We discuss why we shouldn't downplay things that are actually important to us (such as saying “I don’t care about my birthday” if you do care). We also review some fun new travel terms, such as "townsizing" and "JOMO travel," and we address the problem of waiting until we're ready to make big decisions. Plus, we tackle a listener's question about dealing with a spouse who makes hurtful comments disguised as jokes.

Resources & links related to this episode:
Order your copy of Secrets of Adulthood
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman (Amazon, Bookshop)
After Hours with Jamie Rubin podcast
The latest travel lingo
A Little Happier: The Power of Telling the Truth: What Nebraska's and Oslo's Tourists Know
Happier in Hollywood Substack
Secrets of Adulthood Substack 
Design Your Summer Worksheet
Elizabeth is reading: Year Zero: A History of 1945 by Ian Baruma (Amazon, Bookshop)
Gretchen is reading: All the Way to the River by Elizabeth Gilbert (Amazon, Bookshop)


Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. 

We discuss why we shouldn't downplay things that are actually important to us (such as saying &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t care about my birthday&rdquo; if you do care). We also review some fun new travel terms, such as "townsizing" and "JOMO travel," and we address the problem of waiting until we're ready to make big decisions. Plus, we tackle a listener's question about dealing with a spouse who makes hurtful comments disguised as jokes.
Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
<ul>
<li>Order your copy of <a href="http://happiercast.com/secrets">Secrets of Adulthood</a></li>
<li>The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman (<a href="https://amzn.to/4n2mz65">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9780802412706">Bookshop</a>)</li>
<li><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-hours-with-jamie-rubin-a-vital-city-podcast/id1794619189">After Hours with Jamie Rubin</a> podcast</li>
<li><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2025/05/27/travel/new-travel-terms.html?unlocked_article_code=1.MU8.tppp.rFyQ0y8hVVXX&amp;smid=url-share&amp;utm_source=newsletter&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_campaign=newsletter_axiosfinishline&amp;stream=top">The latest travel lingo</a></li>
<li><a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/a-little-happier-the-power-of-telling-the-truth-what-nebraskas-and-oslos-tourists-know/">A Little Happier: The Power of Telling the Truth: What Nebraska's and Oslo's Tourists Know</a></li>
<li><a href="https://happierinhollywoodpod.substack.com/">Happier in Hollywood Substack</a></li>
<li><a href="https://secretsofadulthood.substack.com/">Secrets of Adulthood Substack&nbsp;</a></li>
<li><a href="http://happiercast.com/summerguide">Design Your Summer Worksheet</a></li>
<li>Elizabeth is reading: Year Zero: A History of 1945 by Ian Baruma&nbsp;(<a href="https://amzn.to/443qE0X">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9780143125976">Bookshop</a>)</li>
<li>Gretchen is reading: All the Way to the River by Elizabeth Gilbert (<a href="https://amzn.to/3SEQiUt">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9780593540985">Bookshop</a>)</li>
</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.&nbsp;

Gretchen Rubin is HAPPIER, and she wants you to be happier too. The #1 bestselling author of The Happiness Project and Better Than Before gets more personal than ever as she brings her practical, manageable advice about happiness and good habits to this lively, thought-provoking podcast. Gretchen’s cohost and guinea pig is her younger sister, Elizabeth Craft, a TV writer and producer living in Los Angeles, who (lovingly) refers to Gretchen as her happiness bully. 

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Gretchen Rubin is HAPPIER, and she wants you to be happier too. The #1 bestselling author of The Happiness Project and Better Than Before gets more personal than ever as she brings her practical, manageable advice about happiness and good habits to this lively, thought-provoking podcast. Gretchen&rsquo;s cohost and guinea pig is her younger sister, Elizabeth Craft, a TV writer and producer living in Los Angeles, who (lovingly) refers to Gretchen as her happiness bully.&nbsp;
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