In this episode, my guest is Esther Perel, a world-renowned psychotherapist, relationship expert, and bestselling author. She explains healthy romantic relationship dynamics and how to achieve them. The answer includes curiosity not just about the other person but, more importantly, about who we can evolve into through healthy relating.

Esther explains the fundamental differences and challenges in relationships formed at different stages of life. We also discuss relationship conflict and how to give and receive a true apology.

Additionally, we discuss fidelity, breaches of trust, reviving relationships, and tools for understanding your needs regarding love and desire in a relationship. The episode will help listeners understand the key elements to find, build, and revive deeply satisfying romantic relationships.

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00:00:00 Esther Perel

00:02:03 Sponsors: David Protein, LMNT & Helix Sleep

00:06:33 Romantic Relationships, Change & Self

00:11:18 Cornerstone vs. Capstone Relationships, Age Differences

00:16:53 Young vs. Older Couples, Dynamic Relationships

00:20:13 Identity & Relationship Evolution

00:26:00 Curiosity, Reactivity

00:30:29 Sponsor: AG1

00:31:59 Polarization, Conflict; Coherence & Narratives

00:38:21 Apologies, Forgiveness, Shame, Self-Esteem

00:45:00 Relationship Conflict

00:53:48 Sponsor: Function

00:55:35 Verb States of Conflict; Emotion, Narratives vs. Reality

01:00:10 Time Domains & Hurt; Caretaker & Romantic Relationships

01:08:03 Couples Therapy; Language & Naming

01:20:15 Desire in Relationships

01:26:20 Tool: Love & Desire

01:31:28 Infidelity, “Aliveness”

01:35:17 Intimacy, Abandonment, Self-Preservation

01:41:26 Erotic Blueprints, Emotional Needs

01:49:42 Tool: Repair Work, Relationship Revival; Sincere Apologies

01:59:30 Tool: Relationship Readiness

02:03:33 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow & Reviews, Sponsors, YouTube Feedback, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter

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In this episode, my guest is <a href="https://www.estherperel.com/">Esther Perel</a>, a world-renowned psychotherapist, relationship expert, and bestselling author. She explains healthy romantic relationship dynamics and how to achieve them. The answer includes curiosity not just about the other person but, more importantly, about who we can evolve into through healthy relating.Esther explains the fundamental differences and challenges in relationships formed at different stages of life. We also discuss relationship conflict and how to give and receive a true apology.Additionally, we discuss fidelity, breaches of trust, reviving relationships, and tools for understanding your needs regarding love and desire in a relationship. The episode will help listeners understand the key elements to find, build, and revive deeply satisfying romantic relationships.Access the full show notes for this episode at <a href="https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/esther-perel-how-to-find-build-maintain-healthy-romantic-relationships">hubermanlab.com</a>.<h2>Thank you to our sponsors</h2>AG1: <a href="https://drinkag1.com/huberman">https://drinkag1.com/huberman</a>David Protein: <a href="https://davidprotein.com/huberman">https://davidprotein.com/huberman</a>LMNT: <a href="https://drinklmnt.com/huberman">https://drinklmnt.com/huberman</a>Helix Sleep: <a href="https://helixsleep.com/huberman">https://helixsleep.com/huberman</a>Function: <a href="https://functionhealth.com/huberman">https://functionhealth.com/huberman</a><h2>Timestamps</h2>00:00:00 Esther Perel00:02:03 Sponsors: David Protein, LMNT &amp; Helix Sleep00:06:33 Romantic Relationships, Change &amp; Self00:11:18 Cornerstone vs. Capstone Relationships, Age Differences00:16:53 Young vs. Older Couples, Dynamic Relationships00:20:13 Identity &amp; Relationship Evolution00:26:00 Curiosity, Reactivity00:30:29 Sponsor: AG100:31:59 Polarization, Conflict; Coherence &amp; Narratives00:38:21 Apologies, Forgiveness, Shame, Self-Esteem00:45:00 Relationship Conflict00:53:48 Sponsor: Function00:55:35 Verb States of Conflict; Emotion, Narratives vs. Reality01:00:10 Time Domains &amp; Hurt; Caretaker &amp; Romantic Relationships01:08:03 Couples Therapy; Language &amp; Naming01:20:15 Desire in Relationships01:26:20 Tool: Love &amp; Desire01:31:28 Infidelity, “Aliveness”01:35:17 Intimacy, Abandonment, Self-Preservation01:41:26 Erotic Blueprints, Emotional Needs01:49:42 Tool: Repair Work, Relationship Revival; Sincere Apologies01:59:30 Tool: Relationship Readiness02:03:33 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify &amp; Apple Follow &amp; Reviews, Sponsors, YouTube Feedback, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter<a href="https://www.hubermanlab.com/disclaimer">Disclaimer &amp; Disclosures</a>

Huberman Lab discusses neuroscience: how our brain and its connections with the organs of our body control our perceptions, our behaviors, and our health. We also discuss existing and emerging tools for measuring and changing how our nervous system works. Dr. Andrew Huberman is a tenured professor of neurobiology and ophthalmology at Stanford School of Medicine. His laboratory studies neural regeneration, neuroplasticity, and brain states such as stress, focus, fear, and optimal performance. For more than 20 years, Dr. Huberman has consistently published original research findings and review articles in top-level peer-reviewed journals, including Nature, Science, Cell, Neuron, and Current Biology. He is a regular member of several National Institutes of Health review panels and a Fellow of the McKnight Foundation and the Pew Charitable Trusts. Dr. Huberman regularly consults for technology development companies, professional athletic organizations, and various units of U.S. and Canadian Special Operations.

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In this episode, my guest is Esther Perel, a world-renowned psychotherapist, relationship expert, and bestselling author.