We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This is How Men Thick and I heard radio podcast. Hey what's up everybody. I'm Jonathan Bennett, and you may know me as Aaron Samuels from the movie Mean Girls, and yes, my hair does look sexy pushed back In case you're wondering, I'm also an actor, a TV host, and I am so happy to be guest hosting How Men Think. Now I'm going to answer all of your questions and solve the fascinating question of how men think. I think? But first, this is eleven questions with Jonathan Bennett. Now I have not looked at these until right now, so this will all be on the fly. Wish me look, here we go. Eleven questions with Jonathan. Number one, what are you known for? Tell us about yourself? Okay, well, I guess most people know me as Aaron Samuel's from Mean Girls, and I think what happened as I just I kissed a redheaded, freckle faced girl named Lindsay Lohan in a movie three thousand years ago. And now I can't go to a Starbucks without the barista writing, your hair look sexy pushed back on my cup or like I'll go and say hey, They'll they'll ask me for the name and say what's your name please, and I'll say Jonathan and then they'll just go ahead and write Aaron Samuel's on the cup, which is an amazing thing but also crazy. So it's a very weird life to be Jonathan Bennett. I'm not gonna lie. October three is a very weird day for me. So if you ever having an awkward day in your life, just think what does Jonathan Bennett feel like on on October three? I bet you it's not as weird as his day number two. Who are you in your personal life? Well, contrary to popular belief, I know you might think that I was in love with Lindsay Lohan, but I I actually I am in love with James Vaughan, my fiance. Uh plot twist, Aaron Samuel's gay Huh wow? Um so that was a big plot twist for pop culture. Um, but actually was it wasn't? Really? Um. So I'm engaged to my fiance James Vaughan. We've been engaged for just over a year now, and we have our wedding coming up this spring, which we're really excited about. We're getting married to Mexico at Unicode Resort, which is this amazing resort in Mexico that's very inclusive for the l g B t Q plus community there. It's just got such a great diverse group of people working there and you know, people coming there. It's just a fantastic place. So we're very excited about that. And yeah, my fiance and I are totally in love and having such a blast being fiance's and just going on this whole wedding journey, trying to figure out who's coming, what's happening at the wedding, all the things that happen when you're planning a wedding. It's super fun, but also it's a little bit stressful. I'm not gonna lie um, but at the end of the day, is long as we're standing there saying our vows, I don't care if it you know, if everything falls over and it starts raining, it's still gonna be fine because we're gonna be there with all of our friends and family and having a blast. So that's what's important. Which is also crazy because our families have never met, so this is the first time our families are coming together. Is at our wedding, so this should be interesting. Three shows that you are binge watching right now? Okay, guys, I'm not gonna lie like I want to have an answer that's more diverse than this, but I can't. The three shows that I'm watching right now are RuPaul's Drag Race UK, RuPaul's Drag Race American, and RuPaul's Drag Race. Queen of the Universe. Well, it's not really Rupaol's Drag Race, but it's Queen of the Universe, which is the drag queen singing competition show. I am the biggest RuPaul's fan. It's all I watched because here's the thing. The day that someone makes better television than a group of drag queens try trying to out drag queen each other, I'll watch it until then. There's nothing that beats RuPaul's Drag Race. Queen of the Universe is the New Wild Presents show. That's pretty close. It's basically RuPaul's Drag Race meets American Idol, so you have drag queens singing trying to be the best singer. So both are fantastic shows. But I always think about the pitch that happened for RuPaul's Drag Race. Like picture RuPaul walking into logo to pitch the idea for the show and she just walks in or sorry, he just walks in and says, Okay, it's America's next Top Model but drag queens, and then the person of the network just writes the check. Yep, genius. It's just so much fun. It's such a fun show to watch. It's so exciting. There's so much color and creativity, and every time I wants to show it just inspires me to go out and create something crazy and unique and different, and also to celebrate my uniqueness. Remember there's only one new number four. What is your favorite food? Okay, I eat like a toddler. So my favorite foods are white rice, just plain old white rice. I love waffles and apples. Those are my three favorite foods. Literally what you feed either your dog when it has a stomach virus or your toddler. But hey, what, I have a simple palette. I also really like the Chinese chicken salad from Applebee's, which is a fantastic restaurant. I am why they created Applebee's. I'm from Ohio. That's just what we eat. Tell us about your career number five. Um, okay, So my career is very strange. The first movie I ever did was Mean Girls. So then what do you do after you do Mean Girls. It's a very bizarre life. It's a weird thing to be part of the biggest, arguably one of the biggest movies in pop culture history. To have that as your first movie. It really I call it the Zach Morris syndrome. You become Zack Morris. Right, you're Aaron Samuels. You're not Johnathan men At the actor, You're just Aaron Samuels. So it's a really fun interesting thing to try to then figure out what your career looks like after that movie. So I got to do a lot of really fun movies. I did Van Wilder Freshman Year, I basically when I did Uh, Cheaper by the Dozen two with Steve Martin. I did Dukes of Hazard the Beginning, and so those were the movies I did immediately after Me and Girls. And it was funny because I always joke whenever they couldn't afford like Ashton Kutcher, Ryan Reynolds or Sean William Scott, They're like, get Bennett in here, He'll do it. And he's a little bit cheaper, still handsome and kind of funny. So that's I'm like the bargain bin version of them, for the for the for the sequels, for those movies. That's what I always joke about. But after at I've done a ton of stuff. I released Ah, I released a unauthorized, unofficial parody cookbook for Mean Girls fans called the Burn Cookbook. Because I started hosting cake wars on Food Network. I hosted Cake Wars, Cupcake Wars, Christmas Wars, Chris Holiday Wars, Halloween Wars, Cupcake Boards, Kids Celebrity Cupcake Wars. If there was a wars on the Food Network, I would host the crap out of it. And doing all that, I met all these amazing chefs and started really working in the food space. So on top of acting and shooting all the shows I was shooting, I would actually go and work on a book at nighttime, which was The Burn Cookbook. It's basically cookbook for Mean Girls fans. If you have a taste for recipes like it's not regular guawk, it's cool glack or fetch a Chenie Alfredo. We even have Gretchen's wieners in the book. So we have all these amazing recipes for you to make that are super simple, and then there's all these amazing behind the scenes facts and stories of filming the movie. It's just the perfect book for you and your girlfriends to get together. Get the book off Amazon, make some of the recipes. They're super simple and really delicious, and watch the movie and just have like a really fun girl's night in. There's the perfect gift for the holidays. It's the perfect bachelor party, get bachelorette party, get anything like that. It's just a really fun book to bring people together because the whole movie is about not sitting with each other. You can't sit with us, and this book is about bringing people together. You can sit with us, so you can sit around, have some fun and relive some of your favorite parts of the movie. It's it's a blast um. And then after that, I started doing a lot of movies with Hallmark Channel, and I'm so proud because last year we launched the first l G B t Q plus Hallmark Channel Christmas movie. It was the first time there was a gay kiss in Hallmark movie. And I got the honor of doing that and representing and it was such a beautiful