We all want a happy, healthy marriage. But sometimes it's easier to see what our spouse needs to change than to recognize what we might need to work on ourselves. And when we're feeling hurt or frustrated, believing the best of our spouse isn't always our first instinct!

In Part 2 of this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff continue exploring the six practical steps they've discovered through their research on highly happy marriages. They discuss why it's so important to recognize our spouse's good intentions (even when their actions don't quite hit the mark!), how our own insecurities can affect the way we treat each other, and why taking responsibility for our own actions can make such a difference.

They also share some personal stories from their own marriage, fascinating insights about forgiveness, and what they've learned through their research on the power of kindness—including why we may not be nearly as kind as we think we are.

The encouraging news? A better marriage doesn't require a perfect spouse—or a perfect you. Sometimes it starts with a willingness to look at things differently, extend a little more grace, and choose kindness even when it's difficult.

Resources
For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn
The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages by Shaunti Feldhahn
The 30-Day Kindness Challenge — Learn more

Invite Shaunti to Speak

Would you like to explore having Shaunti speak at your next event? Whether you're planning a marriage event, women's gathering, retreat, or conference, we'd love to connect! Email speaking@shaunti.com or visit shaunti.com/speaking to learn more.

We all want a happy, healthy marriage. But sometimes it's easier to see what our spouse needs to change than to recognize what we might need to work on ourselves. And when we're feeling hurt or frustrated, believing the best of our spouse isn't always our first instinct!
In Part 2 of this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff continue exploring the six practical steps they've discovered through their research on highly happy marriages. They discuss why it's so important to recognize our spouse's good intentions (even when their actions don't quite hit the mark!), how our own insecurities can affect the way we treat each other, and why taking responsibility for our own actions can make such a difference.
They also share some personal stories from their own marriage, fascinating insights about forgiveness, and what they've learned through their research on the power of kindness&mdash;including why we may not be nearly as kind as we think we are.
The encouraging news? A better marriage doesn't require a perfect spouse&mdash;or a perfect you. Sometimes it starts with a willingness to look at things differently, extend a little more grace, and choose kindness even when it's difficult.
Resources
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn</li>
<li aria-level="1">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages by Shaunti Feldhahn</li>
<li aria-level="1">The 30-Day Kindness Challenge &mdash;<a href="https://jointhekindnesschallenge.com/"> Learn more</a></li>
</ul>
Invite Shaunti to Speak
Would you like to explore having Shaunti speak at your next event? Whether you're planning a marriage event, women's gathering, retreat, or conference, we'd love to connect! Email speaking@shaunti.com or visit shaunti.com/speaking to learn more.

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

I Wish You Could Hear This

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You&rsquo;re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They&rsquo;re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

6 Steps to Better Your Marriage (Part 2) - Episode 53

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