In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Justice Baiden for an honest conversation about relationships, purpose, and the lessons that come from committing before you're truly ready [00:00]. Justice explains why he initially avoided serious commitment [01:05] and reflects on how early success in the music industry changed the dynamics of his relationships [05:24], ultimately teaching him the importance of establishing purpose before partnership [07:49]. He opens up about avoiding difficult conversations in an effort to "keep the peace" [09:59], ignoring red flags while convincing himself everything was working [14:02], and expressing love by trying to fix problems for his partner [16:50]. Justice also examines how unspoken resentment and passive-aggressive communication eventually manifested as stress [18:19], leading him to recognize that healthy relationships require clarity about individual goals [22:24], reconnecting with the passions and interests that once gave you direction [24:34], and creating intentional next steps toward the life you actually want [25:46].

Justice goes deeper into why actions ultimately matter more than promises [27:59] and introduces the importance of defining "yours, mine, and ours" within a partnership [28:37], including honest conversations about sacrifice, expectations, values, and true non-negotiables [30:34]. He reflects on overcoming the fear, guilt, and concern about other people's perceptions that can keep someone trapped in an unhealthy relationship [33:27], while confronting remorse, infidelity, and the responsibility of breaking destructive patterns [35:46]. The conversation also explores how father figures and role models shaped his understanding of manhood and relationships [40:51], the healing that can come from reparenting yourself through honest conversations [42:29], and the biggest lessons he carries from past love [44:12]. Now with a clearer understanding of himself, Justice shares whether he's ready for love today [45:54], before closing with a powerful reminder that lasting relationships begin with transparency, self-awareness, purpose, and the courage to tell the truth—even when that truth is uncomfortable [50:19]. 

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In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Justice Baiden for an honest conversation about relationships, purpose, and the lessons that come from committing before you're truly ready [00:00]. Justice explains why he initially avoided serious commitment [01:05] and reflects on how early success in the music industry changed the dynamics of his relationships [05:24], ultimately teaching him the importance of establishing purpose before partnership [07:49]. He opens up about avoiding difficult conversations in an effort to "keep the peace" [09:59], ignoring red flags while convincing himself everything was working [14:02], and expressing love by trying to fix problems for his partner [16:50]. Justice also examines how unspoken resentment and passive-aggressive communication eventually manifested as stress [18:19], leading him to recognize that healthy relationships require clarity about individual goals [22:24], reconnecting with the passions and interests that once gave you direction [24:34], and creating intentional next steps toward the life you actually want [25:46].
Justice goes deeper into why actions ultimately matter more than promises [27:59] and introduces the importance of defining "yours, mine, and ours" within a partnership [28:37], including honest conversations about sacrifice, expectations, values, and true non-negotiables [30:34]. He reflects on overcoming the fear, guilt, and concern about other people's perceptions that can keep someone trapped in an unhealthy relationship [33:27], while confronting remorse, infidelity, and the responsibility of breaking destructive patterns [35:46]. The conversation also explores how father figures and role models shaped his understanding of manhood and relationships [40:51], the healing that can come from reparenting yourself through honest conversations [42:29], and the biggest lessons he carries from past love [44:12]. Now with a clearer understanding of himself, Justice shares whether he's ready for love today [45:54], before closing with a powerful reminder that lasting relationships begin with transparency, self-awareness, purpose, and the courage to tell the truth&mdash;even when that truth is uncomfortable [50:19].&nbsp;
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Follow Amber Grimes on Instagram:
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Follow Justice Baiden:
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<a href="https://substack.com/@withambergrimes">Get Amber's Newsletter on Substack</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/@iykbetter?si=WMEDSWNJOsxlRkD0">Watch This Episode on Youtube Thursday at 6pm ET&nbsp;</a>
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You can’t rewrite the past — but you can learn from it. Amber Grimes did exactly that, going from college dropout to Executive Vice President in the entertainment industry with no map, just mistakes and lessons that turned into power moves.

 

If You Knew Better is where Amber shares that wisdom — alongside artists, creatives, and culture-shifters who open up about the missteps they made, the mindsets that changed everything, and the game they wish they knew sooner.

 

Together, they unpack the highs, the lows, and the pivots in life, career, and relationships — so you either don’t have to go through it, or can move smarter when you do.

 

Every episode delivers real talk, hard-won insight, and practical gems to help you grow into the version of yourself that knows better… and does better.

You can&rsquo;t rewrite the past &mdash; but you can learn from it. Amber Grimes did exactly that, going from college dropout to Executive Vice President in the entertainment industry with no map, just mistakes and lessons that turned into power moves.
&nbsp;
If You Knew Better is where Amber shares that wisdom &mdash; alongside artists, creatives, and culture-shifters who open up about the missteps they made, the mindsets that changed everything, and the game they wish they knew sooner.
&nbsp;
Together, they unpack the highs, the lows, and the pivots in life, career, and relationships &mdash; so you either don&rsquo;t have to go through it, or can move smarter when you do.
&nbsp;
Every episode delivers real talk, hard-won insight, and practical gems to help you grow into the version of yourself that knows better&hellip; and does better.

If You Knew Better with Amber Grimes

Justice Baiden Knows Pursuing Your Passion Should Come Before Pursuing Partnership

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