https://transcript.familylife.com/fl2026-02-12.pdf

https://transcript.familylife.com/docs/fl20260212.docx

Know what it's like when anger keeps flying, but nothing changes—because the real hurt stays hidden? Sarah and Matt Hammitt (Sanctus Real) share the raw turning point of their own story, from conflict and defensiveness to expressing mutual need. Discover the unexpected secret that replaces weapons, opens ears, and invites real healing and presence in marriage.

Show Notes and Resources
Lead Me: Finding Courage to Fight for Your Marriage, Children, and Faith by Matt Hammitt
Marriage After Dark: the podcast where a real couple answers the questions you’re too embarrassed to ask. Get it at FamilyLife.com/MarriageAfterDark
Thanks to the Christian Standard Bible for sponsoring this episode. Learn more at CSBible.com.
Find resources from this podcast at shop.familylife.com.
See resources from our past podcasts.
Find more content and resources on the FamilyLife's app!
Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on Apple Podcast or Spotify.
Check out all the FamilyLife's podcasts on the FamilyLife Podcast Network

Know what it's like when anger keeps flying, but nothing changes&mdash;because the real hurt stays hidden? Sarah and Matt Hammitt (Sanctus Real) share the raw turning point of their own story, from conflict and defensiveness to expressing mutual need. Discover the unexpected secret that replaces weapons, opens ears, and invites real healing and presence in marriage.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product/lead-me/">Lead Me: Finding Courage to Fight for Your Marriage, Children, and Faith</a> by Matt Hammitt</li>
<li>Marriage After Dark: the podcast where a real couple answers the questions you&rsquo;re too embarrassed to ask. Get it at FamilyLife.com/MarriageAfterDark</li>
</ul>
<hr>
<ul>
<li>Thanks to the Christian Standard Bible for sponsoring this episode. Learn more at <a href="https://CSBible.com">CSBible.com</a>.</li>
<li>Find resources from this podcast at <a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product-category/radio-resources/">shop.familylife.com</a>.</li>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product-category/past-radio-resources/">See resources from our past podcasts.</a></li>
<li>Find more content and resources on the <a href="https://www.familylife.com/app/">FamilyLife's app</a>!</li>
<li>Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/familylife-today/id212174303">Apple Podcast</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm?si=d6dfa8d2415f4750">Spotify</a>.</li>
<li>Check out all the FamilyLife's podcasts on the <a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/">FamilyLife Podcast Network</a></li>
</ul>

FamilyLife Today® is a weekday podcast featuring fun, engaging conversations that help families grow together with Jesus while pursuing the relationships that matter most.

FamilyLife Today®

FamilyLife Today is an award-winning podcast featuring fun, engaging conversations that help families grow together with Jesus while pursuing the relationships that matter most. Hosted by Dave and Ann Wilson, new episodes air every Tuesday and Thursday.

FamilyLife Today is an award-winning podcast featuring fun, engaging conversations that help families grow together with Jesus while pursuing the relationships that matter most. Hosted by Dave and Ann Wilson, new episodes air every Tuesday and Thursday.

On FamilyLife Today, Dave and Ann Wilson host Sarah and Matt Hammitt of Sanctus Real. They share their raw turning point: from conflict and defensiveness to voicing mutual needs. Discover the unexpected secret that disarms weapons, opens ears, and brings true healing and presence in marriage.

When Anger is Armor: Matt & Sarah Hammitt

https://transcript.familylife.com/fl2026-02-13.pdf

https://transcript.familylife.com/docs/fl20260213.docx

Your marriage is fraying under trauma's weight: Grief looks different for each of you, perhaps as one withdraws, the other controls, and resentment builds. You misread coping as rejection. But understanding trauma responses changes everything. Sarah and Matt Hammitt of Sanctus Real share raw lessons from their critically ill child's fight. These two know faithfulness isn't a feeling; it's the hard step that redeems connection when hope feels thin. They'll help you stay connected and redeem the wounds.

