Why family triggers us the most

What to do when you're triggered

Internal Family Systems explained

Kevin's live parts work session

Different types of parts

 Stop fighting your own mind

Your problems are your curriculum

IFS and codependence 

Setting boundaries without walls

In this episode, we dig into family dynamics and why the people closest to us are the ones who trigger us the most. Therapist Alexa Silvaggio explains what's really going on, and how to start breaking out of those cycles.

She uses parts work, or Internal Family Systems (IFS), to help you meet the younger versions of yourself that are still quietly running your adult life. We get into people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, and why setting boundaries with the people you love is so hard.

If there are patterns you keep trying to change but can't figure out why they stick, we think Alexa can help.

New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.

And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it’s not. So if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.

0:00 – Why family triggers us the most
6:58 – What to do when you're triggered
10:51 – Internal Family Systems explained
13:58 – Kevin's live parts work session
20:16 – Different types of parts
29:07 – Stop fighting your own mind
33:29 – Your problems are the curriculum
45:53 – Setting boundaries without walls

In this episode, we dig into family dynamics and why the people closest to us are the ones who trigger us the most. Therapist Alexa Silvaggio explains what's really going on, and how to start breaking out of those cycles.
She uses parts work, or Internal Family Systems (IFS), to help you meet the younger versions of yourself that are still quietly running your adult life. We get into people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, and why setting boundaries with the people you love is so hard.
If there are patterns you keep trying to change but can't figure out why they stick, we think Alexa can help.
New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.
And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it&rsquo;s not. So if you&rsquo;re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.
0:00 &ndash; Why family triggers us the most 6:58 &ndash; What to do when you're triggered 10:51 &ndash; Internal Family Systems explained 13:58 &ndash; Kevin's live parts work session 20:16 &ndash; Different types of parts 29:07 &ndash; Stop fighting your own mind 33:29 &ndash; Your problems are the curriculum 45:53 &ndash; Setting boundaries without walls

Two best friends sitting down with a different expert therapist every week to unpack the stuff most guys struggle with but don't say out loud. Dating. Relationships. Modern masculinity. Career and purpose. Family. Self-worth. 

We want to uncover what it looks like to be a strong, loving, successful, empathetic, and masculine man today. Because the current playbook is absolute trash (cc: manosphere).

And we're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time). 

Subscribe and follow along on IG at @freetherapy and TT at @freetherapypod ✌️

Two best friends sitting down with a different expert therapist every week to unpack the stuff most guys struggle with but don't say out loud. Dating. Relationships. Modern masculinity. Career and purpose. Family. Self-worth.&nbsp;
We want to uncover what it looks like to be a strong, loving, successful, empathetic, and masculine man today. Because the current playbook is absolute trash (cc: manosphere).
And we're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time).&nbsp;
Subscribe and follow along on IG at @freetherapy and TT at @freetherapypod ✌️

Free Therapy with Ben & Kevin

Why You Get Triggered (and what to do about it)

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