thing because so many people that year felt more seen, and I feel like the younger Jonathan's, the younger versions of me around the world, felt a little less scared that Christmas. And this Christmas, December eighteenth, we have the sequel to The Christmas House. It's The Christmas House to coming out this December eighteenth on Homework Channel, where we actually take that storyline a little bit deeper and expand the character I play, Brandon. Him and his husband Jake. Their family has expanded and has gotten bigger, and so we catch up with them, and it's the movie has twice the heart and twice the humor as the first one. And I'm really proud to really, you know, do something that made a difference. And the coolest part of all this, get this, wait, get this ready, The Smithsonian has my jacket from the movie in it now. Because the Smithsonian saw the movie, thought it was such a groundbreaking thing to have the first ever gay storyline and gay kiss on a on a Christmas movie, and the fact that it was at Hallmark Channel, which is, you know, the benchmark for holiday movies, they thought it was worthy to be in the Smithsonian. So my script and my jacket and and Brad's jacket that plays my husband are all now locked away in the Smithsonian Archives as part of pop culture history. How cool is that? Really cool to make make those amazing movements for the l g B t Q plus community. What is number six? What is your biggest fear in life? What's my biggest fear? Uh? I think my biggest fear is failure. Isn't that what everyone's afraid of? Or is it just because I'm an only child and an actor. I think my biggest fear is failure because I set my goals so high and I dreamed so big that, um, the thing I fear fear most is is failing. But what I'm learning to do is accept the fact that failure is just part of life, Like you're gonna fail, and the fact that you fail means you're trying. And that's what's important, because the other alternative to not failing is to do nothing, which is worse than failing. What's your biggest pet? Peeve? Chewing cereal. You're not allowed to eat cereal around me ever, because I will take the bowl, I will pick it up, and I will throw it through the window. I have misophonia, which is a condition where the sound of certain things drive me absolutely crazy, and the sound of someone chewing cereal in a quiet room will make my blood boil. Number eight what makes you most happy? Waking up with my fiance and my golden doodle and having like an hour to just lay in the bed and cuddle and give the dog kisses and give my fiance kisses. I mean, my fiance has gold hair, curly hair, and blue eyes. My dog has gold, curly hair and blue eyes. I basically just kiss both of the curly headed, blonde things in my life in the morning. That but that's what makes me most happy. What's your ideal Saturday morning? Again? Waking up with my fiance and my dog and just sitting outside in palm springs at our house and just relaxing. We have the best pool in the best yard, and just being home and being able to be together is just the best Saturday morning to me. And a lot of coffee because they drink a lot of coffee. I drink a lot of ice coffe. Fam Gay where we have to. It's part of the part of the deal. Number ten. Are you more of an athlete or an armchair quarterback. I don't even know what that means. Number eleven. What keeps you motivated? Um? I think the things that keep me motivated are the are the messages that I get from from fans and from people on my Instagram that message me saying, Hey, you know, I was afraid to come out, or I was afraid to be who I was, or I'm struggling with this. But the fact that you and James lived your life so boldly and loudly and openly and show us what love looks like on Instagram and on your social media's were able to like kind of peer into your life. That makes that motivates us and helps give us strength to be who we are. So I think the fact that we live our lives so loudly and probably really helps motivate me to keep going because of the response we get when we do it. All Right, And that was eleven questions with Jonathan Bennett. Okay, so we're gonna take a quick break and then we're gonna come back with some of the color questions. Don't go away. So we have Jessica on the like jess Jessica Volkenburg Dankenburg. Man, Oh wow, that sounds like a character of like the bad Guy that's like trying to take over the company, and like a Hallmark movie, it does have a little evil ring to it. But I promised, I'm very nice. I can tell your face is adorable. Thank you. What's going on? Talk to me? Not a lot is going on. I'm so excited to be here with you guys. And UM, I have a few questions that I'm hoping that you can answer for me. Okay, We're gonna try. I mean, okay, take my advice lightly, but we'll try. Let's go. Okay, So I recently got out of a four year relationship, um, and I'm starting to like dip my toe back into the dating pool and I'm trying out some dating asks. But some of the guys that are meeting are different online than they are in person. So what is your best advice for online dating? And why do you think that some men do this? Okay, such a great question, Jessica. First of all, I'm happy that you're back into the dating pool again and you're starting to dip your toe in. That's great. I'm sorry your four year relationship didn't work out, but as my dad would say, he always give me the best advice, he would say, John, sometimes relationships just don't work, and that's okay. And so we're very excited that you're getting back into the dating pool. Now. As far as men being different online than in person, such a true thing, right, because we're online, we have the power of protection. You know, we're we're not actually making a connection, we're just typing in our phone. And this is me being I'm fourty years old and I'm very old, not very old, but I'm much older than you, Jessica. So let me tell you the difference is having that like protection of being behind a screen is such a good and bad thing, right, because they don't have to actually connect with the human when they're talking to them. So what you're seeing is you're seeing a space that you're talking in, a space that's safe when you're talking online on the dating app, and then when you're talking in person, you're talking in a space that's vulnerable. And so one is safe, one is vulnerable. And so the reason you're seeing a difference is that vulnerability is showing when they're in person. And when we're vulnerable, we become different people and we we tend to do things that that we normally wouldn't do or or we don't have the strength to say the things that we can behind a screen. So totally understandable and such an important thing to point out. The advice I have for that is, if you're into someone and you're starting to have a good rapport, get to the in person meeting quicker, right because so many times we have these weeks and months people go like, you know, I've been talking to this guy for four weeks on on one of the apps, and we're going to find the meet in person. Well, you've created a fake relationship that doesn't exist because you created a relationship that has no vulnerability to it. Dating is hard, Dating is vulnerable. Dating is scary. There's a lot you know, you're opening up yourself as this person gonna like me, So it's a very vulnerable state to be in. And I think it's actually better to get into that vulnerable state quicker, so that way you can see if there's a real connection. Because the online dating, when you're talking just behind screens and like using your phone, that's not a real connection. That's a false identity and a false Uh. We're creating what we wanted to be versus what it is, so get into the meat of it quicker. Does that make sense? Yes, definitely. I think it's easy to try and hide behind the screens sometimes, but by getting in person, I can definitely see that being helpful. And hopefully with your advice, I'll be able to find my own Aaron Samuels one day. And I hope his hair looks sexy pushed back, I hope it looks fantastic. Thank you so much, too, By And now we have Tara on the line. Hi, Tara, Hi, how are you? I'm wonderful. What's going on? Not much, just another day getting through the day, is honey. It's one. We're just trying to get through the days. So what's going on? Do you have any questions? What can I help you