How to Stick With Your Big Financial Goals

Published Jan 30, 2024, 7:00 AM

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Episode three seventy six, how to stick with your big financial goals.

Welcome to the Frugal Friends podcast, where you'll learn to save money, embrace simplicity, and liver life. Here your hosts Jen and Jill.

Welcome to the Frugal Friends podcast.

My name is Jen, my name is Jill.

And it is January thirtieth when this episode airs, so a lot of us are feeling the post New Year's resolution, post a fresh start feeling were off, and so this is a great time to learn some strategies that help you stick with goals long term, longer than thirty days. And so that's what we are going to be getting into. It's not going to be as many tangible action tips as it will be mindset shifts, because that's really what you need when we are talking about sticking with goals throughout the year, not just for a couple weeks.

You know, our brain is the biggest contributor to the decisions that we make and the actions that we have, So we can't just give tips and hacks because they only last as long as that behavior does. But the mind is a powerful one. So that's what we're going to give you. But first, this episode is brought to you by tights, the kind you wear under your bathing suit for exercising. Of course, that's right. It's nineteen ninety two and we're getting a fresh start with our new gear. We bought the sweat band, the sneaks, and the high top socks. This year. We also splurged for that thye Master, vibro belt and the curlers and comb for making that hair look as big and strong as that body's about to be. It's a new year and a new year you, because we all know that buying the spandex and all the equipment is what really leads to the results. And if these New Year's resolutions have you also wanting the thigh Master of your money, get the Fred Letter. It's free, comes to your inbox three times a week, and it's chalk full of deals specifically for that week. Ways to Save and Spend Better Frugal Friends podcast dot com. It's actually better than the thigh Master and tights under the bathing suit.

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Financial goals, we have a lot of episodes about them. We got like episode two eighty two regaining motivation when you don't feel like caring about money, uh, and then episode two twenty six safe Smarter, not Harder. So we talk a lot about the not just the mindset. Not we definitely were not like woo woo affirmation sort of that sort of like mindset. But we we love to look at the psychology behind the place that your mind plays in your money. So we do a lot of episodes like this, and this is actually going to be one of the chapters of our book that we are writing that will release next year, and so we wanted to talk it out with you guys. The book itself isn't about financial goals, but it is about values based spending. How do you spend in your values And a lot of people are going to want to learn that because you have financial goals, and so we wanted to. We thought it was the perfect time in the year to bring this up, and so we had a poll in the friend letter. So if you don't get the friend letter, that's another reason to get it, because we do a poll in every every email, and a lot of them will bring into our planning for the episode, and we've learned. We asked what are your biggest financial goals for twenty twenty four and learn that forty percent of you want to pay off credit card and or personal loan debt, which is wild because I really thought it was going to be student loan debt, and that one only got little less than a quarter of the votes for debt, and then the next highest amount was saving as much for retirement. That's the about half as many of you want to do that. So we are going to focus a lot of maybe our content in twenty twenty four with the focus of paying off debt, but then also with the mindset that a lot of this is high interest debt and that we want to pay off first. We had a lot of feedback from the poll saying that you feel like you want to do all of these goals. The choices were saving emergency fund, pay off student loans, credit card, save for retirement, or save for an upgrader renovation, and a lot of you want to do all of them, and we definitely say paying off the credit card and personal loan debt should be first priority besides saving emergency fund. You can kind of do those at the same time. But we know the goals compete, so if you have to pick one, pick the high interest. But we wanted to just go through a few of your like your feedback, your responses and kind of like encourage you and yeah, and kind of this isn't a new thing that we're trying. So Jill, did you have any that you wanted to point out?