Show Notes and Resources
Lead Me: Finding Courage to Fight for Your Marriage, Children, and Faith by Matt Hammitt
Marriage After Dark: the podcast where a real couple answers the questions you’re too embarrassed to ask. Get it at FamilyLife.com/MarriageAfterDark
Thanks to the Christian Standard Bible for sponsoring this episode. Learn more at CSBible.com.
Find resources from this podcast at shop.familylife.com.
See resources from our past podcasts.
Find more content and resources on the FamilyLife's app!
Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on Apple Podcast or Spotify.
Check out all the FamilyLife's podcasts on the FamilyLife Podcast Network

Your marriage is fraying under trauma's weight: Grief looks different for each of you, perhaps as one withdraws, the other controls, and resentment builds. You misread coping as rejection. But understanding trauma responses changes everything. Sarah and Matt Hammitt of Sanctus Real share raw lessons from their critically ill child's fight. These two know faithfulness isn't a feeling; it's the hard step that redeems connection when hope feels thin. They'll help you stay connected and redeem the wounds.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product/lead-me/">Lead Me: Finding Courage to Fight for Your Marriage, Children, and Faith</a> by Matt Hammitt</li>
<li>Marriage After Dark: the podcast where a real couple answers the questions you&rsquo;re too embarrassed to ask. Get it at FamilyLife.com/MarriageAfterDark</li>
</ul>
<hr>
<ul>
<li>Thanks to the Christian Standard Bible for sponsoring this episode. Learn more at <a href="https://CSBible.com">CSBible.com</a>.</li>
<li>Find resources from this podcast at&nbsp;<a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product-category/radio-resources/">shop.familylife.com</a>.</li>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product-category/past-radio-resources/">See resources from our past podcasts.</a></li>
<li>Find more content and resources on the <a href="https://www.familylife.com/app/">FamilyLife's app</a>!</li>
<li>Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/familylife-today/id212174303">Apple Podcast</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm?si=d6dfa8d2415f4750">Spotify</a>.</li>
<li>Check out all the FamilyLife's podcasts on the <a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/">FamilyLife Podcast Network</a></li>
</ul>

On FamilyLife Today, Dave and Ann Wilson host Sarah and Matt Hammitt of Sanctus Real. They share raw lessons from their child's critical illness: faithfulness redeems connection when hope feels thin.

Trauma in Marriage: Grieving Differently Without Drifting Apart - Matt & Sarah Hammitt

https://transcript.familylife.com/fl2026-02-11.pdf

https://transcript.familylife.com/docs/fl2026-02-11.docx

Feel like your spouse is physically present but emotionally checked out—especially after long days, travel, or career demands? Matt and Sarah Hammitt (Sanctus Real) get brutally honest about emotional absence and the tension that builds when one partner carries the load alone. Matt and Sarah offer practical ideas to help true love survive conflict, defensiveness, and absence--for a love that goes the distance.

Show Notes and Resources
Lead Me: Finding Courage to Fight for Your Marriage, Children, and Faith by Matt Hammitt
Marriage After Dark: the podcast where a real couple answers the questions you’re too embarrassed to ask. Get it at FamilyLife.com/MarriageAfterDark
Find resources from this podcast at shop.familylife.com.
See resources from our past podcasts.
Find more content and resources on the FamilyLife's app!
Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on Apple Podcast or Spotify.
Check out all the FamilyLife's podcasts on the FamilyLife Podcast Network

