Eighteen years ago, on a plane to Kansas City, I had a brief encounter with a woman—and I’ve regretted my action (or rather, inaction) ever since. Sometimes, we can be generous by taking.





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Eighteen years ago, on a plane to Kansas City, I had a brief encounter with a woman—and I’ve regretted my action (or rather, inaction) ever since. Sometimes, we can be generous by taking. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: <a href="https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy">https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy</a> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices">https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices</a>

Gretchen Rubin is HAPPIER, and she wants you to be happier too. The #1 bestselling author of The Happiness Project and Better Than Before gets more personal than ever as she brings her practical, manageable advice about happiness and good habits to this lively, thought-provoking podcast. Gretchen’s cohost and guinea pig is her younger sister, Elizabeth Craft, a TV writer and producer living in Los Angeles, who (lovingly) refers to Gretchen as her happiness bully. 

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Gretchen Rubin is HAPPIER, and she wants you to be happier too. The #1 bestselling author of The Happiness Project and Better Than Before gets more personal than ever as she brings her practical, manageable advice about happiness and good habits to this lively, thought-provoking podcast. Gretchen&rsquo;s cohost and guinea pig is her younger sister, Elizabeth Craft, a TV writer and producer living in Los Angeles, who (lovingly) refers to Gretchen as her happiness bully.&nbsp;
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Little: Sometimes, We Can Be Generous by Taking

Some people have no trouble meeting expectations for others but struggle to follow through on what they want for themselves. If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. We revisit the Four Tendencies to explore the three biggest challenges Obligers face—shame, exploitation, and rebellion—and what actually helps.

Reminder: as an exclusive offer for “Happier” listeners, you can get 2 weeks FREE plus a special discount to the Activations app at activations.com/happier. These guided audios are designed to help you feel motivated, confident, and in charge of your life.

Resources & links related to this episode:
To identify your Tendency, take the free quiz at gretchenrubin.com/quiz.


Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.

 

Some people have no trouble meeting expectations for others but struggle to follow through on what they want for themselves. If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you.&nbsp;We revisit the Four Tendencies to explore the three biggest challenges Obligers face&mdash;shame, exploitation, and rebellion&mdash;and what actually helps.
Reminder: as an exclusive offer for &ldquo;Happier&rdquo; listeners, you can get 2 weeks FREE plus a special discount to the Activations app at <a href="http://activations.com/happier" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://activations.com/happier&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1771479312630000&amp;usg=AOvVaw2zhLC5DCUl7Yy9EJKnPA5_">activations.com/happier</a>. These guided audios are designed to help you feel motivated, confident, and in charge of your life.
Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
<ul>
<li>To identify your Tendency, take the free quiz at <a href="http://gretchenrubin.com/quiz">gretchenrubin.com/quiz</a>.</li>
</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.
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More Happier: Four Tendencies for Obligers—3 Challenges and How to Handle Them [Revisited]

Struggling to make progress on a habit? This episode offers a different approach—get a 14-day free trial of Activations (plus a big discount) at activations.com/happier.

Determination Day, February 28, is a useful time to take stock of your progress (or lack of it) on any change you’re trying to make. In this bonus episode, we talk with Mimi Bouchard, creator of the Activations app, about a practical, science-backed way to adjust your approach when progress feels harder than expected.

Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. 

Reminder: as an exclusive offer for “Happier” listeners, you can get 2 weeks FREE plus a special discount to the Activations app at activations.com/happier. These guided audios are designed to help you feel motivated, confident, and in charge of your life.

Struggling to make progress on a habit? This episode offers a different approach&mdash;get a 14-day free trial of Activations (plus a big discount) at<a href="http://activations.com/happier"> activations.com/happier</a>.
Determination Day, February 28, is a useful time to take stock of your progress (or lack of it) on any change you&rsquo;re trying to make. In this bonus episode, we talk with Mimi Bouchard, creator of the Activations app, about a practical, science-backed way to adjust your approach when progress feels harder than expected.
Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.&nbsp;
Reminder: as an exclusive offer for &ldquo;Happier&rdquo; listeners, you can get 2 weeks FREE plus a special discount to the Activations app at <a href="http://activations.com/happier">activations.com/happier</a>. These guided audios are designed to help you feel motivated, confident, and in charge of your life.