You know, just reading because you can vote in the polls and then you can also type a response and reading your responses feels like it has grown my heart three times the size that it already was. I know that you all are so great, but truly, just where you're at and some of your vulnerability in your responses to just this simple poll really was moving to me. So that's one of my takeaways. I don't want to read anyone in particular, but what stood out to me in the responses to the poll is so many people just hitting these barriers of you know, maybe wanting to do a renovation and then inflation costs and building materials are too much, so it has kind of halted progress on that renovation. Or you had some unexpected difficulties through a storm and now it's forced you into renovations. A lot of renovation stuff happening, but then barriers faced in the midst of it, and then needing to take out loan. So I think what stands out to me is that this isn't I'm just blowing money on credit cards, you know, shopping, which that can be some people's circumstances, and that's okay, there's a journey there, but for so many there's this I kind of had to make this decision because of where I'm at currently to take on this debt. And I think my heart just like feels for you all, and I love the goal that you've set for yourself to pay off this high interest debt. And I think it's helpful even for me to feel I'm not alone either, like I have faced these circumstances like I really want to do this thing, but I don't have the money for it right now, or this is more than I thought it was gonna be. And yeah, y'all are just in some real spots with your money.

Yeah. The only one that I want to call out is that one of our readers has some money in medical debt and has the cash to pay it off. And it's kind of like torn because she, you know, she thinks that people think that she should use that to just pay it off and be debt free, but she has a chronic illness. And I just want to say, like, you're good girl, Like I would not tell you to use your cash reserves, especially with a chronic illness. Don't use your cash reserves to pay off a medical debt. This medical debt is probably interest free. You're already on a payment plan. Don't don't worry. You're doing the right thing. There's a lot of times where I think we've heard conflicting financial advice in the past, and we're doing what feels right for us and we're stressed. I know I had this when I was paying off debt. Everyone was like death, no ball, death, no ball, desk, noball, and then we chose to the debt avalanche, and I was like, I feel kind of guilty because everyone's telling me to do this, and I'm doing this, and in hindsight, it was insane because I was paying off debt. It didn't matter like I was doing something good for my finance. It didn't matter how I did it. I was moving in the right direction. And so if you are moving in the right direction, don't let conflicting financial advice confuse you or conflict you do what's right for you as you just stay in the right direction. And that's a lot of what we're going to be talking about today when we talk about mindset. So we have three kind of steps or tips that you should take with you. We're going to dive deeply into two of them, so just come in with hot. With the first one is, in order to stick to big financial goals, you have to fall in love with the process. And we've talked previously and in the book this is going to make more sense because you'll have just read it. But in previous episodes where we've been kind of flushing out these ideas kind of about mastering the skill of spending. You'll never be perfect at spending. You'll never spend one hundred percent on what you value and zero percent on what you don't, right, but spending is a skill that we do get better at. And instead of just viewing that process as it means to an end, just as a means to get to your financial goals, when you start to fall in love with the process, that's when you can take the skill and not just reach your next financial goal, but your next financial goal and the next one and the next one. Because you're never going to stop having financial goals. And so the first thing when we're looking at how do we stick to make financial goals long term is to fall in love with the process.

Yeah, so many people ask us how how do you stick to frugality? And they'll ask it like it's the self imposed punishment, Like this is like really viewing the deprivation parts of it. What I have to say, No, to what it means I can't do or accomplish, and how does anyone possibly just stick with frugality? And I think we're we're recognizing in ourselves and in other people's stories that we're not frugal just for frugal's sake. None of us just love being frugal. Also, it depends on how you're defining frugality, but for partially what it gets us, and partially, like Gen's describing, falling in love with this process in a larger we're all encompassing way. So I'm gonna I'm gonna look at one angle, gena look at another. But I think frugality can be something that when we put it into practice, we are reaching our financial goals faster, we're saving more, we maybe don't have to work as hard because we're not at a place where we're continuously outspending our earnings. We're kind of recognizing where contentment is, where enough is, and we can recognize that's what frugality affords us. But of course that's not necessarily enough for everybody, because those goals EBB and flow, they shift. You reach a goal, and then what there's this deeper mindset that does have to become more all encompassing of No, I truly love this lifestyle that I building. I truly love learning more about myself and how to spend on the things that I really enjoyed.