Feel like your spouse is physically present but emotionally checked out&mdash;especially after long days, travel, or career demands? Matt and Sarah Hammitt (Sanctus Real) get brutally honest about emotional absence and the tension that builds when one partner carries the load alone. Matt and Sarah offer practical ideas to help true love survive conflict, defensiveness, and absence--for a love that goes the distance.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product/lead-me/">Lead Me: Finding Courage to Fight for Your Marriage, Children, and Faith</a> by Matt Hammitt</li>
<li>Marriage After Dark: the podcast where a real couple answers the questions you&rsquo;re too embarrassed to ask. Get it at FamilyLife.com/MarriageAfterDark</li>
</ul>
<hr>
<ul>
<li>Find resources from this podcast at <a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product-category/radio-resources/">shop.familylife.com</a>.</li>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product-category/past-radio-resources/">See resources from our past podcasts.</a></li>
<li>Find more content and resources on the <a href="https://www.familylife.com/app/">FamilyLife's app</a>!</li>
<li>Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/familylife-today/id212174303">Apple Podcast</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm?si=d6dfa8d2415f4750">Spotify</a>.</li>
<li>Check out all the FamilyLife's podcasts on the <a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/">FamilyLife Podcast Network</a></li>
</ul>

On FamilyLife Today, Dave and Ann Wilson host Sarah and Matt Hammitt of Sanctus Real. They get brutally honest about emotional absence, the tension of carrying the load alone, and practical ways to rebuild true connection through conflict, defensiveness, and distance.

Here, but Not Really: Fighting Emotional Absence in Marriage - Matt & Sarah Hammitt

https://transcript.familylife.com/fl2026-02-10.pdf

https://transcript.familylife.com/docs/fl2026-02-10.docx

Tired of Jedi mind tricks, cold shoulders, and "we need to talk" anxiety ruining your marriage? Every couple brings unhealthy patterns into conflict—avoidance, passive-aggression, mismatched timing—but unresolved issues build resentment fast. Pastor-therapist duo Dave and Ashley Willis know how to help you fight better. They deliver real stories, biblical wisdom, and practical tools for your next blowup.

Show Notes and Resources
Get your Gratikube— a simple family tool to prompt gratitude and conversation
Discover resources from Dave Willis in our shop
Marriage After Dark: the podcast where a real couple answers the questions you’re too embarrassed to ask. Get it at FamilyLife.com/MarriageAfterDark
Find resources from this podcast at shop.familylife.com.
See resources from our past podcasts.
Find more content and resources on the FamilyLife's app!
Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on Apple Podcast or Spotify.
Check out all the FamilyLife's podcasts on the FamilyLife Podcast Network

Tired of Jedi mind tricks, cold shoulders, and "we need to talk" anxiety ruining your marriage? Every couple brings unhealthy patterns into conflict&mdash;avoidance, passive-aggression, mismatched timing&mdash;but unresolved issues build resentment fast. Pastor-therapist duo Dave and Ashley Willis know how to help you fight better. They deliver real stories, biblical wisdom, and practical tools for your next blowup.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://goodkind.shop/products/graticube">Get your Gratikube</a>&mdash; a simple family tool to prompt gratitude and conversation</li>
<li>Discover resources from&nbsp;<a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product-creator/dave-willis/">Dave Willis</a> in our shop</li>
<li>Marriage After Dark: the podcast where a real couple answers the questions you&rsquo;re too embarrassed to ask. Get it at FamilyLife.com/MarriageAfterDark</li>
</ul>
<hr>
<ul>
<li>Find resources from this podcast at <a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product-category/radio-resources/">shop.familylife.com</a>.</li>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product-category/past-radio-resources/">See resources from our past podcasts.</a></li>
<li>Find more content and resources on the <a href="https://www.familylife.com/app/">FamilyLife's app</a>!</li>
<li>Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/familylife-today/id212174303">Apple Podcast</a> or <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm?si=d6dfa8d2415f4750">Spotify</a>.</li>
<li>Check out all the FamilyLife's podcasts on the <a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/">FamilyLife Podcast Network</a></li>
</ul>

On FamilyLife Today, Dave and Ann Wilson host pastor-therapist duo Dave & Ashley Willis. They share real stories, biblical wisdom, and practical tools to fight better and turn blowups into breakthroughs.

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