SUMMARY: What happens when a marriage starts drifting apart — and one or both spouses wonder if it’s even possible to reconnect? 

In this honest and hope-filled conversation, and sit down with author, speaker, and podcast host to talk about the quiet disconnection many couples experience and the practical ways healing can begin — even when things feel broken.  

Drawing from Lindsey’s personal story and her new book Don’t Burn Down the House, this episode explores: 
Why many marriages slowly drift into “roommate mode”  
What often causes emotional disconnection beneath the surface  
How resentment and hopelessness quietly build  
Why change can begin even if only one spouse is willing  
The small shifts that can create major transformation  
How to prioritize your marriage without losing yourself  
What rebuilding trust and connection really looks like  

If you’ve ever felt discouraged, lonely, unseen, or unsure whether your marriage can recover, this conversation offers practical wisdom and genuine hope. 

LINKS AND RESOURCES: Book: Don't Burn Your Own House Down: Prioritizing Your Marriage, Your Spouse, and Yourself for a Deeper Connection: Maestas, Lindsey: 9780310369479: Amazon.com: Books 

Website: HOME - Sparrows + Lily 

SUMMARY:&nbsp;What happens when a marriage starts drifting apart &mdash; and one or both spouses wonder if&nbsp;it&rsquo;s&nbsp;even possible to reconnect?&nbsp;
In this honest and hope-filled conversation, and sit down with author, speaker, and podcast host to talk about the quiet disconnection many couples experience and the practical ways healing can begin &mdash; even when things feel broken.&nbsp;&nbsp;
Drawing from Lindsey&rsquo;s personal story and her new book&nbsp;Don&rsquo;t&nbsp;Burn Down the House, this episode explores:&nbsp;
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If&nbsp;you&rsquo;ve&nbsp;ever felt discouraged, lonely, unseen, or unsure whether your marriage can recover, this conversation offers practical wisdom and genuine hope.&nbsp;
LINKS AND RESOURCES:&nbsp;Book:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310369479/?bestFormat=true&amp;k=don%27t%20burn%20your%20own%20house%20down&amp;ref_=nb_sb_ss_w_scx-ent-bk-v2_k2_1_20_de&amp;crid=2PKR3UOYU0M8U&amp;sprefix=Don%27t%20Burn%20The%20House">Don't Burn Your Own House Down: Prioritizing Your Marriage, Your Spouse, and Yourself for a Deeper Connection: Maestas, Lindsey: 9780310369479: Amazon.com: Books</a>&nbsp;
Website:&nbsp;<a href="https://sparrowsandlily.com/">HOME - Sparrows + Lily</a>&nbsp;

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Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You&rsquo;re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They&rsquo;re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

Why Couples Drift and How to Reverse It, with Lindsay Maestas – Episode 43

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