This episode explores unhappiness, how it affects those around us and the ways in which we can understand it.

If you have ever been in a situation where unhappiness seems to grow and everything around you becomes an obstacle to listen in now to find out about why and how understanding can change everything.

KEY TAKEAWAYS
What happens to our unhappiness?

Everyone seeks peace and harmony because this is what we lack in our lives.

We all suffer miseries such as irritation, anger and disharmony and when we suffer from these feelings we often distribute them to others around us.

Unhappiness fills the atmosphere around us so those we come in to contact with also become affected with our misery. This is not a way to live as we are social beings who interact with others.
How are we to live harmoniously?

I found this very difficult at first because I couldn’t see that I was miserable, and I didn’t understand that In order to relieve the misery you have to know the cause of the problem.
How do we start to generate the negativity?

We create tension within and begin to see lots of obstacles in front of us. As these unwanted things happen the process of reaction called Gordian Knots begins. It makes the entire mental structure become very tense and full of negativity and life becomes very miserable.

We don’t want all this negativity, but we hold on to it because we think it makes us a better person
How can we stop reacting?

If something unwanted happens and you start to react negatively you could divert your emotions - begin to chant a mantra, have a glass of water.

But when you take this action you are pushing your negativity deeper within yourself

and sooner or later it will surface.

You have to face the problem. As soon as you start to observe a mental impurity it begins to lose its power and wither away. This is a solution that avoids both extreme suppression and extreme expression.
Retreat and Meditate?

I started along the path of Darma – a universal remedy for universal problems
What was it going to do for me?

The technique was going to eradicate my suffering through mental purification and allow me to face life’s problems and tensions in a calm and peaceful balanced way.

The process takes place at a retreat over ten days, it is a relatively short time to understand the deeper aspects of the unconscious mind and to eradicate the negativities that are lying there.
A noble silence

As part of the course, there was noble silence

This is the silence of your body, speech and mind. This silence lasts for the entirety of the retreat and encourages the aspects of understanding that you are working in isolation experiencing Self-purification by self-observation.

BEST MOMENTS

‘This is not the way to live we are social beings’

‘A negative in the mind is a mental impurity’

‘We start tying knots around our life’

‘There is this sleeping volcano of suppressed negativity’

‘The difficulty is we are not aware when negativity starts and by the time we recognise it has grown in strength’

‘A by-product of this mental purification is the elimination of any psychosomatic problems’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ivf-before-and-after-podcast/id1413710507?mt=2

ABOUT THE HOST

IVF Before and After was founded by Kay Dempsey. She created IVF Before and After, after many years spent researching and practising every possible way to conceive with IVF. Kay has created a global community with the use of podcasts she will share the stepping stones to empower your mindset, fuel your body organically and support you along your fertility journey.

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This episode explores unhappiness, how it affects those around us and the ways in which we can understand it.
If you have ever been in a situation where unhappiness seems to grow and everything around you becomes an obstacle to listen in now to find out about why and how understanding can change everything.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
<ul>
<li>What happens to our unhappiness?</li>
</ul>
Everyone seeks peace and harmony because this is what we lack in our lives.
We all suffer miseries such as irritation, anger and disharmony and when we suffer from these feelings we often distribute them to others around us.
Unhappiness fills the atmosphere around us so those we come in to contact with also become affected with our misery. This is not a way to live as we are social beings who interact with others.
<ul>
<li>How are we to live harmoniously?</li>
</ul>
I found this very difficult at first because I couldn&rsquo;t see that I was miserable, and I didn&rsquo;t understand that In order to relieve the misery you have to know the cause of the problem.
<ul>
<li>How do we start to generate the negativity?</li>
</ul>
We create tension within and begin to see lots of obstacles in front of us. As these unwanted things happen the process of reaction called Gordian Knots begins. It makes the entire mental structure become very tense and full of negativity and life becomes very miserable.
We don&rsquo;t want all this negativity, but we hold on to it because we think it makes us a better person
<ul>
<li>How can we stop reacting?</li>
</ul>
If something unwanted happens and you start to react negatively you could divert your emotions - begin to chant a mantra, have a glass of water.
But when you take this action you are pushing your negativity deeper within yourself
and sooner or later it will surface.
You have to face the problem. As soon as you start to observe a mental impurity it begins to lose its power and wither away. This is a solution that avoids both extreme suppression and extreme expression.
<ul>
<li>Retreat and Meditate?</li>
</ul>
I started along the path of Darma &ndash; a universal remedy for universal problems
<ul>
<li>What was it going to do for me?</li>
</ul>
The technique was going to eradicate my suffering through mental purification and allow me to face life&rsquo;s problems and tensions in a calm and peaceful balanced way.
The process takes place at a retreat over ten days, it is a relatively short time to understand the deeper aspects of the unconscious mind and to eradicate the negativities that are lying there.
<ul>
<li>A noble silence</li>
</ul>
As part of the course, there was noble silence
This is the silence of your body, speech and mind. This silence lasts for the entirety of the retreat and encourages the aspects of understanding that you are working in isolation experiencing Self-purification by self-observation.
BEST MOMENTS
&lsquo;This is not the way to live we are social beings&rsquo;
&lsquo;A negative in the mind is a mental impurity&rsquo;
&lsquo;We start tying knots around our life&rsquo;
&lsquo;There is this sleeping volcano of suppressed negativity&rsquo;
&lsquo;The difficulty is we are not aware when negativity starts and by the time we recognise it has grown in strength&rsquo;
&lsquo;A by-product of this mental purification is the elimination of any psychosomatic problems&rsquo;
VALUABLE RESOURCES
<a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ivf-before-and-after-podcast/id1413710507?mt=2">https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ivf-before-and-after-podcast/id1413710507?mt=2</a>
ABOUT THE HOST
IVF Before and After was founded by Kay Dempsey. She created IVF Before and After, after many years spent researching and practising every possible way to conceive with IVF. Kay has created a global community with the use of podcasts she will share the stepping stones to empower your mindset, fuel your body organically and support you along your fertility journey.
CONTACT METHOD
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/ivfbeforeandafter/">https://www.instagram.com/ivfbeforeandafter/</a>
<a href="https://twitter.com/IVFBEFOREAFTER">https://twitter.com/IVFBEFOREAFTER</a>
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/IVF-Before-and-After">https://www.facebook.com/IVF-Before-and-After</a>

Welcome to the IVF Before and After Podcast where we will talk about the emotional rollercoaster journey we are about to embark on. Tune in to a series of podcasts on stories and tips to help you feel you are not alone on your fertility or parenting journey.
We will openly discuss success and failure. We will attempt to pick you up when your down and celebrate when your heads in the clouds.
Kay Dempsey, your host, can't wait to get started finding your way through IVF and parenting journey.

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