Family Secrets is a production of I Heart Radio. This January, Danny's taking Family Secrets on the Road. To get your tickets, visit Danny Shapiro dot com. I'm Danny Shapiro and this is Family Secrets, the secrets that are kept from us, the secrets we keep from others, and the secrets we keep from ourselves. I've heard from so many about your own family secrets and realize that what we are creating for each other on this podcast is a community, a community for those who are looking for a safe and supportive space to unburden themselves. To that end, we've created a number for listeners to call in to record stories to share here in this space. This week, I'd like to share a few of those stories from our community. Thanks for listening, Hi, I have loved listening to this podcast in it to really helped me process information that I learned about a year ago. I had done a DNA test to see my mother had always said that we were partner of amannequin, but never really would talk much about it, so I was just curious. So my DNA came back and I didn't have any Native Americans. No big deal. Um, I didn't see a lot of family connections. But then I knew as d N a knowledge approach, they're more able to specify where you come from. So I just thought maybe some of the people that I was connected to that was just a guess on their part. And I had written to some people who wrote me and asked like, do you know how you're related to me? We have these names, and I had written back and said, I don't have any names like that in my family. Jumped forward three years later, Um, I got my husband a DNA test and he was looking at all his great family connections. And I went back and read a response that I had gotten and it said, okay, so just hear me and look at your connections. I bet that if you look, you're going to have this person, this person, and this person as a connection. And that's my mother and my aunt and someone else. So anyway, lots of going back and forth with this person. I had no idea that he was trying to let me figure things out that I had a different biological father. I was fifty years old and my father that raised me is already gone, and I guess he had just gone in the year before. And then the man that's my biological father was dead as well. Now, my mother and father got divorced when I was four when she was caught having an affair, and that person she was having an affair with when I was four is the man that is my father, So their affair had been going on a long time. He died and the other man died so married to the woman that he was married to when I was conceived. He had two older children with that wife and a daughter that was put up for adoption when he was in high school. But that's how they found that connection of these two people. They didn't know that we're joined genetically to them. So now I'm training with how to approach my mother and asked her about this and what he knew. And so this hearing different people's stories has really helped me realize that it's okay for me to be able to ask, here's my family's secret. When I was about seven or eight years old, I found a document when I was in my mom's stewey and it was a document about my dad. Found out that before they had gotten married, he had gone to prison for robbing a bank. I never was told about this, and up until the day my dad died. He never told me. It was a secret HEAT kept from me, and he kept it from my brother until my brother was old enough. I guess that he felt he could tell them, but it was a big, you know thing, I guess for him. And then later on in life, I decided to research his name thanks to the Internet and found out she had a huge criminal background in history that he was from the time he was a teenager, he was in an avid jail. My family's secret is actually pretty much just mine. I guess I'm keeping it from my family. Uh. When I was younger, I was lected over a long period of time by a neighbor of mind, uh, a kid who was probably six or seven years older than it was. So uh, it's kind of a gad situation where I was still kid and I didn't tell anyone. No one knew to this day, most of my family doesn't know. UM. In fact, it was one of those things where people disagree with this concept. But a repressed memory is something that comes back your body forgets it's too traumatic. Your body forgets it and it can come back later in line with your body is in a place of safe or in your trauma. As Buss UH. And I lived in a different country and worked with a really hard group of refugees situations, and in some traumatic womans fact that came back to me and I realized what was going on and what had happened, and I went through I came back to the States and when there's some intensive counseling and got the truth of it actually out of my mind. And my family still doesn't know except for my mom Um two is a truly wonderful woman, but UH can kind of get towards my use of tendencies when she cares so deeply. She wants to get information from you to help, but it goes about in a way that's just not not conducive for healing. UH. And in a weak moment where I wasn't really ready to, I ended up telling her. I ended up already get out. It just came out of my body. So she knows. And I told her once and she didn't handle it well. It was her fault. Unless blame her. They never talked about it again after that, just because she broke down. It wasn't as we wasn't ready and I could tell but to this day and none of the rest of my family knows except for my mom, and we just pretend like it never happened. So that's my story. If you'd like to share your story, call one eight eight eight Secret zero and record your story. We won't be able to run all the stories, but we do want to shine a light on as many as we can. The number again is one eight eight secret and then the numeral zero. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.

