This is the start of a 4 part series of Amy and Kat unpacking Dr. John Gottman’s famous ‘Four Horsemen of the apocalypse’ for relationships which has helped him be able to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. Part 1 is Criticism, the one that often shows up first and sets the tone for conflict. Amy has her own issues with getting defensive and even gets her boyfriend on the phone to confirm. Kat explains why criticism is different from a simple complaint, how it sneaks in through exaggeration, “should” statements, jokes, and tone, and why it can actually be a clumsy bid for connection. You’ll learn Gottman’s antidote, the Gentle Start-Up, with clear “I feel / I need” examples to help you express concerns without blame. Whether you’re married, dating, or navigating family and friendships, this episode will help you spot criticism early and swap it for communication that keeps relationships strong.

Feeling of the Day: Angry (and Kat has every right to be!) 

Listen next week for: Defensiveness (Part 2 of How Relationships Begin to End: The Four Horseman)

 

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This is the start of a 4 part series of Amy and Kat unpacking Dr. John Gottman&rsquo;s famous &lsquo;Four Horsemen of the apocalypse&rsquo; for relationships which has helped him be able to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. Part 1 is Criticism, the one that often shows up first and sets the tone for conflict. Amy has her own issues with getting defensive and even gets her boyfriend on the phone to confirm. Kat explains why criticism is different from a simple complaint, how it sneaks in through exaggeration, &ldquo;should&rdquo; statements, jokes, and tone, and why it can actually be a clumsy bid for connection. You&rsquo;ll learn Gottman&rsquo;s antidote, the Gentle Start-Up, with clear &ldquo;I feel / I need&rdquo; examples to help you express concerns without blame. Whether you&rsquo;re married, dating, or navigating family and friendships, this episode will help you spot criticism early and swap it for communication that keeps relationships strong.
Feeling of the Day: Angry (and Kat has every right to be!)&nbsp;
Listen next week for: Defensiveness (Part 2 of How Relationships Begin to End: The Four Horseman)
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Watch us on Youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@feelingthingspodcast">HERE</a>!
Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077
Email:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com">heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com</a>
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

Feeling Things with Amy & Kat is a podcast for anyone who’s ever had feelings—or wants to. Hosted by Amy Brown and therapist Kat Van Buren, this is a space where nothing is off-limits. From deep reflections on childhood to pop culture obsessions to what’s happening in the world, all feelings deserve a seat at the table—big, small, awkward, joyful, confusing, and everything in between. At its core, it’s real friends having real conversations about real feelings. Some episodes go deep, some stay light, but all are rooted in curiosity, honesty, and connection. In a world that moves fast, sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is pause... and feel things.

Feeling Things with Amy &amp; Kat is a podcast for anyone who&rsquo;s ever had feelings&mdash;or wants to. Hosted by Amy Brown and therapist Kat Van Buren, this is a space where nothing is off-limits. From deep reflections on childhood to pop culture obsessions to what&rsquo;s happening in the world, all feelings deserve a seat at the table&mdash;big, small, awkward, joyful, confusing, and everything in between. At its core, it&rsquo;s real friends having real conversations about real feelings. Some episodes go deep, some stay light, but all are rooted in curiosity, honesty, and connection. In a world that moves fast, sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is pause... and feel things.

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Criticism (Part 1 of How Relationships Begin to End: The Four Horseman)

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