with? Um? I mean I I have been single for I actually never been in a serious relationship, and I feel like I'm just being way too picky. But I don't know if it's like me being picky or am I just waiting for the right one? Mm hmm, Okay, such an interesting and complex question. UM, I'd say, yes you're being picky, and yes you're waiting for the right one, and yes you're being too picky all at the same time. I know that sounds confusing, but let me walk you through it. So for the relationship that I'm in with my fiance it took me going through a lot, meeting a lot of different people and thinking I maybe had found Mr. Wright but actually realized I hadn't, and it had me falsely um accepting and wanting these relationships that I'm really grateful for because I learned so much about myself and about what I wanted a relationship and about who I was, and that helped me. When I ended up meeting my fiancee and it all just clicked. I was like, Oh, this is what this is the one. But I wouldn't have anything to compare that too if I hadn't been in any other relationship. And all my other relationships were so beneficial and I care about them so much and I have nothing but respect and love for them because of what I was able to learn about myself and about life from them. There's always like no relationship. I may don't want to say no relationship, but more nine times out of ten, most relationships that end aren't completely awful unless they're obviously an abusive relationship where something that's actually really traumatic. You end up you're gonna walk away, you're gonna dust yourself off, and you're gonna learn something from it. And So the thing that I'm worried about with you, with being so picky, is you definitely I'm not saying go and date a whole bunch of people, but you definitely want to have something to compare your benchmark of the guy of your dreams too. So if you are too picky, maybe when you meet a guy that you don't that you might think is the guy of your dreams, he might not be because you just are going for this one because this is who this is who you think. But then once you get in the relationship, you have nothing to compare it to. Yeah, does that Does that make sense? Like we want to be careful and I'm not saying I'm not saying go out and like get into serious relationships with people, but it's okay to go on a couple of dates with people here and there and like find what works for you. It's you know, the rules are different, Like this isn't this isn't white picket fences anymore. Right, this isn't this is It's a very complex world. To navigate, and there's so many things to navigate out there that I think, bye, by going on dates with people and actually getting to know people and kind of seeing how you feel being vulnerable around people will help you learn about yourself. So that way, when Mr Wright does come, you'll say, oh, here he is. This is absolutely the one. Yeah. And I actually, because of COVID, I think it's been so weird and I haven't really tried to meet anyone, but I just recently got back on like Bumble and Hinge, and I'm like trying to put myself out there, but it's still really weird in COVID. It's like a weird time. I'm more I'm someone who likes to meet people in person. That's like where I shine the most. Yeah, and I'm also the person who likes to pick up the phone and call someone, so one text is also always so weird for me. But I'm trying, yeah, look, and it's okay that it's weird, Like it's okay two that these weird things are happening with COVID. I mean, it's not okay that COVID is happening, but it's okay that you feel awkward trying to date during this weird time because it's not a normal time. So uh, ex you know, except you know, I was on a show called Celebrity Big Brother, and they always would say expect the unexpected. While with COVID and with dating in the way the world works now, I would say accept the unexpected, like except that all this is weird, and like just throw it out there in the conversation, like you can bring up you know, if if two people identify that something is weird, it's no longer weird. So like if you just call it out to the to the person, this is so freaking weird, and we're trying to put this do all this and dang, like I wish I wasn't texting you. I wish you could meet in person. How do we do that that COVID this is all weird to us. I hate it, Like bring that up when you're talking to someone, because then you both are Once you both identify it, it's no longer weird. Yeah. I never thought of it that way, but I'll definitely try that. Like, this sucks. What do we do instead of trying to be like, Hi, it's totally normal to not see each other and just be on zoom dates. A zoom dates a total normal thing. No, it's not. It's freaking dumb and awful and weird, and it completely takes all the dating and the connection and the real like energy and pheromones and all the things that happened on our date. It gets rid of all that. And it's like, also, honey, he can look real good on a zoom with the right lighting and the proper filters, so in person is always best true that ring lighting just really, honey, I mean you should see my room When I do zooms, I look like I'm sitting on the surface of the sun, like there's more light than anyone. So so I would I would say, just call it out that it's weird. Figure a way to meet up in person that's COVID safe for both of you, and figure a way to do that, because you're right, like, it's just it's just stupid, Like it's just it's all dumb and it's hard to date on. It's just done. Yeah, and hopefully. But it's so funny because this year my cousin brought her new boyfriend to Thanksgiving lunchy. Yeah, and now I'm the last cousin who's single, So I feel like the pressure is really on. Oh honey, well, first of all, we first of all, we don't know what's going on with your cousin and her man like this could just because they brought him to Thanksgiving doesn't mean it's the right one. So don't don't put the cart before the horse. Yeah, totally or or in this case, the turkey. So well, Tara, thank you so much. I hope I helped. Thank you, Yeah you did. And have a good one you too, Thank you. Bye. Hello, Sydney. We have Sydney on the line. How are you. It's Jonathan. Hi, Jonathan. I'm good. How are you. I'm wonderful. What's going on? Girl? Not too much. I'm on my lunch break right now, but super happy to be here. You're on your lunch break. First of all, two questions, where do you work? And what are you eating? Um? I work at a it's like a healthcare education company, Amrican marketing. Okay, very fun. I'm in Boston and I'm eating I made this, um, like chicken tkaraoke meatballs with rice and zucchini. Okay. So we're on like the healthy train because we're doing like karaoke meatballs with rice and zucchini, so it's still kind of healthy but still good. I'm really into that. Can you send me the recipe that sounds delicious? Yes? Brock your body shout out, she stop, brock your body. Don't even get out of here, Come on, very good. What's going on? Are you in love? Are you not in love? What do you want me to talk about? I'm not in love. I'm dating for sure, I'm single. But I did have a question more of like a generic relationship question. UM. But basically I know that there's the old saying of like, oh, if he wanted to, you would um in the context of dating and relationships. But do you think that still holds true today or do you think it's better to be more upfront at this point and just say you're interested? Or does it depend? I feel like that could go a lot of ways. But when do you get your thoughts? It's like that book, he's just not into you, right, that's kind of like talking. I think it's the most absolutely that you hit it on the head. I I want to tell you my story, right, because when you know you know right, I'm gonna take my story of how how it happened with my fiance and I. I go to the Grove, which is a mall here, and he's about to interview me for a show. He hosts a show. I'm they're promoting my show. He's going to interview me for the show. We meet and instantly it just happens, like you literally, we touched each other because we're like, oh, let's let's take a picture for our friend, because we had the one gay friend that everyone that works in entertainment has in common, and that is Lance Bass. Obviously Land because he's our leader, he's our married and so we said, let's