What happens when a young mother finds a lump and is told it's nothing to worry about?

Trish Hayes was 36, had just finished breastfeeding, and kept hearing she was too young for breast cancer. She'll talk about:
How she trusted her intuition and kept asking questions
What it was like getting multiple opinions before treatment
Why advocating for yourself is so important, no matter your age

Support The Rose HERE.

Subscribe to Let’s Talk About Your Breasts on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart, and wherever you get your podcasts.

Key Questions Answered
What led to Trish Hayes’s breast cancer diagnosis?
How was Trish’s lump initially handled by medical professionals?
What motivated Trish to persist in seeking medical answers?
How long did it take for Trish to receive a breast cancer diagnosis?
What type and stage of breast cancer was Trish diagnosed with?
How did Trish choose her oncologist and treatment plan?
What advice does Trish give about advocating for your health?
How did access to care and insurance affect Trish’s experience versus others?
What has Trish’s involvement in breast cancer advocacy and volunteering looked like?
How did Trish balance her roles as a survivor, mother, and volunteer?
What role did intuition play in Trish’s diagnosis and survival?

Timestamped Overview

00:00 Joy School Board Experience Summary

03:32 Canadian to US: Career Journey

07:20 Unseen Threat: A Growing Lump

10:49 Breast Cancer Diagnosis Journey

14:15 Triple Negative Cancer Diagnosis

18:42 "Life's Path After Cancer"

19:36 Breast Cancer Fundraiser Sparks Community Connection

24:52 Advancements and Gaps in Women's Health

26:44 "Trust Intuition in Healthcare"

What happens when a young mother finds a lump and is told it's nothing to worry about?
Trish Hayes was 36, had just finished breastfeeding, and kept hearing she was too young for breast cancer. She'll talk about:
<ul>
<li>How she trusted her intuition and kept asking questions</li>
<li>What it was like getting multiple opinions before treatment</li>
<li>Why advocating for yourself is so important, no matter your age</li>
</ul>
Support The Rose <a href="https://secure.therose.org/site/Donation2;jsessionid=00000000.app30118a?df_id=1480&amp;mfc_pref=T&amp;1480.donation=form1&amp;NONCE_TOKEN=6FEB2388BD63E0937C3FD34555AF1B9F">HERE</a>.
Subscribe to Let&rsquo;s Talk About Your Breasts on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-talk-about-your-breasts/id1666101320">Apple Podcasts</a>, <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/6o9cXAie2Mfqhq6tQWrClj">Spotify</a>, <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1300-lets-talk-about-your-brea-107408811/">iHeart</a>, and wherever you get <a href="https://therose.org/podcasts/">your podcasts</a>.
Key Questions Answered
<ul>
<li>What led to Trish Hayes&rsquo;s breast cancer diagnosis?</li>
<li>How was Trish&rsquo;s lump initially handled by medical professionals?</li>
<li>What motivated Trish to persist in seeking medical answers?</li>
<li>How long did it take for Trish to receive a breast cancer diagnosis?</li>
<li>What type and stage of breast cancer was Trish diagnosed with?</li>
<li>How did Trish choose her oncologist and treatment plan?</li>
<li>What advice does Trish give about advocating for your health?</li>
<li>How did access to care and insurance affect Trish&rsquo;s experience versus others?</li>
<li>What has Trish&rsquo;s involvement in breast cancer advocacy and volunteering looked like?</li>
<li>How did Trish balance her roles as a survivor, mother, and volunteer?</li>
<li>What role did intuition play in Trish&rsquo;s diagnosis and survival?</li>
</ul>
Timestamped Overview
00:00 Joy School Board Experience Summary
03:32 Canadian to US: Career Journey
07:20 Unseen Threat: A Growing Lump
10:49 Breast Cancer Diagnosis Journey
14:15 Triple Negative Cancer Diagnosis
18:42 "Life's Path After Cancer"
19:36 Breast Cancer Fundraiser Sparks Community Connection
24:52 Advancements and Gaps in Women's Health
26:44 "Trust Intuition in Healthcare"

The Rose Breast Center of Excellence presents Let's Talk About Your Breasts with Dorothy Gibbons.

Each week, Dorothy hosts candid conversations with an array of people in the breast cancer community. From doctors and employees to donors and individuals who influence policy, you'll learn all there is to know about the disease which impacts so many women in our community.

