"Thanksgiving is coming up and it seems like we won’t be celebrating with my whole family. My oldest brother’s wife and my mother are feuding right now. My sister in law asked my mother not to do 1 thing with her two kids and my mother did just the opposite. My sister in law said mom could only see her kids if she came to their house to be monitored since she can’t follow the rules set forth. My mom took that as she’s not allowed to see her grandchildren anymore. My mom went and dropped off all of the kids toys, clothes etc from her house off on the porch when they weren’t home and the kids got off the bus to see this. Mom went to the school a few weeks later and spoke with the kids and had lunch with them without informing my brother or sister in law about this visit. My sister in law had her removed from the list of people who could visit the kids. With Thanksgiving coming up, my mom wasn’t going to come as my brother and sister in law were hosting. My youngest brother told my mom she needed to squash the animosity for the day and come be with her kids and grandkids. Mom agreed. Sister in law decided she doesn’t want mom there now and made that known. Mom isn’t coming and now little brother isn’t either. I have to have Thanksgiving lunch with my oldest brother and then do Thanksgiving dinner with my youngest brother and mom. No one is asking me to pick sides, but it feels like no matter what choices I make as far as who I see or spend time with, it is going to upset the other. I’m not sure what to do at this point. Do help them work through this or stay out of it all together? I’m hosting Christmas this year and the whole family is invited. I feel like if this isn’t settled, Christmas may be a complete disaster. HELP!"