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Since we’ve already got February 14th assigned as a holiday, I’d like to claim Valentine’s Day not for romance, but for all love. Let’s make it a real sacred occasion - one that helps create a world where there’s more than enough love and support to go around. This episode is basically what I’d give for my TED talk, if I had one. Don’t miss it. 

Grief is part of love, so of course we’re talking about grief today. We navigate some clinical concerns as they relate to love, and we throw in a little bit of social justice here too, because what is justice but love in action. tada! We've got an episode suitable for february 14th, and we won’t even need conversation hearts to do it. 

In this episode we cover:
Why comparing divorce to death, or pet loss to child loss, is a Very. Bad. Idea. (usually)
Is it ok to be sad about a musician or actor’s death, even if you never met them? 
How to treat compassion like an abundant resource AND have good boundaries all at the same 
Ways to navigate the shortage of compassion in your clients, patients, friends, or yourself
The path to the love-filled, support-rich world we all want (it’s not easy, but it’s worth it) 




Notable quote: 

“It sounds pretty woo but compassion really is an expandable resource. Practicing inclusion and validation means people feel heard, and heard people hear people, which means the whole culture starts to change from one of vindictive “how dare you feel that way!” to at worst, a neutral, impartial kindness, and at best - well, being generous like this creates a world built and sustained by love. Happy Valentine’s Day.” - Megan Devine

Questions to Carry with you:
Fun ideas to help you seed love and compassion in the world, plus the one habit to break and re-make




Resources: 

Love in action! Check out this exceptionally non-extensive list of people to learn from as we grow the love filled world we all want: Rachel Cargle, Alok Menon, Alice Wong, Free Mom Hugs, Farmer Veteran Coalition, Natalie Weaver, & Resting Waters

Terminology update: in this episode, I use the term “gender fluid,” but the term gender-expansive is more accurate.

The “is there love available here?” question comes from Mark Silver.




Get in touch: 




Thanks for listening to this week’s episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can’t be made right. 




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For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at www.Megandevine.co

For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, & TW

Check out Megan’s best-selling books - It’s Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed - at refugeingrief.com/book

 Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

Want your questions answered on the show? To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co Since we’ve already got February 14th assigned as a holiday, I’d like to claim Valentine’s Day not for romance, but for all love. Let’s make it a real sacred occasion - one that helps create a world where there’s more than enough love and support to go around. This episode is basically what I’d give for my TED talk, if I had one. Don’t miss it. Grief is part of love, so of course we’re talking about grief today. We navigate some clinical concerns as they relate to love, and we throw in a little bit of social justice here too, because what is justice but love in action. tada! We've got an episode suitable for february 14th, and we won’t even need conversation hearts to do it. In this episode we cover:<ul>
<li>Why comparing divorce to death, or pet loss to child loss, is a Very. Bad. Idea. (usually)</li>
<li>Is it ok to be sad about a musician or actor’s death, even if you never met them? </li>
<li>How to treat compassion like an abundant resource AND have good boundaries all at the same </li>
<li>Ways to navigate the shortage of compassion in your clients, patients, friends, or yourself</li>
<li>The path to the love-filled, support-rich world we all want (it’s not easy, but it’s worth it) </li>
</ul> Notable quote: “It sounds pretty woo but compassion really is an expandable resource. Practicing inclusion and validation means people feel heard, and heard people hear people, which means the whole culture starts to change from one of vindictive “how dare you feel that way!” to at worst, a neutral, impartial kindness, and at best - well, being generous like this creates a world built and sustained by love. Happy Valentine’s Day.” - Megan DevineQuestions to Carry with you:<ul><li>Fun ideas to help you seed love and compassion in the world, plus the one habit to break and re-make</li></ul> Resources: Love in action! Check out this exceptionally non-extensive list of people to learn from as we grow the love filled world we all want: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/rachel.cargle/">Rachel Cargle</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alokvmenon/">Alok Menon</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/disability_visibility/">Alice Wong</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/freemomhugs/">Free Mom Hugs</a>, <a href="https://farmvetco.org/">Farmer Veteran Coalition</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/nataliecweaver/">Natalie Weaver</a>, &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/restingwaters/">Resting Waters</a>Terminology update: in this episode, I use the term “gender fluid,” but the term gender-expansive is more accurate.The “is there love available here?” question comes from <a href="https://www.heartofbusiness.com/">Mark Silver</a>. Get in touch:  Thanks for listening to this week’s episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can’t be made right.  To submit your questions by voicemail, call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and consulting, visit us at <a href="http://www.megandevine.co/">www.Megandevine.co</a>For grief support &amp; education, follow us at @refugeingrief on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/refugeingrief/">IG</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/refugeingrief">FB</a>, &amp; <a href="https://twitter.com/refugeingrief">TW</a>Check out Megan’s best-selling books - <a href="http://refugeingrief.com/book">It’s Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed</a> - at refugeingrief.com/book Learn more about your ad-choices at <a href="https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com">https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com</a>

Life is full of difficult things, from tiny everyday disappointments to life-altering events. Everyone’s at least a little bit Not OK, something grief expert and psychotherapist Megan Devine knows from the inside out. In wide ranging, insightful, deep conversations, Megan talks with people about their often invisible losses - and what they’ve learned about being seen and supported in difficult times. 

With guests pulled from the front lines of entertainment, medicine, education, and activism, the conversations in It’s OK that You’re Not OK are funny, complex, emotional, and hopeful - maybe not your typical dinner party topics, but none of us are entirely OK, and it’s time we start talking about that.

New episodes each and every Monday, from the author of the best-selling book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK, and iHeartMedia. Find Megan online at @refugeingrief & follow the show @ItsOKPod

Life is full of difficult things, from tiny everyday disappointments to life-altering events. Everyone’s at least a little bit Not OK, something grief expert and psychotherapist Megan Devine knows from the inside out. In wide ranging, insightful, deep conversations, Megan talks with people about their often invisible losses - and what they’ve learned about being seen and supported in difficult times. 
With guests pulled from the front lines of entertainment, medicine, education, and activism, the conversations in It’s OK that You’re Not OK are funny, complex, emotional, and hopeful - maybe not your typical dinner party topics, but none of us are entirely OK, and it’s time we start talking about that.
New episodes each and every Monday, from the author of the best-selling book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK, and iHeartMedia. Find Megan online at @refugeingrief &amp; follow the show @ItsOKPod

It’s OK That You’re Not OK with Megan Devine

The Love-Filled World: Valentine’s Edition

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