"My sister in law has been hosting Thanksgiving at her house around lunch time for several years. We all make a couple dishes and show up. We prefer the early afternoon lunch time on Thanksgiving because my family goes to the deer camp 2 hours away after we eat. We get a text from the sister in law that says, "I would like to have Thanksgiving this year at our house, but I want to take a vote. Would anyone be opposed to an afternoon meal, like 4/5? I know we usually do lunch but, lets call him Charlie, sleeps from 12-3 so he would miss it all. (fyi he turns 2 next month). But, I also know you go to deer camp." My husband and I were both annoyed. Are you serious? A Nap? Not that she has to go to her in-laws for Thanksgiving, it's naptime. I would have rather her just said, this year we need to have it later in the day and never mention the nap. Why are we letting a toddler's nap time dictate our Thanksgiving plans? I have 2 older children of my own and I know how crucial a nap can be, but I would have never even thought to revolve my Thanksgiving plans, a HOLIDAY to remind you, or ask anyone else to revolve their plans around my toddler's nap time. You nap where you nap! Back in the day you bust a blanket out and make a pallet. Will this kid look back when he's a grown man and say, "Mom, remember when I was 2 and I missed Thanksgiving?" It sounds so ridiculous to me. Thanksgiving I think of family, togetherness, chaos, and lots and lots of naps. Let him nap in the middle of it or DON'T! She knows what our vote is and it doesn't matter. She sent a text yesterday saying "Afternoon it is!" There is a part of me that doesn't want to to go. I think it's so rude of her, like her kid is more superior than we are. We discussed going to the camp earlier and having our own dinner down there. What would you do?"

"My daughter-in-law is angering me. She sent an email to everyone in our family telling us not to buy gifts for the three grandchildren for Christmas. She says this year instead of getting gifts she wants each family member to make a donation to a charity in the name of one of the children. I love the idea, but also hate the kids won't be getting any gifts. They're young and have been waiting all year for Santa to come. I think my daughter-in-law is ruining Christmas. She's hard-headed and won't change her mind. I also think she's being selfish and doing this more for herself than the kids because they are too young to understand. Is this bad parenting?"

"I don’t even know where to begin. My husband and I are heavily involved in our local school system. Over the past two months, he has been spending a lot more time at my daughter’s choir practice. My suspicions led me to check his phone. I found flirty messages between him and the choir director. At this point, there is no physical cheating, it’s just nauseating cutesy messages. Here’s the kicker. She’s not just some random school employee, she’s the assistant principal’s wife. So now, every week I’m sitting at practice watching her lead the choir with my husband sneaking glances at her. I’m torn. On one hand, I want to expose them. The school deserves to know. On the other hand, if this scandal goes public, it could destroy the choir and the kids, break apart families, and make me look like the bad guy. Help me navigate this mess before I lose my mind. I told my sister and she said the kids come first. Do they or do I?"

"My birthday is today and I asked my husband to spend time together on the porch. So I paused his anime show, now he's mad at me for interrupting his anime when he is taking his dad and mom, our nephew, and our kids to a weekend trip for my birthday. The problem is the he always puts his family over what we had planned, aka what his dad wants to do for "MY" birthday trip! So I was hoping I could have a few minutes with him but now I feel like my birthday doesn't matter and never will as long as it's convenient to his family"