The Rose Breast Center of Excellence presents Let's Talk About Your Breasts with Dorothy Gibbons.
Each week, Dorothy hosts candid conversations with an array of people in the breast cancer community. From doctors and employees to donors and individuals who influence policy, you'll learn all there is to know about the disease which impacts so many women in our community.

Let's Talk About Your Breasts

The Rose Breast Center of Excellence presents Let's Talk About Your Breasts with Dorothy Gibbons.


Each week, Dorothy hosts candid conversations with an array of people in the breast cancer community. From doctors and employees to donors and individuals who influence policy, you'll learn all there is to know about the disease which impacts so many women in our community.

The Rose Breast Center of Excellence presents Let's Talk About Your Breasts with Dorothy Gibbons.
 Each week, Dorothy hosts candid conversations with an array of people in the breast cancer community. From doctors and employees to donors and individuals who influence policy, you'll learn all there is to know about the disease which impacts so many women in our community.

Not Too Young: Shattering Stereotypes in Breast Cancer Diagnosis

Samina Farid built her career in oil and gas, founded her own company, and forged ahead in spaces where women are rarely seen. Through it all, she faced cancer twice and found strength that reshaped both her health and her work.

- Breaking barriers as the only woman in the room

- Building success in a male-dominated industry

- Facing cancer two times and turning challenges into purpose

Support The Rose HERE.

Subscribe to Let’s Talk About Your Breasts on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart, and wherever you get your podcasts.

Key Questions Answered

1. How did Samina Farid cope with the challenges of being the only woman in a male-dominated field?

2. How did Samina come to start her own company, and what inspired its mission?

3. What was unique about Merrick Systems, and how did it contribute to the industry?

4. Why did Samina decide to sell her company, and what was that process like?

5.What steps did Samina take after her cancer diagnosis?

6. What did Samina learn about her genetic risk for cancer?

7. How did journaling and self-care practices help Samina during her cancer journey?

8. What message does Samina want to share with other women about health and self-care?

Timestamped Overview

00:00 Discovery of Remarkable Women

04:12 Pre-Internet Oil Data Challenges

08:20 Grateful for Mentorship Journey

11:27 "Turbulent Life Changes"

15:44 Cancer Journey and Support

21:23 "Facing Cancer's Uncertainty"

24:12 Genetic Mutation: Cancer Risk Alert

25:44 Pancreatic Tumor and Whipple Surgery

28:49 Prioritize Health: Just Do It

Samina Farid built her career in oil and gas, founded her own company, and forged ahead in spaces where women are rarely seen. Through it all, she faced cancer twice and found strength that reshaped both her health and her work.
- Breaking barriers as the only woman in the room
- Building success in a male-dominated industry
- Facing cancer two times and turning challenges into purpose
Support The Rose <a href="https://secure.therose.org/site/Donation2;jsessionid=00000000.app30118a?df_id=1480&amp;mfc_pref=T&amp;1480.donation=form1&amp;NONCE_TOKEN=6FEB2388BD63E0937C3FD34555AF1B9F">HERE</a>.
Subscribe to Let&rsquo;s Talk About Your Breasts on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-talk-about-your-breasts/id1666101320">Apple Podcasts</a>, <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/6o9cXAie2Mfqhq6tQWrClj">Spotify</a>, <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1300-lets-talk-about-your-brea-107408811/">iHeart</a>, and wherever you get <a href="https://therose.org/podcasts/">your podcasts</a>.
Key Questions Answered
1. How did Samina Farid cope with the challenges of being the only woman in a male-dominated field?
2. How did Samina come to start her own company, and what inspired its mission?
3. What was unique about Merrick Systems, and how did it contribute to the industry?
4. Why did Samina decide to sell her company, and what was that process like?
5.What steps did Samina take after her cancer diagnosis?
6. What did Samina learn about her genetic risk for cancer?
7. How did journaling and self-care practices help Samina during her cancer journey?
8. What message does Samina want to share with other women about health and self-care?
Timestamped Overview
00:00 Discovery of Remarkable Women
04:12 Pre-Internet Oil Data Challenges
08:20 Grateful for Mentorship Journey
11:27 "Turbulent Life Changes"
15:44 Cancer Journey and Support
21:23 "Facing Cancer's Uncertainty"
24:12 Genetic Mutation: Cancer Risk Alert
25:44 Pancreatic Tumor and Whipple Surgery
28:49 Prioritize Health: Just Do It

Boardrooms, Biopsies & Breakthroughs: The Unstoppable Samina Farid

Dr. Melillo and Dorothy Gibbons started The Rose because they were tired of telling women, “You have cancer, and there’s nowhere for you to go.” 

