What is staying quiet costing you?

Self-advocacy is often associated with asking for a pay rise, negotiating a promotion or learning to be more assertive. But it goes much deeper than that.

Self-advocacy is your willingness to participate in the decisions that shape your health, career, relationships, business and future.

In this episode of Leading You, I explore why self-advocacy is an essential, yet often overlooked, leadership skill and why staying silent is rarely neutral.

Every time we choose not to ask the question, seek clarification, challenge an assumption, contribute our perspective or communicate what we really want, we are still making a decision. And sometimes the cost of that decision is far greater than the discomfort of speaking up.

I share how my understanding of self-advocacy changed following my diagnosis with stage three melanoma. I was surrounded by highly experienced specialists who understood cancer, but I came to realise something incredibly important: they knew cancer, but I knew myself. Both forms of knowledge mattered.

That lesson reaches far beyond our health.

How often do we conform because we don't want to create tension? Hope our hard work will eventually be noticed instead of communicating where we want to go? Advocate fiercely for our teams, clients, families and friends while accepting less for ourselves?

And how often do we confuse being kind with being compliant?

Self-advocacy isn't about dominating conversations, demanding your own way or becoming confrontational. Sometimes it starts with something much simpler: a thoughtful question.

In this episode, I explore:
Why silence is a decision, rather than a neutral position
What my cancer experience taught me about questioning, clarification and trusting yourself
Why self-advocacy begins before you ever speak
The career cost of waiting for someone else to notice you
Why your work can demonstrate your capability but can't communicate your ambition
How conformity can stop us contributing perspectives that matter
Why kindness, respect and collaboration don't require constant agreement
Why we often advocate more strongly for others than ourselves
How thoughtful questions can create clarity without creating unnecessary confrontation
A simple place to begin if speaking up doesn't come naturally

Your voice, perspective and needs deserve a place in the decisions that affect your life.

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome to Leading You
00:37 Why Self-Advocacy Matters
01:33 The Melanoma Wake-Up Call
03:48 Self-Advocacy Starts With Believing Your Needs Matter
05:13 Lead.Her Collective Invitation
06:07 Conformity, Silence and Speaking Up
07:05 Stop Waiting to Be Chosen
08:18 Why We Advocate for Others, But Not Ourselves
09:26 Kindness Is Not Compliance
10:20 The Power of Asking Better Questions
11:00 Where Is Staying Quiet Costing You?
12:37 Thanks and Reviews

 

Links:
Learn more about my group coaching program here
Get the Clarity Compass here
Join our Lead.Her Collective Dinner. Find out more and register here


 

Connect with Julie:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/
Instagram:@juliehydeleads
Website: https://juliehyde.com.au

