and I think what hardens us and makes us frustrated and.

Upset is not only the disappointments of.

Upset is not only the disappointments of.

Life from external circumstances, but I think the moments where we fall short of what we know we're capable of. It's like you're on a diet, you're doing really fucking well, and then like you have that one cheat meal that goes way too far and it just opens up Pandora's box of like, well, fuck it, I already ate shitty on Wednesday, I might as well ride this thing out until next week. And then next week comes along and you're kind of you're so far off track at that point because you've just been fucking breaking your diet, like I had, you know, like a no carbs diet, and you had like one dinner bun, you know, you went out to eat, and you're like, fucking don't have one dinner bun next thing. You know, you're just fucking carving it up for the you know, and you're like, you know what, I'll restart. There's no carp thing next week. And oftentimes we've gone too far off the edge here where we're just fucking dinner bump with every meal at that point, right, and uh, and that is why we fail or why we deviate, or why like we fall off track and go so far in the wrong direction until we like it gets so bad. They were like, fuck, man, I'm so far off from my goal and what I wanted.

Life from external circumstances, but I think the moments where we fall short of what we know we're capable of. It's like you're on a diet, you're doing really fucking well, and then like you have that one cheat meal that goes way too far and it just opens up Pandora's box of like, well, fuck it, I already ate shitty on Wednesday, I might as well ride this thing out until next week. And then next week comes along and you're kind of you're so far off track at that point because you've just been fucking breaking your diet, like I had, you know, like a no carbs diet, and you had like one dinner bun, you know, you went out to eat, and you're like, fucking don't have one dinner bun next thing. You know, you're just fucking carving it up for the you know, and you're like, you know what, I'll restart. There's no carp thing next week. And oftentimes we've gone too far off the edge here where we're just fucking dinner bump with every meal at that point, right, and uh, and that is why we fail or why we deviate, or why like we fall off track and go so far in the wrong direction until we like it gets so bad. They were like, fuck, man, I'm so far off from my goal and what I wanted.

And then you're mad at yourself and you're beating yourself up.

And then you're mad at yourself and you're beating yourself up.

Right, maybe you're like had a saving this goal and you got tempted and you bought something on eBay, you know, hypothetical. Of course I'm not talking about myself or anything. And at that point you're like, fuck it, you know, I might as well. I could do a couple more things. And then all of a sudden you're like, dude, I I can't believe the money I had set aside for this. I just blew it on some random shit. And then it's like, fuck now I have to start all over again. And you're mad at yourself and you're beating yourself up and you're angry. And in this book they talk about the idea of like when you slide, you first of all, can't beat yourself up over it, because oftentimes it makes you backslide. Even even further, understand that that is human. You're going to inevitably, at some point unfortunately deviate from the path at hand. But the ability to achieve that goal and to not downward spiral is to accept the fact that you slipped up, but then recommit to your intended goal in that moment.

Right, maybe you're like had a saving this goal and you got tempted and you bought something on eBay, you know, hypothetical. Of course I'm not talking about myself or anything. And at that point you're like, fuck it, you know, I might as well. I could do a couple more things. And then all of a sudden you're like, dude, I I can't believe the money I had set aside for this. I just blew it on some random shit. And then it's like, fuck now I have to start all over again. And you're mad at yourself and you're beating yourself up and you're angry. And in this book they talk about the idea of like when you slide, you first of all, can't beat yourself up over it, because oftentimes it makes you backslide. Even even further, understand that that is human. You're going to inevitably, at some point unfortunately deviate from the path at hand. But the ability to achieve that goal and to not downward spiral is to accept the fact that you slipped up, but then recommit to your intended goal in that moment.

Right, So, I've had this goal.

Right, So, I've had this goal.

I'm trying not to eat out as much like Uber eats, and I think about how much money I spend on one meal unnecessarily because of fees and everything. I'm like, I'm paying you know, You're into paying fucking twenty dollars for a chipot Lebourrita that costs what ten bucks or something like that, and it's like, dude, I'm paying double the money because I'm a being too lazy to leave my house and b I'm not cooking the food that's been sitting in my fridge and freezer.

I'm trying not to eat out as much like Uber eats, and I think about how much money I spend on one meal unnecessarily because of fees and everything. I'm like, I'm paying you know, You're into paying fucking twenty dollars for a chipot Lebourrita that costs what ten bucks or something like that, and it's like, dude, I'm paying double the money because I'm a being too lazy to leave my house and b I'm not cooking the food that's been sitting in my fridge and freezer.

So my goal is like, all right, chill out with that.

So my goal is like, all right, chill out with that.

And there have been times where it's like, oh, I'm especially this last week, I like time got away from me and I.

And there have been times where it's like, oh, I'm especially this last week, I like time got away from me and I.

Was like, I don't have time to cook. I gotta get get it out of the house.

Was like, I don't have time to cook. I gotta get get it out of the house.

Like if I spend a half an hour cooking a meal, then I'm not gonna have time to like prep for my DJ gig. So I end up like fuck and I'm gonna uber eat something because I have to eat whatever. But I realign with the goal in mind. The next day, I end up like, all right, fuck it. Yesterday I broke my rule. I'm planning a further ahead today where I'm going to now in the morning create a bit more structure so that I do have time to cook a meal before I have to leave the house.

Like if I spend a half an hour cooking a meal, then I'm not gonna have time to like prep for my DJ gig. So I end up like fuck and I'm gonna uber eat something because I have to eat whatever. But I realign with the goal in mind. The next day, I end up like, all right, fuck it. Yesterday I broke my rule. I'm planning a further ahead today where I'm going to now in the morning create a bit more structure so that I do have time to cook a meal before I have to leave the house.

Right.

Right.

That's me recommitting to that goal. I'm not beating the shit out of myself. I'm not making myself feel bad. I'm also not going on a downwards buyo where I just say fuck it, we're gonna make it rain and uber eats. I was saying, Okay, I fell short a little bit here, but that's where it ends. I'm recommitting to what I want.

That's me recommitting to that goal. I'm not beating the shit out of myself. I'm not making myself feel bad. I'm also not going on a downwards buyo where I just say fuck it, we're gonna make it rain and uber eats. I was saying, Okay, I fell short a little bit here, but that's where it ends. I'm recommitting to what I want.

And I think that is a beautiful.

And I think that is a beautiful.

I think takeaway that I had that I'm going to carry into twenty twenty five that life isn't about being perfect at your intended goal. It's about taking note in the moments that you slip up and recommitting to that goal. Like goal, achieving a goal isn't about being perfect. It's a series of recommitments of the second. It's like it's like driving a car. I think the book that uses example. You know you're driving a car. It's not just like ten and two arms straight. The entire time. You're like adjusting the wheel to stay on the road right.

I think takeaway that I had that I'm going to carry into twenty twenty five that life isn't about being perfect at your intended goal. It's about taking note in the moments that you slip up and recommitting to that goal. Like goal, achieving a goal isn't about being perfect. It's a series of recommitments of the second. It's like it's like driving a car. I think the book that uses example. You know you're driving a car. It's not just like ten and two arms straight. The entire time. You're like adjusting the wheel to stay on the road right.

The road curves.

The road curves.