Forty years later, they're still in that same fight. In this conversation, Dr. Melillo walks us from those early days of oil‑bust Houston and charity‑hospital waiting lists to today’s harsh reality: we can diagnose, but for too many uninsured and underinsured women, we can’t get them into treatment.

She shares her newest dream: a St. Jude‑style breast health hospital where women receive world‑class care, prevention, and real compassion without ever seeing a bill.

In this episode, we talk about:

- How The Rose began in the mid‑1980s with young mothers showing up with massive, advanced breast cancers and no insurance—and why diagnosis alone was never enough.

- The current crisis: Medicaid rules, closed charity programs, and women forced to move counties, divorce, or give up work just to qualify for treatment.

- Dr. Dixie’s vision for a no‑bill breast hospital that puts women first, teaches prevention and nutrition, supports child care, and treats every patient like a whole person, not a billing code.

If this episode made you think of someone you love, share it with your family and friends—and if you’re able, consider making a donation at therose.org so another woman can get the mammogram and follow‑up care she needs, not just a diagnosis.

Please consider sharing this episode, or making a donation at therose.org so more women receive breast cancer screening and care.

Subscribe to Let’s Talk About Your Breasts on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart, and wherever you get your podcasts.

Key questions answered
What heartbreaking cases in the early 1980s pushed Dixie and Dorothy to create The Rose in the first place?
Why wasn’t sending uninsured women to “charity” hospitals a real solution, even when diagnosis was available?
How has today’s landscape of Medicaid rules, insurance criteria, and overburdened systems brought them back to a 1983‑style crisis?
What does it feel like for a physician to diagnose cancer and have no clear path to treatment for a woman who could be cured?
How do poverty guidelines, citizenship requirements, work‑history rules, and even marital status block women from life‑saving care?
Why are more women being diagnosed younger—and what happens when they must choose between a paycheck, child care, and treatment?
What exactly is Dr. Dixie’s dream breast health hospital, and how would it function differently from traditional systems?
How would this hospital center prevention, nutrition, and metabolic health alongside surgery, chemo, and radiation?
Why do Dixie and Dorothy believe access to treatment should not depend on money, insurance, or ZIP code—and why do they say this dream is urgent, not optional?
What kind of help—visionaries, donors, partners—are they hoping will step forward after hearing this conversation?

Timestamped overview

03:30 Setting up the conversation; Dorothy reflects on cold opens and frames the core question: what if you were told you had cancer and had nowhere to go? Introduction of Dr. Dixie Melillo and the early 1980s context.

07:30 Dixie’s start as one of the only women surgeons, being funneled all the breast lumps, the lack of mammography access, and the string of uninsured women with advanced cancers—including the 32‑year‑old mother whose case broke them both. Formation of The Rose, creating a nonprofit, and realizing they had to build their own center instead of just raising money for others.

10:30 Early fundraising, fashion shows, awareness campaigns, and years when partnerships and charity programs allowed The Rose to diagnose and connect women to treatment reasonably well.

14:30 Fast‑forward to today: hospitals dropping certain Medicaid plans, strict income and citizenship rules, women being over the line by a hundred dollars, and some moving counties or divorcing just to qualify. Dixie compares the current situation to being back in 1983: able to diagnose, unable to offer treatment.

18:30 The emotional and moral toll: telling curable women there’s no path forward, the sin of watching a tumor grow because of paperwork and policy, and concrete examples of women blocked by work‑history or documentation rules. The heavy burden on patient navigators trying to work around 40‑page applications and shrinking charity options.

23:30 Dr. Dixie’s dream: a dedicated breast health hospital modeled on St. Jude—no bills for those who can’t pay, robust prevention and nutrition education, and care that treats women as whole people. Discussion of sugar, metabolic health, and how current standard practices often ignore prevention.

