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The Value in Being a Little Bit Selfish

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Carl explores the reality for most entrepreneurs – working constantly with no time for themselves. He reflects on the importance of being a little bit selfish and scheduling time for yourself and looks at the positive impact this can ultimately have across all areas of your life.

If you want something to change you need to commit to it and in saying it out loud in this episode Carl wants to not only help others but also get accountable to being a little bit selfish himself and find his own time to decompress and open his mind to new ideas and thoughts.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • We all need to be selfish
  • You can be too selfish or you can be at the other end of the scale and spend all your time trying to please others
  • The key is finding a balance
  • You need to dedicate time to spend on yourself
  • You should schedule in time for yourself
  • By decompressing you allow your mind to open to new ideas and thoughts
  • Lots of entrepreneurs and business people are working constantly and the only way to escape it is to schedule activities that provide an escape
  • If I say it out loud I’ll be accountable to others to make it happen and make the time I need
  • Find a time in the week for yourself without any other distractions

 

BEST MOMENTS

‘Because I was going with someone else I didn’t want to let them down’

‘I know if I put it in the diary I’ll go and do it and engage in it’

‘It’s nice to have a little time away to decompress’

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

HKA Main landing page www.hastingskickboxing.co.uk/kickstartnow

YouTube  https://www.youtube.com/user/Hastingskickboxing

HKA Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing

carldenne@hotmail.com    

 

ABOUT THE HOST

Hi, my name is Carl Denne.  

I was born in Hastings in 1980. Married, father of two beautiful daughters, Bethany and Leigha. 

My daughters, the wife, and gym ARE MY LIFE.

IF I’M HONEST, I pretty much failed at school. Heavily dyslexic, I was dismissed for being a “naughty kid” that didn’t want to learn. I was heavily bullied for having shit clothes and ginger afro hair. I didn’t have many friends. 

When I say bullied I don’t mean called a “poo-poo head” and being looked at in a nasty way. I mean thrown downstairs, and hit with chairs and tables. Clothes were stolen whilst in the shower. That kind of bullying…

Oh, how things have changed… 

Martial arts, and specifically Kickboxing, have changed my life, and now I am much happier and change other people’s lives for the better on a daily basis. 

I am a complete adrenaline freak, so In my spare time, track days, jumping out of planes, sitting on top of them, rage buggies in the desert… The higher, the faster the better for me. I’m always looking for the next thing to get my blood pumping, so if anyone has a challenge I’ve not found yet, please feel free to share. 

I do like a Saturday night movie night, Chinese, Netflix, lots of chocolate with my three little ladies. I love being around my friends and family. This is why I love the crazy HKA family so much, as this is my extended family.   

I left school with pretty much nothing! A few sad GCSE’s C - D grade, BUT I did have a shit-ton of energy and passion to achieve, and to prove all the teachers and people that looked down on me for all those years, wrong. So, after a few jobs here and there, I settled on working for Openreach (BT) as a cabler/jointer copper and fibre optic multi-skilled engineer with HGV.

I left this in 2015 to chase my dream of running my own Kickboxing Academy and working with the future of today, rather than a job that just paid the bills. 

I’ve trained pretty much my whole life: Karate, boxing, Judo, from the age of 9, and of course, I’ve now done over 29 years of Kickboxing. I’ve passed many Instructors and coaches courses, attended many training courses and seminars, grading up through the syllabus. I passed my 4-hour hell-on-earth 3rd Dan black belt in July 2018 with the ICO.

If I’m honest my real passion and skills have come from learning the hard way; through being in the trenches. I know how it feels to be on your arse. I know how it feels to have to pull yourself out of the pit. I’ve been through

a divorce. I’ve lived through the pain and have worked with thousands of members, students, children, teachers and adults over the years, and the one thing I get told every time is how well I/we keep it very real, and that I have a complete understanding on most eventualities. 

Thank you for reading and listening. I hope you connect with myself and the team, take away some ideas, understand you’re not alone, and that it’s good to talk, listen and help others as and when you can. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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