The fact that paparazzi capture celebrities in their worst, make-up free, mid-bite moments is bad enough. But Bethenny shares how it actually gets worse: you can end up paying for a photo of yourself in more ways than one.
Plus, have you ever had a boyfriend or girlfriend drive you so nuts that you wish you could dump them twice? Now imagine that... at work. Bethenny explains.
Random thought on paparazzi, which I know is not relatable to people when you look at a picture, it might be. So think about this. If someone on my team put up a picture of devastation in a foreign country and we were trying to raise awareness for a disaster and raise money, and it's a photographer's picture, and we didn't credit them or ask them or pay them. So then you get shaken down by these photographers. It's happened to Andy Cohen, it's happened to at least when it's happened to everyone. You get shaken down and they want thousands of dollars. They try to get you to go to court even though they would never take it accord, and it's like a whole shakedown. And um, I get it. They own the photos and it's their artwork. Um, but when it was relief work, someone that like I didn't make any money on it. I didn't, you know, it was just to try to raise money. It becomes disgusting. But it occurred to me. Someone owns that picture and you're using it. What about when someone takes a picture of me, you know, I look like Shad, I'm on the beach and with my daughter. They take a picture of me, that's their work. If I use a picture they took of me, I have to pay them. Why don't they have to pay me when they make money off a picture they took of me? Like in no other situation are you allowed to be used? I can't just go use somebody else's face or designs as my own. How is somebody able to take a picture of me? It's my It's literally not only my intellectual property, it's my physical property. It's my body, it's my face. They take a picture of me, they go make money on it, and I don't get a cut. How is that okay? Someone's taking pictures of Jennifer Lopez in Milan with Ben Affleck, not with their permission, and Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez aren't making any money money on that. And if Ben and Jen used a picture that was taken of them, they would have to pay the photographer. How upside down funked up is that? Have you ever thought of that? That's the craziest thing ever that is upside down that needs to be corrected. Someone needs to figure that out. Did you ever want to fire someone twice? Did someone ever like do so many things wrong, and there's such a nightmare that months later you think about it and you want to fire them again, Like they just were so incompetent and made your life so miserable that you want to fire them again. That was just a random thought. Let's talk about wales. Men the Hampton's to take beach walks every day. One day I'm there and I see a whale breaching, and I see the most extraordinary whale, not just like the tip of a whale, like you know, the rent evidence of a whale. And by the way, I never talked about my dolphins sightings. I have seen multiple times in the Hampton's hundreds of dolphins in a row, really close close to me. So then I see then I start noticing the whales, and then every day I'm taking these videos and these pictures of these whales, extraordinary pictures videos. You have to see them on my Instagram, like better than any while, like better than any national geographic photographer we get. And in fact, camera crews have gone out to the beach as a result of my postings because I said, I'm a whale whisper, because one day, after seeing miraculous pictures of whales, and my friends going for the entire day to find the whales and seeing nothing, and my friends living on that exact beach looking all day and seeing nothing, Me going for forty five minutes for a beach walk, and the whales coming close and jumping out of the water, fish surrounding their mouths, heep, being with joy. And it was happening every day. So one day I went to go and I recorded, and I said, and I knew that if I record, it wouldn't happen, because then I was jinxing it. And I record, and I said recorded, and I said, I think they're gonna be whales. And if I go out there right now, I'm a whale whisper. So I go out and the whales are jumping. So yesterday my friend who lives on that beach, I said to herhim here, she says, there have been no whales. Her whole staff she had three, and staff three and staff at her house. They said, there have been no whales. Her husband, his friends, no whales. We're all taking pictures, and I said, I see a fucking fan, I see a fucking fin. And the dolphins started coming and they're all looking at me. Like crazy, because they're all like, you're the whale whisper, right, I have a reputation on this beach, at the whale whisper. So I see, I go, I see a fucking fin. So then we start seeing all the dolphins, and then my friend's husband starts telling my daughter about the different fish and what color patterns. Me and I don't know what they're talking about. It I'm in the middle of instagramming that we just saw dolphins because I thought that was a big deal. The goddamn whale jumps out. Six out of six days, the whale jumped out. My friends have