SUMMARY:  

In this episode of I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with licensed professional counselor and bestselling author Debra Fileta for an honest and insightful conversation about the relationship blind spots many of us don’t realize we have. Together, they explore how emotional patterns, past wounds, and unrecognized habits can quietly shape the way we connect with others. 

Debra shares practical wisdom on how to grow in self-awareness, strengthen communication, and take ownership of the ways we impact the people we love. Whether you’re dating, married, leading others, or simply wanting healthier relationships, this episode offers hope-filled tools to help you break unhealthy cycles and build deeper connection. 

If you’ve ever wondered why relationships can feel harder than they should—or how to become a healthier version of yourself—this conversation is for you. 

LINKS AND RESOURCES: 

Book: People Skills: Your Relationships Are Only as Strong as Your Skills 

Website: Debra Fileta | Best Selling Author, Speaker, Psychotherapist, and Podcaster! 

The Kindness Challenge 

SUMMARY:&nbsp;&nbsp;
In this episode of&nbsp;I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff&nbsp;Feldhahn&nbsp;sit down with licensed professional counselor and bestselling author Debra&nbsp;Fileta&nbsp;for an honest and insightful conversation about the relationship blind spots many of us&nbsp;don&rsquo;t&nbsp;realize we have. Together, they explore how emotional patterns, past wounds, and unrecognized habits can quietly shape the way we connect with others.&nbsp;
Debra shares practical wisdom on how to grow in self-awareness, strengthen communication, and take ownership of the ways we&nbsp;impact&nbsp;the people we love. Whether&nbsp;you&rsquo;re&nbsp;dating, married, leading others, or simply wanting healthier relationships, this episode offers hope-filled tools to help you break unhealthy cycles and build deeper&nbsp;connection.&nbsp;
If&nbsp;you&rsquo;ve&nbsp;ever wondered why relationships can feel harder than they should&mdash;or how to become a healthier version of yourself&mdash;this conversation is for you.&nbsp;
LINKS AND RESOURCES:&nbsp;
Book:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.amazon.com/People-Skills-Your-Relationships-Strong/dp/0736991093/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2SLUSIAQB44FD&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.yfy5rKekwjjp08z8kUlToTMOjuiJUaHrZQwtvkQHVMxFCiAzaSxgIVvdleys4Ffh5NHhH6vQwHMHesUoguORtQ81Fda0fLDNc9qG2131JMm9wpMFcNmYvxbYqhZ5hL7aQDbZInuW-BluG6zw0VLigiox7O3HVBskeNuszTtMpLIY3z7c-RRuLN_Mj7UVK4j4.p5V4OBJyP_qwC4Y4qlmiQKNtr9XnXrRsudsjofAsJEI&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=people+skills+debra+fileta&amp;qid=1775834764&amp;sprefix=People+Skills%2Caps%2C962&amp;sr=8-1">People Skills: Your Relationships Are Only as Strong as Your Skills</a>&nbsp;
Website:&nbsp;<a href="https://debrafileta.com/">Debra Fileta | Best Selling Author, Speaker, Psychotherapist, and Podcaster!</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Kindness-Challenge-Thirty-Improve-Relationship/dp/1601421222/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Kindness Challenge&nbsp;</a>

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

I Wish You Could Hear This

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You&rsquo;re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They&rsquo;re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

The Blind Spots Hurting Your Relationships, with Debra Fileta: Episode 41 

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