"Thanksgiving is coming up and it seems like we won’t be celebrating with my whole family. My oldest brother’s wife and my mother are feuding right now. My sister in law asked my mother not to do 1 thing with her two kids and my mother did just the opposite. My sister in law said mom could only see her kids if she came to their house to be monitored since she can’t follow the rules set forth. My mom took that as she’s not allowed to see her grandchildren anymore. My mom went and dropped off all of the kids toys, clothes etc from her house off on the porch when they weren’t home and the kids got off the bus to see this. Mom went to the school a few weeks later and spoke with the kids and had lunch with them without informing my brother or sister in law about this visit. My sister in law had her removed from the list of people who could visit the kids. With Thanksgiving coming up, my mom wasn’t going to come as my brother and sister in law were hosting. My youngest brother told my mom she needed to squash the animosity for the day and come be with her kids and grandkids. Mom agreed. Sister in law decided she doesn’t want mom there now and made that known. Mom isn’t coming and now little brother isn’t either. I have to have Thanksgiving lunch with my oldest brother and then do Thanksgiving dinner with my youngest brother and mom. No one is asking me to pick sides, but it feels like no matter what choices I make as far as who I see or spend time with, it is going to upset the other. I’m not sure what to do at this point. Do help them work through this or stay out of it all together? I’m hosting Christmas this year and the whole family is invited. I feel like if this isn’t settled, Christmas may be a complete disaster. HELP!"

"My boyfriend and I have been going together for almost two years. He is in love with me and may soon propose. I love him, but have come to the realization that I am not in love with him. My family is definitely in love with him and is hoping for a proposal. It would mean a lot if I married him. I'm not sure what to do. Is my family's love for my boyfriend the reason I should stay with him? I certainly could do a lot worse. I have no idea what to do. Please help me. I don't want to let my family down, but I also have to think about myself"

"I took my family to see the new movie ‘’The Best Christmas Pageant Ever’’. The experience turned out to be a nightmare because someone brought a toddler that cried throughout the entire movie. At the end of the film, I requested to speak with the theater manager. I asked her for a refund. She refused to give me one because I watched the whole film. She said if I had come out early in the movie and asked for a refund she would have given me one. I think the theater is wrong and has a responsibility to make sure each moviegoer has an enjoyable experience. I believe I should be given a refund because I did not have an enjoyable experience due to the crying toddler. The manager said me asking for a refund is the same thing as me going to a restaurant, eating a sandwich, and then asking for a refund. I'm asking for money back after the sandwich has been eaten and the movie is over. Can you ask your listeners what they think about this? Should the theater have given me my money back? It's not my fault they allowed a crying toddler into the theater"

"I’m living a nightmare. My 17-year-old daughter says she needs a Brazilian Butt Lift to take her Tik Tok page and online content to the next level. Her dad thinks I’m overreacting and says it’s her body, her choice. She’s treating surgery like a trendy pair of shoes. Am I supposed to just sit here and smile? Am I the only one who sees how insane this is? Her father says if we allow her to do it then we can help choose the surgeon and guide her through the process. He says if we don't, she may do it behind our backs and disfigure herself by going to the wrong doctor. What would you do if you were me?"

"I cheated on my husband and don't feel the least bit guilty because it's his fault not mine. For the last two years, I've begged and pleaded with him to pay more attention to me, to appreciate me more, and to be more present.  He did none of those things and that caused me to stray with a co-worker. I made it easy for my husband to find out that I cheated. His family says that I'm at fault, not him. I disagree. He forced me to go outside the relationship to seek things I need as a woman so it's his fault not mine.  Am I at fault or is he?"

"I am single and I work at a public high school. I have a 10 year old son. This year, a coach was placed in the classroom next to me. A few weeks into school, he began to visit my classroom more often, see me in the hallway, and he even got my phone number. We text, talk, and call each other at night every day. He’s made it very clear that he’s attracted to me, and I think the feeling COULD be mutual. However, he let me know before things got serious, that he has an odd living situation. He has two kids, and one has special needs. Therefore he and his ex-wife decided that it would be best and easiest for them to live together, but remain single. So, they live together, they raise their kids together, they eat dinner together every night, but he says they’re not together and he would change it all for me. I don’t even know if I could begin to think about him romantically until I know that he’s not living with another woman. But, if he does change his living situation for me, and I end up not feeling about him same way he feels about me, that will greatly affect his home life for no reason. Also, if we do have a relationship that ends badly we still have to see each other the next day at work. Do I give him a chance? What do I do?"