been on the beach all summer. That final day when I went, we were a little it was a little gloomy out. It was the Monday, a Memorial Day weekend, feeling a little depressed. Summer was over. I hate that feeling. I hate that doomsday. And my Britin was like, let's just take a walk, doesn't matter if it's claude, let's just go to the beach. I just go in. I brought my daughter. I thought, I don't want to I don't want to say that she could ruin the juju. But I'm always alone when I see the whales, and I hope the juju, the whale juju is there with brin lo and behold the whale came out and I got video of it, like I screamed in real time for my Instagram followers it could happen. I was like, there it is and I was so happy. And then I stopped down because I've been so caught up in like telling everybody about it, improving that I'm aware whisper and talking about it is sort of a half joke that I got to the point where I thought, it's not really a joke. I think there's a spiritual connection. And the psychic messaged me all this information about whales and how they're very psychic beings and they communicate telepathically, I think is the word, and you know they represent something going on in you, and you know, I just have to say I have a connection to whales. They said it has something to do with there's a turkey spirit animal too. I don't know if that has anything to do with the turkeys, which are always around, but I'm telling you I have a connection to to water animals and maybe other animals, but definitely the whales and these dolphins, but particularly the whales. This is it's just more miraculous to see a massive whale jumping out, breaching multiple times in a day when no one else is seeing it. So I just wanted to share it with you because it is so beautiful and it's a symbol of staying connected and being present, and I it made my whole summer, Like every day seeing them, I just felt so grateful, so blessed, so happy, so connected with nature, so present, just so fortunate to be able to go to the beach and made me not want to go away anywhere, to spend all this money to travel to just not be at home. And it just made me feel so proud, made me think about my house that I bought and built, and like the life that I've created for myself, and my water and working less and just wanting to be free and be by the water and going in the water every day makes me feel connected and it like rinses off any stress. Just this has been such an incredible summer, such an amazing experience, and these whales have been such a huge part of it. And it's not the same whale, it's multiple whales, different sizes. They're just coming and I called them. I talked to them. I go out on the beach and I like, I say, come on, don't you know crazy person? But anyway, that's what's up with the whales. Well this is gonna be unpopular. I had a baby. I've been on a plane with a baby. I know the stress and when you feel panicked and you feel anxiety that like your kid's gonna make noise and and we but we all know. You get on a plane, you get on a plane overnight, red eye or you're going to Europe and you have to sleep on night and a baby sitting right next to you, and you're just like, oh my god. So we have to say when we're ringing pets on the plane and we have to pay extra. I'm thinking, if I'm going to be on a plane and there's going to be a baby seat next to me, I should have the option. I should be able to opt out. Just letting you know we know you're going international, we know you're on a European flight, we know you're going on a red eye, or we know you're flying were you. We know that you're flying more than two and a half hours and might want to get some shut I there's a toddler on your plane next to you. You're seated next you see there's a baby and three t it's three toddler, and you have to make your own choice if you want to sit next to a baby, or there's a mother with a newborn, Like that's just I want to know I could choose, and then it's my own thing. I want to know if I'm going to be next to an alien, I'm gonna be next to a German shepherd, and I want to know maybe next to a toddler, because if you get a toddler that's gonna scream you Just we just should have the choice or a discount. We have a toddler next to you on the plane, so you're gonna get a nine voucher, or you're allowed to get off your you know, your plane and sell your seat for double, Like there just needs to be an option. But I've also noticed on planes when there's a child, you can't blame a child for like crying or being a child. They're a child, right The parents talk at the volume of the child that are with the child. And I don't know why this happens, it might make I know Jeremy, I'm getting your toy. Turn the eye that we're like, Okay, we have there's one child, and that's not their fault. They're just a child who were born yesterday. You don't need to talk at the same volume. Is that you were not born yesterday. You were born fifty five years ago. So you need to not talk at the same level and in the same Google Gaga and the same cadence of speech as Ptadler. Okay, that we can't that's a bridge we can't cross. We could deal with a screaming baby, we cannot deal with a streaming parents. That's where we're drawn a line.