Carl reflects on why sometimes it's okay to be selfish sometimes, so long as find a balance between being a people-pleaser and someone who is there for themselves.

KEY TAKEAWAYS
It's okay to be selfish, but only a little bit selfish
You can be too selfish, but you can also do nothing but please others.
If you have too much work or stress, you won't work to your best ability
It's about finding the balance between the two things - being there for others and there for ourselves.
Make a set time for yourself regularly, and put it in the diary! Making time for yourself will make it easier to fulfil it.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Be selfish - but only a little bit selfish'

'I don't like to let people down'

'I can be my worst enemy'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

HKA Main landing page www.hastingskickboxing.co.uk/kickstartnow

YouTube  https://www.youtube.com/user/Hastingskickboxing

HKA Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing

carldenne@hotmail.com     

 

ABOUT THE HOST

Hi, my name is Carl Denne.  

I was born in Hastings in 1980. Married, father of two beautiful daughters, Bethany and Leigha. 

My daughters, the wife, and gym ARE MY LIFE.

IF I’M HONEST, I pretty much failed at school. Heavily dyslexic, I was dismissed for being a “naughty kid” that didn’t want to learn. I was heavily bullied for having shit clothes and ginger afro hair. I didn’t have many friends. 

When I say bullied I don’t mean called a “poo-poo head” and being looked at in a nasty way. I mean thrown downstairs, and hit with chairs and tables. Clothes were stolen whilst in the shower. That kind of bullying…

Oh, how things have changed… 

Martial arts, and specifically Kickboxing, have changed my life, and now I am much happier and change other people’s lives for the better on a daily basis. 

I am a complete adrenaline freak, so In my spare time, track days, jumping out of planes, sitting on top of them, rage buggies in the desert… The higher, the faster the better for me. I’m always looking for the next thing to get my blood pumping, so if anyone has a challenge I’ve not found yet, please feel free to share. 

I do like a Saturday night movie night, Chinese, Netflix, lots of chocolate with my three little ladies. I love being around my friends and family. This is why I love the crazy HKA family so much, as this is my extended family.   

I left school with pretty much nothing! A few sad GCSE’s C - D grade, BUT I did have a shit-ton of energy and passion to achieve, and to prove all the teachers and people that looked down on me for all those years, wrong. So, after a few jobs here and there, I settled on working for Openreach (BT) as a cabler/jointer copper and fibre optic multi-skilled engineer with HGV.

I left this in 2015 to chase my dream of running my own Kickboxing Academy and working with the future of today, rather than a job that just paid the bills. 

I’ve trained pretty much my whole life: Karate, boxing, Judo, from the age of 9, and of course, I’ve now done over 29 years of Kickboxing. I’ve passed many Instructors and coaches courses, attended many training courses and seminars, grading up through the syllabus. I passed my 4-hour hell-on-earth 3rd Dan black belt in July 2018 with the ICO.

If I’m honest my real passion and skills have come from learning the hard way; through being in the trenches. I know how it feels to be on your arse. I know how it feels to have to pull yourself out of the pit. I’ve been through

a divorce. I’ve lived through the pain and have worked with thousands of members, students, children, teachers and adults over the years, and the one thing I get told every time is how well I/we keep it very real, and that I have a complete understanding on most eventualities. 

Thank you for reading and listening. I hope you connect with myself and the team, take away some ideas, understand you’re not alone, and that it’s good to talk, listen and help others as and when you can. 