Family Secrets is a production of I Heart Radio. This January, Danny's taking Family Secrets on the Road. To get your tickets, visit Danny Shapiro dot com. I'm Danny Shapiro and this is Family Secrets, the secrets that are kept from us, the secrets we keep from others, and the secrets we keep from ourselves. I've heard from so many about your own family secrets and realize that what we are creating for each other on this podcast is a community, a community for those who are looking for a safe and supportive space to unburden themselves. To that end, we've created a number for listeners to call in to record stories to share here in this space. This week, I'd like to share a few of those stories from our community. Thanks for listening, Hi, I have loved listening to this podcast in it to really helped me process information that I learned about a year ago. I had done a DNA test to see my mother had always said that we were partner of amannequin, but never really would talk much about it, so I was just curious. So my DNA came back and I didn't have any Native Americans. No big deal. Um, I didn't see a lot of family connections. But then I knew as d N a knowledge approach, they're more able to specify where you come from. So I just thought maybe some of the people that I was connected to that was just a guess on their part. And I had written to some people who wrote me and asked like, do you know how you're related to me? We have these names, and I had written back and said, I don't have any names like that in my family. Jumped forward three years later, Um, I got my husband a DNA test and he was looking at all his great family connections. And I went back and read a response that I had gotten and it said, okay, so just hear me and look at your connections. I bet that if you look, you're going to have this person, this person, and this person as a connection. And that's my mother and my aunt and someone else. So anyway, lots of going back and forth with this person. I had no idea that he was trying to let me figure things out that I had a different biological father. I was fifty years old and my father that raised me is already gone, and I guess he had just gone in the year before. And then the man that's my biological father was dead as well. Now, my mother and father got divorced when I was four when she was caught having an affair, and that person she was having an affair with when I was four is the man that is my father, So their affair had been going on a long time. He died and the other man died so married to the woman that he was married to when I was conceived. He had two older children with that wife and a daughter that was put up for adoption when he was in high school. But that's how they found that connection of these two people. They didn't know that we're joined genetically to them. So now I'm training with how to approach my mother and asked her about this and what he knew. And so this hearing different people's stories has really helped me realize that it's okay for me to be able to ask, here's my family's secret. When I was about seven or eight years old, I found a document when I was in my mom's stewey and it was a document about my dad. Found out that before they had gotten married, he had gone to prison for robbing a bank. I never was told about this, and up until the day my dad died. He never told me. It was a secret HEAT kept from me, and he kept it from my brother until my brother was old enough. I guess that he felt he could tell them, but it was a big, you know thing, I guess for him. And then later on in life, I decided to research his name thanks to the Internet and found out she had a huge criminal background in history that he was from the time he was a teenager, he was in an avid jail. My family's secret is actually pretty much just mine. I guess I'm keeping it from my family. Uh. When I was younger, I was lected over a long period of time by a neighbor of mind, uh, a kid who was probably six or seven years older than it was. So uh, it's kind of a gad situation where I was still kid and I didn't tell anyone. No one knew to this day, most of my family doesn't know. UM. In fact, it was one of those things where people disagree with this concept. But a repressed memory is something that comes back your body forgets it's too traumatic. Your body forgets it and it can come back later in line with your body is in a place of safe or in your trauma. As Buss UH. And I lived in a different country and worked with a really hard group of refugees situations, and in some traumatic womans fact that came back to me and I realized what was going on and what had happened, and I went through I came back to the States and when there's some intensive counseling and got the truth of it actually out of my mind. And my family still doesn't know except for my mom Um two is a truly wonderful woman, but UH can kind of get towards my use of tendencies when she cares so deeply. She wants to get information from you to help, but it goes about in a way that's just not not conducive for healing. UH. And in a weak moment where I wasn't really ready to, I ended up telling her. I ended up already get out. It just came out of my body. So she knows. And I told her once and she didn't handle it well. It was her fault. Unless blame her. They never talked about it again after that, just because she broke down. It wasn't as we wasn't ready and I could tell but to this day and none of the rest of my family knows except for my mom, and we just pretend like it never happened. So that's my story. If you'd like to share your story, call one eight eight eight Secret zero and record your story. We won't be able to run all the stories, but we do want to shine a light on as many as we can. The number again is one eight eight secret and then the numeral zero. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.