take a picture for Lance. And when we touched each other, you could feel the electricity just happened. And instantly, in that moment, I knew. I was like I need to go on a date with him tonight. I need to kiss him right now. And it just was like this is it. It was happening. So we ended up going, we did the interview, I left, and then I called him thirty My my publicist was like, don't call him for like three days. You came on really strong, and that's what a person that's never been in love says. And I'm like, oh, okay, So all your friends that are going don't do it, play hard taking no, no, Well, y'all are dumb because you clearly have never been in love. You can't you can't control it when it happens. So what happened was I got out of the car. I was like, of course, fam, I'm not going to call him for like three days. They're fine. And I literally dialed his number and I said to him, is it weird if I come back and kiss you right now? And he said no, And I go good, because I'm already on my way. I would already start driving. We kissed at them in the parking lot at the mall. I said, we just have to do this and see if it's real. We kissed, it was like, yep, that's it. We went to dinner that night and are engaged to be married in three months. So it when it happens, it happens, right. And that's what I can tell you. Like, if he's not calling you back and he's not like putting energy into it, he's just not into you, and that's okay. But like the excuses and the bullshit of like oh I'm busy, oh no, no, no, when it happens, and you get that butterfly feeling where you're like, I think this could be love. You can't not communicate with the person, you cannot reach out you, you, your whole life changes, and they become a priority. If you're not a priority, it's because they're not into you, right, that makes sense. Really, I love that story too. I feel like that definitely resonates a lot, So I really appreciate it. Yes, when it happens, it happens. Yeah, that's great. I'll keep that in mind going forward. Yeah. And if he's not calling, if he's not going back you're texting you, he's just not into and you're too good for him anyway. So yeah, awesome, Well, thank you so much. I really appreciate that. Thank you. Next up we have Meg. How's it going, Meg? Great? How are you? I'm wonderful what's going on? You know, I'm just plugging away here in the Northern Michigan tundra that we have with crazy blizzard outside, But northern Michigan that's very tropical there, Yeah, very tropical. You know. It's funny because we're surrounded by water, so generally in the summer it's very tropical. But in the winter. You just it's disgusting. It's disgusting. I'm from Toledo, Ohio, so I know the lake area effect. Oh, yes, you do effects now for sure. It's disgusting. And I just have to say I'm a huge fan. Um, I wore my special shirts. Okay, so Meg is wearing a Hugo Glen Coco shirt, which is very adorable, very on brand. However, I am glad because you didn't wear any pink today because on Wednesdays we wear pink. Not today Wednesday, but you did wear your white gold hoops and I appreciate that. Oh yes, always always. So yeah, let's what can I help you with? Well, I'm wondering, Um, I've been married for a little while, but this seems to kind of go with every aspect of the various people that I know. But why do um, why don't men think we're the ones that want to make the decisions like all the time. Well, because usually everything we're doing, we're doing wrong. Um, that's why That's why I men tend to think that, oh, you make the decision, because if I don't make the decision, if I make a decision, and you're gonna tell me that I've done it wrong anyway, and then we're gonna end up doing your plan. Is that true or not? Meg? How many times out of ten have has he made a decision and you have maybe altered that decision or plan into what it is that you really want honestly, that might happen here and there? How many times? How many times out of ten would you say five? Would you say five out of ten? You would? He would say, let's have do you want pizza or Chinese? And you're like Chinese. He's like or he's like pizza and you're like, yeah, but that Chinese was really good. He's like, okay, right, just the little things and what I what I what I notice has to happen is and even in my relationship with with my fiance, James will be sitting there and I have to be I have to make a conscious effort to ask him what he wants to do and then and then really listen to what he wants and doing it. I think it just comes down to listening. And I think that's a big thing that we forget in a relationship that we've been into. I mean, I'm with my fiance for five years now, we're comfortable right like where it's it's super comfortable, and we forget to listen. And so I think what you might be experiencing is the forgetting in the comfortable comfortable comfort is that a word? Comfortable? That's not a real word. That can't be a real world. Everyone knows what we're saying, you're you're listening. Needs to improve in what he when you ask him what he wants, and really digest what he says, because what happens is, you know they always say don't kick. Well, not don't kick the cat doesn't work for this, um, but they cut that out. That doesn't work. Um. What happens is, you know, just like a child, like men are children. I am a child. I am a big kid. All men are kids. I'm sorry, you know we are. So if you tell a kid, hey, you're like, hey, which one do you want to play with? Then they tell you the toy and then the parent just says, no, you're gonna play with this one instead. Eventually the kid doesn't even know what it wants because he's like, the parents just gonna tell me what I want. So just make sure in decision making that you're listening to what he wants and honoring what he wants. Sometimes you don't have to do it all the time, but he might be he might be have gotten kicked too much into the direction that you want. That's fair, that's fair. I think that's yeah. I think I'm a meeting planner, planner by day, so I make decisions. So I don't want to tell I don't want to figure out some of those minute details of what side dish we're gonna have for dinner. I mean, that's a stupid example, but right, right, So you don't want to plan it. But then at the end of the day when he picks you, you don't want to meg, but you can't help yourself because that's your job. So you don't want to do it. You don't want to plan the side dish, but the small details. So when he picks a small detail, if it's not correct, you're gonna fix it anyway. And you're like, well no, because you're like he okay, babe, just whatever you want you picked in and he's like, okay, we're having mashed potatoes and green beads as a side, and you're like, right, but mays have a lot of carbs and the green beads out of style. So we're gonna use this and we're gonna do that. And he's like, okay, So when just be a yes end? Okay, So that for the next month, when when you tell him to make decisions, be a you know, the improv acting challenge of yes. And so if it is something you don't like or you're like, oh, he didn't pick the right thing, tell him yes and then add to it like, oh, I love that idea, and we'll do this too. Alright. Cool. So now he's getting what he wants and you're getting what you want. I'm writing that down. Yes, and uh, well you're a blast. Thank you so much, mag and good luck with the relationship and stay warm and noa Michigan and don't forget watch my Hallmark Channel original movie December eighteen, The Christmas House too. Oh I like that. I saw that actually, and I think you are very gruel and look really sexy with the hair, like you know, I know I have to do it every time. I've been waiting years to say that. You know what, Meg, you're up well, you know what, you're ugly? H how about that? No, I'm just kidding, No, I'm just kidding. Thank you so much. All right, talk to you soon, my love. All right bye, all right, everybody, Well that's our show. I'm Jonathan Bennett. Thank you so much for listening, and don't forget to watch my all new Hallmark Channel original movie The Christmas House to this December eighteen at eight o'clock on Hallmark Channel. Everyone out there, stay fetch, stay gruel, and most of all, push your hair back and look sexy today. Thanks for listening to How Men Think an I Heart Radio, London Audio Production