Carl reflects on why sometimes it's okay to be selfish sometimes, so long as find a balance between being a people-pleaser and someone who is there for themselves.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
<ul>
<li>It's okay to be selfish, but only a little bit selfish</li>
<li>You can be too selfish, but you can also do nothing but please others.</li>
<li>If you have too much work or stress, you won't work to your best ability</li>
<li>It's about finding the balance between the two things - being there for others and there for ourselves.</li>
<li>Make a set time for yourself regularly, and put it in the diary! Making time for yourself will make it easier to fulfil it.</li>
</ul>
BEST MOMENTS
&lsquo;Be selfish - but only a little bit selfish'
'I don't like to let people down'
'I can be my worst enemy'
VALUABLE RESOURCES
HKA Main landing page<a href="http://www.hastingskickboxing.co.uk/kickstartnow"> www.hastingskickboxing.co.uk/kickstartnow</a>
YouTube<a href="https://www.youtube.com/user/Hastingskickboxing">&nbsp; https://www.youtube.com/user/Hastingskickboxing</a>
HKA Facebook page<a href="https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing"> https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing</a>
carldenne@hotmail.com &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;
&nbsp;
ABOUT THE HOST
Hi, my name is Carl Denne.&nbsp;&nbsp;
I was born in Hastings in 1980. Married, father of two beautiful daughters, Bethany and Leigha.&nbsp;
My daughters, the wife, and gym ARE MY LIFE.
IF I&rsquo;M HONEST, I pretty much failed at school. Heavily dyslexic, I was dismissed for being a &ldquo;naughty kid&rdquo; that didn&rsquo;t want to learn. I was heavily bullied for having shit clothes and ginger afro hair. I didn&rsquo;t have many friends.&nbsp;
When I say bullied I don&rsquo;t mean called a &ldquo;poo-poo head&rdquo; and being looked at in a nasty way. I mean thrown downstairs, and hit with chairs and tables. Clothes were stolen whilst in the shower. That kind of bullying&hellip;
Oh, how things have changed&hellip;&nbsp;
Martial arts, and specifically Kickboxing, have changed my life, and now I am much happier and change other people&rsquo;s lives for the better on a daily basis.&nbsp;
I am a complete adrenaline freak, so In my spare time, track days, jumping out of planes, sitting on top of them, rage buggies in the desert&hellip; The higher, the faster the better for me. I&rsquo;m always looking for the next thing to get my blood pumping, so if anyone has a challenge I&rsquo;ve not found yet, please feel free to share.&nbsp;
I do like a Saturday night movie night, Chinese, Netflix, lots of chocolate with my three little ladies. I love being around my friends and family. This is why I love the crazy HKA family so much, as this is my extended family.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;
I left school with pretty much nothing! A few sad GCSE&rsquo;s C - D grade, BUT I did have a shit-ton of energy and passion to achieve, and to prove all the teachers and people that looked down on me for all those years, wrong. So, after a few jobs here and there, I settled on working for Openreach (BT) as a cabler/jointer copper and fibre optic multi-skilled engineer with HGV.
I left this in 2015 to chase my dream of running my own Kickboxing Academy and working with the future of today, rather than a job that just paid the bills.&nbsp;
I&rsquo;ve trained pretty much my whole life: Karate, boxing, Judo, from the age of 9, and of course, I&rsquo;ve now done over 29 years of Kickboxing. I&rsquo;ve passed many Instructors and coaches courses, attended many training courses and seminars, grading up through the syllabus. I passed my 4-hour hell-on-earth 3rd Dan black belt in July 2018 with the ICO.
If I&rsquo;m honest my real passion and skills have come from learning the hard way; through being in the trenches. I know how it feels to be on your arse. I know how it feels to have to pull yourself out of the pit. I&rsquo;ve been through
a divorce. I&rsquo;ve lived through the pain and have worked with thousands of members, students, children, teachers and adults over the years, and the one thing I get told every time is how well I/we keep it very real, and that I have a complete understanding on most eventualities.&nbsp;
Thank you for reading and listening. I hope you connect with myself and the team, take away some ideas, understand you&rsquo;re not alone, and that it&rsquo;s good to talk, listen and help others as and when you can.&nbsp;

Hi, My name is Carl Denne and I run and own a Hastings Kickboxing Academy, in Jan 2020, I started my own podcast channel, “Kickstart Your Confidence” after being inspired by other likeminded positive people. My aim for this podcast is to share and discuss real life topics, covering mental health, pressures and stresses of life, running and owning your own business, with other business owners and real life people who have walked the walk and lived to tell the tale, in hopes that you, yes you reading this right now, can relate and find guidance in some way.

Hi, My name is Carl Denne and I run and own a Hastings Kickboxing Academy, in Jan 2020, I started my own podcast channel, &ldquo;Kickstart Your Confidence&rdquo; after being inspired by other likeminded positive people. My aim for this podcast is to share and discuss real life topics, covering mental health, pressures and stresses of life, running and owning your own business, with other business owners and real life people who have walked the walk and lived to tell the tale, in hopes that you, yes you reading this right now, can relate and find guidance in some way.

Kickstart Your Confidence Podcast

Welcome to the “Kickstart Your Confidence podcast” with Hastings kickboxing academy’s owner, Carl Denne. 

At HKA we work with local schools and Academies across East Sussex, running anti-bullying, boosting self-confidence, teaching self-defence programs and much more, we actively work with governing bodies and local police to help tackle all different types of issues within the community. we currently teach over 300 students across 30+ classes each week, we are going to be talking about real-life issues, have some nice helpful tips and ideas on helping to boost your confidence & become a better you.  

So sit back, listen and enjoy. 

Welcome to the &ldquo;Kickstart Your Confidence podcast&rdquo; with Hastings kickboxing academy&rsquo;s owner, Carl Denne.&nbsp;
At HKA we work with local schools and Academies across East Sussex, running anti-bullying, boosting self-confidence, teaching self-defence programs and much more, we actively work with governing bodies and local police to help tackle all different types of issues within the community. we currently teach over 300 students across 30+ classes each week, we are going to be talking about real-life issues, have some nice helpful tips and ideas on helping to boost your confidence &amp; become a better you.&nbsp;&nbsp;
So sit back, listen and enjoy.&nbsp;

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