Intro

The Importance of Calling In vs. Calling Out

Breaking Free from Peer Pressure

The Value of Paternity Leave and Shared

Challenging Traditional Masculinity

The Need for Positive Male Role Models

The Online Rape Academy Scandal

Closing Thoughts and Call to Action

Today, we're talking about male bystanders. Why is it that when a CNN investigation exposes an online rape academy with 62 million monthly visits, the loudest response from men isn't outrage, it's not all men?

Jas, Carly, and Jen continue their conversation with Andrew 'Bernie' Bernard, unpacking how men can move from performative masculinity to genuine accountability, the insidious on-ramps to coercive control hiding in plain sight, and why "calling in" beats "calling out" every single time. They're officially adding male silence to the FckIt List.

Trigger warning: this episode contains discussion of men's violence against women, sexual assault, coercive control, and self-harm.

Our socials: 

Instagram - @the_fckit_list

Youtube - @TheFckIt_List

TikTok - @thefckitlist

Connect with Bernie: 

Instagram - @_whatmakesaman_

Links & Resources Mentioned

Bernies greetings cards: https://www.lovelossdiscoballs.co.uk/

Share your personal Fck It items with the hosts via socials or email: hello@fckitlist.com.au

Today, we're talking about male bystanders. Why is it that when a CNN investigation exposes an online rape academy with 62 million monthly visits, the loudest response from men isn't outrage, it's not all men?
Jas, Carly, and Jen continue their conversation with Andrew 'Bernie' Bernard, unpacking how men can move from performative masculinity to genuine accountability, the insidious on-ramps to coercive control hiding in plain sight, and why "calling in" beats "calling out" every single time. They're officially adding male silence to the FckIt List.
Trigger warning: this episode contains discussion of men's violence against women, sexual assault, coercive control, and self-harm.
Our socials:&nbsp;
Instagram - <a href="https://www.instagram.com/the_fckit_list/">@the_fckit_list</a>
Youtube - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@TheFckIt__List">@TheFckIt_List</a>
TikTok - <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@thefckitlist?_r=1&amp;_t=ZS-96GjEINnom4">@thefckitlist</a>
Connect with Bernie:&nbsp;
Instagram - <a href="https://www.instagram.com/_whatmakesaman_/">@_whatmakesaman_</a>
Links &amp; Resources Mentioned
Bernies greetings cards: <a href="https://www.lovelossdiscoballs.co.uk/">https://www.lovelossdiscoballs.co.uk/</a>
Share your personal Fck It items with the hosts via socials or email: hello@fckitlist.com.au

It's time for women to lean out. To fck off the things we will no longer accept or do. We've made a list, and it's quite long, so we made it into a podcast. Three fierce women. No filters. Zero apologies. Join Jasmin Bedir, Carly Pelham and Jen Dobbie as they name everything they're done with — from impossible beauty standards to menopause signs, working like you don't have kids to parenting like you don't have a job. This isn't wellness. It's liberation. Listen in and decide what deserves to get in the bin. What's on your list?

It's time for women to lean out. To fck off the things we will no longer accept or do. We've made a list, and it's quite long, so we made it into a podcast. Three fierce women. No filters. Zero apologies. Join Jasmin Bedir, Carly Pelham and Jen Dobbie as they name everything they're done with &mdash; from impossible beauty standards to menopause signs, working like you don't have kids to parenting like you don't have a job. This isn't wellness. It's liberation. Listen in and decide what deserves to get in the bin. What's on your list?

It's time for women to lean out. To fck off the things we will no longer accept or do. We've made a list, and it's quite long, so we made it into a podcast.

Fck It List

Fck the Red Pill with Andrew 'Bernie' Bernard - Part 2

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