Yeah, I For me, the math isn't enough and even the big why isn't enough. And most people, I think experienced this is that we're always when you're creating a financial goal, you say, think of your why, why do I want to Because paying off debt in itself is not the goal the goal, it's just not enough the goal For me when we were paying off debt that I wanted to foster, that was the real goal. And paying off debt I knew would make it easier for me to choose to work or not to choose how I wanted to work, the flexibility I would have in my life in the future. That's why I paid off debt. I didn't pay off debt because I wanted to be debt free. I didn't want to be debt free. I didn't really care so I had that was not enough for me in order to want to spend better. And even that didn't make me want to change my spending. That made me want to pay off debt it is, so I just want to decide hustle more to pay off the debt. So it's a start, but it's also a process. And that's why we say process because you're going to be learning more about your capabilities, your unique season and what you're what you're capable of, and what you think your journey is going to look like is not probably what the journey is going to look like long term. So you have to be flexible and willing to pivot, and all of this is easier to do when you're focused more on the process instead of the end goal. Because we think about goals, we think the ends just by the means. And I hear this all the time, everywhere in every scenario. Surely you have heard this, and I'm adamant. The ends never justify the means. And the end is the end, right the end. After its end, it's over, you're dead. The means are all we have. So so when you fall in love with the process, that's your life, like, that's everything that you have. If you just fall in love with the end, you're gonna resent the process.

Yeah, I think that another way, it's enjoying the journey, embracing the journey, because it can't just be about the destination. The destination is in some ways a blip on the radar, you know, the the hike that you go on and you reach the peak, and that's awesome. But if you don't learn to embrace the hike on the way there, then that's just a fleeting moment you'll probably know never go hiking again. Might be the reason that a lot of people don't go hiking. But I think that this relates to that other question that we get asked often too, not just how do you stick to frugality, but how do you keep that long term goal in mind and remember your why when making that instant gratification decision is just so much easier and more appealing. How do I turn down the thing in the moment and keep this why in the forefront at all times? And the reality is that it's not actually not possible, and probably one of the reasons that we all can feel so defeated in that process. I think first to both of those questions that we say, you can't just want it. You're going to have to love it. You're going to have to fall in love with the process, embrace the journey, you really do have to love your long term goal and your why enough that you want to say no to the instant gratification decision, not just that your will power was strong enough, Like if your heart doesn't flutter, you don't get flushed in the cheeks when you think about your goal, then it's not the right goal to pursue. That's why what you're describing jen that paying off debt is rarely the right goal for most people. I mean, certainly still pay off your debt, but paying off debt is a solution to a problem keeping you from the right goal. So this is where we're talking about mindset of identifying it can't just be payoff debt. That's going to feel really depleting, overwhelming, it's going to feel like deprivation most of the time. We've got to attach it to something bigger, and we have to learn to embrace the process, fall in love with the journey of discovery and finding ways that it's not feeling like I'm just saying no, but I'm saying yes. And that's a lot of mindset that we're talking about there.

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Yeah, it comes down to this external and internal motivation. So a lot of the times In this we'll focus on external motivators. So those are like rewards. If you pay off a credit card, you take yourself out to dinner, if you get a raise, you go by yourself a new outfit. You know that you've got these these events and you are working towards them for some type of external motivation. You know, like if I spend nothing for six days, on the seventh day, I'm going to get to go out to dinner something like that. That's external motivation, external rewards. And then you have intrinsic motivation, internal motivation, and that's doing something for the joy of doing it. Nobody has to tell you to do it. You find joy and satisfaction for doing it. And that's part of like Maslow's hierarchy of needs. We're looking for those higher needs, right the self esteem, the self actualization, that those are the things that are going to help us find those intrinsic motivators. But that's kind of what we're talking about here. External motivation only lasts for so long. After after like six months in your debt payoff journey, that seventh day dinner is not going to be motivating enough. You'll just go buy dinner now. You know it's not gonna work. You have to be while you're using external motivation, you have to be building up these intrinsic motivators, building up and finding the things that you love about the journey. You're not gonna love everything about the journey, right, You're not gonna love everything about the process. So it's about how do we do more. We're looking at all the things. We're taking inventory, what do I love, what do I don't love? How do I do more of the things that I love and feel less of the things that I don't love? And we talk a lot about eating at home because it saves money. I personally hate dishes, so I want to eat at home because it saves money. So how can I make eating at home more enjoyable? Well, I want to do less dishes and I want to do less cooking. So I create a meal plan that focuses on the things that I love. It brings me joy when I cook a meal at home because I know I've saved so much money and not eating out, and I haven't felt miserable in the process, you know, making these multipot dinners that look instagram worthy. So finding these these things that bring you joy. So that's like finding joy on the actual like saving money side, but there are other things like honestly, like making money brought me a lot of joy on my debt payoff journey. I just every time a dollar hit my bank account, like I loved it. I felt accomplishment was really one of my core values back then. So another way you can find these intrinsic motivators is knowing your core values. And so anytime I could find that like I felt so good. You know the Enneagraham, Meyer's Briggs. Those are also some things. If you know those things about yourself, then you can get closer to finding your intrinsic motivators.

