When life feels loud and uncertain, “it will be okay” doesn’t always help. Amy and Kat talk about how to show up without fixing, why validation matters, and what real support looks like. They also share what they’re feeling of the day, what they're reading and watching, including immersion reading and a perimenopause documentary that sparked a conversation about hormones, relationships, and why everything can feel turned way up. Amy reflects on her divorce, what perimenopause may (or may not) have influenced, and why understanding your body matters. Plus, a heartfelt voicemail from a listener in Alberta reminds them why the randomness, laughter, and everyday conversations matter...especially in hard seasons.

5 Things to Say Instead of “It Will Be Okay”:

1. “Gosh, this sounds hard.”
Lead with validation instead of solutions. Naming how difficult something feels helps people feel seen rather than fixed.

2. “What do you need from me right now?”
Before giving advice, check in. Sometimes people want help, sometimes they just want to be heard...and they may not even know yet.

3. “Sounds like you’re having a very human reaction.”
Normalize their response. Fear, anger, sadness, and overwhelm are often appropriate reactions...not signs something is wrong with them.

4. “I don’t know the right thing to say, but I’m here.”
Be honest and present. You don’t need the perfect words to offer support...your presence matters more than certainty.

5. “I’m bringing you over cookies.”
When asking what someone needs feels like too much, take the guesswork out and do something tangible. Care doesn’t have to be complicated.

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Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

When life feels loud and uncertain, &ldquo;it will be okay&rdquo; doesn&rsquo;t always help. Amy and Kat talk about how to show up without fixing, why validation matters, and what real support looks like. They also share what they&rsquo;re feeling of the day, what they're reading and watching, including immersion reading and a perimenopause documentary that sparked a conversation about hormones, relationships, and why everything can feel turned way up. Amy reflects on her divorce, what perimenopause may (or may not) have influenced, and why understanding your body matters. Plus, a heartfelt voicemail from a listener in Alberta reminds them why the randomness, laughter, and everyday conversations matter...especially in hard seasons.
5 Things to Say Instead of &ldquo;It Will Be Okay&rdquo;:
1. &ldquo;Gosh, this sounds hard.&rdquo; Lead with validation instead of solutions. Naming how difficult something feels helps people feel seen rather than fixed.
2. &ldquo;What do you need from me right now?&rdquo; Before giving advice, check in. Sometimes people want help, sometimes they just want to be heard...and they may not even know yet.
3. &ldquo;Sounds like you&rsquo;re having a very human reaction.&rdquo; Normalize their response. Fear, anger, sadness, and overwhelm are often appropriate reactions...not signs something is wrong with them.
4. &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t know the right thing to say, but I&rsquo;m here.&rdquo; Be honest and present. You don&rsquo;t need the perfect words to offer support...your presence matters more than certainty.
5. &ldquo;I&rsquo;m bringing you over cookies.&rdquo; When asking what someone needs feels like too much, take the guesswork out and do something tangible. Care doesn&rsquo;t have to be complicated.
Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking <a href="https://feelingthingspodcast.com">HERE</a>! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)
Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter <a href="https://mailchi.mp/threecordstherapy/feeling-things-subscribe">HERE</a>!
Watch us on Youtube&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@feelingthingspodcast">HERE</a>!
Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077
Email:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com">heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com</a>
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

Feeling Things with Amy & Kat is a podcast for anyone who’s ever had feelings—or wants to. Hosted by Amy Brown and therapist Kat Van Buren, this is a space where nothing is off-limits. From deep reflections on childhood to pop culture obsessions to what’s happening in the world, all feelings deserve a seat at the table—big, small, awkward, joyful, confusing, and everything in between. At its core, it’s real friends having real conversations about real feelings. Some episodes go deep, some stay light, but all are rooted in curiosity, honesty, and connection. In a world that moves fast, sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is pause... and feel things.

Feeling Things with Amy &amp; Kat is a podcast for anyone who&rsquo;s ever had feelings&mdash;or wants to. Hosted by Amy Brown and therapist Kat Van Buren, this is a space where nothing is off-limits. From deep reflections on childhood to pop culture obsessions to what&rsquo;s happening in the world, all feelings deserve a seat at the table&mdash;big, small, awkward, joyful, confusing, and everything in between. At its core, it&rsquo;s real friends having real conversations about real feelings. Some episodes go deep, some stay light, but all are rooted in curiosity, honesty, and connection. In a world that moves fast, sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is pause... and feel things.

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5 Things to Say Instead of “It Will Be Okay” (Hint: Bring Cookies, Not Advice)

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