“Affairs are a little like childbirth. Someone is always having one somewhere, usually right under the nose of a spouse because nobody knows everything that happens inside a marriage, not even the people in it.” 

Award-winning author and journalist Kate Legge has chronicled social and political affairs and other people’s stories since the 1980s. But Kate’s latest book - an unflinchingly honest and raw memoir called 'Infidelity and Other Affairs' - explores her own story and the tumult that took hold when her husband’s serial cheating upended her life, decades-long marriage and entire sense of self.

Kate’s story and that of her complex family of origin are compelling, and in this episode of Human Cogs she details her hurt, fury, agony and the eventual forgiveness and understanding she developed for her husband in the face of his betrayal and deceit. To this day, they remain firm friends.

As Kate writes: “Affairs create their own weather systems. They leap fences like wildfires and give reason the flick, and in the aftermath there is a bill of claims and damages to be logged. We are drawn to broken glass, like ghouls guiltily feasting on the drama. The hurt, the highs, the hubris, the audacity, the anguish jolts us out of complacency.”

Listen to this if you want to go deep into the complexities of marital infidelity, understand how our families of origin shape and scar us, and discover how the getting of wisdom is mostly got along the rutted roads and blind turns of our very messy human lives.

Guest: Kate Legge
Book: Infidelity and Other Affairs by Kate Legge

Host: Mads Grummet
Producer: Daryl Missen

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“Affairs are a little like childbirth. Someone is always having one somewhere, usually right under the nose of a spouse because nobody knows everything that happens inside a marriage, not even the people in it.” 
Award-winning author and journalist Kate Legge has chronicled social and political affairs and other people’s stories since the 1980s. But Kate’s latest book - an unflinchingly honest and raw memoir called 'Infidelity and Other Affairs' - explores her own story and the tumult that took hold when her husband’s serial cheating upended her life, decades-long marriage and entire sense of self.
Kate’s story and that of her complex family of origin are compelling, and in this episode of Human Cogs she details her hurt, fury, agony and the eventual forgiveness and understanding she developed for her husband in the face of his betrayal and deceit. To this day, they remain firm friends.
As Kate writes: “Affairs create their own weather systems. They leap fences like wildfires and give reason the flick, and in the aftermath there is a bill of claims and damages to be logged. We are drawn to broken glass, like ghouls guiltily feasting on the drama. The hurt, the highs, the hubris, the audacity, the anguish jolts us out of complacency.” Listen to this if you want to go deep into the complexities of marital infidelity, understand how our families of origin shape and scar us, and discover how the getting of wisdom is mostly got along the rutted roads and blind turns of our very messy human lives.
Guest: Kate Legge Book: <a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/infidelity-and-other-affairs-kate-legge/book/9781760762810.html">Infidelity and Other Affairs by Kate Legge</a>  Host: <a href="https://www.madeleinegrummet.com/">Mads Grummet</a><a href="https://www.sabinareadpsychology.com.au/"> </a>Producer: <a href="https://vinilo.com.au/">Daryl Missen</a>
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Humans Cogs brings you stories that matter, and conversations about what's really going on in people's lives right now.

Hosted by psychologist and media contributor Sabina Read, and award-winning entrepreneur and journalist Madeleine Grummet, each episode features real and raw conversations with extraordinary guests who share dark secrets, silver linings, advice on living and loving well, and will challenge what you think you know about yourself, and the world around you.

Human Cogs is a point of universal connection for us all, exploring the things that bring us together, and the things that tear us apart.


Listen wherever you get your podcasts.

www.humancogs.com

Humans Cogs brings you stories that matter, and conversations about what's really going on in people's lives right now. Hosted by psychologist and media contributor <a href="https://www.sabinareadpsychology.com.au/">Sabina Read</a>, and award-winning entrepreneur and journalist <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/madeleinegrummet">Madeleine Grummet</a>, each episode features real and raw conversations with <a href="https://www.humancogs.com/guests">extraordinary guests</a> who share dark secrets, silver linings, advice on living and loving well, and will challenge what you think you know about yourself, and the world around you. Human Cogs is a point of universal connection for us all, exploring the things that bring us together, and the things that tear us apart. 
Listen wherever you get your podcasts. www.humancogs.com

Human Cogs Podcast

Humans Cogs brings you stories that matter, hard-won wisdom and raw conversations about what's really going on in people's lives.

Hosted by award-winning entrepreneur, journalist and investor Madeleine Grummet and psychologist and media contributor Sabina Read, each episode features raw conversations with extraordinary guests who lift the lid on their real lives to help you explore what you think you know about yourself, and the changing world around you.

Human Cogs is a point of universal connection for us all, exploring the things that bring us together, and the things that tear us apart.

Humans Cogs brings you stories that matter, hard-won wisdom and raw conversations about what's really going on in people's lives. Hosted by award-winning entrepreneur, journalist and investor <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/madeleinegrummet">Madeleine Grummet</a> and psychologist and media contributor <a href="https://www.sabinareadpsychology.com.au/">Sabina Read</a>, each episode features raw conversations with <a href="https://www.humancogs.com/guests">extraordinary guests</a> who lift the lid on their real lives to help you explore what you think you know about yourself, and the changing world around you. Human Cogs is a point of universal connection for us all, exploring the things that bring us together, and the things that tear us apart.

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