Why do we keep attracting the same relationships… repeating the same patterns… and choosing what feels familiar, even when it hurts?

In this episode of Hey Soul Sista, I sit down with Amy Nobile Messing to explore the hidden patterns that shape how we love, choose, and connect in modern life.

We go far beyond dating and relationships into the deeper layers of human behaviour—why we repeat the same patterns, how our subconscious and emotional wounds influence who we’re drawn to, and what it really means to create conscious, aligned connection.

Amy shares her powerful insight that “you can only meet someone as deeply as you’ve met yourself” and unpacks what that looks like in real life—from dating apps and modern love confusion, to emotional availability, intuition, and the shift from choosing from wounds to choosing from worth.

We also explore:
Why so many people feel stuck in repeating relationship patterns
The impact of modern dating culture and social media on connection
The difference between chemistry and emotional alignment
How to recognise your own unconscious patterns in love and life
The role of self-awareness, energy, and intuition in relationships
Why inner work changes everything about how we show up in love

This conversation is for anyone who has ever wondered why they keep ending up in the same situations—whether in relationships, friendships, or life choices—and is ready to understand themselves on a deeper level.

If this episode resonates, please subscribe, share it with a friend who needs to hear it, and leave a review—it helps more women find these conversations.

Connect with AMY NOBILE MESSING: 
Instagram @love.amy.nyc 
Website: loveamy.co 
Watch the podcast video on YouTube: @heysoulsista 

Connect with MEL HISTON:
Subscribe to make sure you hear the next instalment of Hey Soul Sista!
Instagram @melissahiston 
Instagram @heysoulsistapodcast 
Watch the podcast video on YouTube: @heysoulsista
Website: heysoulsista.com
Website: gotyourbacksista.com

 

Why do we keep attracting the same relationships&hellip; repeating the same patterns&hellip; and choosing what feels familiar, even when it hurts?
In this episode of&nbsp;Hey Soul Sista, I sit down with Amy Nobile Messing&nbsp;to explore the hidden patterns that shape how we love, choose, and connect in modern life.
We go far beyond dating and relationships into the deeper layers of human behaviour&mdash;why we repeat the same patterns, how our subconscious and emotional wounds influence who we&rsquo;re drawn to, and what it really means to create conscious, aligned connection.
Amy shares her powerful insight that &ldquo;you can only meet someone as deeply as you&rsquo;ve met yourself&rdquo; and unpacks what that looks like in real life&mdash;from dating apps and modern love confusion, to emotional availability, intuition, and the shift from choosing from wounds to choosing from worth.
We also explore:
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<li data-section-id="1xp77xx" data-start="1143" data-end="1211">Why so many people feel stuck in repeating relationship patterns</li>
<li data-section-id="83vuyj" data-start="1212" data-end="1282">The impact of modern dating culture and social media on connection</li>
<li data-section-id="1mkxe88" data-start="1283" data-end="1343">The difference between chemistry and emotional alignment</li>
<li data-section-id="1t9tta9" data-start="1344" data-end="1411">How to recognise your own unconscious patterns in love and life</li>
<li data-section-id="8g8z6k" data-start="1412" data-end="1482">The role of self-awareness, energy, and intuition in relationships</li>
<li data-section-id="1az0a4b" data-start="1483" data-end="1547">Why inner work changes everything about how we show up in love</li>
</ul>
This conversation is for anyone who has ever wondered why they keep ending up in the same situations&mdash;whether in relationships, friendships, or life choices&mdash;and is ready to understand themselves on a deeper level.
If this episode resonates, please subscribe, share it with a friend who needs to hear it, and leave a review&mdash;it helps more women find these conversations.
Connect with AMY NOBILE MESSING:&nbsp;
<ul>
<li data-start="1763" data-end="1917">Instagram @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/love.amy.nyc/">love.amy.nyc&nbsp;</a></li>
<li data-start="1763" data-end="1917">Website: <a href="https://loveamy.co/">loveamy.co&nbsp;</a></li>
<li data-start="1763" data-end="1917">Watch the podcast video on YouTube: @heysoulsista&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
Connect with MEL HISTON:
<ul>
<li data-start="1763" data-end="1917">Subscribe to make sure you hear the next instalment of Hey Soul Sista!</li>
<li data-start="1763" data-end="1917">Instagram @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/melissahiston/">melissahiston </a></li>
<li data-start="1763" data-end="1917">Instagram @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/heysoulsistapodcast/">heysoulsistapodcast </a></li>
<li data-start="1763" data-end="1917">Watch the podcast video on YouTube: @heysoulsista</li>
<li data-start="1763" data-end="1917">Website: heysoulsista.com</li>
<li data-start="1763" data-end="1917">Website: gotyourbacksista.com</li>
</ul>
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Welcome to Hey Soul Sista—the podcast for women who are ready to live with more joy, purpose, and SOUL! If you’re feeling the pull to re-discover yourself, embrace new possibilities, and create a life that truly lights you up, you’re in the right place.

