"My sister in law has been hosting Thanksgiving at her house around lunch time for several years. We all make a couple dishes and show up. We prefer the early afternoon lunch time on Thanksgiving because my family goes to the deer camp 2 hours away after we eat.

We get a text from the sister in law that says, "I would like to have Thanksgiving this year at our house, but I want to take a vote. Would anyone be opposed to an afternoon meal, like 4/5? I know we usually do lunch but, lets call him Charlie, sleeps from 12-3 so he would miss it all. (fyi he turns 2 next month). But, I also know you go to deer camp."

My husband and I were both annoyed. Are you serious? A Nap? Not that she has to go to her in-laws for Thanksgiving, it's naptime. I would have rather her just said, this year we need to have it later in the day and never mention the nap. Why are we letting a toddler's nap time dictate our Thanksgiving plans? I have 2 older children of my own and I know how crucial a nap can be, but I would have never even thought to revolve my Thanksgiving plans, a HOLIDAY to remind you, or ask anyone else to revolve their plans around my toddler's nap time. You nap where you nap! Back in the day you bust a blanket out and make a pallet. Will this kid look back when he's a grown man and say, "Mom, remember when I was 2 and I missed Thanksgiving?" It sounds so ridiculous to me. Thanksgiving I think of family, togetherness, chaos, and lots and lots of naps. Let him nap in the middle of it or DON'T!

She knows what our vote is and it doesn't matter. She sent a text yesterday saying "Afternoon it is!" There is a part of me that doesn't want to to go. I think it's so rude of her, like her kid is more superior than we are. We discussed going to the camp earlier and having our own dinner down there. What would you do?"