We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This is How Men Thick and I heard radio podcast. Hey what's up everybody. I'm Jonathan Bennett, and you may know me as Aaron Samuels from the movie Mean Girls, and yes, my hair does look sexy pushed back In case you're wondering, I'm also an actor, a TV host, and I am so happy to be guest hosting How Men Think. Now I'm going to answer all of your questions and solve the fascinating question of how men think. I think? But first, this is eleven questions with Jonathan Bennett. Now I have not looked at these until right now, so this will all be on the fly. Wish me look, here we go. Eleven questions with Jonathan. Number one, what are you known for? Tell us about yourself? Okay, well, I guess most people know me as Aaron Samuel's from Mean Girls, and I think what happened as I just I kissed a redheaded, freckle faced girl named Lindsay Lohan in a movie three thousand years ago. And now I can't go to a Starbucks without the barista writing, your hair look sexy pushed back on my cup or like I'll go and say hey, They'll they'll ask me for the name and say what's your name please, and I'll say Jonathan and then they'll just go ahead and write Aaron Samuel's on the cup, which is an amazing thing but also crazy. So it's a very weird life to be Jonathan Bennett. I'm not gonna lie. October three is a very weird day for me. So if you ever having an awkward day in your life, just think what does Jonathan Bennett feel like on on October three? I bet you it's not as weird as his day number two. Who are you in your personal life? Well, contrary to popular belief, I know you might think that I was in love with Lindsay Lohan, but I I actually I am in love with James Vaughan, my fiance. Uh plot twist, Aaron Samuel's gay Huh wow? Um so that was a big plot twist for pop culture. Um, but actually was it wasn't? Really? Um. So I'm engaged to my fiance James Vaughan. We've been engaged for just over a year now, and we have our wedding coming up this spring, which we're really excited about. We're getting married to Mexico at Unicode Resort, which is this amazing resort in Mexico that's very inclusive for the l g B t Q plus community there. It's just got such a great diverse group of people working there and you know, people coming there. It's just a fantastic place. So we're very excited about that. And yeah, my fiance and I are totally in love and having such a blast being fiance's and just going on this whole wedding journey, trying to figure out who's coming, what's happening at the wedding, all the things that happen when you're planning a wedding. It's super fun, but also it's a little bit stressful. I'm not gonna lie um, but at the end of the day, is long as we're standing there saying our vows, I don't care if it you know, if everything falls over and it starts raining, it's still gonna be fine because we're gonna be there with all of our friends and family and having a blast. So that's what's important. Which is also crazy because our families have never met, so this is the first time our families are coming together. Is at our wedding, so this should be interesting. Three shows that you are binge watching right now? Okay, guys, I'm not gonna lie like I want to have an answer that's more diverse than this, but I can't. The three shows that I'm watching right now are RuPaul's Drag Race UK, RuPaul's Drag Race American, and RuPaul's Drag Race. Queen of the Universe. Well, it's not really Rupaol's Drag Race, but it's Queen of the Universe, which is the drag queen singing competition show. I am the biggest RuPaul's fan. It's all I watched because here's the thing. The day that someone makes better television than a group of drag queens try trying to out drag queen each other, I'll watch it until then. There's nothing that beats RuPaul's Drag Race. Queen of the Universe is the New Wild Presents show. That's pretty close. It's basically RuPaul's Drag Race meets American Idol, so you have drag queens singing trying to be the best singer. So both are fantastic shows. But I always think about the pitch that happened for RuPaul's Drag Race. Like picture RuPaul walking into logo to pitch the idea for the show and she just walks in or sorry, he just walks in and says, Okay, it's America's next Top Model but drag queens, and then the person of the network just writes the check. Yep, genius. It's just so much fun. It's such a fun show to watch. It's so exciting. There's so much color and creativity, and every time I wants to show it just inspires me to go out and create something crazy and unique and different, and also to celebrate my uniqueness. Remember there's only one new number four. What is your favorite food? Okay, I eat like a toddler. So my favorite foods are white rice, just plain old white rice. I love waffles and apples. Those are my three favorite foods. Literally what you feed either your dog when it has a stomach virus or your toddler. But hey, what, I have a simple palette. I also really like the Chinese chicken salad from Applebee's, which is a fantastic restaurant. I am why they created Applebee's. I'm from Ohio. That's just what we eat. Tell us about your career number five. Um, okay, So my career is very strange. The first movie I ever did was Mean Girls. So then what do you do after you do Mean Girls. It's a very bizarre life. It's a weird thing to be part of the biggest, arguably one of the biggest movies in pop culture history. To have that as your first movie. It really I call it the Zach Morris syndrome. You become Zack Morris. Right, you're Aaron Samuels. You're not Johnathan men At the actor, You're just Aaron Samuels. So it's a really fun interesting thing to try to then figure out what your career looks like after that movie. So I got to do a lot of really fun movies. I did Van Wilder Freshman Year, I basically when I did Uh, Cheaper by the Dozen two with Steve Martin. I did Dukes of Hazard the Beginning, and so those were the movies I did immediately after Me and Girls. And it was funny because I always joke whenever they couldn't afford like Ashton Kutcher, Ryan Reynolds or Sean William Scott, They're like, get Bennett in here, He'll do it. And he's a little bit cheaper, still handsome and kind of funny. So that's I'm like the bargain bin version of them, for the for the for the sequels, for those movies. That's what I always joke about. But after at I've done a ton of stuff. I released Ah, I released a unauthorized, unofficial parody cookbook for Mean Girls fans called the Burn Cookbook. Because I started hosting cake wars on Food Network. I hosted Cake Wars, Cupcake Wars, Christmas Wars, Chris Holiday Wars, Halloween Wars, Cupcake Boards, Kids Celebrity Cupcake Wars. If there was a wars on the Food Network, I would host the crap out of it. And doing all that, I met all these amazing chefs and started really working in the food space. So on top of acting and shooting all the shows I was shooting, I would actually go and work on a book at nighttime, which was The Burn Cookbook. It's basically cookbook for Mean Girls fans. If you have a taste for recipes like it's not regular guawk, it's cool glack or fetch a Chenie Alfredo. We even have Gretchen's wieners in the book. So we have all these amazing recipes for you to make that are super simple, and then there's all these amazing behind the scenes facts and stories of filming the movie. It's just the perfect book for you and your girlfriends to get together. Get the book off Amazon, make some of the recipes. They're super simple and really delicious, and watch the movie and just have like a really fun girl's night in. There's the perfect gift for the holidays. It's the perfect bachelor party, get bachelorette party, get anything like that. It's just a really fun book to bring people together because the whole movie is about not sitting with each other. You can't sit with us, and this book is about bringing people together. You can sit with us, so you can sit around, have some fun and relive some of your favorite parts of the movie. It's it's a blast um. And then after that, I started doing a lot of movies with Hallmark Channel, and I'm so proud because last year we launched the first l G B t Q plus Hallmark Channel Christmas movie. It was the first time there was a gay kiss in Hallmark movie. And I got the honor of doing that and representing and it was such a beautiful