As the schools get back into a daily routine there are lots of teenagers and parents who are struggling.

You are not alone and Carl explains how you need to be a positive role model to your children, show them how to be motivated and use gentle persuasion rather than confrontation.

This is a time of change and teenagers more than any others are finding it really hard so understanding and knowing how to reach out are vital.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Parents you are not alone many teenagers are struggling at the moment
• As adults, we can work through our emotions and feelings for hormonal teenagers it’s much harder
• Teenagers have been stuck in on their technology so going back to seeing people and going out is really hard.
• They have gone from a few hundred steps a day to several thousand a day back at school
• The drama and stress has increased because they are back at school
• It can be easy to be sucked into the world of social media
• Get away from everything by taking a walk outside.
• Don’t criticise your children if you are not prepared to be a positive role model
• You need to show your children how to be motivated.
• Don’t go for confrontation with teenagers, gentle persuasion is much more effective.
• Get around people who are like-minded and doing positive things.

BEST MOMENTS

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VALUABLE RESOURCES

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HKA Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing

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ABOUT THE HOST

Hi, my name is Carl Denne.  

I was born in Hastings in 1980. Married, father of two beautiful daughters, Bethany and Leigha. 

My daughters, the wife, and gym ARE MY LIFE.

IF I’M HONEST, I pretty much failed at school. Heavily dyslexic, I was dismissed for being a “naughty kid” that didn’t want to learn. I was heavily bullied for having shit clothes and ginger afro hair. I didn’t have many friends. 

When I say bullied I don’t mean called a “poo-poo head” and being looked at in a nasty way. I mean thrown downstairs, and hit with chairs and tables. Clothes were stolen whilst in the shower. That kind of bullying…

Oh, how things have changed… 

Martial arts, and specifically Kickboxing, have changed my life, and now I am much happier and change other people’s lives for the better on a daily basis. 

I am a complete adrenaline freak, so In my spare time, track days, jumping out of planes, sitting on top of them, rage buggies in the desert… The higher, the faster the better for me. I’m always looking for the next thing to get my blood pumping, so if anyone has a challenge I’ve not found yet, please feel free to share. 

I do like a Saturday night movie night, Chinese, Netflix, lots of chocolate with my three little ladies. I love being around my friends and family. This is why I love the crazy HKA family so much, as this is my extended family.   

I left school with pretty much nothing! A few sad GCSE’s C - D grade, BUT I did have a shit-ton of energy and passion to achieve, and to prove all the teachers and people that looked down on me for all those years, wrong. So, after a few jobs here and there, I settled on working for Openreach (BT) as a cabler/jointer copper and fibre optic multi-skilled engineer with HGV.

I left this in 2015 to chase my dream of running my own Kickboxing Academy and working with the future of today, rather than a job that just paid the bills. 

I’ve trained pretty much my whole life: Karate, boxing, Judo, from the age of 9, and of course, I’ve now done over 29 years of Kickboxing. I’ve passed many Instructors and coaches courses, attended many training courses and seminars, grading up through the syllabus. I passed my 4-hour hell-on-earth 3rd Dan black belt in July 2018 with the ICO.

If I’m honest my real passion and skills have come from learning the hard way; through being in the trenches. I know how it feels to be on your arse. I know how it feels to have to pull yourself out of the pit. I’ve been through

a divorce. I’ve lived through the pain and have worked with thousands of members, students, children, teachers and adults over the years, and the one thing I get told every time is how well I/we keep it very real, and that I have a complete understanding on most eventualities. 

Thank you for reading and listening. I hope you connect with myself and the team, take away some ideas, understand you’re not alone, and that it’s good to talk, listen and help others as and when you can.