"I was out over the weekend and almost made a BIG, dumb purchase for myself. My wife would have killed me if I had bought what I wanted. Now, I can't stop thinking about it. I don't want to tell you what it is because she may be listening and will know it's me writing in. My older brother says I should just buy it because it's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission. My younger brother says I should ask for permission first. What would you do if you were me? Is it easier to ask for forgiveness than permission? I'm confused and don't know what to do."

"My mother-in-law is angry with me because of the way I am parenting my young kids. I have 2-year-old twins, a 5-year-old and a 7 year old. They were acting like maniacs at the beginning of October so I told them that there were monsters in their closet that would come out if they misbehaved. I told them the monsters would go away after Halloween if they behaved better. Their behavior quickly turned around. The twins were terrified and told my mother-in-law about the monsters. She says I'm evil and abusing my kids for lying to them about the monsters in their closets. I think it was clever parenting. She does not. She says the kids are going to be scarred for life and have a hard time sleeping because of what I've told them. I think she's just mad that she didn't think of it first. Are my Halloween monsters clever parenting or abuse? Did I go too far?"

"Our official office budget is very tight however we are a close knit team that enjoys celebrating each other's life events. One of the long time coworkers has yet to contribute financially to ANY other staff members retirement, baby shower, get well gift etc., however takes credit as though they have donated on multiple occasions. Only a couple employees are aware this is not the reality. Unfortunately, this individual recently suffered a loss of a close friend and has been out of work to help orchestrate final arrangements. Upper management has acquired permission and funding to send a floral arrangement to this friend's service in a show of support. Unlike any other employees acknowledgement of life events, where an offering cup is passed around amongst teammates to take up a collection. It feels like favoritism and leaves a bad taste in the mouths of staff members that are "in the know." Addressing this with HR is not an option. Before the office dynamic blows up, how should the next employee "event" be handled?"

"My wife and I are having a disagreement over our 5-year-old's Halloween costume. I thought my wife was kidding when she came home on Saturday with a sexy devil costume for our daughter. The costume looks like something an exotic dancer would wear. My wife told me to chill out and that it's okay for our daughter to dress like this once a year. This led to an argument between us. The argument still has not been settled. I don't think it's okay for young girls to dress sexy on Halloween. My wife does. Where do you stand on the issue?"

"I am writing to you because my husband is crazy and has virtually no parenting skills. I have five children ages 17, 18, 19, 21 and 5. Yes, the 5-year-old was a ’surprise baby’. Our family's favorite holiday is Halloween. We plan to watch horror movies all weekend long. My 5-year-old wants to watch them as well. I told him he is too young. He threw a temper tantrum. My husband says we should allow him to watch one of the scarier horror movies because that will scare him into never wanting to watch one again. I told him that's horrible parenting and will cause other problems such as insomnia and night terrors. My husband says his way of stopping our son from watching horror movies is better than mine, which is just saying no. Can you ask your listeners what they think and if any of them would like a free husband LOL."

"I own a small business in the area. A teenager recently applied to work for us. We hired him because he told us he was 18. He has been on the job for two weeks and done very well. One of our customers tipped me off that he is really 15. I brought him into the office and questioned him. He admitted he lied because he needed the job. Other employees now know what he did. I'm torn about what to do. On one hand, he lied and should be fired. On the other hand, he's a hard worker and extremely conscientious. That's hard to find in today's workplace. What would you do if you were me? Keep him or fire him for lying? If I keep him other employees may think it's okay to lie as well"

"My husband was caught texting with a woman he met through work. The texts were extremely inappropriate. My husband and I are barely talking. He is begging for a second chance. Some of my friends say I shouldn't give it to him because emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating. Other friends say it's not cheating unless it's physical. I want to get an opinion from someone I don't know and that's why I'm writing to you. Should I give him a second chance? Is emotional cheating worse than physical cheating or does it even matter?"

"I'm heading to a job interview today. It took me months to get it. Most of the workers are men, including the man I'm going to be interviewing with. My best friend says I should dress sexy because I can. My other best friend says I should dress ‘conservative’. I'm confused about what to do. My ‘conservative’ friend says business attire shows I'm serious and smart. My ‘sexy’ friend says guys are all dogs so dressing in a sexy manner will make my boss and others want me around. I kind of agree with both of them. How would you dress if you were me?"