Bonus: How to Make Progress on What Matters to You (Even If You Feel Stuck) with Mimi Bouchard

In honor of our “Steel” anniversary, we share some of our favorite suggestions, insights, hacks, and highlights from the previous year.

Resources & links related to this episode:
Listen to my Audible Original Get It Done
Very Special Episode 540 on Whimsy 
Design Your Summer 
Simon Haisell's Footnotes and Tangents newsletter
Understanding Obliger-Rebellion
How to Question a Questioner
Solving Rebel Resistance to Something Desirable
Electric throw blanket
Accountability Hacks
Parenting Hacks
Our Father’s Obituary - Little Happier 
Secrets of Adulthood
Talking to Liz Gilbert about All the Way to the River
College drop-off hacks
The Since You Asked podcast 
Very Special Episode "What secrets your therapist wish they could tell you"
Happier in Hollywood Substack 
Secrets of Adulthood Substack
Elizabeth is reading: The All-Girl Filling Station’s Last Reunion by Fannie Flagg (Amazon, Bookshop) 
Gretchen is reading: Homecoming by Cynthia Voigt (Amazon, Bookshop)


Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. 

In honor of our &ldquo;Steel&rdquo; anniversary, we share some of our favorite suggestions, insights, hacks, and highlights from the previous year.
Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="http://audible.com/getitdone">Listen to my Audible Original Get It Done</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/very-special-episode-treasure-trove-of-easy-ideas-to-add-whimsy-to-daily-life/">Very Special Episode 540 on Whimsy</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/design-your-summer-comfort-vs-adventure-amp-friendship-burnout/">Design Your Summer </a></li>
<li>Simon Haisell's <a href="https://footnotesandtangents.substack.com/">Footnotes and Tangents</a> newsletter</li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/point-to-your-ugliest-thing-use-photos-to-save-memories-understand-obliger-rebellion/">Understanding Obliger-Rebellion</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/schedule-a-saturday-synch-up-lessons-about-getting-a-new-dog-how-to-question-a-questioner/">How to Question a Questioner</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/put-your-money-where-your-mouth-is-surprising-fun-solving-rebel-resistance-to-something-desirable/">Solving Rebel Resistance to Something Desirable</a></li>
<li><a href="https://amzn.to/4kPAcoe">Electric throw blanket</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/do-you-ever-think-this-is-not-good-i-could-do-this-better-plus-accountability-hacks/">Accountability Hacks</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/try-these-parenting-hacks-from-listeners-manage-your-own-worry-an-easy-packing-hack/">Parenting Hacks</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/a-little-happier-after-my-beloved-father-died-my-mother-sister-and-i-wrote-this-obituary/">Our Father&rsquo;s Obituary - Little Happier&nbsp;</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/books/secrets-of-adulthood/">Secrets of Adulthood</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/happier-book-club-liz-gilbert-talks-about-love-addiction-grief-in-all-the-way-to-the-river/">Talking to Liz Gilbert about All the Way to the River</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/question-assumptions-college-drop-off-hacks-rebelling-against-an-unappreciative-family/">College drop-off hacks</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com/">The Since You Asked podcast&nbsp;</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/very-special-episode-what-secrets-does-your-therapist-wish-they-could-tell-you/">Very Special Episode "What secrets your therapist wish they could tell you"</a></li>
<li><a href="https://happierinhollywoodpod.substack.com/">Happier in Hollywood Substack</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="http://secretsofadulthood.substack.com/">Secrets of Adulthood Substack</a></li>
<li>Elizabeth is reading: The All-Girl Filling Station&rsquo;s Last Reunion by Fannie Flagg&nbsp;(<a href="https://amzn.to/478oQWK">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9780812977172">Bookshop</a>)&nbsp;</li>
<li>Gretchen is reading: Homecoming by Cynthia Voigt&nbsp;(<a href="https://amzn.to/4kSKK6e">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9781442428782">Bookshop</a>)</li>
</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.&nbsp;

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