What if conflict isn’t a sign that something has gone wrong?

Most of us would rather avoid difficult conversations if we can. We hold things back, try to keep the peace or, at the other extreme, become defensive and determined to prove our point.

But healthy conflict is an essential part of leadership, relationships and innovation.

My guest on this episode of Leading You is award-winning author and founder Tim Duggan, whose latest book, Clear Intention: How to Get Better at Conflict, explores how we can become more skilful at navigating something every one of us experiences.

Tim shares his CLEAR framework: Clarify, Listen, Explore, Align and Reset, and we explore why preparing for difficult conversations, understanding our own responses and learning to listen generously can completely change the way we handle conflict.

In this episode, we discuss:
Why so many of us instinctively avoid conflict
Tim’s CLEAR framework for navigating difficult conversations
How preparing for conflict can change the way we respond
What emotional hijacking looks like and why awareness matters
The relationship between trust, healthy tension and innovation
Why generous listening is such a powerful leadership skill
Why not every conflict needs to be resolved

Strong teams aren’t necessarily conflict-free. When trust exists, people can challenge ideas, disagree and have robust conversations without making it personal.

The question isn’t whether conflict exists. It’s how we handle it when it does.

Timestamps

00:00 Why Conflict Matters
00:42 Meet Tim Duggan
02:16 Why He Wrote Clear Intention
04:38 From Avoider to Seeker
05:58 The CLEAR Framework
08:02 Clarify and Prepare
09:55 Event Invitation Break
10:51 Emotional Hijacking Explained
14:35 Healthy Conflict and Trust
18:52 Listen Generously
21:36 Surrender to Listen
24:51 Reset the Story Endings
26:57 First Step for Avoiders
29:13 Wrap Up and Review

 

Links:

Learn more about my group coaching programhere
Join the Lead.Her Collective Dinner on 28th October. Reserve your seat here
Get the Clarity Compasshere

 

Connect with Julie:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/
Instagram:@juliehydeleads
Website: https://juliehyde.com.au

 

Connect with Tim:
Website:https://timduggan.com.au/
LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/timduggan1/
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tim_duggan/

What if conflict isn&rsquo;t a sign that something has gone wrong?
Most of us would rather avoid difficult conversations if we can. We hold things back, try to keep the peace or, at the other extreme, become defensive and determined to prove our point.
But healthy conflict is an essential part of leadership, relationships and innovation.
My guest on this episode of Leading You is award-winning author and founder Tim Duggan, whose latest book, Clear Intention: How to Get Better at Conflict, explores how we can become more skilful at navigating something every one of us experiences.
Tim shares his CLEAR framework: Clarify, Listen, Explore, Align and Reset, and we explore why preparing for difficult conversations, understanding our own responses and learning to listen generously can completely change the way we handle conflict.
In this episode, we discuss:
<ul>
<li>Why so many of us instinctively avoid conflict</li>
<li>Tim&rsquo;s CLEAR framework for navigating difficult conversations</li>
<li>How preparing for conflict can change the way we respond</li>
<li>What emotional hijacking looks like and why awareness matters</li>
<li>The relationship between trust, healthy tension and innovation</li>
<li>Why generous listening is such a powerful leadership skill</li>
<li>Why not every conflict needs to be resolved</li>
</ul>
Strong teams aren&rsquo;t necessarily conflict-free. When trust exists, people can challenge ideas, disagree and have robust conversations without making it personal.
The question isn&rsquo;t whether conflict exists. It&rsquo;s how we handle it when it does.
Timestamps
00:00 Why Conflict Matters 00:42 Meet Tim Duggan 02:16 Why He Wrote Clear Intention 04:38 From Avoider to Seeker 05:58 The CLEAR Framework 08:02 Clarify and Prepare 09:55 Event Invitation Break 10:51 Emotional Hijacking Explained 14:35 Healthy Conflict and Trust 18:52 Listen Generously 21:36 Surrender to Listen 24:51 Reset the Story Endings 26:57 First Step for Avoiders 29:13 Wrap Up and Review
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Links:
Learn more about my group coaching program <a href="https://juliehyde.com.au/leadher-mastermind">here</a> Join the Lead.Her Collective Dinner on 28th October. Reserve your seat <a href="https://juliehyde.com.au/leadher">here</a> Get the Clarity Compass <a href="https://programs.juliehyde.com.au/programs/claritycompass/">here</a>
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Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/</a> Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/juliehydeleads/"> @juliehydeleads</a> Website: <a href="https://juliehyde.com.au">https://juliehyde.com.au</a>
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Connect with Tim: Website: <a href="https://timduggan.com.au/">https://timduggan.com.au/</a> LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/timduggan1/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/timduggan1/</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/tim_duggan/">https://www.instagram.com/tim_duggan/</a>