"Hi, I’m writing because my husband has been dealing with an uncomfortable situation at work. A female coworker has been flirting with him, and it’s making him uneasy. He’s told me about it, and while he’s been clear that he’s not interested, he’s hesitant to report it to HR because he doesn’t want to cause any waves at work. I’m worried about the stress it’s causing him. I am thinking about waiting in the work parking lot and confronting the woman myself. My friends are split over the idea. Good idea or bad idea? What do you think? How do I get her to back off without jeopardizing my husband's job?"

"My wife got mad at me last night because she caught my 15 year old son and I watching the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show on Amazon in my man cave. She thought we were watching a game. She took me into our bedroom, closed the door and berated me for watching the show with our son. I told her it was harmless. She didn't see it that way and says I'm teaching our son that it's okay to gawk at other women while married and in a committed relationship. I told her she was overreacting and that there is nothing wrong with looking at other women as long as you don't act on it. That should be a lesson for our son. Needless to say we went to bed mad and didn't speak this morning before leaving for work. Am I at fault or is she overreacting?"

"My 16 year old son was at Walmart the other day when he found a wallet on the ground. He went to customer service and waited until Walmart employees could find the owner of the wallet. It belonged to an elderly woman. Our family actually knows someone that knows her. She was very gracious and gave my son a $50 reward. My husband is upset with my son and says he shouldn’t have taken the money. He said he didn't need to be rewarded for doing the right thing. I have no problem with my son taking the cash. My husband wants him to return it. My husband and I are now in an argument over this. What would you do if you were us? Should our son return the money or not? Does my husband have a point? It's complicated"

"I caught my teenage daughter sneaking out of the house on Saturday. When I confronted her, she was honest about where she went and who she was with. I’m proud of her for telling the truth, but I’m struggling with how to handle this. Do I crack down with stricter rules or give her some credit for being upfront? I want to keep her safe, but I also don’t want to push her away. How would you handle this situation? Do I ground her or not? She was with her father yesterday so we're going to talk about it today?"

"I work for one of our area's most popular companies. We do Casual Fridays. Last week, I wore a pink spandex jumpsuit to work. A female co-worker told me, “Just because I can wear it doesn't mean I should”. I disagree with that popular statement. I'm curvy and proud of it. If I'm confident enough to wear something tight and stretchy that shows off my body then why shouldn't I? What do you think of that statement? Is it a true or false statement? Why do people say it? I'm thinking of wearing a blue jumpsuit today. I think a person that says that statement is the one with the problem not the person wearing the outfit"

"My 14-year-old daughter is going through her first breakup. Her boyfriend gave her a 14 karat gold necklace with a charm on it. His mother called and asked for it back. My daughter was crushed by the call. I told the mother that we have no plans to give it back because it was a gift. She said her son spent his hard-earned money on it and wants to return it. She said it would be the same thing if he had given her an engagement ring and they broke off the engagement. I disagree. What it would be like is giving someone a birthday gift and then asking for it back because of a disagreement or end of a friendship. Should my daughter give the necklace back or not?"

"My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year. The other night, she told me she loved me for the first time. It caught me off guard so I said the first thing that came to mind, “I love spending time with you too”. I don't think that's what she wanted to hear. I told my best friend what happened. He said if I'm not in love after a year then I will never be so it's time to end the relationship and move on. Now my head is spinning at a thousand miles per hour wondering if he's right. Is he? What would you do if you were me?"

"My friend is down on his luck and has applied to work at the company where I work. He asked me to put in a good word with the boss. I'm torn about what to do. I desperately want to help, but know I can't recommend him because of his past track record. He is barely employable because of his attitude. What would you do if you were me? Make the recommendation or not? He is practically begging me to help him. I don't want the recommendation to blow back on me if things go south."