I think for me, feeling accomplishment along the way, and feeling senses of ingenuity and embracing simplicity and watching myself problem solve and become resourceful, especially in my debt payoff. But then beyond that, it was something that I embraced because I loved those things so much along the way. What I was able to see in myself as a result of just kind of thinking more critically and leaning into the things that actually were valuable to me is what kind of kept me and keeps me on this journey of being a good steward of my resources. For me, that's my example of what the process and enjoying and falling in love with the processes and why I can say wholeheartedly frugality isn't deprivation for me, Values based spending isn't isn't saying no constantly. It's actually finding my better yes is and really leaning into that and choosing to focus my time, energy and attention on those things.

Yes, I am finding my better yes all right. So our next point, so first is falling in love with the process. Next is embracing the ebbs and flows of life, of the journey, embracing the ebbs and flows, and so originally in this chapter we wanted to talk about taking quote unquote potty breaks on the journey. It's a road trip and you're allowed to take potty breaks. But I think and we still like believe that, right, you're allowed to take breaks on your journey. But if you shift your mindset slightly and just say, the entire thing is the journey. But sometimes there's going to be straight up into the right movement, and sometimes it's going to be a little backtracking that happens and so embracing the ebbs and flows of life is another essential mindset and practice to sticking to long term financial goals.

Yeah, to recognize that there's going to be a little bit of ups and downs. And we can see this just when we look at the graph of the last thirty years of the S and P five hundred index. And if you can't recall that instantly in your head, you can think of any really kind of any line graph. You can clearly see that it goes up and down and up and down and up and down, but ultimately it's going to trend up into the right. So any line graph you've ever seen, that's what the S and P five hundred index line graph looks like. And that even though we see these graphs all the time everywhere, for some reason, we can still expect that our trajectory is just going to be a straight line up into the right, and we can get really disappointed when things don't go our perfect way. And so I think to stick to a big financial goal, you have to embrace the journey, fall in love with the process, but also recognize that there's going to be these ebbs and flows and learning ways to embrace that too, not to see it as this massive setback, but a part of the process keeping in mind that if you're on a downturn, it's not going to stay that way, and if you're on an upswing, it might not remain that way either, but that we can continue to hold hope and recognize that we can continually experience growth in some facet and trend up into the right. Even if there are these times where it feels like I've fallen off the wagon. This isn't going my way. It doesn't mean that that's the entire picture of your life.

Yeah, we saw so many of you in your feedback in the friend letter pulls saying like I was on my way to pay off debt and then I had this medical thing or this thing broke in my house, or a car broke, and now I had to use my emergency fund for that or put it on credit, and now I'm like resaving or changing my strategy. There are going like your financial goals are going to change too. It's they're not going to be static, Like you're going to be paying off your debt, then you're going to have a car breakdown and use your emergency fund and you're gonna have to transition back to saving an emergency fund again, and then we get back to the debt. So you have to expect that, expect that's gonna happen, and be bummed about it, like it's not cool, it's not fun, But it's gonna happen, you know, And because you're prepared for it, because you already anticipated it, it's gonna be less of emergency, it's gonna be less of a crisis and just more of a bummer, Like I would much more prefer a bummer over a crisis.