What is staying quiet costing you?
Self-advocacy is often associated with asking for a pay rise, negotiating a promotion or learning to be more assertive. But it goes much deeper than that.
Self-advocacy is your willingness to participate in the decisions that shape your health, career, relationships, business and future.
In this episode of&nbsp;Leading You, I explore why self-advocacy is an essential, yet often overlooked, leadership skill and why staying silent is rarely neutral.
Every time we choose not to ask the question, seek clarification, challenge an assumption, contribute our perspective or communicate what we really want, we are still making a decision. And sometimes the cost of that decision is far greater than the discomfort of speaking up.
I share how my understanding of self-advocacy changed following my diagnosis with stage three melanoma. I was surrounded by highly experienced specialists who understood cancer, but I came to realise something incredibly important:&nbsp;they knew cancer, but I knew myself. Both forms of knowledge mattered.
That lesson reaches far beyond our health.
How often do we conform because we don't want to create tension? Hope our hard work will eventually be noticed instead of communicating where we want to go? Advocate fiercely for our teams, clients, families and friends while accepting less for ourselves?
And how often do we confuse being kind with being compliant?
Self-advocacy isn't about dominating conversations, demanding your own way or becoming confrontational. Sometimes it starts with something much simpler: a thoughtful question.
In this episode, I explore:
<ul>
<li>Why silence is a decision, rather than a neutral position</li>
<li>What my cancer experience taught me about questioning, clarification and trusting yourself</li>
<li>Why self-advocacy begins before you ever speak</li>
<li>The career cost of waiting for someone else to notice you</li>
<li>Why your work can demonstrate your capability but can't communicate your ambition</li>
<li>How conformity can stop us contributing perspectives that matter</li>
<li>Why kindness, respect and collaboration don't require constant agreement</li>
<li>Why we often advocate more strongly for others than ourselves</li>
<li>How thoughtful questions can create clarity without creating unnecessary confrontation</li>
<li>A simple place to begin if speaking up doesn't come naturally</li>
</ul>
Your voice, perspective and needs deserve a place in the decisions that affect your life.
Timestamps
00:00 Welcome to Leading You 00:37 Why Self-Advocacy Matters 01:33 The Melanoma Wake-Up Call 03:48 Self-Advocacy Starts With Believing Your Needs Matter 05:13 Lead.Her Collective Invitation 06:07 Conformity, Silence and Speaking Up 07:05 Stop Waiting to Be Chosen 08:18 Why We Advocate for Others, But Not Ourselves 09:26 Kindness Is Not Compliance 10:20 The Power of Asking Better Questions 11:00 Where Is Staying Quiet Costing You? 12:37 Thanks and Reviews
&nbsp;
Links: Learn more about my group coaching program&nbsp;<a href="https://juliehyde.com.au/leadher-mastermind" data-href="https://juliehyde.com.au/leadher-mastermind">here</a> Get the Clarity Compass&nbsp;<a href="https://programs.juliehyde.com.au/programs/claritycompass/" data-href="https://programs.juliehyde.com.au/programs/claritycompass/">here</a> Join our Lead.Her Collective Dinner. Find out more and register <a href="https://juliehyde.com.au/leadher">here</a> 
&nbsp;
Connect with Julie:
LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/" data-href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/</a> Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/juliehydeleads/" data-href="https://www.instagram.com/juliehydeleads/"> @juliehydeleads</a> Website: <a href="https://juliehyde.com.au">https://juliehyde.com.au</a>

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Want to know the secret to confident and successful leadership?
Every week, Leading You showcases leadership of all kinds and you get the scoop on how to be an effective, modern leader who makes an impact.
There’s one thing we all have in common. We’re all leaders. First and foremost, you’re a leader of you. You don’t need a title to be a leader. Leadership is a mindset which anyone can adopt to create influence. The more leaders the world has, the better it will be.
I'll let you into something I know to be true - You can’t be a leader of others unless you’re a leader of self first. So if you want to have impact that leads to prosperity and happiness, it all starts with you. With your mindset and personal leadership toolbox, which Leading You will help you build up.
Leading you is hosted by Julie Hyde, an entrepreneur, corporate drop out and passionate leader. Julie knows one thing: you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond. It’s why Leading You is important.
Each week, guests share their secret sauce. They reveal their roadmaps to success. How they’ve stayed anchored to who they are, insights into their courage and resilience and how to be emotionally and behaviourally agile. It’s a conversation, not an interrogation, and you’ll hear the human side of household names.

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Want to know the secret to confident and successful leadership?
Every week, Leading You showcases leadership of all kinds and you get the scoop on how to be an effective, modern leader who makes an impact.
There’s one thing we all have in common. We’re all leaders. First and foremost, you’re a leader of you. You don’t need a title to be a leader. Leadership is a mindset which anyone can adopt to create influence. The more leaders the world has, the better it will be.
I'll let you into something I know to be true - You can’t be a leader of others unless you’re a leader of self first. So if you want to have impact that leads to prosperity and happiness, it all starts with you. With your mindset and personal leadership toolbox, which Leading You will help you build up.
Leading you is hosted by Julie Hyde, an entrepreneur, corporate drop out and passionate leader. Julie knows one thing: you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond. It’s why Leading You is important.
Each week, guests share their secret sauce. They reveal their roadmaps to success. How they’ve stayed anchored to who they are, insights into their courage and resilience and how to be emotionally and behaviourally agile. It’s a conversation, not an interrogation, and you’ll hear the human side of household names.