Messages about who we are—our identity—are powerful. They can shape how we see ourselves, how we see the world, and how we see God. When people have hard experiences in their lives or have been mistreated by others, it always proves valuable to explore what messages those experiences have communicated about who they are. What message came with the hard experiences or mistreatment in your life? 

https://www.ccef.org/the-messages-we-receive