28:00 Vision for the campus: a sizable site, on‑site child care for staff and potentially patients, a welcoming intake process where patients are met by a person—not a distant front desk—and care teams who know their stories, griefs, and lives beyond the diagnosis.

32:00 Calling out systemic injustice: women forced to choose food over copays, cancers that don’t hurt until too late, and the difference between insured women who assume they’ll survive and uninsured women who wonder how they’ll pay. Dixie and Dorothy argue that access to breast cancer treatment should be a right, not a luxury.

35:21 Dixie’s conviction that now is the time; her faith that God will send the people and resources. Final appeal for kindness, compassion, and for listeners to help make this “St. Jude for breast cancer” a reality.

Dr. Melillo and Dorothy Gibbons started The Rose because they were tired of telling women, &ldquo;You have cancer, and there&rsquo;s nowhere for you to go.&rdquo;&nbsp;
Forty years later, they're still in that same fight. In this conversation, Dr. Melillo walks us from those early days of oil‑bust Houston and charity‑hospital waiting lists to today&rsquo;s harsh reality: we can diagnose, but for too many uninsured and underinsured women, we can&rsquo;t get them into treatment.
She shares her newest dream: a St. Jude‑style breast health hospital where women receive world‑class care, prevention, and real compassion without ever seeing a bill.
In this episode, we talk about:
- How The Rose began in the mid‑1980s with young mothers showing up with massive, advanced breast cancers and no insurance&mdash;and why diagnosis alone was never enough.
- The current crisis: Medicaid rules, closed charity programs, and women forced to move counties, divorce, or give up work just to qualify for treatment.
- Dr. Dixie&rsquo;s vision for a no‑bill breast hospital that puts women first, teaches prevention and nutrition, supports child care, and treats every patient like a whole person, not a billing code.
If this episode made you think of someone you love, share it with your family and friends&mdash;and if you&rsquo;re able, consider making a donation at therose.org so another woman can get the mammogram and follow‑up care she needs, not just a diagnosis.
Please consider sharing this episode, or making a donation at <a href="http://therose.org/">therose.org</a> so more women receive breast cancer screening and care.
Subscribe to Let&rsquo;s Talk About Your Breasts on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-talk-about-your-breasts/id1666101320">Apple Podcasts</a>, <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/6o9cXAie2Mfqhq6tQWrClj">Spotify</a>, <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1300-lets-talk-about-your-brea-107408811/">iHeart</a>, and wherever you get <a href="https://therose.org/podcasts/">your podcasts</a>.
Key questions answered
<ol>
<li>What heartbreaking cases in the early 1980s pushed Dixie and Dorothy to create The Rose in the first place?</li>
<li>Why wasn&rsquo;t sending uninsured women to &ldquo;charity&rdquo; hospitals a real solution, even when diagnosis was available?</li>
<li>How has today&rsquo;s landscape of Medicaid rules, insurance criteria, and overburdened systems brought them back to a 1983‑style crisis?</li>
<li>What does it feel like for a physician to diagnose cancer and have no clear path to treatment for a woman who could be cured?</li>
<li>How do poverty guidelines, citizenship requirements, work‑history rules, and even marital status block women from life‑saving care?</li>
<li>Why are more women being diagnosed younger&mdash;and what happens when they must choose between a paycheck, child care, and treatment?</li>
<li>What exactly is Dr. Dixie&rsquo;s dream breast health hospital, and how would it function differently from traditional systems?</li>
<li>How would this hospital center prevention, nutrition, and metabolic health alongside surgery, chemo, and radiation?</li>
<li>Why do Dixie and Dorothy believe access to treatment should not depend on money, insurance, or ZIP code&mdash;and why do they say this dream is urgent, not optional?</li>
<li>What kind of help&mdash;visionaries, donors, partners&mdash;are they hoping will step forward after hearing this conversation?</li>
</ol>
Timestamped overview
03:30 Setting up the conversation; Dorothy reflects on cold opens and frames the core question: what if you were told you had cancer and had nowhere to go? Introduction of Dr. Dixie Melillo and the early 1980s context.
07:30 Dixie&rsquo;s start as one of the only women surgeons, being funneled all the breast lumps, the lack of mammography access, and the string of uninsured women with advanced cancers&mdash;including the 32‑year‑old mother whose case broke them both. Formation of The Rose, creating a nonprofit, and realizing they had to build their own center instead of just raising money for others.
10:30 Early fundraising, fashion shows, awareness campaigns, and years when partnerships and charity programs allowed The Rose to diagnose and connect women to treatment reasonably well.
14:30 Fast‑forward to today: hospitals dropping certain Medicaid plans, strict income and citizenship rules, women being over the line by a hundred dollars, and some moving counties or divorcing just to qualify. Dixie compares the current situation to being back in 1983: able to diagnose, unable to offer treatment.
18:30 The emotional and moral toll: telling curable women there&rsquo;s no path forward, the sin of watching a tumor grow because of paperwork and policy, and concrete examples of women blocked by work‑history or documentation rules. The heavy burden on patient navigators trying to work around 40‑page applications and shrinking charity options.
23:30 Dr. Dixie&rsquo;s dream: a dedicated breast health hospital modeled on St. Jude&mdash;no bills for those who can&rsquo;t pay, robust prevention and nutrition education, and care that treats women as whole people. Discussion of sugar, metabolic health, and how current standard practices often ignore prevention.
28:00 Vision for the campus: a sizable site, on‑site child care for staff and potentially patients, a welcoming intake process where patients are met by a person&mdash;not a distant front desk&mdash;and care teams who know their stories, griefs, and lives beyond the diagnosis.
32:00 Calling out systemic injustice: women forced to choose food over copays, cancers that don&rsquo;t hurt until too late, and the difference between insured women who assume they&rsquo;ll survive and uninsured women who wonder how they&rsquo;ll pay. Dixie and Dorothy argue that access to breast cancer treatment should be a right, not a luxury.
35:21 Dixie&rsquo;s conviction that now is the time; her faith that God will send the people and resources. Final appeal for kindness, compassion, and for listeners to help make this &ldquo;St. Jude for breast cancer&rdquo; a reality.