Yes, and life ebbs and flows even separate from our existence. I know we talked about this in Honoring our season and what does that mean and look like? And sometimes these ebbs and flows happen apart from our control, which is also all the more reason to accept it as a part of the journey and part of the process. And we don't need to view every ebb as a setback, a failure, an indication that you should quit or that you're not enough. We don't have to internalize these things in life that don't go our way. We can see them as a part of the process. As we were preparing for this episode, Jen It was reminding me of a very tangible, very real experience that I've been having lately of cleaning my house. I do like a very clean house. I want that to be a destination, but I have been bummed over the years to realize that it's never going to reach perfection. I have gotten to these points in life where Okay, yes, the laundry's done and the floors are mopped and the beds are made, and that all feels amazing, and I feel like I've almost reached the pinnacle. But even still that's not going to last. Come tomorrow, we're using it and we're walking around and there's more laundry that's not been created and more dirt. And even if I did reach what I think is nirvana, like the baseboards could still be cleaned, and the ceiling fans could be wiped on the tops, and the fan in the bathroom could be cleaned out. Like recognizing that I'm actually never going to arrive, this bit of just maintaining is going to be a part of my life. And even before we mapped out this outline, I was starting to try to think through how can I shift my mindset on this? So I'm loving to see the overlap here, and it's helping to solidify this takeaway for me that I have to learn to enjoy the fact that this is going to be a regular part of my rhythm, and that I can enjoy this as part of something that I do. How can I embrace what it means to maintain in the way that I want to maintain my house, and so it's meant playing music or not caring so much, or letting it get messy and then inviting other people to help me with it if it really needs that. So I think we can see this a part of a lot of areas of life, that there are these ebbs and flows. We're never going to reach perfection. Having various financial goals will continue to be a part of our life. There isn't they're reaching the pinnacle. That's it's just over. Like you said, gently, we reach the end, and it's the end. We will forever and always have new goals, new things we're focusing on. There will be barriers and interruptions to that thing. But what can we incorporate into our thought life that is going to help us enjoy the process of it. Recognize that ebbs and flows are part of it. We can embrace the EBB so we can get back in to the flow and find joy in the midst of all of it.

Yeah, I think one of your solutions might be to come over to my house, because this morning I had the same desperation. But it's because I couldn't see any of the surfaces in my house. They were all covered. The kids were sick this weekend and I was also sick, and I just couldn't see any of the surfaces. And I cleaned up a little. I actually was so overwhelmed. I was like, you know what, I'm going to do my ten minute trick. This is a little tangent ten minute trick. I set a timer for ten minutes, and I just did everything I could in ten minutes and begetting everything cleaned in the kitchen except for the dishes, and then I went to work.

And it did what you could with resources that you had. It's beautiful.

