Your Attachment Style, Explained

Why Anxious loves Avoidant

How to Change Your Attachment Style

Where Your Attachment Style Comes From

This week is about attachment styles and how to rewrite the one you grew up with. Someone takes three hours to text back and you start spiraling. Or things finally start to get good and you start pulling away for absolutely no reason. It isn't random and it isn't a character flaw. It's your attachment style, and most of us were never taught we had one.

Today, we sit down with German psychologist Jenny Meinen, who studied attachment theory. We get into where these patterns come from, why anxious and avoidant people keep finding each other, and why the work underneath all of it is self-worth. Jenny breaks down what a secure conversation actually sounds like out loud, why the repair after a fight matters more than the fight, and the line Kevin is still trying to live by: their mood is not a threat to me, and I'm not responsible for other people's emotions.

If you've ever needed reassurance you were too embarrassed to ask for, or gone cold the second things got real, this one's for you. You'll probably know your style before the guest even shows up.

Also, a reminder that we are not therapists, and if you are really struggling, to get the support you need <3

This week is about attachment styles and how to rewrite the one you grew up with. Someone takes three hours to text back and you start spiraling. Or things finally start to get good and you start pulling away for absolutely no reason. It isn't random and it isn't a character flaw. It's your attachment style, and most of us were never taught we had one.
Today, we sit down with German psychologist Jenny Meinen, who studied attachment theory. We get into where these patterns come from, why anxious and avoidant people keep finding each other, and why the work underneath all of it is self-worth. Jenny breaks down what a secure conversation actually sounds like out loud, why the repair after a fight matters more than the fight, and the line Kevin is still trying to live by: their mood is not a threat to me, and I'm not responsible for other people's emotions.
If you've ever needed reassurance you were too embarrassed to ask for, or gone cold the second things got real, this one's for you. You'll probably know your style before the guest even shows up.
Also, a reminder that we are not therapists, and if you are really struggling, to get the support you need &lt;3

Two best friends sitting down with a different expert therapist every week to unpack the stuff most guys struggle with but don't say out loud. Dating. Relationships. Modern masculinity. Career and purpose. Family. Self-worth. 

We want to uncover what it looks like to be a strong, loving, successful, empathetic, and masculine man today. Because the current playbook is absolute trash (cc: manosphere).

And we're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time). 

Subscribe and follow along on IG at @freetherapy and TT at @freetherapypod ✌️

Two best friends sitting down with a different expert therapist every week to unpack the stuff most guys struggle with but don't say out loud. Dating. Relationships. Modern masculinity. Career and purpose. Family. Self-worth.&nbsp;
We want to uncover what it looks like to be a strong, loving, successful, empathetic, and masculine man today. Because the current playbook is absolute trash (cc: manosphere).
And we're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time).&nbsp;
Subscribe and follow along on IG at @freetherapy and TT at @freetherapypod ✌️

Free Therapy with Ben & Kevin

Why Relationships Trigger Anxiety and Avoidance #9

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