thing because so many people that year felt more seen, and I feel like the younger Jonathan's, the younger versions of me around the world, felt a little less scared that Christmas. And this Christmas, December eighteenth, we have the sequel to The Christmas House. It's The Christmas House to coming out this December eighteenth on Homework Channel, where we actually take that storyline a little bit deeper and expand the character I play, Brandon. Him and his husband Jake. Their family has expanded and has gotten bigger, and so we catch up with them, and it's the movie has twice the heart and twice the humor as the first one. And I'm really proud to really, you know, do something that made a difference. And the coolest part of all this, get this, wait, get this ready, The Smithsonian has my jacket from the movie in it now. Because the Smithsonian saw the movie, thought it was such a groundbreaking thing to have the first ever gay storyline and gay kiss on a on a Christmas movie, and the fact that it was at Hallmark Channel, which is, you know, the benchmark for holiday movies, they thought it was worthy to be in the Smithsonian. So my script and my jacket and and Brad's jacket that plays my husband are all now locked away in the Smithsonian Archives as part of pop culture history. How cool is that? Really cool to make make those amazing movements for the l g B t Q plus community. What is number six? What is your biggest fear in life? What's my biggest fear? Uh? I think my biggest fear is failure. Isn't that what everyone's afraid of? Or is it just because I'm an only child and an actor. I think my biggest fear is failure because I set my goals so high and I dreamed so big that, um, the thing I fear fear most is is failing. But what I'm learning to do is accept the fact that failure is just part of life, Like you're gonna fail, and the fact that you fail means you're trying. And that's what's important, because the other alternative to not failing is to do nothing, which is worse than failing. What's your biggest pet? Peeve? Chewing cereal. You're not allowed to eat cereal around me ever, because I will take the bowl, I will pick it up, and I will throw it through the window. I have misophonia, which is a condition where the sound of certain things drive me absolutely crazy, and the sound of someone chewing cereal in a quiet room will make my blood boil. Number eight what makes you most happy? Waking up with my fiance and my golden doodle and having like an hour to just lay in the bed and cuddle and give the dog kisses and give my fiance kisses. I mean, my fiance has gold hair, curly hair, and blue eyes. My dog has gold, curly hair and blue eyes. I basically just kiss both of the curly headed, blonde things in my life in the morning. That but that's what makes me most happy. What's your ideal Saturday morning? Again? Waking up with my fiance and my dog and just sitting outside in palm springs at our house and just relaxing. We have the best pool in the best yard, and just being home and being able to be together is just the best Saturday morning to me. And a lot of coffee because they drink a lot of coffee. I drink a lot of ice coffe. Fam Gay where we have to. It's part of the part of the deal. Number ten. Are you more of an athlete or an armchair quarterback. I don't even know what that means. Number eleven. What keeps you motivated? Um? I think the things that keep me motivated are the are the messages that I get from from fans and from people on my Instagram that message me saying, Hey, you know, I was afraid to come out, or I was afraid to be who I was, or I'm struggling with this. But the fact that you and James lived your life so boldly and loudly and openly and show us what love looks like on Instagram and on your social media's were able to like kind of peer into your life. That makes that motivates us and helps give us strength to be who we are. So I think the fact that we live our lives so loudly and probably really helps motivate me to keep going because of the response we get when we do it. All Right, And that was eleven questions with Jonathan Bennett. Okay, so we're gonna take a quick break and then we're gonna come back with some of the color questions. Don't go away. So we have Jessica on the like jess Jessica Volkenburg Dankenburg. Man, Oh wow, that sounds like a character of like the bad Guy that's like trying to take over the company, and like a Hallmark movie, it does have a little evil ring to it. But I promised, I'm very nice. I can tell your face is adorable. Thank you. What's going on? Talk to me? Not a lot is going on. I'm so excited to be here with you guys. And UM, I have a few questions that I'm hoping that you can answer for me. Okay, We're gonna try. I mean, okay, take my advice lightly, but we'll try. Let's go. Okay, So I recently got out of a four year relationship, um, and I'm starting to like dip my toe back into the dating pool and I'm trying out some dating asks. But some of the guys that are meeting are different online than they are in person. So what is your best advice for online dating? And why do you think that some men do this? Okay, such a great question, Jessica. First of all, I'm happy that you're back into the dating pool again and you're starting to dip your toe in. That's great. I'm sorry your four year relationship didn't work out, but as my dad would say, he always give me the best advice, he would say, John, sometimes relationships just don't work, and that's okay. And so we're very excited that you're getting back into the dating pool. Now. As far as men being different online than in person, such a true thing, right, because we're online, we have the power of protection. You know, we're we're not actually making a connection, we're just typing in our phone. And this is me being I'm fourty years old and I'm very old, not very old, but I'm much older than you, Jessica. So let me tell you the difference is having that like protection of being behind a screen is such a good and bad thing, right, because they don't have to actually connect with the human when they're talking to them. So what you're seeing is you're seeing a space that you're talking in, a space that's safe when you're talking online on the dating app, and then when you're talking in person, you're talking in a space that's vulnerable. And so one is safe, one is vulnerable. And so the reason you're seeing a difference is that vulnerability is showing when they're in person. And when we're vulnerable, we become different people and we we tend to do things that that we normally wouldn't do or or we don't have the strength to say the things that we can behind a screen. So totally understandable and such an important thing to point out. The advice I have for that is, if you're into someone and you're starting to have a good rapport, get to the in person meeting quicker, right because so many times we have these weeks and months people go like, you know, I've been talking to this guy for four weeks on on one of the apps, and we're going to find the meet in person. Well, you've created a fake relationship that doesn't exist because you created a relationship that has no vulnerability to it. Dating is hard, Dating is vulnerable. Dating is scary. There's a lot you know, you're opening up yourself as this person gonna like me, So it's a very vulnerable state to be in. And I think it's actually better to get into that vulnerable state quicker, so that way you can see if there's a real connection. Because the online dating, when you're talking just behind screens and like using your phone, that's not a real connection. That's a false identity and a false Uh. We're creating what we wanted to be versus what it is, so get into the meat of it quicker. Does that make sense? Yes, definitely. I think it's easy to try and hide behind the screens sometimes, but by getting in person, I can definitely see that being helpful. And hopefully with your advice, I'll be able to find my own Aaron Samuels one day. And I hope his hair looks sexy pushed back, I hope it looks fantastic. Thank you so much, too, By And now we have Tara on the line. Hi, Tara, Hi, how are you? I'm wonderful. What's going on? Not much, just another day getting through the day, is honey. It's one. We're just trying to get through the days. So what's going on? Do you have any questions? What can I help you