So yeah, I mean I I this concept of embracing the ebbs and flows transcends fine. Right When we have this, When we train ourselves in this mindset for finances, we take it everywhere and the same goes for we try to incorporate in most of our episodes. If you can use the skills you learn in spending and feel good about that, confident about that you can take those skills elsewhere like in cleaning. Uh So, yeah, stop stop viewing every event in life that doesn't go the way you think it should as something that reflects you personally or your capabilities, your abilities, your season's abilities, and just embrace it. So instead of internalizing, let's do two things. We're going to learn from the ebbs and celebrate the flows. So when we make goals, we often make them with the notion that we will remain the same person we are now but with x fill in the blank four goal with you know I am me now but with no debt. That leads to viewing the process of getting to the goal as a means to an end, like we said, is not healthy. And that's why many people fail to achieve big goals is because they are just they're looking at themselves now and then big goal and forgetting the process. You have a huge opportunity to grow from the things that challenge you along this process. When you reach a goal, assume you will not be the same person that you are when you started the goal. Just assume that, and when you assume that, you can view every EBB, every challenge as a way to learn to grow, figuring out what can I what can I take from this? So if it was something that I did or didn't do, if it was a challenge that stemmed for me, like what's the root cause of the decision that I made, and how can I make a different decision the next time this comes up? Right, if it was something that didn't stem from you, that it was environmental, how can I be prepared for something like this in the future. Was I over prepared? Was I under prepared? Asking yourself questions when challenges arise, so that you learn, you grow. So when you get to your next goal, your secondary goal should be to also be a wiser person. So the goal, I don't think the goal is to be celebrated. And this is something I learned a lot in running, like in when you do a half marathon, the half marathon is just your victory lap. The real challenge is all the training that it took to get to the half marathon and then just having fun in the race, because that's your victory lab and it's the same thing the goal. I don't think should be celebrated as much as once you reach the goal, to celebrate the whole journey, the whole process that you just went through. To remember all the challenges you overcame, all the times you made a decision that you didn't like, and then the next time you had that decision to make again, you made the one that you wanted to make. All of these things, so these are really important things to remember. And then next to celebrate the good times. Right, So you can't know what's up unless you've been down. Essentially, so when you're learning from these ebbs, then when you're in a good season, a season when there are no bummers, you can really celebrate that and really hit your stride and know that it's a stride.

Yeah, I think you know. Finally, I know. We wanted to say that there's three things, and we're not going to talk about this too much in depth because we really thought that those first two were vital. But I think being informed and knowing when outside forces have ulterior motives is that kind of third and final piece that we want to talk about. So your journey won't be perfect. You will not be perfect. There are always going to be outside forces also working against you. So you know a lot about spending psychology, but marketers and advertisers know just as much and they want to encourage you to spend your money. And so I think we want to say that it's not evil marketing advertising. There's a lot of good people, good businesses, getting good messages out there. But for every ad that helps you spend on things you love, there are also like five to ten ads trying to convince you to love what it is that they're selling. And so we think that this is another key element in being able to stick to finance, not just financial goals, but learning to love and embrace the process is also thinking critically about the way that we're spending and leaning more and more into spending on the things that we value.

Yeah, being informed is something that's going to be a lifelong journey, and we're here to help you stay informed.

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But the marketing tactics that people were using five years ago, ten years ago, they've evolved because people get wise and they stop, you know, being privy to pervasive advertising. And so some of the things, some of the new things that we saw come out in twenty twenty three, and this obviously will change over the years, But right now we're seeing like AI powered chatbots that like literally have we'll have real time conversations to answer questions and guide you to making a purchase on websites or social media, and they can even customize these conversations using data and analytics. You probably didn't realize you agreed to share with them. So that's one thing marketers know. You want to buy what you value, So now they're creating brands with impact that make you feel like your purchase is doing good. We saw a lot about in twenty twenty one people saying buy to help people buy things to help other people, and to an extent in that time that was a healthy thing, but people are still kind of using that. You buy shop small, right, we want to shop small, but we don't want to overspend in our attempt to help small businesses. Right. We want to save on the big things so that we have room in the budget to help out small businesses and not put ourselves in credit card debt. So be wary of like brands that really make you feel like spending money with them is doing good. If you want to do good, there are a lot of ways to do good and so and they're evolving. They know blatant advertising feels icky, like in social media paid ads with influencers, so they're actually transit like becoming storytellers, right, connecting you to the brand on an emotional level, sometimes before you even know what they sell. I was doing some reading and there are no from what I understand, there are no pictures of red Bull on Red Bull's Instagram. So it's all story based getting you to love the brand, and so you are attached to them on emotional level. So when you make an energy drink, you know, when you have the chance to make an energy drink purchase, they hope you will choose Ripe Bull. So and that's kind of I mean, it's definitely a transition from what they've done in the past. But a lot of other brands are doing this, and I think probably on a deeper level than just like energy drinks, but things that make you feel a certain way, and then when you buy their product, you hope you're you're buying that feeling. So that's why it's becoming increasingly important that you don't evate evaluate your goals and values just once, but you have to continue to reevaluate them for the rest of your life. So as marketing evolves, so do you. And there are there are a ton of others. We have an episode on marketing techniques that is still super relevant. But these are just a few of the new ones that we saw come out in twenty twenty three that have been that marketers and we read these. We read marketing articles that are written for marketers, and then we talk about them on this show, so you know what they're reading.

