Meet Ben's Therapist

Expressing Anger in Healthy Ways

Turning Pain into Trophies

Supporting Someone Who's Struggling

What it Takes to Heal

Grief Camp and Giving Back

This week is about what happens when you finally stop trying to be okay with what happened to you.

Ben sits down with his former therapist, Jessica Serber, who helped him work through years of grief and anger after surviving cancer three times before the age of 24. For a long time, Ben thought healing meant moving on, staying positive, and building a life that had nothing to do with cancer. What he eventually learned was almost the opposite: he couldn’t move through the pain until he let himself actually feel it.

They talk about the anger Ben didn’t think he was allowed to have, the parts of his life he felt cancer had taken from him, and how finally telling the truth about those feelings changed his relationship with the experience. They also get into what healing actually looks like when the thing that happened to you never completely goes away, and how to show up for someone you love when there’s nothing you can say to make things better.

We’ve been best friends since college. We lived in the same house while Ben was going through chemotherapy and still barely talked about what was actually happening. Years later, sitting down with Jess brought us back to conversations we didn’t know how to have then.

If you’ve been carrying pain, anger, grief, or something you’ve convinced yourself you should be “over” by now, this episode is for you.

You can’t heal what you won’t let yourself feel.

New episodes every Thursday. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts, and on Instagram at @freetherapy.

And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it’s not. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.

 

0:00 Reuniting with his old therapist
10:00 Allowed to feel his anger
17:51 Seeing his cancer as trophies
28:09 What to say when someone's struggling
35:28 Getting uncomfortable to heal
42:24 Grief camp and giving back

This week is about what happens when you finally stop trying to be okay with what happened to you.
Ben sits down with his former therapist, Jessica Serber, who helped him work through years of grief and anger after surviving cancer three times before the age of 24. For a long time, Ben thought healing meant moving on, staying positive, and building a life that had nothing to do with cancer. What he eventually learned was almost the opposite: he couldn&rsquo;t move through the pain until he let himself actually feel it.
They talk about the anger Ben didn&rsquo;t think he was allowed to have, the parts of his life he felt cancer had taken from him, and how finally telling the truth about those feelings changed his relationship with the experience. They also get into what healing actually looks like when the thing that happened to you never completely goes away, and how to show up for someone you love when there&rsquo;s nothing you can say to make things better.
We&rsquo;ve been best friends since college. We lived in the same house while Ben was going through chemotherapy and still barely talked about what was actually happening. Years later, sitting down with Jess brought us back to conversations we didn&rsquo;t know how to have then.
If you&rsquo;ve been carrying pain, anger, grief, or something you&rsquo;ve convinced yourself you should be &ldquo;over&rdquo; by now, this episode is for you.
You can&rsquo;t heal what you won&rsquo;t let yourself feel.
New episodes every Thursday. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts, and on Instagram at @freetherapy.
And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it&rsquo;s not. If you&rsquo;re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.
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0:00 Reuniting with his old therapist 10:00 Allowed to feel his anger 17:51 Seeing his cancer as trophies 28:09 What to say when someone's struggling 35:28 Getting uncomfortable to heal 42:24 Grief camp and giving back

Two best friends sitting down with different therapists and experts every week to talk through the stuff everyone struggles with but nobody says out loud. Anxiety. Dating. Relationships. Career. Family Dynamics. Grief. The list goes on.

We're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time). 

Because therapy’s expensive, but thankfully podcasts aren’t ;)

Subscribe and follow along on IG at @freetherapy and TT at @freetherapypod

Two best friends sitting down with different therapists and experts every week to talk through the stuff everyone struggles with but nobody says out loud. Anxiety. Dating. Relationships. Career. Family Dynamics. Grief. The list goes on.
We're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time).&nbsp;
Because therapy&rsquo;s expensive, but thankfully podcasts aren&rsquo;t ;)
Subscribe and follow along on IG at @freetherapy and TT at @freetherapypod

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