Each episode, I sit down with incredible women who are sharing their soulful wisdoms and finding deeper meaning in this life. We dive into real stories, honest conversations, and practical wisdom to help you feel inspired, seen, and ready to say YES to yourself.

I’ll also bring on experts in health, wellness, mindset, and spirituality to share their best tips on how to nurture your body, mind, and soul—because thriving in midlife is about feeling good inside and out. Because midlife isn’t a crisis—it’s an awakening. 

And Hey Soul Sista is here to remind you that the best is yet to come. So hit that follow button, pour yourself a coffee (or a wine—no judgment here), and let’s navigate this journey together with laughter, courage, and a whole lot of soul.

This is Hey Soul Sista, and you are exactly where you need to be.

With love and soul, Mel Histon - your host xx

Welcome to Hey Soul Sista&mdash;the podcast for women who are ready to live with more joy, purpose, and SOUL!&nbsp;If you&rsquo;re feeling the pull to re-discover yourself, embrace new possibilities, and create a life that truly lights you up, you&rsquo;re in the right place.
Each episode, I sit down with incredible women who are sharing their soulful wisdoms and finding deeper meaning in this life. We dive into real stories, honest conversations, and practical wisdom to help you feel inspired, seen, and ready to say YES to yourself.
I&rsquo;ll also bring on experts in health, wellness, mindset, and spirituality to share their best tips on how to nurture your body, mind, and soul&mdash;because thriving in midlife is about feeling good inside and out. Because midlife isn&rsquo;t a crisis&mdash;it&rsquo;s an awakening.&nbsp;
And Hey Soul Sista is here to remind you that the best is yet to come. So hit that follow button, pour yourself a coffee (or a wine&mdash;no judgment here), and let&rsquo;s navigate this journey together with laughter, courage, and a whole lot of soul.
This is Hey Soul Sista, and you are exactly where you need to be.
With love and soul, Mel Histon - your host xx

Hey Soul Sista is the podcast for women who are ready to live with more joy, purpose, and SOUL! If you’re feeling the pull to re-discover yourself, embrace new possibilities, and create a life that truly lights you up, you’re in the right place.

Hey Soul Sista by Melissa Histon

 

Welcome to Hey Soul Sista—the podcast for women who are ready to live with more joy, purpose, and SOUL! If you’re feeling the pull to re-discover yourself, embrace new possibilities, and create a life that truly lights you up, you’re in the right place.

Each episode, I sit down with incredible women who are sharing their soulful wisdoms and finding deeper meaning in this life. We dive into real stories, honest conversations, and practical wisdom to help you feel inspired, seen, and ready to say YES to yourself.

I’ll also bring on experts in health, wellness, mindset, and spirituality to share their best tips on how to nurture your body, mind, and soul—because thriving in midlife is about feeling good inside and out.

Because midlife isn’t a crisis—it’s an awakening. And Hey Soul Sista is here to remind you that the best is yet to come.

So hit that follow button, pour yourself a coffee (or a wine—no judgment here), and let’s navigate this journey together with laughter, courage, and a whole lot of soul.

This is Hey Soul Sista, and you are exactly where you need to be.

With love and soul,

Mel Histon - your host xx

&nbsp;
Welcome to Hey Soul Sista&mdash;the podcast for women who are ready to live with more joy, purpose, and SOUL!&nbsp;If you&rsquo;re feeling the pull to re-discover yourself, embrace new possibilities, and create a life that truly lights you up, you&rsquo;re in the right place.
Each episode, I sit down with incredible women who are sharing their soulful wisdoms and finding deeper meaning in this life. We dive into real stories, honest conversations, and practical wisdom to help you feel inspired, seen, and ready to say YES to yourself.
I&rsquo;ll also bring on experts in health, wellness, mindset, and spirituality to share their best tips on how to nurture your body, mind, and soul&mdash;because thriving in midlife is about feeling good inside and out.
Because midlife isn&rsquo;t a crisis&mdash;it&rsquo;s an awakening. And Hey Soul Sista is here to remind you that the best is yet to come.
So hit that follow button, pour yourself a coffee (or a wine&mdash;no judgment here), and let&rsquo;s navigate this journey together with laughter, courage, and a whole lot of soul.
This is Hey Soul Sista, and you are exactly where you need to be.
With love and soul,
Mel Histon - your host xx

Hey Soul Sista 

Why do we keep attracting the same relationships… repeating the same patterns… and choosing what feels familiar, even when it hurts?