Want to know the secret to confident and successful leadership?

Every week, Leading You showcases leadership of all kinds and you get the scoop on how to be an effective, modern leader who makes an impact.

There’s one thing we all have in common. We’re all leaders. First and foremost, you’re a leader of you. You don’t need a title to be a leader. Leadership is a mindset which anyone can adopt to create influence. The more leaders the world has, the better it will be.

I'll let you into something I know to be true - You can’t be a leader of others unless you’re a leader of self first. So if you want to have impact that leads to prosperity and happiness, it all starts with you. With your mindset and personal leadership toolbox, which Leading You will help you build up.

Leading you is hosted by Julie Hyde, an entrepreneur, corporate drop out and passionate leader. Julie knows one thing: you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond. It’s why Leading You is important.

Each week, guests share their secret sauce. They reveal their roadmaps to success. How they’ve stayed anchored to who they are, insights into their courage and resilience and how to be emotionally and behaviourally agile. It’s a conversation, not an interrogation, and you’ll hear the human side of household names.

Want to know the secret to confident and successful leadership?
Every week, Leading You showcases leadership of all kinds and you get the scoop on how to be an effective, modern leader who makes an impact.
There’s one thing we all have in common. We’re all leaders. First and foremost, you’re a leader of you. You don’t need a title to be a leader. Leadership is a mindset which anyone can adopt to create influence. The more leaders the world has, the better it will be.
I'll let you into something I know to be true - You can’t be a leader of others unless you’re a leader of self first. So if you want to have impact that leads to prosperity and happiness, it all starts with you. With your mindset and personal leadership toolbox, which Leading You will help you build up.
Leading you is hosted by Julie Hyde, an entrepreneur, corporate drop out and passionate leader. Julie knows one thing: you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond. It’s why Leading You is important.
Each week, guests share their secret sauce. They reveal their roadmaps to success. How they’ve stayed anchored to who they are, insights into their courage and resilience and how to be emotionally and behaviourally agile. It’s a conversation, not an interrogation, and you’ll hear the human side of household names.

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Leading You

Want to know the secret to confident and successful leadership?
Every week, Leading You showcases leadership of all kinds and you get the scoop on how to be an effective, modern leader who makes an impact.
There’s one thing we all have in common. We’re all leaders. First and foremost, you’re a leader of you. You don’t need a title to be a leader. Leadership is a mindset which anyone can adopt to create influence. The more leaders the world has, the better it will be.
I'll let you into something I know to be true - You can’t be a leader of others unless you’re a leader of self first. So if you want to have impact that leads to prosperity and happiness, it all starts with you. With your mindset and personal leadership toolbox, which Leading You will help you build up.
Leading you is hosted by Julie Hyde, an entrepreneur, corporate drop out and passionate leader. Julie knows one thing: you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond. It’s why Leading You is important.
Each week, guests share their secret sauce. They reveal their roadmaps to success. How they’ve stayed anchored to who they are, insights into their courage and resilience and how to be emotionally and behaviourally agile. It’s a conversation, not an interrogation, and you’ll hear the human side of household names.