with? Um? I mean I I have been single for I actually never been in a serious relationship, and I feel like I'm just being way too picky. But I don't know if it's like me being picky or am I just waiting for the right one? Mm hmm, Okay, such an interesting and complex question. UM, I'd say, yes you're being picky, and yes you're waiting for the right one, and yes you're being too picky all at the same time. I know that sounds confusing, but let me walk you through it. So for the relationship that I'm in with my fiance it took me going through a lot, meeting a lot of different people and thinking I maybe had found Mr. Wright but actually realized I hadn't, and it had me falsely um accepting and wanting these relationships that I'm really grateful for because I learned so much about myself and about what I wanted a relationship and about who I was, and that helped me. When I ended up meeting my fiancee and it all just clicked. I was like, Oh, this is what this is the one. But I wouldn't have anything to compare that too if I hadn't been in any other relationship. And all my other relationships were so beneficial and I care about them so much and I have nothing but respect and love for them because of what I was able to learn about myself and about life from them. There's always like no relationship. I may don't want to say no relationship, but more nine times out of ten, most relationships that end aren't completely awful unless they're obviously an abusive relationship where something that's actually really traumatic. You end up you're gonna walk away, you're gonna dust yourself off, and you're gonna learn something from it. And So the thing that I'm worried about with you, with being so picky, is you definitely I'm not saying go and date a whole bunch of people, but you definitely want to have something to compare your benchmark of the guy of your dreams too. So if you are too picky, maybe when you meet a guy that you don't that you might think is the guy of your dreams, he might not be because you just are going for this one because this is who this is who you think. But then once you get in the relationship, you have nothing to compare it to. Yeah, does that Does that make sense? Like we want to be careful and I'm not saying I'm not saying go out and like get into serious relationships with people, but it's okay to go on a couple of dates with people here and there and like find what works for you. It's you know, the rules are different, Like this isn't this isn't white picket fences anymore. Right, this isn't this is It's a very complex world. To navigate, and there's so many things to navigate out there that I think, bye, by going on dates with people and actually getting to know people and kind of seeing how you feel being vulnerable around people will help you learn about yourself. So that way, when Mr Wright does come, you'll say, oh, here he is. This is absolutely the one. Yeah. And I actually, because of COVID, I think it's been so weird and I haven't really tried to meet anyone, but I just recently got back on like Bumble and Hinge, and I'm like trying to put myself out there, but it's still really weird in COVID. It's like a weird time. I'm more I'm someone who likes to meet people in person. That's like where I shine the most. Yeah, and I'm also the person who likes to pick up the phone and call someone, so one text is also always so weird for me. But I'm trying, yeah, look, and it's okay that it's weird, Like it's okay two that these weird things are happening with COVID. I mean, it's not okay that COVID is happening, but it's okay that you feel awkward trying to date during this weird time because it's not a normal time. So uh, ex you know, except you know, I was on a show called Celebrity Big Brother, and they always would say expect the unexpected. While with COVID and with dating in the way the world works now, I would say accept the unexpected, like except that all this is weird, and like just throw it out there in the conversation, like you can bring up you know, if if two people identify that something is weird, it's no longer weird. So like if you just call it out to the to the person, this is so freaking weird, and we're trying to put this do all this and dang, like I wish I wasn't texting you. I wish you could meet in person. How do we do that that COVID this is all weird to us. I hate it, Like bring that up when you're talking to someone, because then you both are Once you both identify it, it's no longer weird. Yeah. I never thought of it that way, but I'll definitely try that. Like, this sucks. What do we do instead of trying to be like, Hi, it's totally normal to not see each other and just be on zoom dates. A zoom dates a total normal thing. No, it's not. It's freaking dumb and awful and weird, and it completely takes all the dating and the connection and the real like energy and pheromones and all the things that happened on our date. It gets rid of all that. And it's like, also, honey, he can look real good on a zoom with the right lighting and the proper filters, so in person is always best true that ring lighting just really, honey, I mean you should see my room When I do zooms, I look like I'm sitting on the surface of the sun, like there's more light than anyone. So so I would I would say, just call it out that it's weird. Figure a way to meet up in person that's COVID safe for both of you, and figure a way to do that, because you're right, like, it's just it's just stupid, Like it's just it's all dumb and it's hard to date on. It's just done. Yeah, and hopefully. But it's so funny because this year my cousin brought her new boyfriend to Thanksgiving lunchy. Yeah, and now I'm the last cousin who's single, So I feel like the pressure is really on. Oh honey, well, first of all, we first of all, we don't know what's going on with your cousin and her man like this could just because they brought him to Thanksgiving doesn't mean it's the right one. So don't don't put the cart before the horse. Yeah, totally or or in this case, the turkey. So well, Tara, thank you so much. I hope I helped. Thank you, Yeah you did. And have a good one you too, Thank you. Bye. Hello, Sydney. We have Sydney on the line. How are you. It's Jonathan. Hi, Jonathan. I'm good. How are you. I'm wonderful. What's going on? Girl? Not too much. I'm on my lunch break right now, but super happy to be here. You're on your lunch break. First of all, two questions, where do you work? And what are you eating? Um? I work at a it's like a healthcare education company, Amrican marketing. Okay, very fun. I'm in Boston and I'm eating I made this, um, like chicken tkaraoke meatballs with rice and zucchini. Okay. So we're on like the healthy train because we're doing like karaoke meatballs with rice and zucchini, so it's still kind of healthy but still good. I'm really into that. Can you send me the recipe that sounds delicious? Yes? Brock your body shout out, she stop, brock your body. Don't even get out of here, Come on, very good. What's going on? Are you in love? Are you not in love? What do you want me to talk about? I'm not in love. I'm dating for sure, I'm single. But I did have a question more of like a generic relationship question. UM. But basically I know that there's the old saying of like, oh, if he wanted to, you would um in the context of dating and relationships. But do you think that still holds true today or do you think it's better to be more upfront at this point and just say you're interested? Or does it depend? I feel like that could go a lot of ways. But when do you get your thoughts? It's like that book, he's just not into you, right, that's kind of like talking. I think it's the most absolutely that you hit it on the head. I I want to tell you my story, right, because when you know you know right, I'm gonna take my story of how how it happened with my fiance and I. I go to the Grove, which is a mall here, and he's about to interview me for a show. He hosts a show. I'm they're promoting my show. He's going to interview me for the show. We meet and instantly it just happens, like you literally, we touched each other because we're like, oh, let's let's take a picture for our friend, because we had the one gay friend that everyone that works in entertainment has in common, and that is Lance Bass. Obviously Land because he's our leader, he's our married and so we said, let's