Why dating feels impossible

Love is a merger, not a startup

How to find your real non-negotiables

The ick is actually about you

The operating system you should break

You're not settling, you're choosing

Masculinity and strength in relationships

Should relationships feel ‘good’?

Why you're addicted to highs and lows

What Ben & Kevin need to work on

Dating is hard. But when you have your life together, somehow, it gets harder. Therapist Dani Lewin explains why, and what to actually do about it.

She gets into why dating gets more complicated the older and more established you become, what your checklist is actually telling you, and how to rethink what "settling" really means.

We also talk about non-negotiables, the ick, and what women actually find emotionally attractive in men.

If the relationship piece feels like the one thing you can't solve, we think Dani can help.

New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.

And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it’s not. So if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.

0:00 – Why dating feels impossible
2:13 – Love is a merger, not a startup
5:10 – How to find your real non-negotiables
9:14 – The ick is actually about you
12:03 – The operating system you should break
19:44 – You're not settling, you're choosing
25:25 – Masculinity and strength relationships
33:28 – Should relationships feel ‘good’?
37:44 – Why you're addicted to highs and lows
41:36 – What Ben & Kevin need to work on

Dating is hard. But when you have your life together, somehow, it gets harder. Therapist Dani Lewin explains why, and what to actually do about it.
She gets into why dating gets more complicated the older and more established you become, what your checklist is actually telling you, and how to rethink what "settling" really means.
We also talk about non-negotiables, the ick, and what women actually find emotionally attractive in men.
If the relationship piece feels like the one thing you can't solve, we think Dani can help.
New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.
And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it&rsquo;s not. So if you&rsquo;re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.
0:00 &ndash; Why dating feels impossible 2:13 &ndash; Love is a merger, not a startup 5:10 &ndash; How to find your real non-negotiables 9:14 &ndash; The ick is actually about you 12:03 &ndash; The operating system you should break 19:44 &ndash; You're not settling, you're choosing 25:25 &ndash; Masculinity and strength relationships 33:28 &ndash; Should relationships feel &lsquo;good&rsquo;? 37:44 &ndash; Why you're addicted to highs and lows 41:36 &ndash; What Ben &amp; Kevin need to work on

Two best friends sitting down with a different expert therapist every week to unpack the stuff most guys struggle with but don't say out loud. Dating. Relationships. Modern masculinity. Career and purpose. Family. Self-worth. 

We want to uncover what it looks like to be a strong, loving, successful, empathetic, and masculine man today. Because the current playbook is absolute trash (cc: manosphere).

And we're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time). 

Subscribe and follow along on IG at @freetherapy and TT at @freetherapypod ✌️

Two best friends sitting down with a different expert therapist every week to unpack the stuff most guys struggle with but don't say out loud. Dating. Relationships. Modern masculinity. Career and purpose. Family. Self-worth.&nbsp;
We want to uncover what it looks like to be a strong, loving, successful, empathetic, and masculine man today. Because the current playbook is absolute trash (cc: manosphere).
And we're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time).&nbsp;
Subscribe and follow along on IG at @freetherapy and TT at @freetherapypod ✌️

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Why Is Dating So Difficult, Especially When You Have Your Sh*t Together #3

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