In this episode of If You Knew Better, Amber Grimes sits down with Candiace Dillard Bassett for a candid conversation about fertility, IVF, and the deeply personal journey to intentional motherhood. Candiace shares why family planning became a priority [00:00], walks through the beginning of her IVF experience [03:00], and breaks down the importance of genetic testing [06:10] and understanding the IVF process [09:09]. She opens up about navigating hormonal treatments [12:01], overcoming physical and emotional challenges throughout the process [14:54], the realities of egg retrieval [18:11], and processing gender expectations and disappointment [21:01] while learning to trust her own path. Candiace also reflects on the emotional highs and lows of IVF [23:49] and how the experience ultimately reshaped her perspective on motherhood [27:12].

The conversation continues with an honest look at emotional resilience during fertility treatments [32:32], why Candiace chose to publicly share her story to help others [35:54], and the importance of thoroughly researching fertility options [37:50]. Amber and Candiace also discuss the unique healthcare challenges Black women face [40:37], advocating for yourself in medical settings and interracial relationships [43:44], the invaluable role of doulas during childbirth [47:34], and Candiace's labor and delivery experience [50:29]. The episode closes with reflections on balancing music and personal growth [53:34] and how motherhood has transformed her life, purpose, and identity [56:59]. Blending vulnerability, education, and empowerment, this episode offers an insightful guide for anyone navigating fertility, reproductive health, and the evolving journey of motherhood.

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