take a picture for Lance. And when we touched each other, you could feel the electricity just happened. And instantly, in that moment, I knew. I was like I need to go on a date with him tonight. I need to kiss him right now. And it just was like this is it. It was happening. So we ended up going, we did the interview, I left, and then I called him thirty My my publicist was like, don't call him for like three days. You came on really strong, and that's what a person that's never been in love says. And I'm like, oh, okay, So all your friends that are going don't do it, play hard taking no, no, Well, y'all are dumb because you clearly have never been in love. You can't you can't control it when it happens. So what happened was I got out of the car. I was like, of course, fam, I'm not going to call him for like three days. They're fine. And I literally dialed his number and I said to him, is it weird if I come back and kiss you right now? And he said no, And I go good, because I'm already on my way. I would already start driving. We kissed at them in the parking lot at the mall. I said, we just have to do this and see if it's real. We kissed, it was like, yep, that's it. We went to dinner that night and are engaged to be married in three months. So it when it happens, it happens, right. And that's what I can tell you. Like, if he's not calling you back and he's not like putting energy into it, he's just not into you, and that's okay. But like the excuses and the bullshit of like oh I'm busy, oh no, no, no, when it happens, and you get that butterfly feeling where you're like, I think this could be love. You can't not communicate with the person, you cannot reach out you, you, your whole life changes, and they become a priority. If you're not a priority, it's because they're not into you, right, that makes sense. Really, I love that story too. I feel like that definitely resonates a lot, So I really appreciate it. Yes, when it happens, it happens. Yeah, that's great. I'll keep that in mind going forward. Yeah. And if he's not calling, if he's not going back you're texting you, he's just not into and you're too good for him anyway. So yeah, awesome, Well, thank you so much. I really appreciate that. Thank you. Next up we have Meg. How's it going, Meg? Great? How are you? I'm wonderful what's going on? You know, I'm just plugging away here in the Northern Michigan tundra that we have with crazy blizzard outside, But northern Michigan that's very tropical there, Yeah, very tropical. You know. It's funny because we're surrounded by water, so generally in the summer it's very tropical. But in the winter. You just it's disgusting. It's disgusting. I'm from Toledo, Ohio, so I know the lake area effect. Oh, yes, you do effects now for sure. It's disgusting. And I just have to say I'm a huge fan. Um, I wore my special shirts. Okay, so Meg is wearing a Hugo Glen Coco shirt, which is very adorable, very on brand. However, I am glad because you didn't wear any pink today because on Wednesdays we wear pink. Not today Wednesday, but you did wear your white gold hoops and I appreciate that. Oh yes, always always. So yeah, let's what can I help you with? Well, I'm wondering, Um, I've been married for a little while, but this seems to kind of go with every aspect of the various people that I know. But why do um, why don't men think we're the ones that want to make the decisions like all the time. Well, because usually everything we're doing, we're doing wrong. Um, that's why That's why I men tend to think that, oh, you make the decision, because if I don't make the decision, if I make a decision, and you're gonna tell me that I've done it wrong anyway, and then we're gonna end up doing your plan. Is that true or not? Meg? How many times out of ten have has he made a decision and you have maybe altered that decision or plan into what it is that you really want honestly, that might happen here and there? How many times? How many times out of ten would you say five? Would you say five out of ten? You would? He would say, let's have do you want pizza or Chinese? And you're like Chinese. He's like or he's like pizza and you're like, yeah, but that Chinese was really good. He's like, okay, right, just the little things and what I what I what I notice has to happen is and even in my relationship with with my fiance, James will be sitting there and I have to be I have to make a conscious effort to ask him what he wants to do and then and then really listen to what he wants and doing it. I think it just comes down to listening. And I think that's a big thing that we forget in a relationship that we've been into. I mean, I'm with my fiance for five years now, we're comfortable right like where it's it's super comfortable, and we forget to listen. And so I think what you might be experiencing is the forgetting in the comfortable comfortable comfort is that a word? Comfortable? That's not a real word. That can't be a real world. Everyone knows what we're saying, you're you're listening. Needs to improve in what he when you ask him what he wants, and really digest what he says, because what happens is, you know they always say don't kick. Well, not don't kick the cat doesn't work for this, um, but they cut that out. That doesn't work. Um. What happens is, you know, just like a child, like men are children. I am a child. I am a big kid. All men are kids. I'm sorry, you know we are. So if you tell a kid, hey, you're like, hey, which one do you want to play with? Then they tell you the toy and then the parent just says, no, you're gonna play with this one instead. Eventually the kid doesn't even know what it wants because he's like, the parents just gonna tell me what I want. So just make sure in decision making that you're listening to what he wants and honoring what he wants. Sometimes you don't have to do it all the time, but he might be he might be have gotten kicked too much into the direction that you want. That's fair, that's fair. I think that's yeah. I think I'm a meeting planner, planner by day, so I make decisions. So I don't want to tell I don't want to figure out some of those minute details of what side dish we're gonna have for dinner. I mean, that's a stupid example, but right, right, So you don't want to plan it. But then at the end of the day when he picks you, you don't want to meg, but you can't help yourself because that's your job. So you don't want to do it. You don't want to plan the side dish, but the small details. So when he picks a small detail, if it's not correct, you're gonna fix it anyway. And you're like, well no, because you're like he okay, babe, just whatever you want you picked in and he's like, okay, we're having mashed potatoes and green beads as a side, and you're like, right, but mays have a lot of carbs and the green beads out of style. So we're gonna use this and we're gonna do that. And he's like, okay, So when just be a yes end? Okay, So that for the next month, when when you tell him to make decisions, be a you know, the improv acting challenge of yes. And so if it is something you don't like or you're like, oh, he didn't pick the right thing, tell him yes and then add to it like, oh, I love that idea, and we'll do this too. Alright. Cool. So now he's getting what he wants and you're getting what you want. I'm writing that down. Yes, and uh, well you're a blast. Thank you so much, mag and good luck with the relationship and stay warm and noa Michigan and don't forget watch my Hallmark Channel original movie December eighteen, The Christmas House too. Oh I like that. I saw that actually, and I think you are very gruel and look really sexy with the hair, like you know, I know I have to do it every time. I've been waiting years to say that. You know what, Meg, you're up well, you know what, you're ugly? H how about that? No, I'm just kidding, No, I'm just kidding. Thank you so much. All right, talk to you soon, my love. All right bye, all right, everybody, Well that's our show. I'm Jonathan Bennett. Thank you so much for listening, and don't forget to watch my all new Hallmark Channel original movie The Christmas House to this December eighteen at eight o'clock on Hallmark Channel. Everyone out there, stay fetch, stay gruel, and most of all, push your hair back and look sexy today. Thanks for listening to How Men Think an I Heart Radio, London Audio Production