"I went to a big box store the other day and got very excited because I found a summer patio set on clearance. When I took the price tag to the cashier to check out, she said the price was wrong and that I wasn't going to get the great deal I thought I was. This caused a huge fight between us because of her snide attitude. I told her I am entitled to the price on the tag because it's not my fault the store screwed up and printed the wrong number. I think the store should honor the price. Her manager is on vacation until today so I'm going back to the store to fight for the lower price. The cashier says just because the tag has a lower price doesn't mean I'm entitled to it. I disagree. Should the store honor the lower price? They were the ones that printed the wrong sale price, not me."

"My husband and I caught our 15 year old daughter smoking. He and I are now discussing how to handle the situation.  He says we should buy cigarettes for her because we can then control the amount of cigarettes she's smoking. He says if we don't, she's going to go behind our backs and smoke anyway. I hate the habit and think we should ground her and forbid her from smoking. We should also start taking away some privileges. This will teach her she is not allowed to smoke until she is 21 and an adult. He thinks we'll do more harm than good that way. What strategy do you think would work best?"

"I had a hysterectomy 2 weeks ago and hours after my surgery I almost died. My blood pressure went to 38/66 and my oxygen went down to 52%. They had to open me back up and fix the problem. My husband want back to work yesterday. Because he had to go to work, I had to drive to get our kids even though technically I'm still on bed rest. But we have no help and you have to do what you go to do for your family right? Well my husband is mad at me because he had to cook dinner after getting off work. Side note, 4 kids, 3 are in school and I have our 3 year old with me all day today. Am I in the wrong for having him cook dinner after getting off work or should he understand that yes I'm 30 but I had 2 surgeries in 24hrs 2 weeks ago and he should be there to help even though he works? I just don't know what to do"

"Help! My daughter in law is pregnant with my first grand child she has had a pretty rough pregnancy as far as morning sickness. She's now 30 weeks pregnant but at her high risk doctor appointment this week we found out the baby is measuring a week behind and is now considered growth restricted. I was talking to my son yesterday and he finally told me when she vomits it hurts so she now has it in her head if she doesn't eat, she doesn't vomit. She's lost 2lbs in the last 2 weeks. How can I get it in her head that she has to eat for the well being of her unborn son? She's the type that will cut me out of my grandson's life if I make her mad but I worry for my grandson's health and hers. Her doctor has gave her medication for the problem but I'm not sure she is taking it."

"I'm constantly called a Yankee or wetback because I'm Spanish and I'm from NY. I have thought about leaving my job and going back because the way I feel, I just hate it. Sometimes I regret moving here."

"Last week I started a new job. I'm only working 2 weeks. I have 2 kids- girl is 5 and is in school, 3 year old boy isn't in school. Well my issue is I don't know who is going to watch my son all day. I drive my daughter to school and my husband picks her up and goes back home where the babysitter, my husband's godmother, watches them. Last Friday she told us she couldn't watch them anymore because she's wasting her gas driving from Benton all the way to the airport where I live. I told her I'm going to pay you I just started my job so can it wait? She said sure. But my husband came home telling me she called him and she wants me to pay her $500! I was shocked and said no, I'll give her $100. She sits down in my house and does nothing. My house is clean food is made for my kids. Why should I pay her $500? Am I wrong for not wanting to pay her? Now we are looking for a daycare that will take my son and also pick up my daughter from school. Any suggestions"