I love I love that hot take. So to review the mindset pieces that we want to keep our sites on and be actively working towards growth and well being, is that falling in love with the process, learning ways that you can really embrace the journey. We are finding ways to embrace and recognize the ebbs and flows, and we're informing our brains and knowing when the outside forces are having an impact on us versus us allowing it to inform us on the values that we already know that we have. We think that these three things are going to be really powerful for longevity and really enjoying it, not just longevity in this tough, cumbersome thing that we're doing, but embracing a life that we really enjoy being in tune with our values and it not feeling like deprivation but the life that we've really curated and enjoy now. But you know what, there is a secret, hidden fourth thing here.

Yes, that and if you take this with you, you do have a higher its Statistically, studies have shown with a sample size of two that this will really help you stick to your long term goals.

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All right, twenty twenty four, what's your big financial goal? And I love how this is flipped for us.

Did we say we're just our goals were for twenty twenty three? I have to go back.

I think we've just talked. We've just talked about them like to each other. But usually my goal is your goal and your goal is my goal. But twenty twenty four it's chaotic. What is ready, Jen Mine? Mine is a house renovation. So we have had money saved, we are we are almost two years a year and a half, over a year and a half into this home renovation and we are definitely going to finish it this year. I don't know if we'll hit the two year mark, like the like the I don't know every month we changed the goal, but we will finish it this year because we're we're pretty close. We just have the one big thing that we've put off to the end is getting a header install and removing part of a load bearing wall that honestly had Finding somebody to do that has been the hardest thing. And I will never take on a renovation again where I where I have to hire out help. I just will never do that again because it's hard.

It's hard fine people.

So yeah, and I will feel a lot less anxiety once the money we have set aside in our bank account has been spent on the home renovation because right now I don't want to spend it because I'm not one hundred percent sure what the rest of the renovation will cost. Like it's not something I can perfectly, but that is not something I can budget for. I can have a goal in mind, but so, I mean, I definitely have a limit, at a top limit, because my money is not infinite. But yeah, I want it to be over.

It'll happen, But yeah, being in the thick of it can feel so overwhelming. Whenever we even did renovations for other people. Of course we did our own, but Eric and I had our own renovations come business, small business at one point, and before we started any person's project, I always warned them, you're you like me, now, you like what I have to say to you. You're gonna keep liking me, probably for another few weeks. But the second we hit the middle, you're gonna feel real done, You're really good. You're gonna hate all of this right right smack dab in the middle, and then you're gonna think that you're almost there, and you're not, and you're still in the middle. And it's not until like the very, very very final end that things will look up again. But we're gonna have a solid middle point where everything feels really awful. And as much as I reminded other people about it, i'd remind myself it's still just stunk every single time that middle bit, that radical middle between the beginning and the end, and neither one feels like it's in sight. The beginning was so far away and the end is so far away.

I know. That's one of the reasons I couldn't see any of my surfaces this morning, is because we keep removing surfaces in the renovation, like in the renovation, and eventually we will put more in, but not yet.

