In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with singer-songwriter Dave Barnes to unpack the emotional world of men and the dynamics that shape relationships. Together, they explore the often-overlooked depth of men’s feelings, how love is expressed differently than women might expect, and the surprising role of music and creativity in emotional connection.

They also dive into some of the biggest misconceptions women have about men’s romantic intentions, and why understanding love languages—and misreading them—can lead to unnecessary hurt. Drawing on personal stories, research insights, and years of marriage experience, the conversation turns toward the deeper challenges couples face: loneliness, unmet expectations, and the myth that one person can meet all emotional needs.

Throughout, the trio emphasizes the power of believing the best in your partner, the healing gift of forgiveness, and the essential role of community, prayer, and positive communication in building strong, resilient relationships. Whether you're married, dating, or simply curious about how men really think and love, this episode offers a rich, encouraging guide to connection and empathy.

Resources/Links Mentioned:

https://www.davebarnes.com/

https://dadville.substack.com

In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with singer-songwriter Dave Barnes to unpack the emotional world of men and the dynamics that shape relationships. Together, they explore the often-overlooked depth of men’s feelings, how love is expressed differently than women might expect, and the surprising role of music and creativity in emotional connection. They also dive into some of the biggest misconceptions women have about men’s romantic intentions, and why understanding love languages—and misreading them—can lead to unnecessary hurt. Drawing on personal stories, research insights, and years of marriage experience, the conversation turns toward the deeper challenges couples face: loneliness, unmet expectations, and the myth that one person can meet all emotional needs. Throughout, the trio emphasizes the power of believing the best in your partner, the healing gift of forgiveness, and the essential role of community, prayer, and positive communication in building strong, resilient relationships. Whether you're married, dating, or simply curious about how men really think and love, this episode offers a rich, encouraging guide to connection and empathy. Resources/Links Mentioned: <a href="https://www.davebarnes.com/">https://www.davebarnes.com/</a> <a href="https://dadville.substack.com">https://dadville.substack.com</a>

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

I Wish You Could Hear This

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You&rsquo;re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They&rsquo;re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with singer-songwriter Dave Barnes to unpack the emotional world of men and the dynamics that shape relationships. Together, they explore the often-overlooked depth of...

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