There is a question most of us skip past entirely in our daily lives: do I actually matter? Not "am I useful?" or "am I successful?" but do I matter, as a person, independent of what I produce or achieve? 

It sounds simple. But the research suggests we are terrible at actually living like the answer is yes. 

In this episode, I sit down with Jennifer Breheny Wallace, journalist and bestselling author of Mattering, a book that unpacks why so many of us have tied our sense of worth to our output, and what it costs us. Jennifer has been researching this topic for nearly a decade, and her work is one of those rare combinations: rigorously grounded and deeply personal. 

Jennifer and I discuss: 
The two sides of the mattering equation: feeling significant versus being useful, and why both are essential 
The crumpled $20 bill story and what it teaches children (and adults) about unconditional worth 
The "impact file" and why what goes in it might surprise you 
Three different paths you can take when envy hits, including one called mudita that reframes another person's success as your own 
What managers get wrong about mattering, and the small everyday moments that actually move the needle 
The 30-second nightly practice that can override your brain's negativity bias 

Key Quotes 

"Mattering is found in the small everyday moments of life. It was never the big moments, it was the small moments." 

"We all crave to feel needed and relied on. Letting young people know that you are valued for so much more than your achievements, you are needed here, you have a role in this world." 

Connect with Jennifer Breheny Wallace on Instagram, LinkedIn and her website, and check out her books Mattering and Never Enough 

 

If you enjoyed this episode, I think you'd love a chat I had with bestselling author Daniel Coyle on how to avoid small talk and the questions that create real connection. Listen here.

 

My latest book The Energy Game is out on July 7, 2026. You can order a copy here: https://amzn.to/48ID29M 

Connect with me on the socials: Linkedin (https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanthaimber) 

Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/amanthai) 

If you are looking for more tips to improve the way you work and live, I write a weekly newsletter where I share practical and simple to apply tips to improve your life. You can sign up for that at https://amantha.substack.com/ 

Visit https://www.amantha.com/podcast for full show notes from all episodes. 

Get in touch at amantha@inventium.com.au 

Credits:

Host: Amantha Imber

Sound Engineer: The Podcast Butler 

There is a question most of us skip past entirely in our daily lives: do I&nbsp;actually matter? Not "am&nbsp;I useful?" or "am&nbsp;I successful?" but do I matter, as a person, independent of what I produce or achieve?&nbsp;
It sounds simple.&nbsp;But the research suggests we are terrible at actually living like the answer is yes.&nbsp;
In this episode, I sit down with Jennifer Breheny Wallace, journalist and bestselling author of Mattering, a book that unpacks&nbsp;why so many of us have tied our sense of worth to our output, and what it costs us. Jennifer&nbsp;has been researching this topic for&nbsp;nearly a&nbsp;decade, and her work is one of those rare combinations: rigorously grounded and deeply personal.&nbsp;
Jennifer and I discuss:&nbsp;
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<ul>
<li aria-setsize="-1" data-leveltext="" data-font="Symbol" data-listid="1" data-list-defn-props="{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559683&quot;:0,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}" data-aria-posinset="4" data-aria-level="1">Three different paths you can take when envy hits, including one called&nbsp;mudita&nbsp;that reframes another person's success as your own&nbsp;</li>
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<li aria-setsize="-1" data-leveltext="" data-font="Symbol" data-listid="1" data-list-defn-props="{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559683&quot;:0,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}" data-aria-posinset="5" data-aria-level="1">What managers get wrong about mattering, and the small everyday moments that&nbsp;actually move&nbsp;the needle&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-setsize="-1" data-leveltext="" data-font="Symbol" data-listid="1" data-list-defn-props="{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559683&quot;:0,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}" data-aria-posinset="6" data-aria-level="1">The 30-second nightly practice that can override your brain's negativity bias&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
Key Quotes&nbsp;
"Mattering is found in the small everyday moments of life. It was never the big&nbsp;moments,&nbsp;it was&nbsp;the small moments."&nbsp;
"We all crave to feel needed and relied on. Letting young people know that you are valued for so much more than your achievements, you are needed here, you have a role in this world."&nbsp;
Connect with Jennifer Breheny Wallace on&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jenniferbrehenywallace/?hl=en">Instagram</a>,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-b-wallace/">LinkedIn</a>&nbsp;and her&nbsp;<a href="https://www.jenniferbwallace.com/">website</a>, and&nbsp;check out her books&nbsp;<a href="https://www.jenniferbwallace.com/mattering-the-book">Mattering</a>&nbsp;and&nbsp;<a href="https://www.jenniferbwallace.com/about-never-enough">Never Enough</a>&nbsp;
&nbsp;
If you enjoyed this episode, I think you'd love a chat I had with bestselling author Daniel Coyle on how to avoid small talk and the questions that create real connection. <a href="https://www.amantha.com/podcasts/feel-stuck-in-small-talk%3F-daniel-coyle-shares-the-questions-that-create-real-connection">Listen here</a>.
&nbsp;
My latest book The Energy Game is out on July 7, 2026. You can order a copy here:&nbsp;<a href="https://amzn.to/48ID29M">https://amzn.to/48ID29M</a>&nbsp;
Connect with me on the socials:&nbsp;Linkedin&nbsp;(<a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanthaimber">https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanthaimber</a>)&nbsp;
Instagram (<a href="https://www.instagram.com/amanthai">https://www.instagram.com/amanthai</a>)&nbsp;
If you are looking for more tips to improve the way you work and live, I write a weekly newsletter where I share practical and&nbsp;simple to apply&nbsp;tips to improve your life. You can sign up for that at&nbsp;<a href="https://amantha.substack.com/">https://amantha.substack.com/</a>&nbsp;
Visit&nbsp;<a href="https://www.amantha.com/podcast">https://www.amantha.com/podcast</a>&nbsp;for full show notes from all episodes.&nbsp;
Get in touch at&nbsp;<a href="mailto:amantha@inventium.com.au">amantha@inventium.com.au</a>&nbsp;
Credits:
Host: Amantha Imber
Sound Engineer: The Podcast Butler&nbsp;

You know those annoyingly successful people who seem to have it all figured out? Time to steal their playbook. Organisational psychologist Dr Amantha Imber gets world‑class achievers to spill their secrets - the daily strategies behind their success through to life hacks and productivity hacks they’d rather keep to themselves. We’re talking practical tips for boosting your output (including clever AI tools and shortcuts that’ll make you look like a genius), managing overwhelm without losing your mind, and optimising both work and wellbeing. No motivational fluff. Just battle‑tested tactics from people who’ve cracked the code.

You know those annoyingly successful people who seem to have it all figured out? Time to steal their playbook. Organisational psychologist Dr Amantha Imber gets world‑class achievers to spill their secrets&nbsp;- the daily strategies behind their success through to&nbsp;life hacks and productivity hacks they&rsquo;d rather keep to themselves. We&rsquo;re talking practical tips for boosting your output (including clever AI tools and shortcuts that&rsquo;ll make you look like a genius), managing overwhelm without losing your mind, and optimising both work and wellbeing. No motivational fluff. Just battle‑tested tactics from people who&rsquo;ve cracked the code.

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