Amber Lia and Wendy Speake offer parents practical suggestions for responding with patience and wisdom to their children's misbehavior. The discussion is based on our guests' recent book, Parenting Scripts: When What You're Saying Isn't Working, Say Something New. 

 

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Amber Lia and Wendy Speake offer parents practical suggestions for responding with patience and wisdom to their children's misbehavior. The discussion is based on our guests' recent book, Parenting Scripts: When What You're Saying Isn't Working, Say Something New.&nbsp;
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Say This, Not That: Smart Parenting Tips for Misbehavior (Part 2 of 2)

Resilience is a life skill we need for the inevitable struggles we will face in this life — but we must be intentional about learning this skill. Valorie has identified some key “rules” for resilience — like “expect the unexpected,” and “focus on the vision, not the obstacle.” And “control the controllable and accept the rest.” Prepping ourselves beforehand to learn and live more resiliently helps us be more confident, content, and successful when difficult situations happen.

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Resilience is a life skill we need for the inevitable struggles we will face in this life &mdash; but we must be intentional about learning this skill. Valorie has identified some key &ldquo;rules&rdquo; for resilience &mdash; like &ldquo;expect the unexpected,&rdquo; and &ldquo;focus on the vision, not the obstacle.&rdquo; And &ldquo;control the controllable and accept the rest.&rdquo; Prepping ourselves beforehand to learn and live more resiliently helps us be more confident, content, and successful when difficult situations happen.
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How to Develop a Resilient Mindset

Trisha Davis explains how her tendency to be a rule-follower, and her husband’s tendency to be a rule-breaker, set them up for disaster when their marriage was tested.

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Trisha Davis explains how her tendency to be a rule-follower, and her husband&rsquo;s tendency to be a rule-breaker, set them up for disaster when their marriage was tested.
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Knowing Our Weaknesses, Finding God’s Strength

James Brown, CBS host of The NFL Today, shares his personal faith journey, family story, and transformation through Jesus Christ. Brown reflects on the powerful influence of his mother’s faith and discipline, his early struggles after being cut from professional basketball, and the moment in his mid-20s when he turned to God and began a lifelong spiritual commitment. He emphasizes the importance of responsibility, humility, and “walking the talk” as a Christian, both in family life and public influence. The conversation also explores themes of racial unity, the role of Scripture in addressing cultural challenges, and the lasting impact of mentors like coaches and parents.

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James Brown, CBS host of The NFL Today, shares his personal faith journey, family story, and transformation through Jesus Christ. Brown reflects on the powerful influence of his mother&rsquo;s faith and discipline, his early struggles after being cut from professional basketball, and the moment in his mid-20s when he turned to God and began a lifelong spiritual commitment. He emphasizes the importance of responsibility, humility, and &ldquo;walking the talk&rdquo; as a Christian, both in family life and public influence. The conversation also explores themes of racial unity, the role of Scripture in addressing cultural challenges, and the lasting impact of mentors like coaches and parents.
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