As a second wife or husband, have you ever felt second best? Or treated as second class by others? How can you be first in your spouse's heart when you're not the ONLY? In this episode, Ron Deal talks with Lore Ferguson Wilbert about how to combat your insecurities that naturally arise in second marriages. Perhaps there's a lack of trust, shame, or feelings of competition with your partner's former spouse. Whatever the reason, insecurities dissipate when we look to God as our source of love for our identity. We can respond from His wellspring of love even in the midst of hard emotions, offering compassion for our spouse instead of competition with someone who isn't even in the picture anymore.

Show Notes and Resources

 	Learn more about Lore Wilbert at Sayable.net.

 	ARTICLE: Second Wife, Second Life. (8 min. read)  https://www.fathommag.com/stories/second-wife-second-life
Handle With Care by Lore Wilbert.  https://www.handlewithcarebook.com/
Dating and The Single Parent by Ron Deal.  https://shop.familylife.com/p-2487-dating-and-the-single-parent.aspx
Building Love Together in Blended Families by Dr. Gary Chapman and Ron Deal.  https://shop.familylife.com/p-5763-building-love-together-in-blended-families.aspx
Daily Encouragement for The Smart Stepfamily by Ron Deal.  https://shop.familylife.com/p-5224-daily-encouragement-for-the-smart-stepfamily.aspx

 	Learn more about the Summit on Stepfamily Ministry.  https://www.summitonstepfamilies.com/

As a second wife or husband, have you ever felt second best? Or treated as second class by others? How can you be first in your spouse's heart when you're not the ONLY? In this episode, Ron Deal talks with Lore Ferguson Wilbert about how to combat your insecurities that naturally arise in second marriages. Perhaps there's a lack of trust, shame, or feelings of competition with your partner's former spouse. Whatever the reason, insecurities dissipate when we look to God as our source of love for our identity. We can respond from His wellspring of love even in the midst of hard emotions, offering compassion for our spouse instead of competition with someone who isn't even in the picture anymore.
Show Notes and Resources
 	Learn more about Lore Wilbert at <a href="http://www.sayable.net/">Sayable.net</a>. 
 	ARTICLE: Second Wife, Second Life. (8 min. read)  <a href="https://www.fathommag.com/stories/second-wife-second-life">https://www.fathommag.com/stories/second-wife-second-life</a> 
 	Handle With Care by Lore Wilbert.  <a href="https://www.handlewithcarebook.com/">https://www.handlewithcarebook.com/</a> 
 	Dating and The Single Parent by Ron Deal.  <a href="https://shop.familylife.com/p-2487-dating-and-the-single-parent.aspx">https://shop.familylife.com/p-2487-dating-and-the-single-parent.aspx</a> 
 	Building Love Together in Blended Families by Dr. Gary Chapman and Ron Deal.  <a href="https://shop.familylife.com/p-5763-building-love-together-in-blended-families.aspx">https://shop.familylife.com/p-5763-building-love-together-in-blended-families.aspx</a> 
 	Daily Encouragement for The Smart Stepfamily by Ron Deal.  <a href="https://shop.familylife.com/p-5224-daily-encouragement-for-the-smart-stepfamily.aspx">https://shop.familylife.com/p-5224-daily-encouragement-for-the-smart-stepfamily.aspx</a> 
 	Learn more about the Summit on Stepfamily Ministry.  <a href="https://www.summitonstepfamilies.com/">https://www.summitonstepfamilies.com/</a>

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