"My daughter-in-law is angering me. She sent an email to everyone in our family telling us not to buy gifts for the three grandchildren for Christmas. She says this year instead of getting gifts she wants each family member to make a donation to a charity in the name of one of the children. I love the idea, but also hate the kids won't be getting any gifts. They're young and have been waiting all year for Santa to come. I think my daughter-in-law is ruining Christmas. She's hard-headed and won't change her mind. I also think she's being selfish and doing this more for herself than the kids because they are too young to understand. Is this bad parenting?"