"We have moved to a new town. My daughter had to start a new school. She was sad about leaving her old school and said “I don’t want new friends.” My mama heart was so happy on the 3rd day of school when she excitedly told me that she MADE a FRIEND! And that they live across our street! They became instant friends and even found a little group of girls at lunch that she had befriended. I started letting her go play across the street for an hour or so. Talked to parents who are very nice. She started coming over daily or my daughter would go over there to play!! She even spent the night at our house. It relieved me to know my daughter had a new friend. Over the weekend, my daughter’s friend had a birthday party! The group of little lunch girlies were there! They sent me pics of them being goofy. At one point, they went to the little girls room and was helping her clean off her bed when they turned her pillow over and saw a bug. The other little friend asked if it was a bed bug. My daughter took a pic and tried to get google to identify it. There ended up being a little argument between the friends and the birthday girl kicked them all out. When my daughter came home and started telling us a story about how it all happened. That’s when she said something about one friend found a bed bug. Then she showed me the picture. I think it is a bed bug! And evidently the fact it was that easy to see in the daylight and it was obviously well fed(?!) means it may be pretty bad. What do I do now? She comes to our house in the mornings and rides with us (and her backpack) to the bus stop. She has spent the night. I DO NOT want bed bugs. Do I say something to the mom? How do I let her come over or ride around with us when we really think there are bed bugs? If I didn’t have the picture, I’d give them the benefit of the doubt but I do have the picture and there’s no way the parents don’t know. I do not want my daughters friend to be embarrassed or the mother but I DO NOT WANT BED BUGS!! What do I do?"

"My adult stepson, that doesn’t have a job, just moved into our house to get his life together. My adult son, that does have a job, moved out to help his friend for a short time but he planned to move back home until he finds a place of his own. The plan was that my stepson would take the smaller bedroom but at the time my daughter was home from college and was occupying that bedroom, which left my stepson to put his belongings in my son’s room, to which he now voluntarily settled into. Now the time has come to where my son has to move back home. Should we still carry out the plan or should we have my son move all his belongings out of his room into the smaller one and allow my stepson to stay in my son’s bedroom?"

"My co-workers and I were having lunch yesterday when one of them mentioned that they were buying alcohol last weekend when a clerk asked for their ID. She is 45 and said being asked for her ID is an insult because she is proud of her age. I disagreed and told her she should be flattered that the clerk thought she looked younger than she is. This divided the lunchroom. Is being asked for your ID a compliment or an insult?"

"My head is spinning because of what my best friend has asked me to do. This is going to sound like something out of a movie or something so unbelievable that it's not true, but it is. My best friend and her husband both work, but don't make a lot of money. They've been trying to have a baby for three years, but can't because of some problems he has. They can't afford IVF so they came to me and asked if my husband would impregnate her. You would have thought he won the lottery. She is waiting for me to give her an answer.  Of course my husband, being a guy, is all for it. I take my marriage very seriously and I'm conflicted about what to do. Who in the heck loans out their husband for something like this? I feel bad for my friend and almost guilty for not wanting to help her. What would you do if you were me?"

"HI, I apologize for the long rant but here it goes I am a 27 years old and first time mom of an 17 month old. My husband and I are happily married but the only thing is... His parents. Back story: they live 2 minutes from us and very very RARELY come and see their grandchild. its been this way since she was born. my husbands dad has seen my daughter maybe 10 times in her 17 months of life. As far as I am concerned they don't check in on her either. they hardly speak to me. Their house is not well kept they've got 2 big dogs that they don't clean up after. So we (my husband and I) hardly go down there. The reason they don't come around is because I said I don't want them to. I've never said that, if anything I would love for them to get to know their grandchild. My parents (who also live two minutes down the road) check in at least every other day and make a point to stop by to see her. My dad works out of town and stops in on Fridays to see her and then ask if they (my mom and dad) can have her for the day to hang out with her. I currently have my daughters Facebook photo album to where this parents can't see it because I feel like if you don't make an effort to see her you shouldn't be able to see her pictures of milestones as she gets older and smarter. Am I wrong for keeping them from seeing her photos? Am I also wrong for not taking my daughter to their house once a week?"

"I had a date over the weekend that started out great, but ended awkwardly. It was a first date. We had a nice dinner and then played mini golf before he invited me back to his apartment. His apartment freaked me out.  My date is 31 years old.  He had sci-fi action figures all over his apartment and several stuffed animals on his bed. I told my sister about the date yesterday and she said I should not give the guy a second date because adult men shouldn't be playing with action figures or stuffed animals. My other friend, who's into sci-fi, says it's no big deal and that he's just in touch with his inner child. Creepy or not?  Give the guy a second date or not?"