The St. Jude of Breast Cancer: Dr. Dixie’s Dream for Women with Nowhere to Go

Support comes to life at the "Everything’s Coming Up Roses Luncheon," where advocates, survivors, board members, and friends stand shoulder to shoulder for women’s health in the community.

In this episode:

- Hear from an emcee who connects with women over shared experiences

- Meet board members who bring The Rose’s mission to new supporters

- Listen to how others are making community care a priority

Support The Rose HERE.

Subscribe to Let’s Talk About Your Breasts on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart, and wherever you get your podcasts.

Key Questions Answered

1. Why is supporting The Rose important?

2. How do insured patients help support The Rose’s mission?

3. What personal experiences deepen board members’ involvement with The Rose?

4. How do board members help promote and connect people to The Rose?

5. How does The Rose impact the local Houston community?

6. What role do banks and businesses play in supporting The Rose?

7. How can people support or get involved with The Rose?

 

Support comes to life at the "Everything&rsquo;s Coming Up Roses Luncheon," where advocates, survivors, board members, and friends stand shoulder to shoulder for women&rsquo;s health in the community.
In this episode:
- Hear from an emcee who connects with women over shared experiences
- Meet board members who bring The Rose&rsquo;s mission to new supporters
- Listen to how others are making community care a priority
Support The Rose <a href="https://secure.therose.org/site/Donation2;jsessionid=00000000.app30118a?df_id=1480&amp;mfc_pref=T&amp;1480.donation=form1&amp;NONCE_TOKEN=6FEB2388BD63E0937C3FD34555AF1B9F">HERE</a>.
Subscribe to Let&rsquo;s Talk About Your Breasts on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-talk-about-your-breasts/id1666101320">Apple Podcasts</a>, <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/6o9cXAie2Mfqhq6tQWrClj">Spotify</a>, <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1300-lets-talk-about-your-brea-107408811/">iHeart</a>, and wherever you get <a href="https://therose.org/podcasts/">your podcasts</a>.
Key Questions Answered
1. Why is supporting The Rose important?
2. How do insured patients help support The Rose&rsquo;s mission?
3. What personal experiences deepen board members&rsquo; involvement with The Rose?
4. How do board members help promote and connect people to The Rose?
5. How does The Rose impact the local Houston community?
6. What role do banks and businesses play in supporting The Rose?
7. How can people support or get involved with The Rose?
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