In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Grammy-nominated producer Paul Jefferies aka Nineteen85 (of DVSN) for a powerful conversation on fatherhood, parenting, and personal growth. Reflecting on his journey as a young and single dad, Paul opens up about navigating parental expectations [01:20], embracing the idea of disappointing your parents as a path to self-discovery [02:44] [06:24], and unpacking generational differences in parenting styles [10:22]. This episode dives into how modern parents can create space for growth, grace, and understanding [21:28] [25:08].

Paul shares honest insights on navigating early parenthood [33:32], breaking generational cycles [49:24], and the role of therapy in personal growth [55:29], while emphasizing the importance of empowering children to find and use their voices [01:00:43]. This episode offers real-life perspective and actionable wisdom for anyone looking to raise healthier families and become a better version of themselves.

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In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Grammy-nominated producer Paul Jefferies aka Nineteen85 (of DVSN) for a powerful conversation on fatherhood, parenting, and personal growth. Reflecting on his journey as a young and single dad, Paul opens up about navigating parental expectations&nbsp;[01:20], embracing the idea of disappointing your parents as a path to self-discovery [02:44] [06:24], and unpacking generational differences in parenting styles [10:22]. This episode dives into how modern parents can create space for growth, grace, and understanding [21:28] [25:08].
Paul shares honest insights on navigating early parenthood&nbsp;[33:32], breaking generational cycles [49:24], and the role of therapy in personal growth [55:29], while emphasizing the importance of empowering children to find and use their voices [01:00:43]. This episode offers real-life perspective and actionable wisdom for anyone looking to raise healthier families and become a better version of themselves.
Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram:
<a href="http://instagram.com/ambergrimes">@ambergrimes</a>
Follow Nineteen85 on Instagram:
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<a href="https://youtube.com/@iykbetter?si=WMEDSWNJOsxlRkD0">Watch this episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET&nbsp;</a>
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You can’t rewrite the past — but you can learn from it. Amber Grimes did exactly that, going from college dropout to Executive Vice President in the entertainment industry with no map, just mistakes and lessons that turned into power moves.

 

If You Knew Better is where Amber shares that wisdom — alongside artists, creatives, and culture-shifters who open up about the missteps they made, the mindsets that changed everything, and the game they wish they knew sooner.

 

Together, they unpack the highs, the lows, and the pivots in life, career, and relationships — so you either don’t have to go through it, or can move smarter when you do.

 

Every episode delivers real talk, hard-won insight, and practical gems to help you grow into the version of yourself that knows better… and does better.

You can&rsquo;t rewrite the past &mdash; but you can learn from it. Amber Grimes did exactly that, going from college dropout to Executive Vice President in the entertainment industry with no map, just mistakes and lessons that turned into power moves.
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If You Knew Better is where Amber shares that wisdom &mdash; alongside artists, creatives, and culture-shifters who open up about the missteps they made, the mindsets that changed everything, and the game they wish they knew sooner.
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Together, they unpack the highs, the lows, and the pivots in life, career, and relationships &mdash; so you either don&rsquo;t have to go through it, or can move smarter when you do.
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Every episode delivers real talk, hard-won insight, and practical gems to help you grow into the version of yourself that knows better&hellip; and does better.

If You Knew Better with Amber Grimes

Nineteen85 Knows the Difference Between Parenting and Controlling

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