"My boyfriend and I talked about getting married two weeks ago. Everything was going great until it wasn't. I ran to the mall the other night and bumped into my childhood crush. I know this sounds silly but I immediately got goosebumps and butterflies and felt the pit in my stomach like I did in junior high and high school. We exchanged numbers and agreed to get together for lunch. Now, all I do is think about him. I'm questioning my decision to marry my boyfriend. He's done nothing wrong, but doesn't give me the feelings my childhood crush does. I'm not sure what to do. My head says to stay with the safe choice which is my boyfriend. My heart says don't be safe and chase my childhood crush because that will be exciting and keep my interest. Safe versus not safe. What would you do?"

"I'm considering selling my car for scraps and need advice on how to do that. I'll try to provide brief context but the car does have quite the history while under my ownership. I spent $4 grand buying my car, a 2013 Chevy Cruise, from a coworker and another $200 to get it repaired multiple times because either the guy sold it to me broken or it started to break the minute the title was in my name. All of these issues revolve around the same area the AC. A couple of months ago I took the car to get looked at when the AC first broke. I had asked the mechanic if the car needed Anti-freeze and he said no. Fast forward a week and the car breaks down on the side of the road, I have it towed back to my house where it sits for weeks a constant mocking reminder of the money I sunk into it. Well last Friday I finally had time to get in contact with a different auto-care guy and he asked about the anti-freeze, this lead me to discover that the Anti-freeze/coolant tank was empty and had been this whole time. That first mechanic was wrong the car would have been perfectly fine if I had just put coolant in the dang tank. After filling the coolant tank I have taken the car out on a few test drives to see how it runs. And it was running fine... until yesterday. I was putting coolant in the tank before I left for work and I had made the mistake of forgetting to put lid back on. This caused the car to break down in the middle of the road halfway through my drive to work. Thankfully I managed to get my car moved into a gas station parking lot, where I called a tow truck. So this whole thing with the lid combined with the fact I had driven my car for a week with no coolant caused my motor/engine to break and apparently I had nearly blown a head gasket. The repairs needed for my car are well more than I can afford. Which is why I would like to scrap it seeing as how all of the other parts are still working perfectly. The auto-shop had offer me $500 for the car but I said no because I knew once they fixed it up they could sell it for at least $4 grand. like I said it's a perfectly working car once you fix all the issues listed above. I know that it's wishful thinking to believe I'll recoup all my loses back but if anyone deserves to make any money off this car now it is me. I just don't know how to go about doing that. Any suggestions?"

"I have been at my current job for 10 years, in those 10 years I've worked in 2 different departments and started from the bottom and worked my way up. 3 years ago I switched to the new department and they've had several new people take over my old position in the last 3 year's till about 8 months ago. The new person in there is good but here is my problem they have been there less then a year and make more then I do and I have been at my job for 10. The position in the new department is supposed to be a hire up position yet the other person is making more an hour then me when I've been a dedicated hard working employee for 10 years. Am I just being petty for feeling like I should be making more then someone who hasn't been there near as long as I have? Here lately I find myself looking for other jobs on indeed but I do love my job, my boss and my coworkers. Plus it's Monday to Friday no weekends or holidays and my boss is extremely flexible if I need off for anything. Am I an in the wrong for feeling like I do?"

