In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Bel-Air actor and musician Olly Sholotan to talk patience, ambition, and learning to focus on what you can control [00:00]. Olly recalls the reality check of having his first All American scenes cut [00:11], meeting the actor who would later play Carlton on Bel-Air[00:41], and navigating patience and pressure while pursuing success [01:59]. He reflects on his ambitious goal of achieving an EGOT by 30 [02:47], lessons from Forbes 30 Under 30 [03:59], and learning that “what’s for you is for you” [06:02] after losing out on another series that never aired while Bel-Air became life-changing [07:29]. That experience helped shift his mindset from chasing excitement to chasing peace [10:03], staying grounded in the work [14:12], and valuing the process over results [15:39].

Amber and Olly also unpack the balance between ambition and burnout [20:16], developing self-awareness around what you can control [22:20], and the value of supportive parents and a strong foundation [24:44]. They discuss choosing work that feeds you [25:15], recognizing when to stop before burnout hits [26:06], treating rest as fuel [27:32], surrendering to creative ideas [28:26], and detaching from other people’s approval [29:32]. Olly explains how focusing on what’s within his control [32:14], pairing ambition with self-care [33:46], and making room for hobbies [36:27] help him stay balanced. He closes with the power of gratitude [38:59], allowing dreams to expand beyond acting [41:19], and practicing specific gratitude to stay grounded [42:24], leaving listeners with encouragement to trust their process and protect their peace [46:45]. 

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In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Bel-Air actor and musician Olly Sholotan to talk patience, ambition, and learning to focus on what you can control [00:00]. Olly recalls the reality check of having his first All American scenes cut [00:11], meeting the actor who would later play Carlton on Bel-Air [00:41], and navigating patience and pressure while pursuing success [01:59]. He reflects on his ambitious goal of achieving an EGOT by 30 [02:47], lessons from Forbes 30 Under 30 [03:59], and learning that &ldquo;what&rsquo;s for you is for you&rdquo; [06:02] after losing out on another series that never aired while Bel-Air became life-changing [07:29]. That experience helped shift his mindset from chasing excitement to chasing peace [10:03], staying grounded in the work [14:12], and valuing the process over results [15:39].
Amber and Olly also unpack the balance between ambition and burnout [20:16], developing self-awareness around what you can control [22:20], and the value of supportive parents and a strong foundation [24:44]. They discuss choosing work that feeds you [25:15], recognizing when to stop before burnout hits [26:06], treating rest as fuel [27:32], surrendering to creative ideas [28:26], and detaching from other people&rsquo;s approval [29:32]. Olly explains how focusing on what&rsquo;s within his control [32:14], pairing ambition with self-care [33:46], and making room for hobbies [36:27] help him stay balanced. He closes with the power of gratitude [38:59], allowing dreams to expand beyond acting [41:19], and practicing specific gratitude to stay grounded [42:24], leaving listeners with encouragement to trust their process and protect their peace [46:45].&nbsp;
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Every episode delivers real talk, hard-won insight, and practical gems to help you grow into the version of yourself that knows better… and does better.

You can&rsquo;t rewrite the past &mdash; but you can learn from it. Amber Grimes did exactly that, going from college dropout to Executive Vice President in the entertainment industry with no map, just mistakes and lessons that turned into power moves.
&nbsp;
If You Knew Better is where Amber shares that wisdom &mdash; alongside artists, creatives, and culture-shifters who open up about the missteps they made, the mindsets that changed everything, and the game they wish they knew sooner.
&nbsp;
Together, they unpack the highs, the lows, and the pivots in life, career, and relationships &mdash; so you either don&rsquo;t have to go through it, or can move smarter when you do.
&nbsp;
Every episode delivers real talk, hard-won insight, and practical gems to help you grow into the version of yourself that knows better&hellip; and does better.

If You Knew Better with Amber Grimes

Olly Sholotan Knows What’s For You Is For You 

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