So uh yeah, yeah, you're in the middle. Get comfy, find your way to embrace it. So for me, I wrote earn more, but I think Jen, as you and I have chatted, that is true. But I think that this conversation is even helping me to realize that I'm I'm in an EBB right now. I think I'm coming out of a flow. I anticipate a flow in the future. I hope to ultimately trend up into the right. But I do think I'm in an EBB, and I'm okay with it. I have actively kind of chosen this EBB. It's not necessarily something that has happened to me. Thankfully, I think because of you, our community, these conversations, it doesn't feel like deprivation. I think I'm learning ways to embrace it. But I'm not in this point of everything feels attainable to me. I'm just grasping everything my heart desires. I'm definitely in a place where I have to be a little bit more mindful about my decisions, especially around my finances. There's some things that we're doing again, not deprivation, finding ways to experience joy in the midst of it, but having made a decision to make less right now for this season because of freedom and flexibility that it's affording me. It also means we can't go out as much. We need to be a little bit more prudent about things. Again. I don't feel sad or deprived in it, but I'm in an eb I'm hoping to earn more, but it's not that earning more. Isn't this like total at the forefront? For me, it's a little bit more of I feel like I'm in maintenance mode. I want to maintain the things that I've already done, and if I want, if I feel like I'm wanting something, finding creative ways to get that. I think one small example of this is Instagram did get me. The other day, I saw this reel of a woman who's a cook. She makes these recipes that are really inspiring to me. I love the food that she makes, and she's trying to sell this apron that's adorable. It looks like a dress over top of her clothes, and I don't have an apron. I've never thought that I needed an apron but like, that's a beautiful apron, and I actually got excited. I mean I clicked on the link or like ninety five dollars for this apron, but I actually got excited to think I could sew that, Like I have a skill of sewing. I've got fat Who knows if I'm actually going to do it, but it was inspiring to me even to see that growth that we've just been talking about. That it's not deprivation for me to say I'm not going to get that apron right now. It's ninety five dollars. It's ridiculous. If I wanted it, I can figure out a way to make it myself with the things that I already have on hand. So I think right now my financial goal quote unquote is continuing to like embrace this season and enjoy the freedom and flexibility that my choices have allowed and kind of just maintain as I also have this aim of earning more. That was a mouthful, but there we are. If any of you are finding yourself in an EBB, I hope this is encouraging to you.

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Oh my god, I need space to write that book.

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Yeah, see you next time. Grugal Friends is produced by Eric sirianni oh Man, Jill. So. My birthdays in May. But last year I signed up for a car wash newsletter that gives you a free car wash on your birthday and I wanted it immediately, so I said my birthday was in December. And so this year I've gotten another text. Stop it. I got another text that I have a free car wash this month and I really need it. I can't wait till May. But it's expiring on Friday. They just sent me a text and so on no on Saturday, so Friday, I might Kai does not like going through the car wash for some reason. I loved the car wash as a kid. He's not a big fan. But he's four. I guess he's got time, so I might have to go by myself.

But scary, I mean, it is funny. It's a funny thing to lie about to me. But I guess you're still only gonna get one a year, So okay, like, you're not cheating the system by getting more just funny.

Right, But I can. I can join different car wash newsletters and say my birthday is in different times of the year, and I guess, so I'm getting free car washes throughout the year. My gosh, that's why this chip is in the after show.

This is not a hack that we're necessarily encouraging for other people. I'm a little afraid of the car wash, probably not for the same reasons as your four year old, but the last two times that I've gone, you know you got to put your car in neutral. Well, it started to make my car go backwards in the thing, and I almost ran into the person behind me because for some reason I can't totally remember, like my brakes wouldn't work, or I couldn't just like accelerate that it wasn't allowing me to do that. And fast forward to I come home and tell Eric about this. He used to work at a car wash in one of his like fifty thousand jobs he's had in his life. Yeah, that that happens. It's something with whatever the mechanism is that locks your car in place while you're in neutral. He's like, we would have accidents happen all the time in the car wash. None of them were like, you know, anything that you even needed to call an insurance company for because you're literally going like one mile an hour. But he's like, yeah, that it just it can glitch that happens. I'm like, I did not love that experience. I'm not gonna do that again. And then it happened when Eric was driving, we were both in the car together. He kind of knew what to do to not run into the person behind him. I still don't remember what the trick was, probably just flooring it out of there. But that's why I'm afraid of it. So I'm with you, Kai, car washes are unpredictable and not worth lying about.

I'm sorry we have differing opinions. I'm still gonna go to the car wash, Like, how do you get your car clean? Like, do you do it by?

We did?

No, we do go to the car wash. It's just now a character.

Yeah, all right,

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