"Dear Heather and Poolboy, I really hope you read this on air because I need all the advice I can get. Recently My family and I have been in a bit of financial trouble. My mom's car stopped working and had to be taken to the shop. However, the last couple of years we have been riding the very thin line between being stable and being flat broke, I fear getting our car fixed will take the majority of my mom's money. Luckily she was allowed to work from home while we sort out what to do about her car, so she won't lose her job. But that leads me into my problem. I want to get a job to help but I have no clue what to do. I'm paralyzed with indecision. For context I just turned 18 in June and graduated high school in May. I have decided not to go to college immediately seeing as how I wouldn't be able to go without acquiring student loan debt and I'm not sure what grants or scholarships (if any) I qualify for. I did ok in school, I maintained a C average, which I feel is pretty good considering the problems that surfaced in my last few years of high school. To make a long story better fit a therapist short, I need career advice. I know I can't live with my mom for free forever, but I'm absolutely utterly terrified of taking that next step. Terrified to let my family down, terrified to fail, and terrified to succeed if I'm being honest. My mom isn't any help. She keeps saying things like "Once you get a job that money will help us dig our way out of this hole". We can't really lean on family for help because they all live in another city. It's not a long drive from us to them, but given our circumstances it might as well be another state. I feel so alone, like I have to carry the whole family on my back. I can't do that, I'm just a kid. So if you have any advice please share it, it would greatly help!"

"I have a Tesla. I was driving the other night when I got into a fender bender.  We exchanged insurance information before the police arrived. The officer interviewed both of us. I refused to accept blame for the accident. I told the officer my Tesla was on autopilot at the time of the accident so Tesla is responsible for the accident not me. The other driver and I both received tickets.  I plan to contest mine. The officer says that I'm responsible, not Tesla, because I was behind the wheel. I told him I'd see him in court. Can you and your listeners be my jury and tell me what you think? Am I guilty or not? Is Tesla guilty?"

"My family adopted a rottweiler puppy several months ago. Last Friday, two men rang my doorbell and attempted to sell me a new roof. My rottweiler bit one of the salesmen. He came back yesterday and is claiming I am responsible for his injuries. I told him to get lost and slammed the door in his face. It's his fault he got bit. I never told him to come on to my property and hassle me. My dog was just protecting me because he made a move towards my front door. He also missed the no trespassing sign on my mailbox. It may be a bit faded,  but it says no trespassing. The salesman is now threatening to get a lawyer to sue me. Am I responsible? Is it his fault or mine? Should I pay him to make him go away?"

"I flew home to visit my parents over the weekend. The plane was packed on the ride back yesterday. I was sitting in a middle seat when the person to my right closed the shade on the window. The person sitting to my left wanted to see the sky so they reached over me and opened the shade. The two of them proceeded to argue over who is the boss of the window shade. The person sitting to my right said they were because they were closest to the window. The person sitting to my left said that's not the case. They tried to get me involved in the argument, but I refused to bite. A flight attendant finally ordered the shade to be halfway open and halfway closed. My fellow row mates continued arguing for the duration of the flight. I know this sounds silly, but who is the boss of the window shade when you are flying? Is it the person closest to the window? Should it be a vote between the three seated in the row? Settle this once and for all"

"I try to schedule all of my first dates on Wednesday night so if I like the guy I can go out with him again on Friday or Saturday. I had a date on Wednesday night. We met at a very well-known Italian restaurant in the area. The night started off horribly because my date called me by the wrong name. When I asked who Tara was he stumbled and fumbled like an NFL player on Sunday afternoon. I thought about walking out right then and there, but then decided to stay and order the most expensive thing on the menu. My date never gave me a straight answer as to who Tara is. He has asked me for a second date on Saturday. In his defense, he was extremely nervous because he is dating way over his head with me. Should I give him another chance or not? I don't appreciate him thinking about another woman while he is on a date with me. What would you do if you were me?"

What to do when you're about to run out of gas?! A kid told Heather & Poolboy that he was 20 minutes from school in his dad's car and he thought they might not make it. He got some tips!

"My boyfriend and I are talking about getting married. We are both divorced and have custody of our children. The kids don't like one another. My boyfriend and I know we have found true love with each other. The kids don't want us to get married. Should we care what they think? They're just kids and don't pay rent or contribute to the household. He says we should just tell them we're getting married and that's the way it is. Other family and friends think the opinions of our children matter. Should we put their happiness before ours?  Should we get married or not?"

"My 14 year old son wants to use AI to help him with his homework and school projects. My husband and I are torn about whether or not to let him use it. Is it cheating or a tool?  I guess arguments could be made for both sides. What would you do if you were us? Allow our son to use AI or not?"